Female experience as a 24/7 slave

[thomas1965]

I just started reading the the book "Bdsm Basics for Beginners" by Michelle Fegatofi and one paragraph really puzzled me.

Whether my Padrone (Master) is with me or not, I always follow his guidelines and rules.
I gain extreme satisfaction and peace of mind and spirit by the rules and guidelines he has set for me.
I have a very deep sense of love and protection all the time and that gives me a happiness
that is almost indescribable

Does any female sub or slave has similar experiences?

 

[seela]

I just started reading the the book "Bdsm Basics for Beginners" by Michelle Fegatofi and one paragraph really puzzled me.

Does any female sub or slave has similar experiences?

Sounds very familiar, yes.

I wouldn’t say it makes me feel protected in any way, but having steady rules and obeying by them makes the dynamic more concrete and palpable even during a mundane Thursday or whatever. That usually brings happiness and comfort.

Edit: I’m not in a 24/7 dynamic, though.

 

[Older_Pervert]

I just started reading the the book "Bdsm Basics for Beginners" by Michelle Fegatofi and one paragraph really puzzled me.

Does any female sub or slave has similar experiences?

I would hope they all do, if they have a decent Master caring for them!

 

[slavemelanie]

Absolutely, any level of structure and control is oddly freeing feeling for me. I know this sounds contrary to how it should. Feeling Masters presence in my daily routines through protocols and guidance gives me sense of clarity and reduces some of the stresses of life. The power exchange must fill each partners needs and be mutually satisfying but in obviously very different roles.

 

[thomas1965]

Absolutely, any level of structure and control is oddly freeing feeling for me. I know this sounds contrary to how it should.

Freedom means responsibility and responsibility can lead to stress. By giving up freedom you can make your life easier.

 

[IrisAlthea]

one paragraph really puzzled me.

Can I ask why it puzzles you?

Freedom means responsibility and responsibility can lead to stress. By giving up freedom you can make your life easier.

I think this depends both on your personality and on your circumstances.

any level of structure and control is oddly freeing feeling for me

I can absolutely feel like that too, but I’m quite ok with providing that for myself and for others too, if needed.
I can be fine with someone providing the structure and rules too. It’s just that my life and my profession generally have a lot of moving parts. Chaos piloting is required.

Having rules and structures that aren’t flexible enough to allow for quick changes in course, tend to add stress and hamper more than they help.

This is a good part of why I don’t really feel at home in any specific point on the D/s scale.

I wouldn’t say it makes me feel protected in any way, but having steady rules and obeying by them makes the dynamic more concrete and palpable even during a mundane Thursday or whatever. That usually brings happiness and comfort.

I can very much relate to wanting that connection in everyday life though.
It might not usually be in the form of rules in my case, but having some kind of framework that makes me feel connected to my loved ones is important, even if it might sometimes look more like being tethered to the helm in a storm.

I’ve thought a lot about how much of this is hardwired personality and how much is nurture (or lack thereof), circumstance and culture.

 

[thomas1965]

Can I ask why it puzzles you?

Because I never read it before. I have read many books and stories about BDSM, but never came across term like
peace of mind and spirit , deep sense of love and protection. I really didn't have an idea what a submissive could get from it.

I think this depends both on your personality and on your circumstances.

Absolutely, BDSM isn't certainly for everyone.

 

[missmixalot]

I just started reading the the book "Bdsm Basics for Beginners" by Michelle Fegatofi and one paragraph really puzzled me.

Does any female sub or slave has similar experiences?

I was a 24/7 slave for a period of my life and only could do it as I felt protected and loved completely. For me it helped with issues and I could feel free to live and enjoy the moment without guilt or a feeling of responsibility weighing me down.

 

[slavemelanie]

The beauty of D/s power exchange relationships is there is nothing set in stone as to the dynamics between two willing partners. It's whatever works and it evolves over time to fulfill each other's needs. What works for one sub certainly may not for another. Iris makes a great point, the structure and control can't be overwhelming and create more anxiety or chaos in the sub/slaves life. Who needs that?

Trusting someone to do what is best for you in submission is not easy. A good dominant listens and considers apprehensions and fears of their sub/slave always, then chooses an appropriate path for them. Way to many people mistake D/s for the wide ranging fetishes involved with Bdsm.

I hope my thoughts are helpful, melanie