Lootequiette: Pmann's Totally Original/Unaffiliated Thread

[hotwords229_A]

That's like saying, "It looks like a triangle. But in a circle kind of way."

My mind cannot compute. But I'm gonna keep studying it.

A triangle is just a circle with hard edges. Keep watching those boobies, everything will suddenly become clear.

 

[Lord Pmann]

A triangle is just a circle with hard edges. Keep watching those boobies, everything will suddenly become clear.

I'm watching them. But I suspect everything is about to become opaque. And sticky.

 

[NC_Coastal]

I deep throat bananas at stop lights just to make the person next to me uncomfortable. I know they’re looking already, I have a ridiculously badass vehicle that screams, look at me, I swallow.

Just another reason to love Southern girls.

 

[JerseyJade]

I deep throat bananas at stop lights just to make the person next to me uncomfortable. I know they’re looking already, I have a ridiculously badass vehicle that screams, look at me, I swallow.

Hmmm. I need to try that.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

This is a good point, female. And it brings me to my next question.

Do you care what someone calls you? Male. Female. Man. Woman. Guy. Girl. Does it matter to you? I mean, presuming they don’t call you a girl and you’re a guy or vice versa.

I don’t care at all. Intent matters here and with pet names. If I can tell they’re trying to be genuine or complimentary, I’m cool with most affectionate terms. If they’re being condescending or it sounds like they don’t remember my name, then it will annoy me.

This.
I'm all for some good "old fashioned stuff." Call me Ma'am, Lady, Baby, Woman, Femmina!

Baby is the only one that rubs me the wrong way and always has.

And if you tell me to smile, you’ll likely get tripped. Or kicked.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

That's like saying, "It looks like a triangle. But in a circle kind of way."

My mind cannot compute. But I'm gonna keep studying it.

So…pizza?

 

[Lord Pmann]

It has been a minute. Between the dead Listers and catfishy Listers, I’ve been busy (investigating, not operating).

So, with all these revelations, it makes me think… how comfortable are you with your interactions here? How quickly do you let someone into your circle of trust, heart, vagina, etc? Do you have natural walls or are you pretty open?

For me, I’m usually a pretty good judge of people. If I have hesitancy, you’re likely never getting into my vagina. But if I do trust you, I try to be pretty open. However, there are different levels. Then sometimes, I’m just dead fucking wrong.

How do you navigate your trusty little circle of friends? Do you trust first? Or do you have walls and then let people in?

 

[Dribble]

I am very comfortable. I am an open book. But I know when to close or change books

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I am pretty much an open book, but I have learned to be more careful about who I actually trust. I just quickly glanced through my Skype and counted 15 Litsters I trust enough to have shared parts of my real life with to varying degrees. Although there is only one who I can say I would trust absolutely, completely and without hesitation. I definitely have levels in my trust circle.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I'm less guarded than I used to be, especially with litsters who I've been posting alongside for years. It sounds oxymoronic, but I'm trusting even though I have walls.

I don't take this place all that seriously. That's been my MO from the start. My IRL comes first, always. Sometimes I lose sight of that and have to take a break for a while to reset my expectations. I'm here for silly shenanigans which often means I'm not all that bothered about people not being who they say they are. If they can crack a joke and keep the conversation flowing, that's cool with me.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

1. What the hell are people posting that would get them in trouble with their boss?? Just run of the mill porn, or something *more*?

2. God it must suck to work for someone who would fire you for having a sex life.

3. I don't condone it, but I understand the compulsion to "out" people to their spouse who are here without their knowledge. Fucked up morality police move.

I agree that it's important to remember there are dickwads here. Just like everything in life is a calculated risk, so is fucking around here at lit. One thing I remind myself of is that I'm really bad at making decisions in line with my values when I'm drunk, high, or aroused. I'm much more willing to bend the rules and knowing that helps me try to stay within my limits.

Most of the time

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Oh, yeah. I do. I think I've been lucky to work for people who wouldn't give a rats ass if I were on lit. My last boss KNEW about my lit postings.

I cropped my face out for my protection, yes. That photo above actually gave me heartburn because I uploaded it as a joke and I failed to notice there was information that could pinpoint my geographic location. Thankfully I caught it, edited it out and only expected this to be my av overnight. That is, until Manu changed the site to move avs to the author's control panel. I don't want too much of a presence, so I left this one.

If the Ashley Madison breach taught us anything, it's that we should learn to separate our "naughty" bits from the rest. These days email addresses are all tied to our overarching "Big Brother Knows Us" profiles that Google, Meta, and Amazon compile (and sell to anyone who is willing to pay!!). Let this be your reminder to never use a personal email address associated with you for your lit account unless you want this nonsense to be part of your bigger demographic information for data brokers to buy and sell.

Thankfully I've never had a lit stalker. I did have a stalker in uni and I've been careful ever since to limit the information I share. Growing up on the "old Internet" in the days of not sharing everything works to my advantage. I forget that there are so many people who started on the Internet after social media normalized sharing everything. That scares me when it comes to a place like this. I feel like we need to teach people the "back alley" rules again.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I just quickly glanced through my Skype and counted 15 Litsters I trust enough to have shared parts of my real life with to varying degrees.

Jesus had 12 friends. One sold him out for 30 pieces of silver. Are you saying you’re more trusty than Jesus?

I say you trust, at minimum, four people too many.

I am, of course, somewhat kidding. But there is an element of truth to it.

For the most part, I don’t see the need to share personal names and work details and all that jazz. It’s not necessary for most of the communication goes on here.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Jesus had 12 friends. One sold him out for 30 pieces of silver. Are you saying you’re more trusty than Jesus?

I say you trust, at minimum, four people too many.

I am, of course, somewhat kidding. But there is an element of truth to it.

For the most part, I don’t see the need to share personal names and work details and all that jazz. It’s not necessary for most of the communication goes on here.

I’m saying over the course of my 3.5 years here those are the people I have found to be worthy of my trust. Of course I realize it is entirely possible someone could sell me out at any time. I also don’t have the same exact fears as others might have because my husband knows I’m here and has given me permission for certain things. You are one of the 15 as fyi.

 

[Orchidea73]

For me, I’m usually a pretty good judge of people. If I have hesitancy, you’re likely never getting into my vagina. But if I do trust you, I try to be pretty open. However, there are different levels. Then sometimes, I’m just dead fucking wrong.

How do you navigate your trusty little circle of friends? Do you trust first? Or do you have walls and then let people in?

I would subscribe to what you said. However, I do have an issue with the "wall" thing.
No, I do not have walls. I just do not have the habit of vomiting my life-story to the first person who contact me in private. There are all sorts of people out there. Without even going as far as the creepy ones and stalkers - which there are - there are plenty of manipulative people who would use what you say in order to get to you in some fashion. Be that just for a cheap e-nailing or gossiping. Fuck that shite!

Furthermore, I find it exhausting chatting with people whom I find boring and with whom the conversation and getting to know each other doesn't come organically. I also do not like people who are fickle. I've had people asking me for my Skype and other social media. Why? We barely speak here, I don't see why would I want you in a more private environment. I'm not an "influencer" which needs numbers.

It takes time to build a meaningful relationship, of any kind. If you do not make time and are not genuinely interested, then you'll get what you give. Or less, because I don't care.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

If you do not make time and are not genuinely interested, then you'll get what you give, or less because I don't care.

Yes!!

I think I love you

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I will also add, the people who I trust have all made themselves vulnerable to me or trusted me with something as well. If they are unwilling to do that, there will be no trust.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I use the method of sharing deep personal thoughts, wants and desires, while leaving out the basics. I may mention some innocuous info like I had a dog once, I wear sneakers, something like that, but I leave out any details that could reveal my true secret identity. On the other hand, if I were “outed” it really wouldn’t matter to anyone who knows me. Plus, I’m always looking for a reason to not like people, so if someone (employer or otherwise) had a problem knowing that I am here and a super horny person I would gladly drop them from my life.

I like the anonymity of Lit, it makes me more open and sharing, but everything I do I always wonder if it will come back to haunt me. And if it does, so be it.

If I was a woman, I would probably be more careful, though. I have heard a few women who have been stalked in real life from someone they “met” on sites like Lit. That’s some creepy Michael Myers stuff!

 

[Lord Pmann]

I’m saying over the course of my 3.5 years here those are the people I have found to be worthy of my trust. Of course I realize it is entirely possible someone could sell me out at any time. I also don’t have the same exact fears as others might have because my husband knows I’m here and has given me permission for certain things. You are one of the 15 as fyi.

Of course I’m trusty. I agree with you.

For the most part, I have a very small number of people at one time that I consider in my circle of trust.

 

[Orchidea73]

Plus, I’m always looking for a reason to not like people, so if someone (employer or otherwise) had a problem knowing that I am here and a super horny person I would gladly drop them from my life.

LOL

 

[Lord Pmann]

1. What the hell are people posting that would get them in trouble with their boss?? Just run of the mill porn, or something *more*?

2. God it must suck to work for someone who would fire you for having a sex life.

3. I don't condone it, but I understand the compulsion to "out" people to their spouse who are here without their knowledge. Fucked up morality police move.

I think it’s less that people post here and WHEN people post here.

Maybe what they post as well. Not to pick on the littles (of course I would never), but someone might have a problem with a “daddy” who is a school teacher.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

^ I can see that and still it grinds my gears.

Teachers have just as much right to be freaks and have kinks. I know that's not socially acceptable and I hate it. I also hate that it gives me pause to think of my daughters being taught by a guy who likes to play "Daddy".

Ugh.

 

[Orchidea73]

That last part is key for me. A lesson I’ve had to learn.

There is a big difference between "I'm talking to you because I'm bored, or why not etc.,", and "I'm making time for you because I enjoy your company, and I want to know more."

Not that the latter is a guarantee either. A good player and a manipulator will find the time for you, for as long as it pleases them. They enjoy the chase, the hunting. It can be thrilling, for both the prey and the hunter, so to speak. The bigger the challenge the bigger their persistence and pleasure they get from it.

There is nothing wrong with "I'm talking with you because I'm bored" either. But pay attention to it and don't invest on it more than you are willing to.

 

[Orchidea73]

As a rule, I don’t chat with people because I’m bored. That’s a disservice to both myself and them. When I send a message I’m genuinely interested in that person and want to get to know them. Now, that energy is not always returned, and I get it. But I’m able to pick up on when I’m the person who is seen as boring, and move myself elsewhere.

Fair enough. It happens. I've been on the receiving end of what you described. I don't take it personally. It doesn't even goes to my mind that I am boring, just because to someone else I may result as such. We don't click with everyone. C'est la vie.

 

[Orchidea73]

Yeah, and I didn’t mean to imply that I must be boring because someone doesn’t wanna talk. I agree with all that you said.

Although, if I really, really like the person I might be like...

https://33.media.tumblr.com/bbcd4fe16dffe3a2677d738214141116/tumblr_nqoniiQ9gA1uzx0p1o1_500.gif

LMAO!