Sex & Shenanigans

[Backagainpart4]

if you had the choice to know when you were going to die or not to know… what would you choose?

Would you change anything about your life if you knew?

I don’t want to know. I’m trying to live my life in the moment.

The only thing I would change is if somehow I could have more sex, and enjoy life a little more.

 

[Photog1rl]

I didn't think of it as depressing.

If that was the case then my 31 years of enjoying my cousin who was terminally ill my whole life wouldn't have been a blessing. He was my best friend, hell soulmate. It let allowed me to block the negative of his life out and focus on the positive.

No, thinking about the changes I would make if I knew when I’d die is depressing.

It's depressing because what I didnt say the first time is that if I had more than a year I’d probably get divorced. That is incredibly depressing because hopefully I do have more than a year but I would only take that action if I knew when I was going to die.

Basically I'm ok staying in a space that does not bring me joy and only would choose to leave if I knew the boundaries on my life.

That is depressing AF.

 

[SixShooter14]

No, thinking about the changes I would make if I knew when I’d die is depressing.

It's depressing because what I didnt say the first time is that if I had more than a year I’d probably get divorced. That is incredibly depressing because hopefully I do have more than a year but I would only take that action if I knew when I was going to die.

Basically I'm ok staying in a space that does not bring me joy and only would choose to leave if I knew the boundaries on my life.

That is depressing AF.

 

[LupineOne]

No, thinking about the changes I would make if I knew when I’d die is depressing.

It's depressing because what I didnt say the first time is that if I had more than a year I’d probably get divorced. That is incredibly depressing because hopefully I do have more than a year but I would only take that action if I knew when I was going to die.

Basically I'm ok staying in a space that does not bring me joy and only would choose to leave if I knew the boundaries on my life.

That is depressing AF.

You’re not alone in that. It’s damned hard, living. It’s hard going after what you really deserve, in all ways.
For me, it’s hard to get over the fear of not succeeding, not finding what I want, not getting it, and thinking it’s all been a waste of time, when really it hasn’t been at all, regardless of the outcome.
Dying’s easy. Living’s hard. But man is it worth it.

 

[SixShooter14]

You’re not alone in that. It’s damned hard, living. It’s hard going after what you really deserve, in all ways.
For me, it’s hard to get over the fear of not succeeding, not finding what I want, not getting it, and thinking it’s all been a waste of time, when really it hasn’t been at all, regardless of the outcome.
Dying’s easy. Living’s hard. But man is it worth it.

I hear ya Wolfie. I used to be that way. Scared of not living a fulfilled life, scared of not making a difference, or accomplishing everything / anything.

I don't know when my mind changed or when i became proud of my life and trusted that I was successful in my own way...but it has helped greatly in being confident and "happy" and content. I'm still ambitious and i still put in effort, but I no longer have fear or anxiety of failure.

 

[crazychemgirl]

Anyone wanna run away with me to Mexico and live off of sangria and tacos?

 

[Photog1rl]

I want to clarify, I am not an unhappy person living a dreary life. I am proud of who I am as a person, my family and my career however given knowledge I do not have I’d make some different choices. Really reflecting on that is huge.

I've been married over 30 years to a person that loves me and that I love deeply and chances are very high I will stay married but not because it brings me the most joy I could possibly have. I think if faced with my own mortality, having a final end date, I would make a different choice.

To me, that means I probably know deep down I should consider making a different choice now but I don't.

 

[SixShooter14]

Anyone wanna run away with me to Mexico and live off of sangria and tacos?

Fuck yeah!

 

[Radiantcurves87]

No, thinking about the changes I would make if I knew when I’d die is depressing.

It's depressing because what I didnt say the first time is that if I had more than a year I’d probably get divorced. That is incredibly depressing because hopefully I do have more than a year but I would only take that action if I knew when I was going to die.

Basically I'm ok staying in a space that does not bring me joy and only would choose to leave if I knew the boundaries on my life.

That is depressing AF.

Hugs my friend

Anyone wanna run away with me to Mexico and live off of sangria and tacos?

You had me at sangria!!!

 

[Photog1rl]

Anyone wanna run away with me to Mexico and live off of sangria and tacos?

Run away or maybe regular retreats??? I promise I am actually really fun in person haha

 

[lakesailer_mi]

if you had the choice to know when you were going to die or not to know… what would you choose?

Would you change anything about your life if you knew?

It would depend on context. I think if you get diagnosed with something terminal, from what I've gathered, it's helpful to know.
But in general, like, "you're gonna die on August 27th, 2056" (hey, since this is hypothetical, I'm picking a date WAYYYY the fuck out there), then no. And even if it's "you've got a year" and then you're gonna get die in a tragic but heroic boat accident, sacrificing yourself for the good of all (again, if I gotta go, I'm going out a hero), nope.

I think for me, I've already started thinking: you know I'm not young. I know I've likely got years, but we don't know. My college roommate passed away (not of covid) in 2021. It was a tough blow. He was far too young. His wife was a friend of mine too, we'd all known each other since freshman year. My best friend from HS lost his wife in 2018. He told me, "don't put shit off. Do it now." And I really took it to heart. I'm largely, personally and professionally, picking only things that make me happy. I'm investing my time, energy...and my love, only in things that I think are special and worthwhile. No, I'm not perfect at it. And btw, the fact I'm here, tells you something about how I feel about Lit and some of the very very special people I know here. There are people here who I love fiercely. That's a big part of why I'm back (and love is more complicated than just Eros: Agape, Phillia, Storge, and Pragma, and yes, even and perhaps especially Ludus).

So. I don't mean to say "live every day as if it was your last" because, were that true, I might have gotten on an airplane this morning....
But definitely focus on the things that truly bring you joy.

 

[SixShooter14]

Run away or maybe regular retreats??? I promise I am actually really fun in person haha

I heard your Mexico senior trip story! You're more than welcome to join us for either!

 

[Jaws82]

Anyone wanna run away with me to Mexico and live off of sangria and tacos?

im in

 

[Lmizzler]

Anyone wanna run away with me to Mexico and live off of sangria and tacos?

Forget Taco Tuesdays....It will be tacos everyday!

 

[SixShooter14]

Forget Taco Tuesdays....It will be tacos everyday!

Isnt it already?

 

[Photog1rl]

I heard your Mexico senior trip story! You're more than welcome to join us for either!

You should come dancing with me. I bring much of the same energy. Lol
I fill my time with things I love and have a good life. That was just a big ole can of worms question that @crazychemgirl asked and I'm not one to sugar coat my feelings. I think y'all know that.

 

[SixShooter14]

You should come dancing with me. I bring much of the same energy. Lol
I fill my time with things I love and have a good life. That was just a big ole can of worms question that @crazychemgirl asked and I'm not one to sugar coat my feelings. I think y'all know that.

I don't dance .... But I'd give it my best try!!!

 

[Lmizzler]

I don't dance .... But I'd give it my best try!!!

Get enough sangria in you and I bet you might give it a go.

 

[SixShooter14]

Get enough sangria in you and I bet you might give it a go.

Oh I'd give it a go regardless. But with enough alcohol, at least i have an excuse when I'm terrible at it

 

[Photog1rl]

Get enough sangria in you and I bet you might give it a go.

This was going to be my response @SixShooter14
I bet you'd dance with this group

 

[SixShooter14]

I don't dance .... But I'd give it my best try!!!

I literally said "I'd give it my best try"


It just might not be considered "dancing" more like swaying, flailing, dizzily stumbling

 

[Bry1313]

Anyone wanna run away with me to Mexico and live off of sangria and tacos?

Yes

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

if you had the choice to know when you were going to die or not to know… what would you choose?

I would absolutely want to know

Would you change anything about your life if you knew?

I would think I would use my time more purposefully if I had little time left in this world, or more recklessly if I had plenty, haha. I would also want to prepare my family.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Why are you like this?

It’s just how I am. The Good Gourd broke the mold when He made me.

 

[Photog1rl]

She called you a gourd. It was just a speech to text error.

Just seeing this now...
My typing is often riddled with errors but my voice to text is spot on. This was a voice to text.
However the interpretation was off. I was not calling @Indiesoul a lord I was saying that she does the lords work talking about butt stuff and that I was keeping the work going in her absence.
You also know, very well, that the reason I didn't call her a lord has NOTHING to do with your self imposed title.
In fact if I had to grant one of you a title of nobility it is crystsal clear that @Indiesoul is my queen. We do like to be entertained however...and I haven't appointed a court jester yet.