Where is the love for masculine gay men?

[y=mx+b]

Trans gendered
Sissy
Femboi/feminine men
Cross dressing

So many threads. But nary a thread celebrating the draw and appeal of and for the masculine gay male.

Why?

 

[AlphaLyon]

My guess would be because that is considered a "norm", and many here are looking to connect with others who have desires outside of that.

That being said, I love fucking a masculine guy, so if you want to chat about it, let's get this conversation/thread going!

 

[saintcero]

Muscled up

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[none2_none2]

I cannot relate to those groups that you listed. Funny thing is that I don't see how many guys who want to fit into those categories even come close to what I see as positive traits of many members of the opposite sex. I was raised mainly by my grandma since my mother was bi-polar and my grandpa died when I was so young. (My parents separated before I was born and divorced when I was a toddler.) What I saw in my grandma was a fierce loyalty to family, children, the home, etc. She didn't spend hours smearing herself with stuff to put on her face. She didn't spend hours shaving -- of course her legs were naturally smooth. She mainly would put on a wig because her hair had thinned, put some black stuff to make her eyebrows seem less gray. Sometimes she would put some rouge on her cheeks. I don't recall her ever doing lipstick, foundation, eye lashes, etc. She did sometimes also wear finger nail polish, but I think it was mainly to cover up the fact that one of her thumb nails was cracked, and that helped cover it up. She also wasn't sex obsessed as I tend to observe most of these guys who want to be effeminate. Grandma also loved to garden, sew, cook, paint (oils), etc.

You don't hear any of these "gurls" talk about children, taking care of a home, etc. Granted this is a porn site in the first place, but still, I cannot fathom what they have in common with most women I have ever known.

I figure that many of them cannot deal with the kind of sex they like unless they surrender their masculinity. Now, I would say sometimes I question who gets to define what is masculine. That too can go overboard. Case in point, I find it DISGUSTING that some of the so-called straight men who love cock (but not men of course) get their panties all bent out of shape over such things as caring for another man -- or heaven forbid kissing one. Some even claim that makes them want to vomit. It is a bunch of bull. To be honest, It has been a long time since I kissed my partner during sex, but I do kiss him when he leaves for work. Maybe I would kiss him more if he would give up cigarettes. (We don't talk about that as he knows he shouldn't since the doctors blamed that nasty habit on his 5 bypasses he had about 8 years ago.) He is a wonderful man so I couldn't eliminate him as a partner just because of a stupid habit -- after all most of us do have bad habits of one type or another.

Now, my guy on the masculine scale blows many men out of the water. However, he has characteristics that some might consider more common with females, but I simply see them as characteristics that anybody can have if their heart is in the right place. For instance, he is monogamous with me (as I am with him). Some say that isn't natural for men. Well that is BULL, a man can be just as faithful as a woman can, he simply has to make it a priority. It is called free will. People (including men) are not necessarily controlled by their hormones. Likewise, man man loves his kids and grand kids. He also loves our animals. While that tends to be more observed with females, there are plenty of men who are the same. We just don't praise dads and male pet owners who are doing a great job. We just hear about guys like the dead beat dads who don't support their children OR worse are mean to them. (My Dad was of the later case.)

My guy was in the military in his younger years. He loves to fix things. I love just watching him "think" about fixing things. In my first house, (We now live in the country.), I recall how he thought about how he could get my track lights to work. He got them fixed! An electrician I had looked into fixing it before simply said they needed to be replaced. He was either less competent to fix them, or he simply wanted me to spend more money...

Note, in the Army he first worked on tanks and big guns, then he specialized on working on helicopters. Now he doesn't work on any of that stuff now, but he still has a natural inclination to work with "things".

Now for myself, my grandpa died young. Grandpa did upholstery, and neon signs. His hobby was CB radios back in the day when that was popular. Again, all manly things, but I didn't pick much up from him since he died when I was 7.5. Though I might not be able to fix a car, etc because he died so young; I had no problem building my own computer -- back before I discovered that I'd much more prefer to have a laptop. (Laptops are rather tight in space, so I know few that build their own laptop.) I taught myself about building desktops, plus it helped that I was in the IT field...

I admit that neither myself nor my partner are into spectator sports. I used to do a lot of running, biking, and weight lifting, but between my health and Covid restrictions, I haven't done much.

Anyway, I think if I was one of those guys who wants to pass as a gurl, I would spend more time exercising than painting my face, fingers, toes, and putting on wigs, bras, panties, nylons, dresses, and heals. I never could understand those who think they pass as female. I could always tell the difference. It is such a waste of time. One is more likely to have a better quality life exercising than spending all this time, energy, money attempting to appear like someone when anybody with two eyes can see isn't the real deal.

Oh, I also love music and the arts, which some might say is effeminate, but imagine what the world would be like if there were no male musicians. Either gender can enjoy the arts.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

Trans gendered
Sissy
Femboi/feminine men
Cross dressing

So many threads. But nary a thread celebrating the draw and appeal of and for the masculine gay male.

Why?

they were all waiting for you

 

[nostuff]

Your question has me wondering about myself. Though I definitely want man sex (I consider myself bi), I consider myself masculine, not effeminate at all. But could I be in denial, at least to some degree? After all, I much more enjoy sucking cock than being sucked, and I'm really not interested in fucking other men in the ass. And when I find a man to fuck my ass, I want him to be masculine.

Perhaps I'm more feminine than I thought?

Whatever I might figure out, I'm happy to leave the sissies, transgenders, cross-dressers, etc. to others. I want my men to be very masculine.

 

[y=mx+b]

Your question has me wondering about myself. Though I definitely want man sex (I consider myself bi), I consider myself masculine, not effeminate at all. But could be in denial, at least to some degree? After all, I much more enjoy sucking cock than being sucked, and I'm really not interested in fucking other men in the ass. And when I find a man to fuck my ass, I want him to be masculine.

Perhaps I'm more feminine than I thought?

Whatever I might figure out, I'm happy to leave the sissies, transgenders, cross-dressers, etc. to others. I want my men to be very masculine.

I don't know. But I think the notion that liking to suck dick or prefer to be penetrated rather than penetrate someone else is corrosive to ones innate masculine nature is flawed reasoning.

Does one have to sacrifice masculinity and appropriate femininity in order to accept the fact of themselves and their sexual preference?

I'm going to say no. And no one should be made to believe that they should.

 

[Jimee]

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No offence intended, but do you consider masculine as buffed up?

 

[WhiskeyLvr]

I'm very beta and feel a lot of fem dudes are way sexy, but I could never do fem. I'm too muscular and masculine; I'd just look ridiculous. Would love to find an alpha stud who got off on being able to make a very masculine man be a whore for him.

 

[AlphaLyon]

I'm very beta and feel a lot of fem dudes are way sexy, but I could never do fem. I'm too muscular and masculine; I'd just look ridiculous. Would love to find an alpha stud who got off on being able to make a very masculine man be a whore for him.

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We should have this conversation over a nice whiskey and fine cigar.

 

[WhiskeyLvr]

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We should have this conversation over a nice whiskey and fine cigar.

You've got a date!

 

[saintcero]

No offence intended, but do you consider masculine as buffed up?

Masculinity is fairly hard to define. I would say that buffed up would tend to be or trend towards being more masculine than being fem looking. As far as the gif goes, I think the swinging ball sack is the most masculine part.

 

[nostuff]

I wouldn't give another thought to the idea that you may be in denial, for a couple of reasons.

First, the idea of "masculine vs. feminine" is, in my opinion, mostly about (largely cultural) stereotypes. In my culture, men don't easily express emotions or physical affection with other men. If you do, you're thought to be un-masculine. Other cultures allow more freedom for men to be expressive in these ways.

Second, a person's preferences in dress, lifestyle, behavior, and such, are not necessarily static over a person's life. If you fit a certain stereotype right now, you may be completely different a year from now, or a day from now.

If you like a cock in your mouth or ass, you're not feminine or masculine. You just like cock in your mouth or ass. I say, forget the labels and be and do what you like.

I happen to like a certain type of man to look at. But some of the men I've had the best sex with did not fit that look. We just followed our arousal and desires and had a hell of a good time.

I don't know. But I think the notion that liking to suck dick or prefer to be penetrated rather than penetrate someone else is corrosive to ones innate masculine nature is flawed reasoning.

Does one have to sacrifice masculinity and appropriate femininity in order to accept the fact of themselves and their sexual preference?

I'm going to say no. And no one should be made to believe that they should.

I just wanted to acknowledge the point you both make that the measure of masculine vs. feminine is not a matter of penetrating vs. being penetrated. It's an important point, and I appreciate you both for making it.

 

[klippert]

Trans gendered
Sissy
Femboi/feminine men
Cross dressing

So many threads. But nary a thread celebrating the draw and appeal of and for the masculine gay male.

Why?

Because emasculating men is the dish of the decade. Alpha Masculine is sex as heck. As an Alpha male...doesn't mean I'm a brute...though I can be.
I like this thread...if you don't mind. I will happily post for it. Time for Men to have a thread.
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[klippert]

I don't know. But I think the notion that liking to suck dick or prefer to be penetrated rather than penetrate someone else is corrosive to ones innate masculine nature is flawed reasoning.

Does one have to sacrifice masculinity and appropriate femininity in order to accept the fact of themselves and their sexual preference?

I'm going to say no. And no one should be made to believe that they should.

In my time of having sex with other men....I much prefer 'Men' that are men. not feminized, though, at that time I would happily use their services. But, I was much more sexually attracted to the Vers Masculine Male.
I have been penetrated and never thought I was now a female, or fem. I was enjoying the pleasure my hole was used for...it's not a pussy...its my ass. I'm 95% top. But the right situation and buddy...I'll be the buddy with extras

 

[jackstud]

Because emasculating men is the dish of the decade. Alpha Masculine is sex as heck. As an Alpha male...doesn't mean I'm a brute...though I can be.
I like this thread...if you don't mind. I will happily post for it. Time for Men to have a thread.
https://cdn012.**********/uploads/photos/2021/03/569845/bdsmlr-569845-gZdE1Wmz5c.jpeg

Agree, as I adjust myself

 

[AlphaLyon]

In my time of having sex with other men....I much prefer 'Men' that are men. not feminized, though, at that time I would happily use their services.

100% my philosophy too. I'm not against feminized men, it's just a preference thing.

 

[BBCfan]

Trans gendered
Sissy
Femboi/feminine men
Cross dressing

So many threads. But nary a thread celebrating the draw and appeal of and for the masculine gay male.

Why?

I think many men who post here are expressing their journey of gay exploration from a formerly hetero lifestyle.

They likely desire a more masculine dominant guy but are more interested in finding likeminded guy to relate to in posts.

Likely the main reason I sucked dick as an adult was because he was an uber masculine gay guy.

 

[Jaime1493]

I started with my best friend when we were 15. We had sex all through HS, and though we moved, whenever we happened to get together later in life. I have been bi ever since that first encounter.

 

[wallio]

when i;m with a guy i want a guy, if i want a fem I'll stay home and fuck the wife

 

[AlphaLyon]

Great gif

It's a classic and always fun to use.

But OT, it's interesting how many threads are devoted to feminization here in this forum section. On just the front page alone, we have:
- Annie's Room
- Sissy Fantasies
- I love wearing Panties
- Pretty Femboi Images (VI?)
- Men in garter belt and nylons turn me ON
- Feminine Men Fun

No other aspect is covered so much and in so many separate threads. It's interesting.
It's definitely not my thing, but I think it's great that those who are into it have so many avenues to explore it in, considering that in "normal" society, it's still very taboo.

 

[Married_and_BiCurious]

Bottoms Don’t Have to Be Feminine

I am bicurious and consider myself a bottom. I would only ever want to be with a masculine man. I would not want to be feminized. There is a difference, at least to me between being a feminized man and being a bottom. I want a top who wants to fuck a man who happens to be a bottom.

 

[mtdan]

In my time of having sex with other men....I much prefer 'Men' that are men. not feminized, though, at that time I would happily use their services. But, I was much more sexually attracted to the Vers Masculine Male.
I have been penetrated and never thought I was now a female, or fem. I was enjoying the pleasure my hole was used for...it's not a pussy...its my ass. I'm 95% top. But the right situation and buddy...I'll be the buddy with extras

I feel the same way. Although i am more of a bottom than a top I have never felt fem. I just enjoy man time !!

 

[saintcero]

Yes to masculine and yes to being awash in his sperm.