How to tell your spouse you kink ? Or don’t

[Smash46]

How long before you want or need to involve a partner in your particular kink or fetish or even ask about there’s. How much do you risk in order to achieve that toe curling orgasm. How far would you go ?

 

[Smash46]

Oh mine I like when she wears sexy undies. Which is not often lately. Don’t want to wear them just like to spoon or grind up to a silky pair.

 

[hopeful_wife]

The how long question is going to be very different for every couple and every kink.

For something as tame as wanting to rub against her silky panties, I'd say you should feel pretty safe if things are otherwise going well.

 

[Codeman93]

I believe at some point you should let it out even if it’s just slowly. They might not like some things but atleast they might understand your wants more. Just my thoughts

 

[Dribble]

If you are a Republican...why even pretend you care? Just force your whims on her. Get in line

 

[Codeman93]

If you are a Republican...why even pretend you care? Just force your whims on her. Get in line

Not the place for that

 

[AlexBailey]

It’s sad that you feel it’s a risk to tell your partner. Is there a reason you didn’t bring it up before?

Is it something new that recently developed? Tread lightly.

Is it something you haven’t shared before because your were embarrassed or ashamed? If you share common values with your partner they may feel the same way. Now that’s on you for not being honest before. Again, tread lightly.

Be understanding and listen as much as you talk.

 

[MrsPassion]

Oof. I think there are a lot of variables to this but I think it mostly comes down to how you and your spouse communicate and how you both hold space for each other. I have a number of kinks that my husband has absolute zero interest in, but we came to that conclusion after having tender hearted and understanding conversations. We’ve also discovered a few we share. I think if your partner is your designated “safe space” and person you should feel comfortable expressing your desires and things you want to explore without making it mandatory. If it’s a no from them maybe pursue other avenues with them that give you the same euphoria and excitement. Perhaps they are reserved in the beginning but through careful exploration and communication you both might find yourselves on an exciting journey discovering new ways to enjoy each others company. Either way, I wish you good luck!

 

[Kat73]

Honestly, if you are putting your kinks out here, online, you should have a conversation with your SO about them. If you feel the need to act on them, then for sure. Hubby knows mine. Some he likes, some not so much, but there won't be any surprises from my end one day...

 

[EnigmaSquared]

For starters, she'd need to know my kinks before I'd call her my spouse, because if we don't have the level of mutual trust that allows us to freely express ourselves and our needs, that marriage wouldn't have a fucking prayer of lasting. As to how, again, if the relationship doesn't have a foundation of open, honest communication where we can be direct with each other, it's not a relationship I want any part of, in which case I ain't telling that bitch jack shit about what turns me on. And to how long, I feel sooner is better than later; how much time do I want to waste on a relationship that potentially might not meet my needs? It's not something I need to bust out on the first date, but I'd say it's imperative to put my cards on the table if we reach the point where the relationship is either going to move forward or come to an end.

 

[lanceGibs]

Honestly, if you are putting your kinks out here, online, you should have a conversation with your SO about them. If you feel the need to act on them, then for sure. Hubby knows mine. Some he likes, some not so much, but there won't be any surprises from my end one day...

I appreciate your thoughts
Honesty is the best policy