How does a fetish start?

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I have certain things that always turn me on, that I think about about.

I wonder how fetishes become fetishes? was it an event, or an idea?
 
I have certain things that always turn me on, that I think about about.

I wonder how fetishes become fetishes? was it an event, or an idea?

Could be multiple things in my mind. Things that happened to you, seen growing up or exposed to. Maybe your mind gets stimulated by that action. Me - Deep throated. I got a blowjob when i was younger, she took every inch of me (8") never missed a beat. I came so hard and so fast. At my older age now only have had about 3 people in my life that gave me that great of deep throat. the feeling OMG So for me that's my fetish, guess i was exposed to it . It can be a demon when you dont get it :(
 
hey ...

I have certain things that always turn me on, that I think about about.

I wonder how fetishes become fetishes? was it an event, or an idea?

you have already started the process ---,
you have given it space in your thought life now the only thing you NEED to do is speak life into your desire by vocally expressing your desire. Having accomplished that, you seek what it is you are desiring.

Anything you want,
Anything you do,
it ALL starts in the same place.
It starts in your mind.
 
My fetish, I guess you’d call it, is my wife having sex with other men. And married women in general getting fucked by other men. It started years ago when my wife cheated. At first I was furious. It almost ruined us. But soon after, the idea started to arouse me. I began fantasizing about it. Then masturbating. Then secretly wanting her to do it again. So for me it took that significant event, then a bit of time for my mind, and cock, to decide that they liked this!
 
I've got lots of different fetishes that began before I can remember, including tight clothes and light bondage.

My mom tells stories of how as a baby I always wanted to be swaddled up tightly. I would cry whenever she would unwrap me for a diaper change. I was also an escape artist and would not stay in my crib at night. My doctor recommended a special harness for me to keep me in my crib. It had a belt with leads that were tied to the sides of my crib. The first night I cried and cried until I managed to slip down and out of the belt. I climbed out of my crib and fell to the floor, waking my horrified parents again. The next night they added a crotch strap. I struggled but I didn't cry. I wonder if I was comforted by the rubbing.

I love being snug in tight clothes and being tied with ropes or straps between my legs. I wonder if it has any correlation.
 
i defintely developed a spandex and femdom fetish when my mom would whip me in her black gym outfit
 
My mom caught me wearing a pair of her panties. She opened the door to my bedroom and we made eye contact, and she slowly closed the door. Never said another word about it....though about a week later, i found a pair of silk and lace white panties in my underwear drawer after she put the laundry away.

I know where MY fetish started....!
 
A few years ago, I was stopped at a traffic light on a four-lane road. In front of me was a car with two boys in it, probably 8 and 10. A young woman on a motorcycle pulled up next to the car ahead of me. She had long black hair and was dressed in her leathers. The two kids plastered their faces against the window, staring at her. She waved, revved her engine for them, tossed her ponytail and grinned. Then the light changed and she roared off as they stared after her.
I always wondered if I witnessed the birth of an obsession that afternoon. :)
 
I have certain things that always turn me on, that I think about about.

I wonder how fetishes become fetishes? was it an event, or an idea?

My story dates back to AOL my exwife and dialup internet. One day while watching tv I see her at her desk and it appears she is fingering herself through her pants. I confront her about to which she admits to it and explained she got turned on by reading erotic stories. Safe to say moments later we had sex.

As sometime goes by I am curious about what she read and where. She shows me and it’s your run of the mill sex story so I keep reading random stories. Then I come across a mother and son sex story and it was like someone flipped my hormone switch. Been hooked ever since.

Same woman later in time I have no idea how but I got into anal play. Took years later for me to experience a prostate orgasm but I must say it was worth the wait. Hands down nothing like a prostate orgasm.

Everything else is vanilla but I do have a thing making a woman cum anyway that works for them. Most time it is either by oral or my Hitachi Wand.
 
Could be multiple things in my mind. Things that happened to you, seen growing up or exposed to. Maybe your mind gets stimulated by that action. Me - Deep throated. I got a blowjob when i was younger, she took every inch of me (8") never missed a beat. I came so hard and so fast. At my older age now only have had about 3 people in my life that gave me that great of deep throat. the feeling OMG So for me that's my fetish, guess i was exposed to it . It can be a demon when you dont get it :(

A good deep throat is good but better when you are cumming and they are swallowing.
 
I have been breast-obsessed since I can remember. That goes back to the 60s when TV, movies, and ads seemed to feature busty models and actresses. And I noticed at an early age that men could show everything but their genitals and ass in public, but women couldn't show genitals, ass, nor breasts. And some women had such big ones, but I could never see them!

Same on the beach and at the pool. At a time when the bikini was very popular, it seemed like a huge tease to me.

And so, I love big tit porn, big busted women, etc.

Also, I was never breastfed. Maybe I'm over-compensating?
 
I have three main fetishes: Lingerie, lactation and incest.

With lingerie, I just like seeing pretty women in pretty things. The lacier, the better.

With lactation, it began one day as I was looking through an issue of Juggs magazine. They had a spread on a woman who was lactating. It was so unexpected for me, and unusual, that it turned me on immediately. I've loved it ever since. I've never had the chance to experience in person, but here I met a woman who loved having the milk sucked from her tits while being fucked.

Incest? I'm not sure. Memories of bathing with my younger sister till we were four or five? Perhaps? A glimpse of my older sister's tit when I was 7? Maybe? Actually I believe it's compensatory. I've always felt my family wasn't affectionate enough for me, and since sex is one of the most intimate acts a person can engage in. I really don't know where it came from. Those are just some thoughts on this one.
 
A few years ago, I was stopped at a traffic light on a four-lane road. In front of me was a car with two boys in it, probably 8 and 10. A young woman on a motorcycle pulled up next to the car ahead of me. She had long black hair and was dressed in her leathers. The two kids plastered their faces against the window, staring at her. She waved, revved her engine for them, tossed her ponytail and grinned. Then the light changed and she roared off as they stared after her.
I always wondered if I witnessed the birth of an obsession that afternoon. :)
I definitely think those boys had their minds blown that day lol!
 
I can pinpoint mine fairly easily. Growing up I had a neighbor couple that took fitness very seriously, in fact other than my father, they were the only people I knew that lifted weights. Dan was a short but very muscular guy and Laura was tall and very very fit. She used to wear a bikini or nothing to lay about in her backyard. She knew we could see her but she didn’t care it was the 70’s, a lot of people didn’t care.

The sight of her muscles gleaming with baby oil or sweat got me hard and just thinking about her still does. Unfortunately, before I was of the age to do anything about it (and believe me I would have died trying) her and dan were in a serious car accident and the subsequent injuries left her unable to continue to stay in shape. She was quite something though when she was fit. Quite something indeed.
 
My bratty cousin that liked to sexually humiliate me, loved to talk about kinky stuff, wore dirty smelling socks and underwear for days, and only gave up playfighting me when I overpowered her. That's at least four fetishes right there.
 
My bratty cousin that liked to sexually humiliate me, loved to talk about kinky stuff, wore dirty smelling socks and underwear for days, and only gave up playfighting me when I overpowered her. That's at least four fetishes right there.
Hmmm wow! How did she humiliate you? Definitely breeding ground for kinks and fetishism there
 
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By surprise, in my case. It was a looooong time ago, over 4 decades (sheesh!) in the early days of discovery. It's not as intense now, but my reaction to pre-cum, thick bush and especially treasure trails is nearly immediate and always revs me up. Those are definitely fetishes! I like other play-time kinks, but usually as change-ups for a little spice.
 
I used to tease my girlfriend about water sports. Just pushing the envelope to see how she'd react. After fucking, we cuddled naked together. She looked into my eyes and asked: "Do you want to piss on me?" The beginning of enjoying a golden fetish together.
 
I have a cousin who is 3 years older than me. Growing up we lived close by. When I was about 11 she would stop off at my house on her way home from school because both my parents would be at work. She would sit there in her Catholic School uniform and smoke cigarettes. She was slim and had sexy long legs. She was also a bit of a slut. Watching her inhale then blow out smoke through her pursed lips was the sexiest thing I'd ever seen. I wanted to fuck her so much.
To this day, the sight of a young girl smoking in school uniform drives me crazy.
 
That’s a hard one. I guess you see something or watch something and someone indulges you in that fantasy.
 
I think it begins as a curiosity. Maybe you see it somewhere, or hear someone talking about it. If it seems to interest me I'll look more into it on my own and go from there... I think it builds over time. I've found that one fetish can sometimes lead to another as well. I've really broadened my horizons over the last few years trying things I never thought I would be into. Many doors to open and explore :)
 
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