The Lit experience: men v women

[Cindy027]

Oooh, another survey. And for another site years ago I wrote on my chest with a sharpie @LadyLascivious1 as a proof thing.

So are you male, female or somewhere in between?
Female

Do you feel invisible? Trying different tactics just to get noticed?
No, I have in the past but I got over it. I once sat on the chat site for 11 hrs (I was logged on but was doing other work) and not one person initiated a chat with me. I have made many friends on the chat site and I don't really look for chats with people i don't know.

Is your inbox full of so many IMs that you couldn’t reply to them all even if you wanted to?
No. Must be the advantage of being gay. Sometimes it can be annoying, guys will send me IM's not realising I am gay and then as soon as I tell them I am gay they disappear, which I find oddly rude. I have had some nice chats with men, I am not a man hater but obviously they are gardening tips type chats.

Why was today great? Not so great?
Got back from Sweden this morning and its great to be back in a warm climate with daylight but I also always feel a little sad when I leave.

What would make your Lit experience better?
It would be nice if there could be a women's only thread. i.e. access only by women and then in fairness the men can have one too

The issue of 'proving' myself to be a woman isn't something I've had to do.

The people I have done this for never reciprocated. It was quite easy to do, I took a piece of paper and wrote their name on it and said Hi and took a pic of myself with the note and then after I sent it to them they disappeared. The funny thing is the people that have become good friends never questioned my authenticity although I probably forced it on them

The chat site can be a minefield and in retrospect I made some big mistakes in trusting people that said they were who they were but I live and learn. In the beginning I was far too naive, this was the first chat site I had been on. I still think the chat site is great, there are a lot of rooms that I would not be seen dead in but there are some nice relaxed rooms as well.

 

[barefootgirl69]

This is a random thought, but the mommy thing is so much less desirable than the daddy thing for so many on Lit.

What's really bad is when they want a mommy from someone into DD/lg.

 

[Lord Pmann]

What's really bad is when they want a mommy from someone into DD/lg.

That could be the weirdest switch situation known to man.

 

[cascadiabound]

That could be the weirdest switch situation known to man.

It is surprisingly common in my Lit experience

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

It is surprisingly common in my Lit experience

ok, that is odd. like I get what draws them to me, my user name, well the point of it, being misunderstood. but what is the trigger with LGs? (or is it DDs they are kicking their game with? lol)

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I once used Slinger to be my brother for this totally non sexual role play thing.

That's about as weird as it gets, right?

 

[cascadiabound]

ok, that is odd. like I get what draws them to me, my user name, well the point of it, being misunderstood. but what is the trigger with LGs? (or is it DDs they are kicking their game with? lol)

I can't say I get it, but I have a handful of tales of men presenting as interested in control and then flip to wanting to have a Mommy/lb dynamic. I agree, it is weird.
Pretty sure bfg has a similar experience

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I can't say I get it, but I have a handful of tales of men presenting as interested in control and then flip to wanting to have a Mommy/lb dynamic. I agree, it is weird.
Pretty sure bfg has a similar experience

Is it a power thing?

I like switching into domme with the right guy but couldn't do mommy

 

[cascadiabound]

Is it a power thing?

I like switching into domme with the right guy but couldn't do mommy

 

[barefootgirl69]

@cascadiabound

Actually, I haven't!

The times it's gone that direction was when a man wanted the "incest mommy" not a Domme.

Not my kink.

 

[cascadiabound]

@cascadiabound

Actually, I haven't!

The times it's gone that direction was when a man wanted the "incest mommy" not a Domme.

Not my kink.

Yes. That's what I'm talking about. Not a Domme, incest mommy or Mommy/lb dynamic

 

[clark_kent]

Is it a power thing?

I like switching into domme with the right guy but couldn't do mommy

I think it more likely is that a guy is just hoping to strike an interest and if she isn’t on to it then they try a different tactic.
I prefer to know her interests first. If it seems like we can play in the same sandbox then I move forward. That said, I haven’t tried in a long time. I’ve been on a break.
Happy New Year!

 

[clark_kent]

Yes. That's what I'm talking about. Not a Domme, incest mommy or Mommy/lb dynamic

I get the younger/older dynamic, but the actual incest scenario? Not for me.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I think it more likely is that a guy is just hoping to strike an interest and if she isn’t on to it then they try a different tactic.
I prefer to know her interests first. If it seems like we can play in the same sandbox then I move forward. That said, I haven’t tried in a long time. I’ve been on a break.
Happy New Year!

It's good to see you back!

Having a quick chat about likes/dislikes ahead of any activities is always a sage idea. Being willing to state and clarify expectations leads to some pretty incredible experiences. There's an art to doing this without killing the vibe and when people do it well, well...

 

[clark_kent]

It's good to see you back!

Having a quick chat about likes/dislikes ahead of any activities is always a sage idea. Being willing to state and clarify expectations leads to some pretty incredible experiences. There's an art to doing this without killing the vibe and when people do it well, well...

Thanks! Great to see you too.
I couldn’t agree more! I’ve always been open to suggestions and this has led to a lot of fun. When you create that connection, it’s a pretty incredible experience. It’s so worth taking that time to learn.
And per this thread, as a guy, it really helps because, at least from my experience, there are many more guys chasing women here and so if it doesn’t feel right, they can (and should) simply move on.
And I’ve met some great people over the years.

 

[Png1drv]

I like the older woman thing but definitely not the mommy part. Can't uunderstand that. I agree, finding out what you and your prospective partner like is the key to a successful and hot interaction.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I get the younger/older dynamic, but the actual incest scenario? Not for me.

Then you, sir, have never fucked your mom!

(I’m totally kidding people)

 

[Png1drv]

Seems like I'm very much in the minority here according to some of these threads!

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Seems like I'm very much in the minority here according to some of these threads!

I don't know about that. We're a pretty diverse bunch and in the big 'ole venn diagram of human sexuality, there's a lot of overlap.

When possible, we try not to yuck on other people's yum.

Sometimes conversations happen and we choose to not join in because we have nothing positive to say. That can feel like there are more people into things than it seems. For better or worse.

You're perfectly normal.

It's okay to not be into the same things as others. That's what makes this so fun. I love learning about what kinds of things other people like. I can live a little vicariously through them

 

[Png1drv]

Oh, doesn't bother me at all, just making an observation. I love the diversity here, it's what makes it so fun to be here.

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

I don't know about that. We're a pretty diverse bunch and in the big 'ole venn diagram of human sexuality, there's a lot of overlap.

When possible, we try not to yuck on other people's yum.

Sometimes conversations happen and we choose to not join in because we have nothing positive to say. That can feel like there are more people into things than it seems. For better or worse.

You're perfectly normal.

It's okay to not be into the same things as others. That's what makes this so fun. I love learning about what kinds of things other people like. I can live a little vicariously through them

What she said. I've been living vicariously through all of these people for 10 years now.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Oh, doesn't bother me at all, just making an observation. I love the diversity here, it's what makes it so fun to be here.

Indeed!

There's also a lot of vanilla.
Also, pet peeve with the use of vanilla in this context. Vanilla is such a complex and wonderful flavor.

 

[Png1drv]

What's funny is that I find the incest category in stories to be some of the most complex and well written stories on here. I wonder if they have to try harder because of the taboo nature?

 

[clark_kent]

Indeed!

There's also a lot of vanilla.
Also, pet peeve with the use of vanilla in this context. Vanilla is such a complex and wonderful flavor.

Vanilla is great. But add some chocolate sauce and, well………..

 

[Tallulah82]

Some of my jokes pull some odd characters into my inbox. I did not appreciate their proclivities and can't imagine I ever would. To each their own I guess. Not gonna yuck on their yum. Just a no or quick delete. They know why.

I said I was sorry!!!!

Your simple NO was so harsh.