Litiquette VII

[Fermina_Daza]

What a fun quiz. J and I both got the same results of:

1. Rough and tumble lover
2. Explorer
3. Giver

Thanks for sharing that! Our love languages are completely different so it’s nice to see our similarities lie elsewhere.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Apparently I'm Soulful. But incompatible with Explorers??

It's like they don't know me at all!

 

[Fermina_Daza]

Apparently I'm Soulful. But incompatible with Explorers??

It's like they don't know me at all!

I traded my soul for my boobs. They’ve gotten me further in life.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I traded my soul for my boobs. They’ve gotten me further in life.

Ha!

I don't have much in the way of size, but i'm quite happy with my nips.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

nothing in life is simple.
I'm both an Explorer AND a Giver
(and I'll admit that there might be a little "needy" that went undetected)

 

[parker77]

so, just for kicks...Soulful Lover.

 

[tnman03]

My anxiety knows no bounds.

Even giving stresses me the fuck out. I mean, what if he doesn't like it? What if he's had better? What if I totally mistake his cues and he doesn't actually want my finger up his butt?

Sorry indie, I defy you to find any guy who wouldn't be anything other than astounded in the best possible way with bedroom shenanigans involving your clever naughty mind.

 

[QuietCanadian]

What if I totally mistake his cues and he doesn't actually want my finger up his butt?

What is the proper cue to make that a thing that happens? AFAF.

 

[Trekka]

My anxiety knows no bounds.

Even giving stresses me the fuck out. I mean, what if he doesn't like it? What if he's had better? What if I totally mistake his cues and he doesn't actually want my finger up his butt?

1. They all like it
2. So what if he’s had better? I bet you have too. Plus sex is like pizza.
3. See #2

 

[tnman03]

1. They all like it
2. So what if he’s had better? I bet you have too. Plus sex is like pizza.
3. See #2

^^^ Best response!!! Lit up all the best of the day Lit posts spotlights too.

 

[Fermina_Daza]

Ha!

I don't have much in the way of size, but i'm quite happy with my nips.

I’m good not having a soul. Wouldn’t mind losing some of the boobs. The older I get the more back hurts.

I dropped one of those ornament wires today and was like, “I’m sorry. I have 900 more of you. I appreciate your sacrifice fo the vacuum gods.”

 

[Trekka]

New Relationship Energy, NRE... ahh to bottle it and sell it as a perfume. Maybe a liqueur.
Kinda wanna snort lines of it off SMNaughty’s tits.

How susceptible are you to NRE’s draw? Are you aware of it when it blankets you?
Do you try to make it last? Savor it? Let it take its course?
And when it fades, do you notice? Do you care?
Ever feel like it has tricked you?
Ever try to rekindle it?
What does it morph into later, for you? Do you go from sex kitten to sleepy house cat? Or from feral beast to domesticated god or goddess?
Is anyone immune to NRE??

 

[Lord Pmann]

It can certainly be intoxicating. The laughter, attraction, lust, anticipation, waiting, longing, wondering when you’ll talk next... all those are feelings you get when you meet me for the first time.

That feeling is, indeed, a powerful feeling. It causes blindness sometimes. It takes a little while to wear off (if it’s going to). Every once in a while, you find someone special and that feeling doesn’t really wear off. You still feel those things for that person and they just grow deeper.

I definitely notice when it fades. The things they used to do that were amusing now seem questionable. It’s like going back as an adult and watching Goonies. You’re like... “Shit, this moving kind of sucks.”

NRE, not to be confused with NRJ, isn’t always a bad thing. It sparks that initial attraction and helps build something. And even if it fades and the person becomes as annoying as a hangnail, I still like to think we take away something from everyone. Even if the person turns out to be a twat, you likely learned something and had a good time.

To me, it is a matter of what happens when it’s not a new relationship. Are you left bored or annoyed? Or do you still want to spend time with that person? Did the person morph from a unicorn to a three legged goat? Or did they remain a unicorn just fit for other pastures? Or, best case, they’re still your unicorn.

 

[QuietCanadian]

How susceptible are you to NRE’s draw? Are you aware of it when it blankets you?
Do you try to make it last? Savor it? Let it take its course?
And when it fades, do you notice? Do you care?
Ever feel like it has tricked you?
Ever try to rekindle it?
What does it morph into later, for you? Do you go from sex kitten to sleepy house cat? Or from feral beast to domesticated god or goddess?
Is anyone immune to NRE??

I don't know if I'm less susceptible, but definitely more aware than I used to be. I do think being more aware can only make you less susceptible though. Like when you learn about how you make decisions and start to recognize when your limbic system is taking over but sometimes you just don't give a shit that it is.

As I get old AF, I try far less with anything to stretch it or make out happen again, life is best when we savour it and be in they moment. It might rekindle or morph into something further or stay, but short of some fun roleplay, nope not forcing it.

I don't think it morphs me. I am Beyonce. Always.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Sadly, I have no Spice Girl analog.

Pony up those results, tnman!


Let's see, what are we missing?

The Anxious Lover - Indie
The Low Sex Driver -
The Explorer - Trekka, NRJ
The Rough and Tumbler - Orchidea, Daisy
The Soulful Lover - Mr. Quiet
The Needy Lover - Xian, Endless
The Giver - NRJ

So we've hit them all except The Low Sex Driver.

I took the test. I'm a Giver.

Just kidding. No one believed that. I'm an Explorer.

Also, I'm Posh Spice.

 

[Endless_Night]

My, aren't you boys feisty this morning! (and I will update that list later if someone else doesn't.)

* * *
I’d be lost without NRE.

My need for social interaction is quite low. That makes me picky about the who, what, why, and where I’m interested in expending energy. Combine that with a narrow window of sexual desire/interest and you can end up with long periods between sexual partners.

In the past, before I had any handle on the kink aspect, NRE was how I sexed. Take an initial surge of sexual attraction and combined it with *my type*. Add a soupçon of aggression (on their part) and a reasonably acceptable IQ.

*boom*

As soon as NRE slipped?

*boom*

Outta there. More often than not, thinking: Dear Lord, what WAS I thinking?

I mean, honestly, sex is pretty easy to come by, you know? Making use of NRE elevated the tolerable and bland into something more exciting. Actual compatibility, sexual and otherwise, impacted length of NRE. It might last, IDK, nine months on a good run. Often far, far less.

Not ideal. It also got me into trouble more than once.

Sexually fulfilling it was not. Which is one of the things that nudged me to find Lit.

 

[parker77]

my take on MRE, per one of my fav obsessions -

Isn't this the best part of breaking up?
Finding someone else you can't get enough of
Someone who wants to be with you too

It's an itch we know we are gonna scratch
Gonna take a while for this egg to hatch (but wouldn't it)
But wouldn't it be beautiful?

Here we go, we're at the beginning
We haven't fucked yet, but my head's spinning

 

[Dribble]

NRE? Seriously? Wow...ok...whatever. People think too much

 

[QuietCanadian]

... and a reasonably acceptable IQ.

*boom*

Now there's a bar I can get over...

How you doin'?

 

[Lord Pmann]

NRE? Seriously? Wow...ok...whatever. People think too much

You've never had the feeling of newness in a relationship?

 

[Orchidea73]

New Relationship Energy, NRE... ahh to bottle it and sell it as a perfume. Maybe a liqueur.
Kinda wanna snort lines of it off SMNaughty’s tits.

How susceptible are you to NRE’s draw? Are you aware of it when it blankets you?
Do you try to make it last? Savor it? Let it take its course?
And when it fades, do you notice? Do you care?
Ever feel like it has tricked you?
Ever try to rekindle it?
What does it morph into later, for you? Do you go from sex kitten to sleepy house cat? Or from feral beast to domesticated god or goddess?
Is anyone immune to NRE??

NRE: Pensavo fosse amore, invece era un calesse.
I thought it was love, but it was a barouche.

 

[Endless_Night]

Sounds like you got to work on your sexual superhighways! Get out that machete and get to whacking or flicking or rubbing or whatever it is you ladies do to clear those pathways and build that sexy neural network.

We might be talking two-handed machete wielding and a controlled burn.

Now there's a bar I can get over...

How you doin'?

Is that you *aggressing*?

* * *

This whole series of Podcast driven questions has incredibly interesting. My sexuality seems so complicated and convoluted. One step forward, two steps back, a thousand more to go. There are times it feels like too much effort, or that I’m just wasting my time trying to worry out solutions. Easier to just…shelve the impossible.

The conversation has opened up some new considerations.

So, thank you, Trekka!

 

[QuietCanadian]

Is that you *aggressing*?

Too strong, eh?

 

[SassySheDevil]

I’m good not having a soul. Wouldn’t mind losing some of the boobs. The older I get the more back hurts.

I dropped one of those ornament wires today and was like, “I’m sorry. I have 900 more of you. I appreciate your sacrifice fo the vacuum gods.”

True of me also. Some day.. Reduction.

 

[Endless_Night]

Too strong, eh?

Hahaha! You animal, you.