Sex & Shenanigans

[Nightbird]

Basically how I feel most days...

Ok, I’m a caffeinated houseplant with emotions

Im a mushroom kept in the dark and fed shit..

 

[SixShooter14]

I applaud your single focus.

on workdays, I start the morning by emptying a 12 cup pot by 9-9:30, then I refill my 20oz cup and it's gone by 11am. I get another 12 cup pot at lunch and refill my big cup again around 3pm and have a smaller 12oz cup around 5ish.


I might have a problem

 

[Photog1rl]

on workdays, I start the morning by emptying a 12 cup pot by 9-9:30, then I refill my 20oz cup and it's gone by 11am. I get another 12 cup pot at lunch and refill my big cup again around 3pm and have a smaller 12oz cup around 5ish.


I might have a problem

I try not to judge(honestly I do-usually) but yes...you might have a problem.

Do you drink water.

 

[SixShooter14]

I try not to judge(honestly I do-usually) but yes...you might have a problem.

Do you drink water.

a little. I'll drink 2 or 3 24oz cups of water between 6pm and midnight. And then on weekends I usually have 1 pot of coffee in the morning and just water after that

I did quit coffee (all caffeine) for about 6 months a few years back. I was hoping it would help with my tinnitus, alas it did not.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Klingon? Do you speak Klingon??

Nope, not that much of a nerd. lol

 

[Nightbird]

Nope, not that much of a nerd. lol

Do you speak En Francais?

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Do you speak En Francais?

Mais oui!

 

[Nightbird]

Mais oui!

Tres Bien!

 

[Bry1313]

Come on now, did you expect less?

Of course not, I was just glad to call you rude

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Of course not, I was just glad to call you rude

That's sad.

 

[Photog1rl]

Ok. I have questions for y’all about PM’s on Lit.

What do you use them for? Do you message first? Is there any sort of implication to sending or responding to PM’s? Do you have lots or a few folks you talk to regularly in PM’s or do you move to a different platform(skype or something like that)?

I ask because my interactions with folks is almost exclusivly in the threads. There are some people I talk to in PM’s, two I talk with on another platform(only one is daily) and one person I text with or talk on the phone with.

Recently I messaged someone about a thread and as part of their response they said “it's nice to meet you.” It made me wonder if I am using the PM’s wrong.

Edited to add that it wasn’t that the phrasing “it’s nice to meet you” was offensive or problematic. It was kind and welcoming. It’s that the response combined with other people talking about how they PM made me wonder if I’m giving off the wrong impression(that I don’t want to make friends) when I PM.
I hope this edit makes senses

 

[Hipshot1554]

I see nothing wrong if no one is offended. I would say, it's lady's choice to move to another place.

 

[SixShooter14]

Ok. I have questions for y’all about PM’s on Lit.

What do you use them for? Do you message first? Is there any sort of implication to sending or responding to PM’s? Do you have lots or a few folks you talk to regularly in PM’s or do you move to a different platform(skype or something like that)?

I ask because my interactions with folks is almost exclusivly in the threads. There are some people I talk to in PM’s, two I talk with on another platform(only one is daily) and one person I text with or talk on the phone with.

Recently I messaged someone about a thread and as part of their response they said it's nice to officially meet you. It made me wonder if I am using the PM’s wrong.

I spoke a bit about this on Justa's audio thread.

Do you message first?

I rarely use PMs on any platform. I've only started a couple conversations here.
A simple Happy Birthday, I shared a website with someone that I didn't want public (the site belongs to a relative) I said Hi to you, PG, lol and I shared a non-lit story with someone because they asked in a thread.

What do you use them for?

I've had a dozen or so folks send me PMs asking a bit about me (probably because I don't have much in my bio) but it was mostly introductions. I shared a bit about me, they shared a bit about them and the conversation ran it's course.

Do you have lots or a few folks you talk to regularly in PM’s or do you move to a different platform(skype or something like that)?

I have no one here that I maintain a regular PM conversation with and only 1 person that I chat with off lit. We talk, a lot through text or phone call.

I also have folks that send me 1 and done PMs, I've had a couple women hit on me and a couple men and women just comment on a story or tell me something that relates to a post that they didn't want to say publicly.

Is there any sort of implication to sending or responding to PM’s?

No implications at all, I sometimes share things slightly more personal when it's 1:1. I personally try to answer all PMs as quickly as I can. It's part of my job to be a great communicator. Part of that is juggling a dozen different conversations across a dozen different messaging platforms. I'm constantly checking notifications and unreads on different platforms all day. So it just comes naturally to keep my PM box maintained properly and not leave folks hanging or ghost them.
Edit: Since a lot of my work communications are very time sensitive, I drop most things to at least read the message. Depending on what it is, I will walk out of meetings or trainings because it's more important (a perk to my job, lmao)... it does carryover a bit to non-work and probably annoys some folks that I respond to texts so quickly...but I don't have much going on and I like communicating, that said I try not to be rude about it like I don't check my phone at a formal meal, in church, at the movies, etc.

 

[Bbl87]

Ok. I have questions for y’all about PM’s on Lit.

What do you use them for? Do you message first? Is there any sort of implication to sending or responding to PM’s? Do you have lots or a few folks you talk to regularly in PM’s or do you move to a different platform(skype or something like that)?

I ask because my interactions with folks is almost exclusivly in the threads. There are some people I talk to in PM’s, two I talk with on another platform(only one is daily) and one person I text with or talk on the phone with.

Recently I messaged someone about a thread and as part of their response they said it's nice to officially meet you. It made me wonder if I am using the PM’s wrong.

I personally use PMs primarily if I'd like to get to know somebody better than I've interacted with in threads. Like when I PM'd you, for example. I don't do it often, because realistically it's almost always women and I feel like y'all probably get too many PMs to begin with. But, the best friendships I've built have come from me deciding to randomly PM someone I enjoyed interacting with.

Occasionally I might use it to respond to a question or something someone has in a thread if I feel like I have something worthwhile to contribute but would rather not share all the details publicly.

And for dick pics, of course.

If I really enjoy talking to someone and we chit chat regularly, I usually prefer to move over to Skype or Google Chat (usually Skype, people seem to use that more) because it's a less clunky interface.

 

[SixShooter14]

Recently I messaged someone about a thread and as part of their response they said “it's nice to meet you.” It made me wonder if I am using the PM’s wrong.

Not wrong, everyone is different.

A LOT of folks put on a persona in online forums (not just here) they like to RP and fantasize a bit as if they are more (insert personality trait here) than they really are... So when they go to PM or off-lit they feel more like their real self and probably feel like they are actually meeting the real version of you, and you them.


I'm not saying it's right or wrong to use this as an outlet to live out some fantasies. But I have never really been that way, I'm more open and longwinded in text only because it gives me time to think as I type and reread my words (for better or worse) As part of that I try to be the same me in public, PM, or in person.

 

[Radiantcurves87]

I personally use PMs primarily if I'd like to get to know somebody better than I've interacted with in threads. Like when I PM'd you, for example. I don't do it often, because realistically it's almost always women and I feel like y'all probably get too many PMs to begin with. But, the best friendships I've built have come from me deciding to randomly PM someone I enjoyed interacting with.

Occasionally I might use it to respond to a question or something someone has in a thread if I feel like I have something worthwhile to contribute but would rather not share all the details publicly.

And for dick pics, of course.

If I really enjoy talking to someone and we chit chat regularly, I usually prefer to move over to Skype or Google Chat (usually Skype, people seem to use that more) because it's a less clunky interface.

I agree with this minus the whole dick pics thing of course lol

 

[MedicalMuse]

Ok. I have questions for y’all about PM’s on Lit.

What do you use them for?

Initial messages. Helps me decide if I want to get to know someone on a deeper level.

Do you message first?

Usually. I’ve heard I’m intimidating.

Is there any sort of implication to sending or responding to PM’s?

Nah. Some people I don’t respond to at all. They send weird initial messages. If we are chatting about something in threads I want to take private, and I don’t really know you, it’s a good way to start.

Do you have lots or a few folks you talk to regularly in PM’s or do you move to a different platform(skype or something like that)?

I start here. I move in to Skype if I like you enough to really want to get to know you.

A couple people have my phone number. They’re subject to middle of the night phone calls. Lol.

I ask because my interactions with folks is almost exclusivly in the threads. There are some people I talk to in PM’s, two I talk with on another platform(only one is daily) and one person I text with or talk on the phone with.

Similar to me

Recently I messaged someone about a thread and as part of their response they said it's nice to officially meet you. It made me wonder if I am using the PM’s wrong.

I’ve had this happen too! Lol
Maybe it’s just a thing?

 

[MedicalMuse]

I agree with this minus the whole dick pics thing of course lol

I dunno. I kinda like that. (Kidding. Sorta)

 

[SixShooter14]

I dunno. I kinda like that. (Kidding. Sorta)

oh really???

I still have that shower pic!!!!

 

[Radiantcurves87]

I dunno. I kinda like that. (Kidding. Sorta)

I only like it if timing is right/im in the mood and most of the time it is through skype.

The sending pics thing, can't really comment much on that

 

[Bbl87]

I dunno. I kinda like that. (Kidding. Sorta)

 

[SixShooter14]

I only like it if timing is right/im in the mood and most of the time it is through skype.

The sending pics thing, can't really comment much on that

I have never sent an unsolicited dick pic. And most times I confirm via PM that they were in fact asking for it.

but i've only received a couple unsolicited tit pics and 1 pussy pic... though there's NEVER a wrong time for those. Like ever, I am never "not in the mood" to receive that.

 

[Bbl87]

I have never sent an unsolicited dick pic. And most times I confirm via PM that they were in fact asking for it.

but i've only received a couple unsolicited tit pics and 1 pussy pic... though there's NEVER a wrong time for those. Like ever, I am never "not in the mood" to receive that.

Agree with all of this. Especially the bolded part, haha.

I will never send a dick pic unless it is specifically asked for (see: @OrdinaryPerson ). One friend on here has give me an open offer to send them whenever I'd like, so that is the only case where I send them without a specific request but obviously there was an initial request there too.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Occasionally I might use it to respond to a question or something someone has in a thread if I feel like I have something worthwhile to contribute but would rather not share all the details publicly.

You did that with me and I really appreciated it

 

[Bbl87]

You did that with me and I really appreciated it