Married and bisexual, how does it work for you?

[lvs2lck]

Before we married I made sure my future wife was completely aware of my kinks and interests, which included my being bisexual. We discussed at length my needs and hers and that I would want to involve others for us to share. I'm curious how others deal with their bisexuality and needs in a relationship. Gladly chat here or in private.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I told my wife

I wanted to share cock with her. It didn't go down well. Eventually,, she got over it (I think), but in the intervening years, as we've aged, sexual desire between us has faded, to the point where we simply don't have sex any more. And my preference these days, is cock.

 

[lvs2lck]

Does she accept you getting what you want elsewhere or does she not know?

 

[PleasePeesMe]

The latter.

Not that I'm getting anything at the moment. COVID and living on a small island doesn't make for a lot of opportunity. So I come on here, hoping to chat and masturbate with like-minded men.

 

[Blue_Duck]

It’s difficult at best and for me must be done discretely. I’m generally able to hook up about twice a year (yikes that’s a long time). I was going to meet a gentleman tomorrow but his schedule is preventing us from meeting. I guess you have to be patient and persistent.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

You have

my sympathy. That let down feeling is awful.

 

[hisplaceof]

I don't really deal with it, it is something that happens when it happens with my wife. We only play as a couple with other couples normally in groups of couples, everyone has loosened up and explored bisex so it is a normal part of what takes place but for us only in the same room and together. We have had instances where she was fully engrossed in sex with several others and I was as well but we were always able to glance over to see the other having amazing sex.

 

[lvs2lck]

Sounds like you two have a beautiful relationship that allows you both the ability to explore all your needs.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

My wife was SURE all she wanted was me and ONLY me...until she didn't.

I do like Mark Lindsey of Raul Revere and the Raiders said:
"...step, step, step, step, step, step, steppin' out ---"

 

[Travler99921]

Worked well

I am a widower now, but I was out to my wife for a number of years. It worked well for us she said I was a better husband and lover after I started having sex with men.

 

[CharlieBoker]

Very interesting question, one which I'm sure will apply to many closeted guys on here.

I've sent you a PM.

 

[starfish71]

It’s difficult at best and for me must be done discretely. I’m generally able to hook up about twice a year (yikes that’s a long time). I was going to meet a gentleman tomorrow but his schedule is preventing us from meeting. I guess you have to be patient and persistent.

In a similar boat here... I've only recently started to explore this part of my sexuality, and it has been a little challenging... I've had a couple of meetings fall through... it is kind of like needing the planets to align...

 

[sarod]

It doesn't work for me, just a fantasy that will die with me, sadly.

 

[Crios]

It doesn't work for me, just a fantasy that will die with me, sadly.

Same situation here. Will have to remain a fantasy for me. Love my wife too much to make anything more of it.

 

[BBCfan]

Before we married I made sure my future wife was completely aware of my kinks and interests, which included my being bisexual. We discussed at length my needs and hers and that I would want to involve others for us to share. I'm curious how others deal with their bisexuality and needs in a relationship. Gladly chat here or in private.

For me I hadn't been Bi in awhile when I started dating wife. I was only an occasional cock sucker, more of a cock fetish than true Bi, and had kinda lost interest a bit in playing it out in reality.

I was upfront and couldn't promise her I might not want to indulge at some point but was pretty lined up with monogamy with her.

I have played out my fetish/fantasies with a dildo when needed, and she has indulged me with some hot role play with it as well. Was actually way hotter and more fulfilling than I expected.

She actually gave me a hall pass to go suck some dick on my B day last year but I declined. I didn't truly feel she was lined up with it, just trying to be supportive.

My fantasy play for the most part sates my compulsion pretty well.

If I had her complete blessing I might seek out a cock to suck but I actually would be very happy just role playing with her more.
It was hotter than most of my cock sucking adventures, except for the first 3 experiences I had as an adult.

 

[Runner_3]

My wife is very supportive and turned on by it but I haven’t done anything yet. Just curious and wanting to. I wanna do it all too. She’s also into girls some too and also doesn’t have any experience with the same sex. 2 guys is hotter for her than 2 girls. She kinda brought it out of me really. I had thought about it some in the past though. I just wish it was easier to find someone safe to play with

 

[binudistcouple21]

My wife is bi too, so not only does she know but is very supportive and turned on by me being with men.

 

[ChrissyCD64]

My wife and I are both bi. She likes women more than men, and I like men more than women, so it all works out. If she meets a married woman who becomes her lover she has her bring her husband along for me to have fun with and I do the same if I hook up with a married guy.