Sex & Shenanigans

[RosewoodTulip]

Shenanigang I need some advice...

I may possibly have a date next week
Haven't been on one since I was in my 20's. I'm trying not to hyperventilate so gimme hints tips and anything else to help me get through it without my awkward brain sabotaging me.

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

Shenanigang I need some advice...

I may possibly have a date next week
Haven't been on one since I was in my 20's. I'm trying not to hyperventilate so gimme hints tips and anything else to help me get through it without my awkward brain sabotaging me.

Congrats! Have fun. Dont put so much pressure on it. Think of it as just a practice date for all your fabulous future first dates. Maybe think of a few things to say ahead of time to fill in silences if they happen.

What are you doing on the date? It helps to do some activity rather than just eat dinner I think.

 

[Lmizzler]

Shenanigang I need some advice...

I may possibly have a date next week
Haven't been on one since I was in my 20's. I'm trying not to hyperventilate so gimme hints tips and anything else to help me get through it without my awkward brain sabotaging me.

That’s super exciting.
Everything @OrdinaryPerson said is totally true.
Don’t worry about your brain sabotaging you. Instead plan on your brain helping you to get through it all! Have a plan for the awkward silence moments.

And remember, it’s just a time to get to know someone and laugh and a chance for them to see how awesome you are at the same time!

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Congrats! Have fun. Dont put so much pressure on it. Think of it as just a practice date for all your fabulous future first dates. Maybe think of a few things to say ahead of time to fill in silences if they happen.

What are you doing on the date? It helps to do some activity rather than just eat dinner I think.

Well it's all still to arrange tbh. We've been talking through an app for a few weeks and he asked me if I have any free time to meet up next week.
I don't want to involve alcohol if I can help it as I'll have to travel to wherever we meet and then back again.

An activity is a good idea, thank you

 

[RosewoodTulip]

That’s super exciting.
Everything @OrdinaryPerson said is totally true.
Don’t worry about your brain sabotaging you. Instead plan on your brain helping you to get through it all! Have a plan for the awkward silence moments.

And remember, it’s just a time to get to know someone and laugh and a chance for them to see how awesome you are at the same time!

Thanks Miz

I'm just a little rusty with this whole thing. If I can think of it as hanging out with a friend then I should be ok

 

[SnowboardPeople]

Well it's all still to arrange tbh. We've been talking through an app for a few weeks and he asked me if I have any free time to meet up next week.
I don't want to involve alcohol if I can help it as I'll have to travel to wherever we meet and then back again.

An activity is a good idea, thank you

Casually mention about shibari course as a date night activity.

If he is interested, keep him. If not, ditch him. Or the other way around

 

[Lmizzler]

Thanks Miz

I'm just a little rusty with this whole thing. If I can think of it as hanging out with a friend then I should be ok

You got it.
It’s just a time to get to know a friend.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Casually mention about shibari course as a date night activity.

If he is interested, keep him. If not, ditch him. Or the other way around

I actually matched with him on a kink positive app so he'd be up for it.

Please don't worry, I'm not gonna let a basic stranger tie me up. That would be date 2

 

[Daisy_Love]

I actually matched with him on a kink positive app so he'd be up for it.

Please don't worry, I'm not gonna let a basic stranger tie me up. That would be date 2

Awwww Rosie have an amazing time. Just be your lovely self and have fun he’ll be just as nervous xx

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Awwww Rosie have an amazing time. Just be your lovely self and have fun he’ll be just as nervous xx

Thanks Daisy

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

Congrats! Have fun. Dont put so much pressure on it. Think of it as just a practice date for all your fabulous future first dates. Maybe think of a few things to say ahead of time to fill in silences if they happen.

What are you doing on the date? It helps to do some activity rather than just eat dinner I think.

I was going to suggest having a couple drinks and maybe a toke first, but this is probably better advice.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Don’t you just hate adulting

I really do today! I haven't had a vacation in 20 months. I'm about burned out.

Seems aggressive at this early hour.

Be aggressive, be be aggressive! *shakes pom poms*

 

[Mr_bogey]

I really do today! I haven't had a vacation in 20 months. I'm about burned out.


Be aggressive, be be aggressive! *shakes pom poms*

It's been a while since I've seen you shake those pom poms. I missed that.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I was going to suggest having a couple drinks and maybe a toke first, but this is probably better advice.

Ha I'll take any advice tbh but a clear head for me is probably for the best
At least at first anyway

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

Be aggressive, be be aggressive! *shakes pom poms*

A-G-G-R-E-S-S-I-V-E!

Xoxo,
Former Cheerleader Mom

 

[LupineOne]

I dunno, I got up, changed the sheets on my bed, showered, started laundry and I’m on my second cup of coffee…
I just have to walk the dog. But it looks rainy.

And all that on a Friday.
All right, dammit I’ll be motivated too. The two cups of coffee helped

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

It's been a while since I've seen you shake those pom poms. I missed that.

LIES! You've NEVER seen me shake my pom poms. Nobody has.

 

[Mr_bogey]

Ha I'll take any advice tbh but a clear head for me is probably for the best
At least at first anyway

Last bit of advice: if you like him and find yourself running out of things to say, excuse yourself to the bathroom and when you return, hand him your panties. Conversation will not be an issue again for the rest of the night.

 

[deft]

Shenanigang I need some advice...

I may possibly have a date next week
Haven't been on one since I was in my 20's. I'm trying not to hyperventilate so gimme hints tips and anything else to help me get through it without my awkward brain sabotaging me.

I am so here for this

 

[HoneyMeadows]

Shenanigang I need some advice...

I may possibly have a date next week
Haven't been on one since I was in my 20's. I'm trying not to hyperventilate so gimme hints tips and anything else to help me get through it without my awkward brain sabotaging me.

I'm absolutely the wrong person to ask about this. All I would say is: if it don't feel right, just go home

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I'm absolutely the wrong person to ask about this. All I would say is: if it don't feel right, just go home

That's great advice

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Last bit of advice: if you like him and find yourself running out of things to say, excuse yourself to the bathroom and when you return, hand him your panties. Conversation will not be an issue again for the rest of the night.

Oh if I could be so forward

 

[Backagainpart4]

I went to sleep. Came back this morning to find I’ve missed 5 pages of posts. Time to catch up

 

[Mr_bogey]

I'm absolutely the wrong person to ask about this. All I would say is: if it don't feel right, just go home

Oh, I cannot condone this. You got dressed up and planned a night out. If he's not working out, go seek out the most fun "Mr. Wrong" you can find, enjoy your night and then start over in the morning.

 

[SnowboardPeople]

Oh if I could be so forward

I'll argue against this. If you aren't talking to each other all night or giggling even in the bedroom, that's not a good date, imho.