Litiquette VII

[Mrtenant]

I own it. If I have screwed up and someone tells me I have hurt them with carelessness, I own it. I apologize. Doesn’t make it right, but I will try to.

If you’re someone I just don’t want to talk to, I just tell you I’m not interested. That’s far easier than pretending for a long time.

Because I have been hurt by carelessness, I try very hard not to be.

The fuck it attitude is my own response to other people’s carelessness.

That's how I do also.

 

[Mrtenant]

I own it. If I have screwed up and someone tells me I have hurt them with carelessness, I own it. I apologize. Doesn’t make it right, but I will try to.

If you’re someone I just don’t want to talk to, I just tell you I’m not interested. That’s far easier than pretending for a long time.

Because I have been hurt by carelessness, I try very hard not to be.

The fuck it attitude is my own response to other people’s carelessness.

I will say though, when its other people's carelessness, if I don't know them, or barely know them, yea, carelessness, fuck it.

If I do know them, and have for a long time, their carelessness bothers me. I know Litsters here on Lit since 2010. Their words care more weight with me. Sensitive that way I guess.

 

[MedicalMuse]

I will say though, when its other people's carelessness, if I don't know them, or barely know them, yea, carelessness, fuck it.

If I do know them, and have for a long time, their carelessness bothers me. I know Litsters here on Lit since 2010. Their words care more weight with me. Sensitive that way I guess.

I get that. That’s exactly what I mean. When it’s someone you care for, it hurts more when they are careless with your heart.

If it’s a new friendship, and someone is careless, I kind of chalk it up to overexcitement. No harm was intended.

Have you ever found that you’ll be chatting with someone and they just disappear? Life stuff gets in the way for them? I try to grant grace there, that’s not carelessness, that’s life. Especially if someone recognizes the importance of that friendship and reaches out to talk about where they have been and what they’ve been going through. I’m happy to give a shoulder and a hug. Life sucks sometimes. Been there. 2022 can jump off a bridge.

 

[Mrtenant]

I get that. That’s exactly what I mean. When it’s someone you care for, it hurts more when they are careless with your heart.

If it’s a new friendship, and someone is careless, I kind of chalk it up to overexcitement. No harm was intended.

Have you ever found that you’ll be chatting with someone and they just disappear? Life stuff gets in the way for them? I try to grant grace there, that’s not carelessness, that’s life. Especially if someone recognizes the importance of that friendship and reaches out to talk about where they have been and what they’ve been going through. I’m happy to give a shoulder and a hug. Life sucks sometimes. Been there. 2022 can jump off a bridge.

Yup. That disappearance thing kinda happened with me and you for a spell.

And I agree, 2022, I've had enough.

 

[MedicalMuse]

Yup. That disappearance thing kinda happened with me and you for a spell.

And I agree, 2022, I've had enough.

Yep it did. And I get it. You had stuff. My brother died. It’s been a hell of a year.

 

[gga]

How does one become an empty nester (asking for a friend)

It's all new to me. I'm probably not the one to ask.

For us, it seemed like life completely flipped after that moment.

We went from caring for kids, getting them through college, and out on their own, to caring for the elders and all that entails. And now that they've passed within the past several months, we're picking of the pieces of dealing with estates, etc.

At some point it would be nice to feel like true empty nesters.

 

[Mrtenant]

Yep it did. And I get it. You had stuff. My brother died. It’s been a hell of a year.

Awful. When I had covid this last Summer, one of my best friends, like a brother, committed suicide. I'm still a wreck about it. Couldn't go to funeral or nothing.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

2022 has been a pretty big arsehole in my perspective.

 

[MedicalMuse]

Awful. When I had covid this last Summer, one of my best friends, like a brother, committed suicide. I'm still a wreck about it. Couldn't go to funeral or nothing.

Im so sorry. There’s nothing like losing a part of your heart.

(I’d have messaged you more, but you won’t accept my messages. )

 

[Mrtenant]

Im so sorry. There’s nothing like losing a part of your heart.

(I’d have messaged you more, but you won’t accept my messages. )

I turned off my PMs for a little while as of yesterday. Not about you.

 

[gga]

Have you ever found that you’ll be chatting with someone and they just disappear? Life stuff gets in the way for them? I try to grant grace there, that’s not carelessness, that’s life. Especially if someone recognizes the importance of that friendship and reaches out to talk about where they have been and what they’ve been going through. I’m happy to give a shoulder and a hug. Life sucks sometimes. Been there. 2022 can jump off a bridge.

And I thank you for that.

 

[ChainedUp]

While I hate to break up a good banter, to & fro, exchange, if I’m going to be true to the thread it is time for a new topic.

The pandemic. I know I just heard a collective groan, I know we are all tired of it, even those of us that have lost people we love as a result, it is incredibly draining.

That said, here’s a something I haven’t read about. The impact of the pandemic on sexuality. Obviously it put a stop for awhile to casual sex, illicit affairs and the like.

But did it actually improve sexuality? Did partners have more sex during the pandemic than prior? Are people now sex crazed and fucking anything that moves? Did online sex increase dramatically?

How did the pandemic affect your sex life?

 

[Mrtenant]

While I hate to break up a good banter, to & fro, exchange, if I’m going to be true to the thread it is time for a new topic.

The pandemic. I know I just heard a collective groan, I know we are all tired of it, even those of us that have lost people we love as a result, it is incredibly draining.

That said, here’s a something I haven’t read about. The impact of the pandemic on sexuality. Obviously it put a stop for awhile to casual sex, illicit affairs and the like.

But did it actually improve sexuality? Did partners have more sex during the pandemic than prior? Are people now sex crazed and fucking anything that moves? Did online sex increase dramatically?

How did the pandemic affect your sex life?

Shot a great big fucking black hole of need in it.

 

[Dribble]

Life can always affect our ability to be intimate. Be it pandemic...or maybe death of a loved one...or maybe it is a divorce...or maybe an unexpected job loss...or maybe facing a medical emergency. Or a bazillion other things. But my question...is it really the life thing that results in the loss of intimacy? Or how we respond to the life thing? We all can only do as well as we can. It is hard to deal with shitty things. It is easier to close in. To build walls. Hell, I am not even sure i realize it is happening when it happens to me. It is a form of self defense. And while we do the best we can..***** changes the paths we and our partners or friends are walking...and the next thing i realize...we ain't where we were. I don't think this is really anyone's fault. It is just life.

So how do I stay intimate during life events? I try to understand everyone really is doing the best they can. It isn't malicious. It isn't as personal as it feels. And I accept intimacy really is as fragile as it seems. Sure...I should have seen it coming. Sure...i should have said how i was really feeling better. But I did the best I could. And I cherish the moment.

Not sure if any of this is real. Just where I am looking at my life in the moment I am in.

 

[Lord Pmann]

While I hate to break up a good banter, to & fro, exchange, if I’m going to be true to the thread it is time for a new topic.

The pandemic. I know I just heard a collective groan, I know we are all tired of it, even those of us that have lost people we love as a result, it is incredibly draining.

That said, here’s a something I haven’t read about. The impact of the pandemic on sexuality. Obviously it put a stop for awhile to casual sex, illicit affairs and the like.

But did it actually improve sexuality? Did partners have more sex during the pandemic than prior? Are people now sex crazed and fucking anything that moves? Did online sex increase dramatically?

How did the pandemic affect your sex life?

Papa C, you’re known for breaking up good banter! This is your thing.

I don’t know about how the pandemic affected online sex, really. It seemed like there were some new members, maybe more than normal, who joined during the pandemic. There are a lot of people who were horny AF and had nothing to do, so jumping in on a sex site was a good choice.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

While I hate to break up a good banter, to & fro, exchange, if I’m going to be true to the thread it is time for a new topic.

The pandemic. I know I just heard a collective groan, I know we are all tired of it, even those of us that have lost people we love as a result, it is incredibly draining.

That said, here’s a something I haven’t read about. The impact of the pandemic on sexuality. Obviously it put a stop for awhile to casual sex, illicit affairs and the like.

But did it actually improve sexuality? Did partners have more sex during the pandemic than prior? Are people now sex crazed and fucking anything that moves? Did online sex increase dramatically?

How did the pandemic affect your sex life?

Nothing quite like a well timed groan.

I think everyone's relationship with the pandemic will be different. My experience sucked. I was pregnant with a toddler and everything I would typically do to help my sanity disappeared overnight. It was a stressful time in my life and my brain and body don't really care about sex when I'm stressed...

The pandemic did allow me the space to explore my relationship with my sexuality. I learnt so much about the science of sex, some of which I've shared here on lit, and knowing what's going on in my brain has helped me figure out how to get my sexy back. Knowing that I need to reduce my sexual "brakes" and allow my responsive desire to catch up to the situation has helped me find a way to still have sex. But if we're being honest- it's maintenance sex. It has been since 2020.

 

[Dribble]

Nothing quite like a well timed groan.

I think everyone's relationship with the pandemic will be different. My experience sucked. I was pregnant with a toddler and everything I would typically do to help my sanity disappeared overnight. It was a stressful time in my life and my brain and body don't really care about sex when I'm stressed...

The pandemic did allow me the space to explore my relationship with my sexuality. I learnt so much about the science of sex, some of which I've shared here on lit, and knowing what's going on in my brain has helped me figure out how to get my sexy back. Knowing that I need to reduce my sexual "brakes" and allow my responsive desire to catch up to the situation has helped me find a way to still have sex. But if we're being honest- it's maintenance sex. It has been since 2020.

I think I wrote this...are you me?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I think I wrote this...are you me?

Well this is awkward.

Is there a glitch in the matrix?

Quick... What color underwear are you wearing?

 

[Dribble]

Well this is awkward.

Is there a glitch in the matrix?

Quick... What color underwear are you wearing?

What's underwear?

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Perhaps it increased for some- so did alcohol consumption. Are they related, maybe.

I’d say online sexy shenanigans probably went down. Spouses are now working from home and alone time was instantly zapped. I mean, you can only hide in the bathroom for so long. And running errands were few and far between, so no naughty in the car. Well, less naughty in the car.

Was my sex life effected - yes and no.
My studio is on a different level then my husband’s ‘working from home now’ office.
We each had our space and wasn’t up in each others grill. Meet in the kitchen for lunch. Afternoon grind similar to the morning. In the beginning, the constant stress juggled in with the new work situations + now home schooling a kiddo left us more exhausted and sexy time consisted of less rockstar mind blowing nights.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

What's underwear?

Oh shit. We just may be the same person after all

 

[Endless_Night]

How did the pandemic affect your sex life?

My sex life is so lacking in any kind of elegance its mere discussion would crash this newly revived thread.


So I won't. Discuss it.


Y'all are all kinds of nearly New Year's welcome.

 

[ChainedUp]

Happy New Year!!!!

Quick hitter - how do you define prosperity for yourself? Is it tied to overall health and well-being or is it purely financial?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

What's that point of money if you don't have the ability to enjoy it?
Prosperity for me is all encompassing. Money helps, but it can't buy the good stuff- love, health, happiness.

On the flip side, a lack of money definitely affects love, health, and happiness.

Happy New Year

 

[StacyLeigh]

Happy New Year!!!!

Quick hitter - how do you define prosperity for yourself? Is it tied to overall health and well-being or is it purely financial?

I think of wealth as a type of prosperity - leaving prosperity to include wealth, as well as health and happiness.

Financial security is important in supporting mental well-being but it’s a Growth mindset over a Fixed mindset that supports overall health and happiness.