What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[Lonelywife1205]

Luckily for me, I tend to fly under the radar, so it’s rare.

Now that I’m thinking about it, the creepers tended to come out when my audios were in regards to answering questions of a more sexual nature.

 

[Daisy_Love]

Now that I’m thinking about it, the creepers tended to come out when my audios were in regards to answering questions of a more sexual nature.

uh huh

 

[AmberLGreen]

Daisy, whoever post stalks you is going to fall for you based on your voice for sure. Which reminds me of another aspect of post stalking I find creepy….the people who lurk in the shadows and never interact on the boards, but they listen to your audios and somehow feel like they know you intimately and message you.

I like the lurkers. I have built a few good friendships with people who rarely, or sometimes never, post. Some of them are just shy or don’t like large group interaction. Admittedly there are some who are a bit creepy and I don’t continue conversation with them but most I have found to be ok.

 

[Daisy_Love]

I like the lurkers. I have built a few good friendships with people who rarely, or sometimes never, post. Some of them are just shy or don’t like large group interaction. Admittedly there are some who are a bit creepy and I don’t continue conversation with them but most I have found to be ok.

I can second this, I have made a couple of really great friendships with people who don’t post or are seen on the boards. But they’re not creepers, I think we all want to stay away from them

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I like the lurkers. I have built a few good friendships with people who rarely, or sometimes never, post. Some of them are just shy or don’t like large group interaction. Admittedly there are some who are a bit creepy and I don’t continue conversation with them but most I have found to be ok.

I completely agree. I actually prefer lurkers.
I was referring to the creepy ones in my post. There are definitely some hidden gems out there lurking.

 

[Daisy_Love]

I completely agree. I actually prefer lurkers.
I was referring to the creepy ones in my post. There are definitely some hidden gems out there lurking.

Oh there definitely are

 

[Dribble]

I’m nosey about trust.

Once your trust has been broken how do you get it back? DO you get it back? Do you think the friendship or relationship can go back to where it was? How do you handle matters of trust or broken trust?

No. Those that say they had...lie. If trust was broken over some "event", and then they "forgave", why is that event brought up every time you have a disagreement? You can change how you view trust...but that isn't getting it back...that is getting something different back.

Too many times, trust is lost for silly reasons.

I'm nosey about when snooping into someone's posting history crosses the line from innocent & maybe cute to cyber-stalking & creepy? Just hypothetically, if someone looked through all the pages of your post history, not reading every post but just looking at where you've posted maybe, would that be creepy or cute? Or would it depend on how you felt about that person?

I check the posting history. It is prudent. I don't read individual posts unless there is a reason to look deeper. I think what matters is what you are looking for. However, different people have different relationships here...and it is impossible to discern that history simply from past posting behavior

Edit: I check posting history of someone I don't know ...those i have a history of talking with...even negatively...I don't check their history

 

[Azuldrgon]

For the record, I love hearing audios.
It's one of my things for real.

 

[AlexBailey]

I'm nosey about when snooping into someone's posting history crosses the line from innocent & maybe cute to cyber-stalking & creepy? Just hypothetically, if someone looked through all the pages of your post history, not reading every post but just looking at where you've posted maybe, would that be creepy or cute? Or would it depend on how you felt about that person?

Of course it matters who is looking. Some people are creepy, others are interested and curious. Checking someone's post history is the best way to do a background check when the only other info you have is their avatar and signature line. I've been trolled on line before so I try to be cautious about what I share so I'm not afraid of what someone may find - after all, I put it out there.

I like to flirt, but being non-binary queer, I know that some people would not appreciate it coming from me, so before I comment on whether I'd jump in a hottub with them, or before I send a PM to someone who has caught my eye, I'll often briefly check some of their history. If I think a guy is cute or hot but he always gives a hard pass to every guy when posting on the "would you --- with the previous poster?" then I try to avoid making him uncomfortable.

Also I like reading non-erotic thoughts and opinions but because text doesn't always come across as intended, I often try to glean more context when someone is doing a thoughtful post about a sensitive subject.

Also, some posters have great taste and post great pics and fun thoughts. Sometimes finding someone who interests me is like finding a treasure trove of fun material.



No offense intended.

 

[Wageslave]

Of course it matters who is looking. Some people are creepy, others are interested and curious. Checking someone's post history is the best way to do a background check when the only other info you have is their avatar and signature line. I've been trolled on line before so I try to be cautious about what I share so I'm not afraid of what someone may find - after all, I put it out there.

I like to flirt, but being non-binary queer, I know that some people would not appreciate it coming from me, so before I comment on whether I'd jump in a hottub with them, or before I send a PM to someone who has caught my eye, I'll often briefly check some of their history. If I think a guy is cute or hot but he always gives a hard pass to every guy when posting on the "would you --- with the previous poster?" then I try to avoid making him uncomfortable.

Also I like reading non-erotic thoughts and opinions but because text doesn't always come across as intended, I often try to glean more context when someone is doing a thoughtful post about a sensitive subject.

Also, some posters have great taste and post great pics and fun thoughts. Sometimes finding someone who interests me is like finding a treasure trove of fun material.



No offense intended.

Why should any reasonable person be offended by any of that.
We learn more about human nature by communicating rather than not.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I’m nosey about trust.

Once your trust has been broken how do you get it back? DO you get it back? Do you think the friendship or relationship can go back to where it was? How do you handle matters of trust or broken trust?

I think it matters how the trust was broken and how intentional/malicious/selfish. I have a weird mix of not trusting people, then overly trusting, then regretting it all.

We all have wobbles and mess up. Admitting and being humble and non defensive about what happened will get you a long way with me. I can forgive mess up but intentional hurtful shit I can't.

Lit has given me very reasons to trust people more.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I'm nosey about where on the Attention Spectrum you are?

Are you a straight up attention whore? Do you need a decent stream of attention from people you care about or you get grumpy? Are you attention adverse and get embarrassed when people show you too much attention? How do you feel about giving attention to others?

 

[AlpineFresco]

I'm nosey about where on the Attention Spectrum you are?

Are you a straight up attention whore? Do you need a decent stream of attention from people you care about or you get grumpy? Are you attention adverse and get embarrassed when people show you too much attention? How do you feel about giving attention to others?

In which facet of my life? On here, I don't really care if anything I post gets broad attention or not. Work-wise? You bet I want people to sit up and take notice. Socially? This one's variable, I do like attention but that's with the framing of my preferring to be in smaller groups of people, so we can actually engage with each other. Larger social groups? I rarely even want to be in those.

But very broadly - I used to feel (many years back) very embarrassed when I received attention, now I appreciate that somebody chooses to give me their time and I enjoy it if circumstances allow. Unless it's negative, obviously.

Giving attention to others? That seems an odd question - I enjoy it, if it's someone I want to give attention to.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

I'm nosey about where on the Attention Spectrum you are?

Are you a straight up attention whore? Do you need a decent stream of attention from people you care about or you get grumpy? Are you attention adverse and get embarrassed when people show you too much attention? How do you feel about giving attention to others?

It really depends on the day. Most of the time I don't care much for attention, and actually prefer to stay out of the spotlight. But every once in a while, especially when I'm in a funk, I really appreciate when people take the time to notice me. I never want to be at the center of a crowded room, but I like when one or two people check in to see how I'm doing.

As for giving attention to others, I delight in it! I love giving praise and credit to people when it's called for. And if I notice someone having a bad day, I won't shine a spotlight on them, but I'll usually try to reach out.

Of course, that depends on me noticing and I'm really not that observant a person.

 

[AmberLGreen]

I'm nosey about where on the Attention Spectrum you are?

Are you a straight up attention whore? Do you need a decent stream of attention from people you care about or you get grumpy? Are you attention adverse and get embarrassed when people show you too much attention? How do you feel about giving attention to others?

I am such an attention seeking whore in public. I love it. I don’t seek the attention of any person or persons in particular because I like attention from anybody. It isn’t down to any insecurities or any need to feel liked, I just find it fun. Fun makes me feel happy and positive and that makes me want to share that happiness and positivity with others.

 

[Modern_drunkard]

Dude, I am obviously an attention seeking whore muh fucker but not to the point where I create countless threads with my name in subject.

 

[AlexBailey]

I'm nosey about where on the Attention Spectrum you are?

Are you a straight up attention whore? Do you need a decent stream of attention from people you care about or you get grumpy? Are you attention adverse and get embarrassed when people show you too much attention? How do you feel about giving attention to others?

You'll probably be shocked to know that I'm a bit of an attention whore.

Well, sort of. I don't need to be the center of attention, I'd rather hang with someone else who is. I liked playing in a band - one of my GFs was a bonafied rockstar - no thanks. I wouldn't want that attention. It was a real pain in the ass sometimes. People would come up all the time while we were hanging out, wanting to talk to her or even flirt without even acknowledging me. One time she introduced me to some random fans as her little brother then gratuitously kissed me. It was fun but I'm glad Facebook wasn't around back then. It could have ended up all over social media.

I guess that in person I like playing supporting roles.

 

[Wand3rlust]

I'm nosey about where on the Attention Spectrum you are?

Are you a straight up attention whore? Do you need a decent stream of attention from people you care about or you get grumpy? Are you attention adverse and get embarrassed when people show you too much attention? How do you feel about giving attention to others?

I like attention but not too much.

I do need to get a certain level of attention I think from those closest to me. But it's less I get grumpy, although god knows I do do that, but more I worry that they are going off me.

I'm needier than I'd like to admit. Cos of being a strong independent woman. Needy doesn't fit. But it's there.

Too much good attention and it embarrasses me. And I am suspicious of it. I don't trust its legitimacy. Self esteem issues.

I like giving others attention. Especially those I love. I try to make sure they know I'm around if they need me, that I'm thinking of them, that they are important to me.

Then I overthink and worry I'm pestering, bothering, annoying.

Ah. Well you did ask.

 

[AmberLGreen]

I’m nosey about your scent. No not THAT one. . Do you have a perfume or aftershave you wear all the time? Do you mix it up? A body cream, a hand Creme, a soap anything that is typically “your” scent? Bonus points for naming. Straight to the ignore list for anyone that says patchouli.

Patch… just kidding.

I tend to go for light scents, vanilla being my favourite for shower gels and moisturiser. My go to favourite perfume is Coco Chanel.

My friend wears Coco Mademoiselle and it smells so good on her. I bought some but it didn’t smell the same on me.

 

[Wand3rlust]

I’m nosey about your scent. No not THAT one. . Do you have a perfume or aftershave you wear all the time? Do you mix it up? A body cream, a hand Creme, a soap anything that is typically “your” scent? Bonus points for naming. Straight to the ignore list for anyone that says patchouli.

Unscented for me too.

I wear either chanel mademoiselle, gucci by gucci, or angel by Mugler

 

[cheekygirl75]

I like attention but not too much.

I do need to get a certain level of attention I think from those closest to me. But it's less I get grumpy, although god knows I do do that, but more I worry that they are going off me.

I'm needier than I'd like to admit. Cos of being a strong independent woman. Needy doesn't fit. But it's there.

Too much good attention and it embarrasses me. And I am suspicious of it. I don't trust its legitimacy. Self esteem issues.

I like giving others attention. Especially those I love. I try to make sure they know I'm around if they need me, that I'm thinking of them, that they are important to me.

Then I overthink and worry I'm pestering, bothering, annoying.

Ah. Well you did ask.

Yes, this... though I sadly sometimes am not as good at giving others attention like I want to. Partly because of shyness & not wanting to bother them, and partly out of the ADHD out of sight out of mind difficulty.

 

[Daisy_Love]

I’m nosey about your scent. No not THAT one. . Do you have a perfume or aftershave you wear all the time? Do you mix it up? A body cream, a hand Creme, a soap anything that is typically “your” scent? Bonus points for naming. Straight to the ignore list for anyone that says patchouli.

Oh god I’m terrible, I have so many body lotions, cremes, body butter, hand cream etc

Dove body wash usually.

I have lots of different perfumes but my favourite’s are Gucci ~ Si, Ralf Lauren ~ Romance, Lancôme ~ Idol, J’adore ~ Dior.

 

[AveryElle]

I’m nosey about your scent. No not THAT one. . Do you have a perfume or aftershave you wear all the time? Do you mix it up? A body cream, a hand Creme, a soap anything that is typically “your” scent? Bonus points for naming. Straight to the ignore list for anyone that says patchouli.

Moroccan Oil. 100%.
I also like fruit scents like grapefruit and orange. Trader Joe’s grapefruit body butter is fabulous.

Most perfumes give me a bad headache, unfortunately

 

[cheekygirl75]

Moroccan Oil. 100%.
I also like fruit scents like grapefruit and orange. Trader Joe’s grapefruit body butter is fabulous.

Most perfumes give me a bad headache, unfortunately

A lot of perfumes give me a headache, usually migrating into a migraine, too... I like light, natural scents. My current go to is a Pacifica scent that is not made anymore

 

[AlexBailey]

I’m nosey about your scent. No not THAT one. . Do you have a perfume or aftershave you wear all the time? Do you mix it up? A body cream, a hand Creme, a soap anything that is typically “your” scent? Bonus points for naming. Straight to the ignore list for anyone that says patchouli.

Oh, god. I'm allergic to patchouli! It's freakin' toxic to me!

I use rose when I use a scent.