Persuading g/f to stray.....

[ShandyLeer]

....she often has to spend nights away through work, and whilst she has never to my knowledge been unfaithful it's certainly true that she's had all sorts of offers and approaches from men and from women, and couples too.

What's the best way to tempt her to say "yes" to one of these proposals ?

 

[KinoKe]

....she often has to spend nights away through work, and whilst she has never to my knowledge been unfaithful it's certainly true that she's had all sorts of offers and approaches from men and from women, and couples too.

What's the best way to tempt her to say "yes" to one of these proposals ?

Talk to her about it? Just a suggestion.

 

[ShandyLeer]

Talk to her about it? Just a suggestion.

Sorry, probably badly described. It's been talked about, fantasised about by both of us. But in the end it's a line she's never crossed and maybe never will. My curiosity was in how to best to encourage with pushiness.

 

[missyunderstanding]

Don't view it as straying

The mindset that her having sex with others would be straying makes it a no-starter. If she has your consent to enjoy sexual variety then all you need to do is explain that you do not view it as cheating or straying.

As a side point: You need to be concerned about her safety too. There are lots of things that can go wrong if she is out of town and a strange guy takes her to bed.

So, you both need to talk about what you both agree is safe and not safe.

After that there should be not need for you to coax her.

In my case, if my husband said that I could enjoy safe sexual variety I would. He has not given me that approval at this time so I would not 'stray.'

If he did give me that approval then I would still not do it unless I was sure that what I was doing was safe and that I really wanted to have sex with a certain individual. I would not do it just to satisfy a fantasy on his part or mine and it would not be "straying."

 

[ShandyLeer]

The mindset that her having sex with others would be straying makes it a no-starter. If she has your consent to enjoy sexual variety then all you need to do is explain that you do not view it as cheating or straying.

As a side point: You need to be concerned about her safety too. There are lots of things that can go wrong if she is out of town and a strange guy takes her to bed.

So, you both need to talk about what you both agree is safe and not safe.

After that there should be not need for you to coax her.

In my case, if my husband said that I could enjoy safe sexual variety I would. He has not given me that approval at this time so I would not 'stray.'

If he did give me that approval then I would still not do it unless I was sure that what I was doing was safe and that I really wanted to have sex with a certain individual. I would not do it just to satisfy a fantasy on his part or mine and it would not be "straying."

Don't disagree, but "straying" is her definition not mine. I doubt that's particularly unusual as a mindset.

 

[Justfantasies]

Most women like some sexual variety. Take things slowly. Go dancing and let her dance with attractive men. Watch them touch her

Things will happen gradually

 

[screwher]

I doubt you’ll ever be able to persuade her. It will have to be done on her terms. All you can do is reassure her you’re not only good with it but actually excited about it. Then her take the plunge on her own. I’m sure you want to watch. But until she’s comfortable she’s not going to want her hubbies eyes on her when she’s getting naked withnanother man those first times.

Could her reluctance be she’s concerned you’re looking to have sex with other women?

 

[ukcouple4play]

I told my now wife many years ago that I liked the idea of her sleeping with other men, with me involved or without. We have talked it through at great length so she can understand both why it turns me on and how far I would be prepared to go with it (suffice to say, she has a lifetime free pass lol), and it has also become a major shared fantasy we use regularly in our dirty talk and role play. She has yet to take up the offer to make it real, and it is completely her decision whether she does or not. I don't feel there is any 'persuading' I can do - she knows my thoughts, she knows it's her choice. While I know what I'd like to happen, I understand and respect her decision either way.

 

[Justfantasies]

I told my now wife many years ago that I liked the idea of her sleeping with other men, with me involved or without. We have talked it through at great length so she can understand both why it turns me on and how far I would be prepared to go with it (suffice to say, she has a lifetime free pass lol), and it has also become a major shared fantasy we use regularly in our dirty talk and role play. She has yet to take up the offer to make it real, and it is completely her decision whether she does or not. I don't feel there is any 'persuading' I can do - she knows my thoughts, she knows it's her choice. While I know what I'd like to happen, I understand and respect her decision either way.

So does she actually "stray" much?

 

[ukcouple4play]

So does she actually "stray" much?

No - that's the point of what I wrote!