The Lit experience: men v women

[munch2much]

I was also mentioning my poor memory earlier in another thread. You know those "have you ever" whatever with the litster above you threads? About 75% of the time, I look at the name and am not sure. That is why I barely participate in them and NAL threads. Of course, the fact litsters change profile pictures and come back with new names doesn't help either. I will also admit to having spent so much time talking to a person on skype, I forgot who they were on Lit. I will forget all dates. Birthdays, major life events etc. Though, unlike you, I assume everyone also forgot all of this about me.

There are also some positives. Like, all your best stories, you can tell me about them several times if you wait a few months. If I don't remember, it is new to me. I don't expect you to remember any details about me, dates, anything, so I am not bothered if you don't remember and am impressed if you do. I am super easy to ghost. I forgive most anything, often because I can't remember what you did that annoyed me. I used to use my buddy list as a list of litsters who I really wanted to avoid, so that way, I'd remember to not engage if I just checked a PM against my buddy list. Then the change happened. I was advised we could see followers, I saw I didn't know most of mine and I am all "who follows someone they won't talk to", then I saw the four people I was following and was all oh haha, I am that person who follows people I won't talk to just to remind me not to talk to them. So I cleared my list, replaced it with people I enjoy, now I am not sure who I want to remember that I want to stab with a rusty spork. sigh.

Point is, you are not alone at all, except I assume you also remember nothing about me.

That is me!

I avoid those threads too! I literally darent. I’ve actually been Lit-celibate for some time, but I used to be …less angelic, in the past.

The other thing is, I think I’ve had three names on Lit. I don’t want to say “oh yes she was putty in my hands” and it turns out it was an old username that did the dirty.

Plus I don’t think I’d disclose that sort of stuff. I’m very discreet!

I love your use of a buddy list. Sneekyy!

I was also mentioning my poor memory earlier in another thread. You know those "have you ever" whatever with the litster above you threads? About 75% of the time, I look at the name and am not sure. That is why I barely participate in them and NAL threads. Of course, the fact litsters change profile pictures and come back with new names doesn't help either. I will also admit to having spent so much time talking to a person on skype, I forgot who they were on Lit. I will forget all dates. Birthdays, major life events etc. Though, unlike you, I assume everyone also forgot all of this about me.

There are also some positives. Like, all your best stories, you can tell me about them several times if you wait a few months. If I don't remember, it is new to me. I don't expect you to remember any details about me, dates, anything, so I am not bothered if you don't remember and am impressed if you do. I am super easy to ghost. I forgive most anything, often because I can't remember what you did that annoyed me. I used to use my buddy list as a list of litsters who I really wanted to avoid, so that way, I'd remember to not engage if I just checked a PM against my buddy list. Then the change happened. I was advised we could see followers, I saw I didn't know most of mine and I am all "who follows someone they won't talk to", then I saw the four people I was following and was all oh haha, I am that person who follows people I won't talk to just to remind me not to talk to them. So I cleared my list, replaced it with people I enjoy, now I am not sure who I want to remember that I want to stab with a rusty spork. sigh.

Point is, you are not alone at all, except I assume you also remember nothing about me.

That is me!

I avoid those threads too! I literally darent. I’ve actually been Lit-celibate for some time, but I used to be …less angelic, in the past.

The other thing is, I think I’ve had three names on Lit. I don’t want to say “oh yes she was putty in my hands” and it turns out it was an old username that did the dirty.

Plus I don’t think I’d disclose that sort of stuff. I’m very discreet!

I love your use of a buddy list. Sneekyy!

Btw I do know a little about you …I may have peaked at a vid recently.
Ugh, now I’m worried I’ve got that wrong.
I’m …semi-confident you posted a very nice vid

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

That is me!

I avoid those threads too! I literally darent. I’ve actually been Lit-celibate for some time, but I used to be …less angelic, in the past.

The other thing is, I think I’ve had three names on Lit. I don’t want to say “oh yes she was putty in my hands” and it turns out it was an old username that did the dirty.

Plus I don’t think I’d disclose that sort of stuff. I’m very discreet!

I love your use of a buddy list. Sneekyy!

That is me!

I avoid those threads too! I literally darent. I’ve actually been Lit-celibate for some time, but I used to be …less angelic, in the past.

The other thing is, I think I’ve had three names on Lit. I don’t want to say “oh yes she was putty in my hands” and it turns out it was an old username that did the dirty.

Plus I don’t think I’d disclose that sort of stuff. I’m very discreet!

I love your use of a buddy list. Sneekyy!

Btw I do know a little about you …I may have peaked at a vid recently.
Ugh, now I’m worried I’ve got that wrong.
I’m …semi-confident you posted a very nice vid

I would hope most long term litsters have a lit past. but the name changing is hard to get used to. so do you remember your old lit names?

and eh not much to know about me, just a chick bouncing around entertaining herself with whatever seems fun that day. and probably, somewhere, it is always a fair guess that I have posted a video around recently. I like those moving picture things

 

[munch2much]

Me. I do. All of this, and mine is also due to a medication I take for my misbehaving brain/blood combo.

So I can be fuzzy on short-term acquaintances.

The bigger, longer interactions I can recall like they fucked me up just yesterday, and the sexy stuff if I’ve done it with you I’ve got that stored too, but if I’ve only briefly interacted with you in private? I’ll probably be vague on it. It’s not personal it’s just how my memory works.

I’m 80% sure we’ve chatted. I don’t think it got sexy. But damn my memory. It’s not even dementia or an illness. I’ve been like this all my life. Though it is easier in RL.

On the plus side, I treat everyone like my best friend, just in case!!

 

[may_I_please]

PS I remember all my sexy people they are so few and far between, if we did it 100% didn’t get sexy.

I used to feel intimidated by you, if that helps

just to add that had absolutely nothing to do with you and more to do with my inferences. I think I like your writing but could never see how to connect with it. I go a bit slapstick on here and I don’t think that’s your style. I like strong, confident people who aren’t afraid to say what they think. But social propriety sometimes and cultural differences make me step back.

thinking about it I do that with women but not men which perhaps I should think about

 

[may_I_please]

Well I'm new to this website.
I'm female and honestly just started out here.
From what you all explain, I have seen it first hand. In the short time of being on this platform. I have received a plentiful of messages from random men I have chosen to ignore. Some get mad and curse me out before leaving me alone..

I thought this was just a site to publish my stories...

Hello and welcome, this place is more like an adult playground where you let your hair down, play the fool and sometimes get into fun conversations

I have legitimately never been cursed at and had someone mad at me in PM, nor had dick pics sent, and I’m sorry you’ve experienced that, people say hi and say hi back if the conversation comes to an end so be it and everybody has always been courteous, but if they are not you know what fuck em and stick em on ignore.

stay and play it’s good for creative juices, and other juices

 

[munch2much]

I’m 20% sure we haven’t.

So the math sorta works out if you squint at it long enough.

Haha so funny

Well I’m 100% sure your memory is better!

So … ok, so my maths isn’t great either

 

[munch2much]

Well I'm new to this website.
I'm female and honestly just started out here.
From what you all explain, I have seen it first hand. In the short time of being on this platform. I have received a plentiful of messages from random men I have chosen to ignore. Some get mad and curse me out before leaving me alone..

I thought this was just a site to publish my stories...

Welcome to Lit!

Sorry you got idiots messaging being nasty. Hopefully things will calm down now.

Lit has several different sides to itself.
And men are ever optimistic unfortunately.

 

[Photog1rl]

I probably wrote way to much and put it in the wrong places/order. It was late but the topic is very interesting so I wanted to comment.

So are you male, female or somewhere in between?

Female

Do you feel invisible? Trying different tactics just to get noticed?

I don’t feel invisible-probably because I post my boobs(and smile) on my thread in AM pics very regularly and I try to engage in different forums, start threads in AM pics or the PG, and actively build relationships (friendships). Part of the reason I enjoy lit is because I can flirt and show off and supplement the attention I get at home. Sometimes I am high need and I love having a way to engage.

Is your inbox full of so many IMs that you couldn’t reply to them all even if you wanted to?

Not really(and that is ok!) Folks kind of assume that it is but it's not. I mean I get messages but they are either from folks I am already chatting with or in response to my photos. The response posts don't usually get much traction as there are a lot of one liners with no real content.

In the beginning I tried to respond to every message with a fully thought out response. That is no longer the case. Some messages are not worth responding to.
Also, not long after I found the boards I connected with someone and took it to another platform and even though we took it slowly and a genuine friendsdeveloped, I ended up putting a lot of time and energy into that relationship and didn’t nurture other potential friendships on lit so some folks understandably stopped messaging me. I have learned, through the PM’s, that I much prefer chatting with someone after I’ve engaged with them in one of the threads and gotten to know their personality a bit.

Why was today great? Frustrating?
Today was personally a hard day but the folks I’ve met on Lit really helped. I have found that most of the people I’ve connected with are pretty fantastic.
I found the boards after reading the stories and then trying the chat, 10/10 do not recommend lol it is a lot of “got a pic”, “want to skype or gchat so that we can get into role play or e-boink” (strange term but I don't know what else to call it). Don't get me wrong I tried that out but it was super shallow and not fulfilling. Well random e-boinkijg was not fulfilling and online role playing is just not for me.

I have found more community on the boards, more discussion, more teaching and just less predatory behavior overall.
Something frustrating has more to do with myself. I struggle with how to keep things platonic. That may sound silly but I mean it. I love to show off and flirt. I think it is tons of fun. I also like talking about peoples responses to my posts.

This can turn sexual pretty quickly. I don't mind or it skirts the edge but other times I'm like, “PG stop! You can’t say that to them!” I don’t want to lead folks on and I don’t want to e-boink half of lit lol
I sometimes wonder if there is a right or wrong way to do Lit. Are we supposed to be connecting with multiple people?

There are so many people different kinds of people here with such varied interests. I might fill a particular need for one person and a different one for someone else. The same is true for me. There could be 10 people that match and fit different parts of what I need but is that the goal?? Collect a harem? Or is the goal finding one person, getting coupled online and not being a ho? Does the goal change? Are people judging you or are you hurting people?

Aside from don’t be an asshole and be honest, is there a right and wrong way to be on Lit?

What would make your Lit experience better?

I wish we could delete messages. I now we can leave and accept future messages(which keeps the archive) or leave and block future messages.
I also wish the interface on the phone was a little better. I use my phone exclusively and sometimes it is hard to navigate through things. I guess the only other things I wish are that I used punctuation so this wasn’t so hard to read and that I wasn't so awkward sometimes lol

 

[munch2much]

I probably wrote way to much and put it in the wrong places/order. It was late but the topic is very interesting so I wanted to comment.

So are you male, female or somewhere in between?

Female

Do you feel invisible? Trying different tactics just to get noticed?

I don’t feel invisible-probably because I post my boobs(and smile) on my thread in AM pics very regularly and I try to engage in different forums, start threads in AM pics or the PG, and actively build relationships (friendships). Part of the reason I enjoy lit is because I can flirt and show off and supplement the attention I get at home. Sometimes I am high need and I love having a way to engage.

Is your inbox full of so many IMs that you couldn’t reply to them all even if you wanted to?

Not really(and that is ok!) Folks kind of assume that it is but it's not. I mean I get messages but they are either from folks I am already chatting with or in response to my photos. The response posts don't usually get much traction as there are a lot of one liners with no real content.

In the beginning I tried to respond to every message with a fully thought out response. That is no longer the case. Some messages are not worth responding to.
Also, not long after I found the boards I connected with someone and took it to another platform and even though we took it slowly and a genuine friendsdeveloped, I ended up putting a lot of time and energy into that relationship and didn’t nurture other potential friendships on lit so some folks understandably stopped messaging me. I have learned, through the PM’s, that I much prefer chatting with someone after I’ve engaged with them in one of the threads and gotten to know their personality a bit.

Why was today great? Frustrating?
Today was personally a hard day but the folks I’ve met on Lit really helped. I have found that most of the people I’ve connected with are pretty fantastic.
I found the boards after reading the stories and then trying the chat, 10/10 do not recommend lol it is a lot of “got a pic”, “want to skype or gchat so that we can get into role play or e-boink” (strange term but I don't know what else to call it). Don't get me wrong I tried that out but it was super shallow and not fulfilling. Well random e-boinkijg was not fulfilling and online role playing is just not for me.

I have found more community on the boards, more discussion, more teaching and just less predatory behavior overall.
Something frustrating has more to do with myself. I struggle with how to keep things platonic. That may sound silly but I mean it. I love to show off and flirt. I think it is tons of fun. I also like talking about peoples responses to my posts.

This can turn sexual pretty quickly. I don't mind or it skirts the edge but other times I'm like, “PG stop! You can’t say that to them!” I don’t want to lead folks on and I don’t want to e-boink half of lit lol
I sometimes wonder if there is a right or wrong way to do Lit. Are we supposed to be connecting with multiple people?

There are so many people different kinds of people here with such varied interests. I might fill a particular need for one person and a different one for someone else. The same is true for me. There could be 10 people that match and fit different parts of what I need but is that the goal?? Collect a harem? Or is the goal finding one person, getting coupled online and not being a ho? Does the goal change? Are people judging you or are you hurting people?

Aside from don’t be an asshole and be honest, is there a right and wrong way to be on Lit?

What would make your Lit experience better?

I wish we could delete messages. I now we can leave and accept future messages(which keeps the archive) or leave and block future messages.
I also wish the interface on the phone was a little better. I use my phone exclusively and sometimes it is hard to navigate through things. I guess the only other things I wish are that I used punctuation so this wasn’t so hard to read and that I wasn't so awkward sometimes lol

I’m a bit confused because I swear to god I read this at least 30 minutes ago, but it disappeared before reappearing!

But this is a beautiful reply. Philosophical and showing an excellent understanding of others.

 

[Photog1rl]

I’m a bit confused because I swear to god I read this at least 30 minutes ago, but it disappeared before reappearing!

But this is a beautiful reply. Philosophical and showing an excellent understanding of others.

It had some typos and funky formatting. I deleted it, fixed some formatting and then reposted it. Sorry for any confusion.

 

[Bbl87]

I have never received any photos from anybody.
I sure haven't been asked for any either. I'm not sure anybody wants to see my redneck country ass.

You might be surprised. . Just need to run in the right circles on here and get to know some cool people. Received and been asked for of my redneck country self. Though not my ass.

 

[Seadog777]

You might be surprised. . Just need to run in the right circles on here and get to know some cool people. Received and been asked for of my redneck country self. Though not my ass.

Lord knows that I'm trying to get to know people on here.

I'm a Redneck, Country, Chia pet. I got hair everywhere but my head (I shave)

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

stay and play it’s good for creative juices, and other juices

And now it is me who is stealing your lines.

The circle is now complete.

 

[Bbl87]

Lord knows that I'm trying to get to know people on here.

I'm a Redneck, Country, Chia pet. I got hair everywhere but my head (I shave)

We're not so different, my friend.

 

[Seadog777]

I don’t feel invisible-probably because I post my boobs(and smile) on my thread in AM pics very regularly and I try to engage in different forums, start threads in AM pics or the PG, and actively build relationships (friendships). Part of the reason I enjoy lit is because I can flirt and show off and supplement the attention I get at home. Sometimes I am high need and I love having a way to engage.

Damn. I always seem to miss the good stuff

 

[RDM97756]

I have been on and off for many years and maybe a couple user name changes.

I started reading stories and found there was a whole nother part of the site with interaction.

Anymore I am just a social butterfly who sometime ok often times seeks attention.

But I have found my real life and my lit fantasy life are polar opposite and often leads to real guilt or depression.

So while I still crave attention I have been trying to dial it down a lot because a relationship here of any sort, just wont ever mesh with my Real World.

This often times leaves me depressed and lonely. I dont try to show it though I know it comes out. I really just want to laugh and be happy.

I feel caught in a web if I move the wrong way one world or the other if not both my come crashing down on me.

 

[munch2much]

I have been on and off for many years and maybe a couple user name changes.

I started reading stories and found there was a whole nother part of the site with interaction.

Anymore I am just a social butterfly who sometime ok often times seeks attention.

But I have found my real life and my lit fantasy life are polar opposite and often leads to real guilt or depression.

So while I still crave attention I have been trying to dial it down a lot because a relationship here of any sort, just wont ever mesh with my Real World.

This often times leaves me depressed and lonely. I dont try to show it though I know it comes out. I really just want to laugh and be happy.

I feel caught in a web if I move the wrong way one world or the other if not both my come crashing down on me.

I feel for you.
I have to regular breaks from Lit.
it certainly can feel like a balancing act.
I hope you are not feeling too bad right now

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

So are you male, female or somewhere in between?
Do you feel invisible? Trying different tactics just to get noticed?
Is your inbox full of so many IMs that you couldn’t reply to them all even if you wanted to?
Why was today great? Frustrating?

What would make your Lit experience better?

I'm a female that goes between feeling entirely too visible and invisible. I used to feel very "seen" here, but that was when I was very active and had a large group of friends who were active as well. Times have changed and many of those friends have come and gone. Hell, I've come and gone several times now. Right now, I don't know where I fit in just yet. But I'm sure if I stick around longer I'll find a place. When I feel like being noticed it's easy enough to throw a pic of my tits or ass up and get a few likes and a dopamine boost.

Right now, my inbox is pretty full, but that's only due to my recent reappearance. It'll settle down soon enough once people realize I'm not a newbie looking to Skype or my friends remember what a boring girl I actually am

Today was... ugh. Not great. Frustrating, yes. But at the risk of @Lord Pmann calling me an Eeyore on my first week back, I'm not going to go into details.

What would make my Lit experience better? Maybe if there was like a rating or review system in place so you could warn each other from the fucking predators.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

If you search for member profile names you can still see all post history.

True, and worth knowing.
The old format made it so easy to go through a poster's history with little friction.
But I still post as though everything here is visible and accessible to the general public. The old Internet rules still apply to me (and I hope everyone else)

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

True, and worth knowing.
The old format made it so easy to go through a poster's history with little friction.
But I still post as though everything here is visible and accessible to the general public. The old Internet rules still apply to me (and I hope everyone else)

I only post things that will disqualify me from running for political office later, because who needs all that hassle?

Besides...it makes my posts more fun.

 

[Photog1rl]

What would make my Lit experience better? Maybe if there was like a rating or review system in place so you could warn each other from the fucking predators.

Absofuckinglutely this!

 

[FunLi]

I've had a few men tell me I'm intimidating. I'm glad they felt comfortable enough to tell me.

Ugggghhh..the one comment from a man that really grinds my gears..mainly because I have frequently been told in my line of business that I’m intimidating.

The funny thing is, women tell me I’m inspiring.

There’s a big difference between purposefully being intimidating and a man being intimidated.

Okay..off my soapbox.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

What would make my Lit experience better? Maybe if there was like a rating or review system in place so you could warn each other from the fucking predators.

Don't most message board software platforms have a rating system as an option?

Lit has the reaction score but it only goes up. You can't lose points.

I agree that being able to have a score of negative 8 gagillion would reduce the number of creepers

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

Ugggghhh..the one comment from a man that really grinds my gears..mainly because I have frequently been told in my line of business that I’m intimidating.

The funny thing is, women tell me I’m inspiring.

There’s a big difference between purposefully being intimidating and a man being intimidated.

Okay..off my soapbox.

It's a sign of a weak man you don't want to be around anyway. Be thankful they announced themselves so you could see it.

"Intimidating" is the word weaks men used to describe strong confident women.

Many of us ONLY like strong confident women.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Today was... ugh. Not great. Frustrating, yes. But at the risk of @Lord Pmann calling me an Eeyore on my first week back, I'm not going to go into details.

What would make my Lit experience better? Maybe if there was like a rating or review system in place so you could warn each other from the fucking predators.

Want a carrot?

I have a great idea for a rating system… it’s good. Stay tuned.