Gf wants me to meet other girls

[ExhibitionistCouple123]

Hi everyone my gf wants me to meet other girls (and she wants to meet girls too). How can I do this without actually having to date a girl which will clearly add complications.

 

[LongDraw]

Sounds like a husband's wet dream, but a big disappointment a few months down the line. Good luck!

 

[NightL]

so this is something not to be done together? She wants an open relationship?

You don't want to get emotionally involved with the other women you meet? What is the intention of your partner towards those she meets?

Do you really want to do this?

I think you should negotiate and understand each others boundaries and intentions carefully before embarking.

So without dating you believe your contacts should be purely of no strings sex? I am assuming "meeting" is purely about sex.

Would you be doing this for your own desires or to ease the conscience of your partner?

How would you react if your girlfriend found a special reoccurring female partner? Like dating, I mean seeing someone on a regular basis basically can be considered dating - dating for sex, companionship, friendship, relationship.

If you are male (you have not indicated either way), you also should be prepared that those who your girlfriend "meets" may well not want you participating or to be present. Your "meets" may also not want any involvement with your girlfriend. Something for you to think through. Do you consider yourself strong enough, robust enough to emotionally handle being isolated?

Pre covid I would have suggested both of you heading out to a fetish club or similar where you may meet like minded people.

I am sure if you select the right dating app you should be able to find those who are preferring casual hook ups - if that is what you want.

It can be a whole lot of fun - but it can be bumpy on your relationship. It takes a special connection for everything to roll smoothly, particularly if you are playing separately.

 

[NightL]

Oh one more obvious thing - casual hook ups have other casual hook ups - I hear covid gets around as well in those circles. I guess mask wearing and safe distance isn't a priority.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

I think you should negotiate and understand each others boundaries and intentions carefully before embarking.

This and again this and above everything else this!

Unless you and she are absolutely of one mind WRT what is intended and what the boundaries and no-go lines are and unless both of you are in complete and happy agreement, this has the potential to be a soul-sucking disaster. If she won’t sit down and talk it through or if either of you have reservations, then say goodbye while you’re still friends.

That said, a sincere good luck. Stranger things have worked.

 

[davion2308]

I think you'll want to define what you're looking for and what she wants out of it. Talk to her about her expectations and what's fair for both of you.

I won't lie, I have enough female friends who'd just fuck me without dealing with the emotional relationship side of things. Don't expect all women to want to date before they have sex. There are enough that want to have just have some sex.

But don't ask, us her. Your gf will be able to better paint a picture of what she wants and how she sees it go.

 

[Thepenismightier0813]

Without more information. It's hard to do anything but give the general "You two need to have a conversation." line.

I will say, you probably would be best to determine if this is a "We need to start seeing other people" kind of thing or a "I want to have an open relationship" kind of thing.

 

[Sean Renaud]

Good luck with that. Your free time is gone. And when you tell Nicki you were out with Karen but when you take and extra step and realize that the other is on the couch and knows what the score was for the big game. You're only option is to back away slowly, avoid eye contact.