Should he be called a Cuckold if he's cool with it?

[Duleigh]

should a husband be called a cuckold if he is ok with his wife being with other men?

NO he would not. The key word here is "OK" because the primary component in the cuck's part of cuckoldry is Humiliation, This is something that the slavering trolls go out of their way to ignore and deny because the relationship is actually "An Open Relationship" because the husband is ok with it.

I have a theory that the truly rabid trolls who insist on incorrectly defining any form of open relationship as "Cuckoldry" and scatter 1-bombs without trying to delve into the story they attack actually are cucks (I had several admit it), or truly want to try the open relationship model, but since their wives responded to their request with "Ewww" they go on the attack.

Often ignored in the traditional definition of cuckoldry is the cuck's active role in parenting the children his wife produces.

 

[cuck72]

I'm not sure if this has been brought up before, but should a husband be called a cuckold if he is ok with his wife being with other men?

The definition of a cuckold is a husband of an unfaithful wife. Meaning she is cheating on him without him knowing about it or even if he does know he doesn't approve of it.

So if he is totally cool with his wife being with other men, and even encouraging it, she is clearly not being unfaithful to him. She's only unfaithful if she's doing it behind his back and he disapproves of the idea.

We see this a lot in hotwife stories where the guy is being called a cuckold, but technically speaking he shouldn't be.

If he is ok with it, like it turns him on. I believe that's called a wife sharer.

I'm not sure if this has been brought up before, but should a husband be called a cuckold if he is ok with his wife being with other men?

The definition of a cuckold is a husband of an unfaithful wife. Meaning she is cheating on him without him knowing about it or even if he does know he doesn't approve of it.

So if he is totally cool with his wife being with other men, and even encouraging it, she is clearly not being unfaithful to him. She's only unfaithful if she's doing it behind his back and he disapproves of the idea.

We see this a lot in hotwife stories where the guy is being called a cuckold, but technically speaking he shouldn't be.

I believe that's called a wife sharer. But if he's ok with it, like it turns him on, sure call him your cuckold. I love thinking of my wife being a cheating slut, and she has, and it turns me on. So, I love the thought of being her cuckold even though I'm ok with other guys fucking her. I think the " wife sharing term" is more for the 3sums which we also had.

 

[Duleigh]

I believe that's called a wife sharer. But if he's ok with it, like it turns him on, sure call him your cuckold. I love thinking of my wife being a cheating slut, and she has, and it turns me on. So, I love the thought of being her cuckold even though I'm ok with other guys fucking her. I think the " wife sharing term" is more for the 3sums which we also had.

As I've tried to educate trolls in the past, a major component in the definition of cuckhold is "humiliation" and that is something you clearly aren't struggling with. I'd say that you have an open relationship and I'm glad that you and your wife are happy with it.

 

[Imstillfun]

I write LW stories. A lot of MFM and MMMMF. I love the reaction they bring.

In all my stories I see the husband as an active and willing participant, often encouraging his wife.

In none of my stories do I think the woman is verbally abusing the man. She does tell him how she is feeling and asks him how he is feeling. In my stories he is usually loving it.

I do not consider any of my stories ‘humiliation’, but many of the commenters do. I rarely use the word cuckold in my stories. I always use it in the tags, and sometimes title, as I believe it attracts readers who seem to like my stories.

my husband has enjoyed watching me fuck. I’ve enjoyed watching him. I do not consider him a cuckold.

in my mind, the difference is that, a cuckold has a need or desire to watch his wife have sex as opposed to just being cool with, and able to enjoy the situation.

 

[SimonDoom]

My attitude about the use of words concerning erotica is to defer to the person's own fantasy. If you think of yourself as a cuckold, great. If you think of yourself as a stag or a wittol, great. It's your fantasy. What bugs me is when people get judgy about others' fantasies and use their own vocabulary to put others in their own boxes. This is a space where people should be allowed to run free and have fun.

 

[alohadave]

I do not consider any of my stories ‘humiliation’, but many of the commenters do.

IMO, most of those commenters are projecting their fears onto authors. I can't think of any other reason why they'd take these stories so seriously and personally. Reading some of the comments, you'd think they thought every story is a true story.

 

[cuck72]

As I've tried to educate trolls in the past, a major component in the definition of cuckhold is "humiliation" and that is something you clearly aren't struggling with. I'd say that you have an open relationship and I'm glad that you and your wife are happy with it.

That's why I like to think of myself as her cuckold, because I like the thought of being humiliated and a cleanup cuckold. My wife knows all about my bi cleanup cuckold thoughts, so even though I'm excited that she has been a " shared wife," I think of the humiliation of the cuckold if that makes any kind of sense. I believe there is a wide range of cuckolding in today's society. It seems like anything goes as far as being a cuckold if your wife is just fucking another guy. I also get off imagining my wife and her lovers thinking of me as being humiliated.

 

[Lifestyle66]

in my mind, the difference is that, a cuckold has a need or desire to watch his wife have sex as opposed to just being cool with, and able to enjoy the situation.

In my mind, a cuckold is a guy whose wife cheats on him without his permission or without his knowledge. Others may even know his wife is cheating.

It comes down to the origin of the word from cuckoo birds hiding their eggs in the nest of other birds for the other bird to hatch and raise. The cuckold doesn't know his wife might be getting pregnant by another guy, or at least doesn't know when she's having sex with others.

But in today's world, definitions seem to "evolve" as people search for more ways to insult and destroy others. It's such a negative world.

 

[Imstillfun]

IMO, most of those commenters are projecting their fears onto authors. I can't think of any other reason why they'd take these stories so seriously and personally. Reading some of the comments, you'd think they thought every story is a true story.

Read the comments on my story “you only think you’re in control”. They are a hilarious read.

I consider the trolls fans. They read every story completely and can quote them when they comment on them. the few that i know who they are, were cheated on. I think they crave that feeling but hate that they want to feel that way.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

Both my male partners would find it hilarious to be called cuckolds. Whatever definition is used for cuck nowadays, there's still the idea that it's not the normal way of things. Happy people shagging multiple other people is an alien concept to those thinking of themselves as cucked.

The word cuckquean may exist, but men cheating on their wives is such a common idea that it's not ever used in that context, only possibly when the man makes it clear to the woman that he is fucking other women to humiliate her.

I don't have the fidelity/spouse kink myself so all the stories subverting it do nothing for me - the worldview is just too alien.

I can confirm though that it's quite possible for two men in a MFM threesome to have zero interest in each other! My partners would be so hot together except for being totally not into it. Sigh. They just gang up on me at board games, instead.

 

[Magineer]

My attitude about the use of words concerning erotica is to defer to the person's own fantasy. If you think of yourself as a cuckold, great. If you think of yourself as a stag or a wittol, great. It's your fantasy. What bugs me is when people get judgy about others' fantasies and use their own vocabulary to put others in their own boxes. This is a space where people should be allowed to run free and have fun.

Except... except... when do you start crossing a line where the meaning of a word is so fluid that it means what each individual user wants it to mean? Surely the whole point of a language - or any communication system, come to that - is that there should be a strong, shared acceptance of the semantic loading of the terminology. Otherwise, garbage in and, most definitely, garbage out.

Being touch-feely, all-inclusive in one's approach might make you feel good... but in the long run it's in nobody's interest.

 

[lc69hunter]

Except... except... when do you start crossing a line where the meaning of a word is so fluid that it means what each individual user wants it to mean? Surely the whole point of a language - or any communication system, come to that - is that there should be a strong, shared acceptance of the semantic loading of the terminology. Otherwise, garbage in and, most definitely, garbage out.

Being touch-feely, all-inclusive in one's approach might make you feel good... but in the long run it's in nobody's interest.

Huh???