I know you too well to share my kinks.

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I feel the same (about me). I actually had a guy who asked me if I wanted to make porn years ago and he said he could finance it. I have to admit it was tempting, but he was a little . . . connected . . . and I didn’t want to end up in the NJ Pine Barrens wearing my skeleton on the outside, so I politely declined.

I would probably be a Zillionaire by now and the world of porn would be classy as fuck!
Oh well.

Interesting. One little decision can make all the difference. Hum, The guys who asked me if I wanted to make porn and offered to finance always seemed a little sketchy though, with their pervstaches and beat up Vista Cruisers and Yugos. Did I miss my chance to become a Zillionaire and make the porn world Klassy as fuck (yeah that's classy with K) ?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Porn has really evolved these days. Onlyfans really gave the workers creative control which has changed the genre a lot. There's more authenticity and humanity, not just a dick being rammed into someone's body while they whimper in what's supposed to be pleasure.

I think you'd be great in porn, and I totally understand why you didn't

Interesting. One little decision can make all the difference. Hum, The guys who asked me if I wanted to make porn and offered to finance always seemed a little sketchy though, with their pervstaches and beat up Vista Cruisers and Yugos. Did I miss my chance to become a Zillionaire and make the porn world Klassy as fuck (yeah that's classy with K) ?

 

[hotwords229_A]

Porn has really evolved these days. Onlyfans really gave the workers creative control which has changed the genre a lot. There's more authenticity and humanity, not just a dick being rammed into someone's body while they whimper in what's supposed to be pleasure.

I think you'd be great in porn, and I totally understand why you didn't

True.
Regular porn is pretty awful. But the home made stuff can be pretty great.
I still find it funny that we like watching other people have sex, it’s like watching someone else eat a delectable dinner—it makes no sense at all, and yet we do it.
I just wish the home made people understood lighting!

 

[Wishingbox]

The book “Mating in Caltivity” has a good chapter on Shari I guess kinks with your partner. I know it’s not the exact same as sharing over Lit but you do form some relationships here that give you pause about sharing something.

I think when starting new on lit there is this 100% anonymous luxury where you can share whatever you want and don’t have to pause and ask would I actually do this or that or is it just theoretical.

That book does a good job unpacking some the complexities around fantasies. They’re pretty 2D and simplified to just the good parts in our minds.

So I think when we first get on lit or start a new profile there is this I’ll share whatever and not care because we don’t know anyone.

After a while we might share less well thought out fantasies and kinks?

 

[base10]

True.
Regular porn is pretty awful. But the home made stuff can be pretty great.
I still find it funny that we like watching other people have sex, it’s like watching someone else eat a delectable dinner—it makes no sense at all, and yet we do it.
I just wish the home made people understood lighting!

Watching other people have sex is exciting and arousing. It's not as good as actually having it yourself, but it's still a good turn on.

As for the home made stuff, I agree 100%. I think the sex is more fun to watching, knowing it's real. However, it all seems to be shot on a camera from 1998 rather than the modern cameras we all have in our pockets

 

[LadyLascivious1]

True.
Regular porn is pretty awful. But the home made stuff can be pretty great.
I still find it funny that we like watching other people have sex, it’s like watching someone else eat a delectable dinner—it makes no sense at all, and yet we do it.
I just wish the home made people understood lighting!

“We” like watching adults throw, hit, or kick animal skin objects around a rectangle or square and get excited when some people we don’t know do it better and more often than other people we don’t know. Good porn has a much better plot and celebration of victory from my point of view

 

[base10]

“We” like watching adults throw, hit, or kick animal skin objects around a rectangle or square and get excited when some people we don’t know do it better and more often than other people we don’t know. Good porn has a much better plot and celebration of victory from my point of view

A face full of cum as a celebration of victory is the kind of celebration I can get behind

 

[hotwords229_A]

A face full of cum as a celebration of victory is the kind of celebration I can get behind

The equivalent of Gatorade over the coach’s head?

After a while we might share less well thought out fantasies and kinks?

Agreed. This seems to be the thing and it seems very ironic to me.

However, it all seems to be shot on a camera from 1998 rather than the modern cameras we all have in our pockets

Exactly, what up with that, yo?

“We” like watching adults throw, hit, or kick animal skin objects around a rectangle or square and get excited when some people we don’t know do it better and more often than other people we don’t know. Good porn has a much better plot and celebration of victory from my point of view

So we’re basically watching people throw, kick and hit ball skin around? Check!

 

[Apisto42]

This is another area where I find kinks interesting.
Although I’m taking your point out of context, it makes me think of the difference between a kink we have that we want to explore and one that only seems to interest us as a fantasy.

Some of my kinks are (I think) fantasy only. Masturbating to the fantasy is fantastic, but the reality of actually pursuing the kink may not be for me.

Do you have kinks that are fun to fantasize about but you have no interest in pursuing?
Care to share?
Or are your kinks a solid bucket list that you must try at least once?

So I was having this conversation earlier today and I made the statement “I haven’t had any sex that I haven’t liked. I might not have liked the person and didn’t want to deal with them afterwards, but the sex was fine at worst.”

Which has made me think, while I’ve done some pretty crazy shit, compared to the fantastic world of kinky fetish sex that is out there, I’m pretty fucking vanilla.

So fantasies that are better off fantasies. Yes. There’s many. Because I’ve dipped my cock in just enough pots to have learned that in my head it may sound great, but the reality is more of cats playing a GWAR album with two guitar strings and a tin can.

The only fantasy that has been an intriguing one for decades that has stayed with me is two men and woman. But that one will just stay a fantasy for the foreseeable future.

 

[hotwords229_A]

The only fantasy that has been an intriguing one for decades that has stayed with me is two men and woman. But that one will just stay a fantasy for the foreseeable future.

MMF has been the forbidden threesome for a long time, but I’m wondering if that’s easing up lately?
I used to think I could never do it, sharing her AND potentially getting dick on me!
But lately I’ve seen how this could be a pretty amazing chance to “compete” over who can provide the most physical sensations for her. I think I’ve been looking at it all wrong and it’s quickly becoming a kink I think I’d want to try.
I still don’t think I’m up to sharing someone I love, but fucking the brains out of someone I like—oh yeah!

In case you get a chance, here is a list of the top nine positions that I found:
https://www.bustle.com/wellness/134...positions-because-two-men-are-better-than-one

 

[AveryElle]

True.
Regular porn is pretty awful. But the home made stuff can be pretty great.
I still find it funny that we like watching other people have sex, it’s like watching someone else eat a delectable dinner—it makes no sense at all, and yet we do it.
I just wish the home made people understood lighting!

I really like (consensual) audio porn - the sounds of fucking or whatever else - because i don’t have to deal with the lighting or a guy in a Dunder Mifflin shirt being called daddy by a woman old enough to be his mom. The sounds are more raw and unfiltered. Not so much stories as just sex sounds. Some stories are very well done but others, definitely not.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Last night I was res-erecting old threads and I found a few that I was a little embarrassed to dig out of the old Lit basement.

It occurred to me that when you are new to Lit it’s easy to walk in and share all kinds of crazy stuff, but as we get to know each other, it may become awkward to overshare.

This is, in my opinion, one of the issues with relationships. You may want your wife/girlfriend to don a strap-on and go to town on your butthole, but you are afraid to admit it, tell her about it or you are concerned that she might not be into seeing her man taking one for the team.

Does this happen to you on Lit?

I am typically not afraid to tell any Litsters what I am into.

Do you find yourself not sharing as much with the people you become closer to so as to not tarnish your awesome, carefully cultivated Lit persona?

With those I am close with. I share anything/everything. In the public forums. I have learned to be much more careful about what I share now. Not because of any fear of judgement or anything. But here on Lit. The more open you are. The more you talk about your kinks and likes, the more liable you are to get crude PMs asking if you want any help with those.

Are you a little more bi than you let on?

I've never hidden my Bi side. I just don't go around throwing it around for attention. Many do. Many like to play the role because they know most guys find it a turn on. Have you ever noticed that 99% of Women on lit are Bi???

Are you kind of embarrassed to admit you “maybe” looked at the BDSM threads longer than you want people to know.
Have you considered creating another Lit account so you can post in (or create) threads that you are curious about, but you want to do it “anonymously”?

Tell us, we know each other well enough.

Again. Not afraid to talk about anything I like or find a turn on.

 

[SassySheDevil]

MMF has been the forbidden threesome for a long time, but I’m wondering if that’s easing up lately?
I used to think I could never do it, sharing her AND potentially getting dick on me!
But lately I’ve seen how this could be a pretty amazing chance to “compete” over who can provide the most physical sensations for her. I think I’ve been looking at it all wrong and it’s quickly becoming a kink I think I’d want to try.
I still don’t think I’m up to sharing someone I love, but fucking the brains out of someone I like—oh yeah!

In case you get a chance, here is a list of the top nine positions that I found:
https://www.bustle.com/wellness/134...positions-because-two-men-are-better-than-one

2,3 and 9 were my favorite!!

 

[hotwords229_A]

2,3 and 9 were my favorite!!

In the words of NRJ: High Five!

Have you ever noticed that 99% of Women on lit are Bi???

I know, it’s ridiculous. We all know the real number is 100%.

 

[Apisto42]

People have told me I’m delusional because I said that my wife is 100% straight.

 

[SassySheDevil]

People have told me I’m delusional because I said that my wife is 100% straight.

Yeah. But if she was on Lit she'd be bi

 

[cascadiabound]

Yeah. But if she was on Lit she'd be bi

Lmao
I think Lit provides a very safe space for women (maybe men too?) to entertain ideas about lesbianism/bi proclivities.
I find the female form to be stunning and gorgeous and at times fodder for fantasy, but I have found greater clarity over time about just how straight I am in my sexual preferences. Let's say, straight, not narrow.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Lmao
I think Lit provides a very safe space for women (maybe men too?) to entertain ideas about lesbianism/bi proclivities.
I find the female form to be stunning and gorgeous and at times fodder for fantasy, but I have found greater clarity over time about just how straight I am in my sexual preferences. Let's say, straight, not narrow.

Oh. I definitely agree. I think there are many that have fantasy/curiosities about things they know they won't ever actually live out. But I mean the ones who'll say in one breath that they joke about being bi/doing bi things. But then in other conversations admit that they aren't bi. Let's use the 2 females I've met in person. Neither of them were bi. Not even a little. However here. They played the part. For the attention.
I think those that are genuine in their fantasy/curiosity. Those aren't who I mean.
And yes. Men do have many of those same thoughts. I've talked to many who won't admit it publicly. But will say it privately. But how often do you see men posting about bi stuff just to rile the women? Even those who are curious rarely even joke about it.
Granted. Women don't typically get as excited about 2 Men together (although it's a huge turn on for me and I know some others)

 

[hotwords229_A]

And yes. Men do have many of those same thoughts. I've talked to many who won't admit it publicly. But will say it privately. But how often do you see men posting about bi stuff just to rile the women? Even those who are curious rarely even joke about it.
Granted. Women don't typically get as excited about 2 Men together (although it's a huge turn on for me and I know some others)

https://64.media.tumblr.com/c44beb7d6f906eb54d7ae130c1c4c896/0cacf57a2e80453f-ce/s500x750/70bb514defc7f8b38c3dfb3f4fc9963bea98fdb3.gif
I would never publicly admit to looking at something like this because I’m 100% straight, but privately, I will admit to looking at this.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I would never publicly admit to looking at something like this because I’m 100% straight, but privately, I will admit to looking at this.

My husband would probably never tell any of his friends how much he did in our MMF threesome either. It basically (minus actual sex) became MFM but he'd never tell anyone that, and in truth. He did it for me. (He knows this is a huge turn on for me) It was never something he'd openly admit to finding a turn on. Let's just say the dude can deep throat better than I.

 

[cascadiabound]

And yes. Men do have many of those same thoughts. I've talked to many who won't admit it publicly. But will say it privately. But how often do you see men posting about bi stuff just to rile the women? Even those who are curious rarely even joke about it.
Granted. Women don't typically get as excited about 2 Men together (although it's a huge turn on for me and I know some others)

I agree. There are many many more women here who amp up the possible bi/lesbian vibe apparently as a way to garner additional attention. I wonder if the "crush" and Wanna have sex with the above/below litster contributes to that sense of everyone is interested on some level in sex with pretty much everyone else.
Especially in the BDSM threads, I have read a lot of posts by men frustrated that there is not enough psychic space (for lack of a more accurate phrase) for them to genuinely explore their gay and submissive proclivities or that they get shamed or ugly PMs when they do. There is no apparent up side to post about man on man sex for increasing your overall appeal to women, in the way lesbian sex seems to get so many straight men all excited. I would posit that our reactions to much of this stuff is colored by societal norms and the patriarchal expectations of female availability and accessibility as much as actual raw sexual need/desire.
Someone should do a study....

 

[SassySheDevil]

I agree. There are many many more women here who amp up the possible bi/lesbian vibe apparently as a way to garner additional attention. I wonder if the "crush" and Wanna have sex with the above/below litster contributes to that sense of everyone is interested on some level in sex with pretty much everyone else.
Especially in the BDSM threads, I have read a lot of posts by men frustrated that there is not enough psychic space (for lack of a more accurate phrase) for them to genuinely explore their gay and submissive proclivities or that they get shamed or ugly PMs when they do. There is no apparent up side to post about man on man sex for increasing your overall appeal to women, in the way lesbian sex seems to get so many straight men all excited. I would posit that our reactions to much of this stuff is colored by societal norms and the patriarchal expectations of female availability and accessibility as much as actual raw sexual need/desire.
Someone should do a study....

This. 100% Yes. I've talked to many women over the years who've said that if their man was bi, it would turn them off, or change their opinion of them at least.
This falls into the question HW asked about being afraid to talk to your partner about these kinds of kinks. The majority of women do not find bi/gay men sexually attractive, so the men won't talk about it. Then end up here thinking they can (and some do) talk about it, only to find out that it doesn't turn the women on here either.
I think many people come here to talk about kinks and fantasies and do it thinking because this is an adult site for that. They are safe. But sadly, there is a lot of judgement here too.

I know how hard it can be for some to admit their kinks/fantasies when they know there is the chance of judgement. I honestly think this can be why a regular user creates an alt for that reason. To talk about it, but not let the masses know it is their kink.

I also agree with those kind of threads (Person above you) As we know. If a woman answers yes to the woman above her. The guys make the "oooh yes, I'll watch" type comment. Meanwhile. The guy tends to skip all the men above him to answer for the woman. Rather than just say no.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Oh. I definitely agree. I think there are many that have fantasy/curiosities about things they know they won't ever actually live out. But I mean the ones who'll say in one breath that they joke about being bi/doing bi things. But then in other conversations admit that they aren't bi. Let's use the 2 females I've met in person. Neither of them were bi. Not even a little. However here. They played the part. For the attention.
I think those that are genuine in their fantasy/curiosity. Those aren't who I mean.
And yes. Men do have many of those same thoughts. I've talked to many who won't admit it publicly. But will say it privately. But how often do you see men posting about bi stuff just to rile the women? Even those who are curious rarely even joke about it.
Granted. Women don't typically get as excited about 2 Men together (although it's a huge turn on for me and I know some others)

I agree. There are many many more women here who amp up the possible bi/lesbian vibe apparently as a way to garner additional attention. I wonder if the "crush" and Wanna have sex with the above/below litster contributes to that sense of everyone is interested on some level in sex with pretty much everyone else.
Especially in the BDSM threads, I have read a lot of posts by men frustrated that there is not enough psychic space (for lack of a more accurate phrase) for them to genuinely explore their gay and submissive proclivities or that they get shamed or ugly PMs when they do. There is no apparent up side to post about man on man sex for increasing your overall appeal to women, in the way lesbian sex seems to get so many straight men all excited. I would posit that our reactions to much of this stuff is colored by societal norms and the patriarchal expectations of female availability and accessibility as much as actual raw sexual need/desire.
Someone should do a study....

You are both probably correct, but the women of lit aren't generally representative of the typical women I meet everyday either so I don't know. Plus, personally, I have always found it difficult to answer questions that are so black and white, because I know I am a whole lot of grey and I can't be the only one. I need an acceptable "bored bitch" selection for every question, as the most consistent thing about me is my inconsistently. I thought about how to answer that question 5 years ago, still agree with my wording today, but I still find it a difficult question because of the limited answer range. As for men with the same proclivities, you are correct, and I will admit, I am part of it. I personally do not find 2 men together as attractive, that view is something that bothers me, and that I have worked on quite a bit. I know it is a bullshit societal standard coloring my perception, and a grossly unfair one. Like, I am totally cool with us taking advantage the bored bitch clause of life, but it is kind of weird when you do. I have become much more open to it, but it was difficult as it just collided with the rigidness of my view of masculinity.

 

[Apisto42]

Maybe if all the tv shows that midway through a season jackknife in a lesbian/bi romance would put in MM/bi romances that would change things?

It’s cool, I get that the statistics show having two attractive (ymmv) women making out or more boosts ratings, but it’s an obvious bias towards lipstick lesbian exploration.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I just wanna say that is a beautiful gif and yay you for being brave enough to say this is hot af. (It is)

I never said this was hot af. I simply implied that my dick really liked this image and even stood up in order to see it better. I have no idea why you would think that I think this is hot af.