Litiquette VII

[Lord Pmann]

Two things in there that would have given him pause, firstly I am 10000km away from him and secondly just the minor fact that I am gay.

But I bet if you just let him fuck you this ONE time, he would be able to turn you around. He’s got a dick like the arm of an orangutan, for sure.

 

[Cindy027]

But I bet if you just let him fuck you this ONE time, he would be able to turn you around. He’s got a dick like the arm of an orangutan, for sure.

I am sure thats tongue in cheek but unfortunately I think most boys think like that.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I am sure thats tongue in cheek but unfortunately I think most boys think like that.

It absolutely was. I was pointing out the absurdity.

 

[MedicalMuse]

The late-nighters definitely have a far better response rate than the early risers. But we all know quality isn’t the best thing.

I dunno, one good fuck is still better than a dozen shitty ones.

I’m curious, about the responses women get from men on a personal ad, a sexy post, or a stated kink. What percent of men are creepy with their response?

70%

How many just send a dick pic?

10%

How many just go straight into “I’m your Dom mode”?

95% of the non dick pic creepy mofos.

What percent are actually intriguing?

2% of the messages I get are really good.
Edit to clarify: actual conversation. Someone who engages, not just wants to have a quick orgasm. There’s a place for that. Usually it requires rapport and fondness.

And men, why to the vast majority of us respond that way? Does it really work? If it does, how many of the women are men posing as women that you’re fucking”?

 

[ChainedUp]

Even with the fancy edit button i now realize thanks to MM’s segmented response I managed to bungle my own topic yesterday. Clearly quality wasn’t achieved.

So how do you handle it when you knowingly fall short? Do you wallow in self pity (come one, I know some of you do), do you pick yourself up and dust yourself off and start all over again (come on, I know not all of you do)? How do you move forward? How long does it stick with you, impacting your thoughts and actions?

Does it matter if it’s only a self inflicted wound or do you respond different when there is collateral damage?

 

[Dribble]

I am perfectly flawed. I focus on the perfect part. I can't help the rest of the world...that's their job. How do I move forward? One step at a time. I just try to do the next right thing. All it has to be good enough is me. The peanut section really isn't important

I know it sounds bad...but it is the truth

 

[MedicalMuse]

Even with the fancy edit button i now realize thanks to MM’s segmented response I managed to bungle my own topic yesterday. Clearly quality wasn’t achieved.

Sorry

So how do you handle it when you knowingly fall short? Do you wallow in self pity (come one, I know some of you do), do you pick yourself up and dust yourself off and start all over again (come on, I know not all of you do)? How do you move forward? How long does it stick with you, impacting your thoughts and actions?

I keep doing it this way because I’m continually interrupted when I reply and I can’t remember where the hell I was when I try to put thoughts together. I’m old. Sue me.


I think the goal is really connection. Sharing yourself and what you have to offer. Sometimes the thought is all about sex or dirty fun, sometimes it’s about something someone posts that touched you. Sometimes it’s simple fun and chemistry.
Even if it’s just a quick appreciative message of the fun I’m having with banter, or whatever, and I don’t get a response, I still enjoyed the time. No harm no foul. Some things maybe need clarification when you turn someone down, you get turned down, or say something that had a negative impact. You can apologize, tell the person they were a jerk and then move along, or say nothing at all and ignore it. The point is still made.
I personally stay wary of some people due to treatment or messages received. Doesn’t mean I’ll go out of my way to be a jerk everywhere. Sometimes I just don’t want to talk to you in private. I don’t assume everyone wants to talk to me either.
Fool me once…

Does it matter if it’s only a self inflicted wound or do you respond different when there is collateral damage?

Nah. I think if you fuck up, and you’re really interested in fixing or rectifying it, you say what you have to say and then you leave it alone. Wounds heal. People won’t forget how you treat them, but they may remember that you had the balls to apologize. Makes a difference in how I see people. Even if it’s not an interaction with me but one between other people. The grace granted afterwards is important, even if it is just to remove myself from the situation.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I treat failure like grief.

I wallow.
I bargain.
I suck it up.
I pick myself up.
I keep on going.

The secret to life is to experience everything without getting stuck. Failure is necessary for growth.

 

[Pad_Foot]

I don't mind failure after a good solid attempt to be a friend first, but, when ghosted, I learn nothing. It hurts, but I hope I can learn something from my failures. That's a hard ask for a stranger, but for someone who was friendly, I hope that's reasonable.

NOTE. Don't try to play when you are desperately horny. You won't manage the right approach.

IT sounds like there are many here muddying the water for those of us looking for a friendly relationship.

NOTE. If all you want is a disassociated playtime, go to a website with cheap webcam rates. You'll save yourself time.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

I treat failure like grief.

I wallow.
I bargain.
I suck it up.
I pick myself up.
I keep on going.

The secret to life is to experience everything without getting stuck. Failure is necessary for growth.

This right here....this is some of the best life advice ever.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I constantly fail at everything to the point where every new project (or experience) I attempt I factor in blowing it the first time. Doing it wrong helps me figure out how to do it right. It doesn’t faze me in the least anymore.

I like teaching myself new things, but I usually suck at first. I waste a lot of materials, but I usually get it right enough to feel some accomplishment.

Obviously, this does not apply to things like skydiving.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

This brings up a really interesting point- the spectrum of failure. I'm also like hot words where I budget in "learning time". I forgot to call it failure, but that's exactly what it is.

I have failed at climbing a waterfall. That was bad enough with a water landing. I don't recommend failing at skydiving.

 

[VladPuptin]

Failure has two modes for me:

Either I don’t care enough and say “oh well” and move on

Or I study endlessly on it only to overthink it and fail again until I say “oh well” and move on

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Failure has two modes for me:

Either I don’t care enough and say “oh well” and move on

Or I study endlessly on it only to overthink it and fail again until I say “oh well” and move on

Username checks out

 

[VladPuptin]

Username checks out

Now now…I haven’t given up on Ukraine yet.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Now now…I haven’t given up on Ukraine yet.

Dude, you just don't realize your failure yet.

Your time will come.

 

[Endless_Night]

I treat failure like grief.

I wallow.
I bargain.
I suck it up.
I pick myself up.
I keep on going.

The secret to life is to experience everything without getting stuck. Failure is necessary for growth.

This is spectacularly put.

Succinct, but covers all the bases.

 

[Endless_Night]

I feel I missed a bit.

(How do I manage to be off board for all these crazy pic/post blowups? )

So how do you handle it when you knowingly fall short? Do you wallow in self pity (come one, I know some of you do), do you pick yourself up and dust yourself off and start all over again (come on, I know not all of you do)? How do you move forward? How long does it stick with you, impacting your thoughts and actions?

Aussie nutshelled my approach.

My flaw is getting stuck in the wallow of self-recrimination. So aggravating. *shrug*

Continuing to move is key. When I don't know how to go forward, I just do Whatever Comes Next. Works.



(I read that in a book somewhere. A fiction book. )

 

[MedicalMuse]

Friction. If everything is ALWAYS smooth sailing, we don’t grow.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

Friction. If everything is ALWAYS smooth sailing, we don’t grow.

So true.

I find a little friction helps me grow really fast.

 

[MedicalMuse]

So true.

I find a little friction helps me grow really fast.

Proof, or I don’t believe it. Science, and all that.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

Proof, or I don’t believe it. Science, and all that.

So you want hard evidence?

Or do you just want to feel my....conclusions?

 

[Beholders_Eye]

I treat failure like grief.

I wallow.
I bargain.
I suck it up.
I pick myself up.
I keep on going.

The secret to life is to experience everything without getting stuck. Failure is necessary for growth.

This ^ is good advice and reminded me of this:
https://cdn012.reblogme.com/uploads/photos/2023/01/39949/reblogme-39949-ASmjZ0sS4w.jpg

 

[aussiegeekygal]

So true.

I find a little friction helps me grow really fast.

#lube

 

[ChainedUp]

Friction, another great segue.

Sometimes our friend, sometimes our enemy.

Which feels better, naturally lubricant produced yourself or your favorite retail lube of choice? Is there a difference? What say you?