Clit/Pussy Spanking Discussion Thread

[cocktaildress21]

Saying that just because you don't enjoy it, no one else possibly can seems to completely devalue who she is as a sexual individual and her sexual response. Whether or not I would like having my cock spanked has nothing to do with what she enjoys. We are separate and unique.

I am trying to penetrate your thick skull, here - well, figuratively. I'm telling you, no one in their right mind enjoys that. It's not a pleasurable sensation. Like I said above, it's just someone hitting a raw nerve with a drill - it is exceptionally unpleasant. There's nothing sexual about it. It's not kinky, or wild, or rough, it's not sexy - it's a kick in the fucking teeth, and no one enjoys that.

So I doubt what you're saying is true. I think what you have is a fantasy, and as a fantasy it works fine. It also looks good in porn.

But the reality of it is the violent jolt of having a giant mass of sensitive nerve endings slapped - and no one likes that. Not me. Not your wife. Not those girls in porn.

 

[KinzyTaylor]

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[pplwatching]

But the reality of it is the violent jolt of having a giant mass of sensitive nerve endings slapped - and no one likes that. Not me. Not your wife. Not those girls in porn.

Considering the forum that this is in, I'm really very surprised at the attitude that "no one is capable of enjoying pain". Fortunately for my wife, I do what she asks and enjoys rather than judging her kink.

 

[pplwatching]

Say that just a little louder so the peeps in the back hear it.

She likes what she likes. I've already said that she lets me know when she's in the mood for it, lets me know when it's building at the right temp, and when she's at her limit. I really don't understand why she's being attacked for her tastes, especially that she's not here to defend herself. I would think that kink shaming wouldn't have a place here, but I guess only the regular's definitions of what people can enjoy matters.

 

[cocktaildress21]

Considering the forum that this is in, I'm really very surprised at the attitude that "no one is capable of enjoying pain". Fortunately for my wife, I do what she asks and enjoys rather than judging her kink.

Literally no one enjoys pain if it isn't done right. For instance, spanking. I'm willing to take any bet that you don't actually know how to do it properly.

Spanking properly done is a surface skin sensation. Regardless of the force behind, or the implement in question, be it hand or whip, it should only just touch the skin.

What is pleasurable about spanking is the burn. The sting of impact isn't. Or, well, it's not as pleasurable. It f****** hurts. But the burn, after .. well, that's something else. It makes you crave, drives you wild.

And that's the point: Spanking the clit overloads on that sting of impact that isn't pleasurable - and it does not give that pleasant burn after.

If in doubt, find a mate and ask him to kick you in the balls. Then lie there, and wait for it to become a pleasurable burning sensation. It won't.

It also doesn't for your wife. She put's up with it because you like it. That's what's going on.

 

[The_Gypsy]

I am trying to penetrate your thick skull, here - well, figuratively. I'm telling you, no one in their right mind enjoys that. It's not a pleasurable sensation. Like I said above, it's just someone hitting a raw nerve with a drill - it is exceptionally unpleasant. There's nothing sexual about it. It's not kinky, or wild, or rough, it's not sexy - it's a kick in the fucking teeth, and no one enjoys that.

So I doubt what you're saying is true. I think what you have is a fantasy, and as a fantasy it works fine. It also looks good in porn.

But the reality of it is the violent jolt of having a giant mass of sensitive nerve endings slapped - and no one likes that. Not me. Not your wife. Not those girls in porn.

I am with you cocktail dress re this

 

[hedonisatlurist]

Literally no one enjoys pain if it isn't done right. For instance, spanking. I'm willing to take any bet that you don't actually know how to do it properly.

Spanking properly done is a surface skin sensation. Regardless of the force behind, or the implement in question, be it hand or whip, it should only just touch the skin.

What is pleasurable about spanking is the burn. The sting of impact isn't. Or, well, it's not as pleasurable. It f****** hurts. But the burn, after .. well, that's something else. It makes you crave, drives you wild.

And that's the point: Spanking the clit overloads on that sting of impact that isn't pleasurable - and it does not give that pleasant burn after.

If in doubt, find a mate and ask him to kick you in the balls. Then lie there, and wait for it to become a pleasurable burning sensation. It won't.

It also doesn't for your wife. She put's up with it because you like it. That's what's going on.

smiles then you need to open your mind there are females who love it

 

[cocktaildress21]

smiles then you need to open your mind there are females who love it

And I've said as much. Only there are very, very few - so few that I'm confident you've never met one. Like so many others here, you're just fully on-board with your own imagination, and confirmation from porn, that this is something that drives women wild.

Well as I said: If you can imagine a lot of men out there who really enjoy being kicked in the balls, then stick with it.

 

[pplwatching]

It also doesn't for your wife. She put's up with it because you like it. That's what's going on.

How is it that you are such an expert on what I like, much less on what she likes? It's something that she enjoys, so I do it for her. That's clearly impossible in your little world, but then people will always try to impose their views on other people. Fortunately, my wife knows that she's safe to express her desires and ask for what she likes without fear of this kind of criticism from me.

 

[pplwatching]

And I've said as much. Only there are very, very few - so few that I'm confident you've never met one.

"There are some people who enjoy it, therefore pplwatching's wife can't possibly be one." Nice logic.

 

[cocktaildress21]

"There are some people who enjoy it, therefore pplwatching's wife can't possibly be one." Nice logic.

I'm just playing the odds. The chances that you're a sad wanker who just enjoys the fantasy are way, way-way-way higher than the chances your wife is one of the few who actually enjoys it.

Also, I don't think anyone enjoys it. I think some are compulsive about it. There's a difference.

Please keep in mind that I did not just say 'you're a sad wanker'. What I said was, the chances of one are infinitely higher than the chances of the other.

I generally speak politely to people. Even when the message is one they are going to dislike.

 

[Athalia]

And I've said as much. Only there are very, very few - so few that I'm confident you've never met one. Like so many others here, you're just fully on-board with your own imagination, and confirmation from porn, that this is something that drives women wild.

Not all women. Just a small percentage, I'd wager. But we are out there.

It's like garlic in a dish. A little goes a long way, and a lot spoils it completely I have to be in the mood for it, and have a lover who knows how to tease me and when to stop. (And men like that are probably an even smaller percentage of the population.)

Well as I said: If you can imagine a lot of men out there who really enjoy being kicked in the balls, then stick with it.

Not the same, from what I hear. Pussy spanking is like having your erect penis slapped, or having your frenum flicked by a finger kind of like a finger snap. Having your balls kicked is like pushing on a woman's ovaries or having a sensitive cervix suddenly jammed into.

 

[cocktaildress21]

Not all women. Just a small percentage, I'd wager. But we are out there.

It's like garlic in a dish. A little goes a long way, and a lot spoils it completely I have to be in the mood for it, and have a lover who knows how to tease me and when to stop. (And men like that are probably an even smaller percentage of the population.)

Not the same, from what I hear. Pussy spanking is like having your erect penis slapped, or having your frenum flicked by a finger kind of like a finger snap. Having your balls kicked is like pushing on a woman's ovaries or having a sensitive cervix suddenly jammed into.

A small percentage - and whether I believe you're part of that percentage is another discussion.

I'll grant the 'kick in the balls' comparison is an exaggeration. But it's a deliberate one: It's an example of something no one can really imagine finding enjoyable. There is a certain type of pain that some enjoy, perhaps best described by wax play - not everyone enjoys wax play, of course, but that's the right type of pain.

Whereas rubbing salt in a wound, or in your eye, is a type of pain no sane person would go looking for. It's not sexy in any way, it's just unpleasant.

Clit spanking is unpleasant. It's like touching a raw nerve. If you enjoy it, I see no reason why you wouldn't also enjoy a root canal.

 

[Ropebunny]

A small percentage - and whether I believe you're part of that percentage is another discussion.

I'll grant the 'kick in the balls' comparison is an exaggeration. But it's a deliberate one: It's an example of something no one can really imagine finding enjoyable. There is a certain type of pain that some enjoy, perhaps best described by wax play - not everyone enjoys wax play, of course, but that's the right type of pain.

Whereas rubbing salt in a wound, or in your eye, is a type of pain no sane person would go looking for. It's not sexy in any way, it's just unpleasant.

Clit spanking is unpleasant. It's like touching a raw nerve. If you enjoy it, I see no reason why you wouldn't also enjoy a root canal.

I like and enjoy unpleasant (in lots of different ways, not going to go into detail because I don’t think that will help my case). Being ‘forced’ to experience the unpleasant, asked to endure it is where the humiliation feelings kick in. It’s crazy territory, I know, but it’s what I am and it’s why I’m here.

I don’t get many places to be honest about me. Please don’t assume that just because you can’t imagine what someone gets out of a thing there is nothing there. That goes for everything, not just kinky masochist related stuff. There is no such thing as one right type of pain, only YOUR right type of pain. Just own that, instead of shitting on others please. I’m happy to answer questions, if you want to understand, but nothing that comes with judgement. That’s the real fucking turn off here...

 

[cocktaildress21]

I like and enjoy unpleasant (in lots of different ways, not going to go into detail because I don’t think that will help my case). Being ‘forced’ to experience the unpleasant, asked to endure it is where the humiliation feelings kick in. It’s crazy territory, I know, but it’s what I am and it’s why I’m here.

I don’t get many places to be honest about me. Please don’t assume that just because you can’t imagine what someone gets out of a thing there is nothing there. That goes for everything, not just kinky masochist related stuff. There is no such thing as one right type of pain, only YOUR right type of pain. Just own that, instead of shitting on others please. I’m happy to answer questions, if you want to understand, but nothing that comes with judgement. That’s the real fucking turn off here...

I'm not saying it's not out there. I've said so repeatedly - I know it is, but it's rare enough that the chances are much better you're just a guy who is turned on by the idea of spanking a girls clit.

 

[Ropebunny]

I'm not saying it's not out there. I've said so repeatedly - I know it is, but it's rare enough that the chances are much better you're just a guy who is turned on by the idea of spanking a girls clit.

And why is that a problem? Is this not the place to discuss enjoying slapping/spanking female genitals, even if for some it is only fantasy based? I simply don’t understand your argument...

 

[cocktaildress21]

And why is that a problem? Is this not the place to discuss enjoying slapping/spanking female genitals, even if for some it is only fantasy based? I simply don’t understand your argument...

You need me to explain that? Ok, I will, gladly.

There is no problem having a fantasy - and there is no problem being one of those few who actually .. feel like doing something despite it being basically just unpleasant.

It moves out of the realm of sex, and into the realm of emotional imbalance. But talking about it is not a problem.

The problem arises when the entire forum - until my arrival - is nothing but people pretending this is a fabulous idea, and wildly enjoyable.

It's an untrue, and misleading for anyone who ventures in here looking for actual information. Also, it's just an unbalanced discussion - having only one view represented, and the wrong one at that.

That .. is the problem. And all I'm doing is to provide counterpoint.

 

[Ropebunny]

You need me to explain that? Ok, I will, gladly.

There is no problem having a fantasy - and there is no problem being one of those few who actually .. feel like doing something despite it being basically just unpleasant.

It moves out of the realm of sex, and into the realm of emotional imbalance. But talking about it is not a problem.

The problem arises when the entire forum - until my arrival - is nothing but people pretending this is a fabulous idea, and wildly enjoyable.

It's an untrue, and misleading for anyone who ventures in here looking for actual information. Also, it's just an unbalanced discussion - having only one view represented, and the wrong one at that.

That .. is the problem. And all I'm doing is to provide counterpoint.

Unmitigated communion (how I wish I don’t keep smacking into this idea today and walk into some clitoris spanks instead )

What I see here is a focus on everyone else, culminating in the exclusion of your own self acceptance that you are not interested in this activity to the same reported level or intensity as others, which is a perfectly valid place to be.

The comments on emotional imbalances are projection I hope, instead of a honest attempt to hurt others.

This board is not only a place for information, it is also a place of contribution and acceptance. It sounds like you might not be ready to participate in that way. That’s ok. That’s why I often lurk before posting, so I can understand the norms of a place and not do inadvertent damage. Seeing outside of our selves in different contexts takes practice.

There are no ‘wrong’ views here, neither mine nor yours. We are all adults, responsible for our own sexualities and capable of making choices for our own bodies. Your counterpoint looks a lot like thinly veiled judgement of difference from where I’m sitting, and so far I’ve found that far more unpleasant than the ‘unpleasant’ sensations we’re discussing. Some food for thought - there may be more sadism in you than you are aware of...

 

[bone251]

Check out Queensnake. If those girls have fun with that then it make sense that a little smack is fun too.

For me, I respond well to my balls being abused when she edges and teases me.

 

[Ropebunny]

Check out Queensnake. If those girls have fun with that then it make sense that a little smack is fun too.

For me, I respond well to my balls being abused when she edges and teases me.

Oh man, those girls play so hard that I don’t even know what to do with myself while watching! The one, with all the candles along the rope is now a fantasy staple for me (would I do it myself...I’m questioning...)


And balls are fun. I love pulling them as far as I can until the sensation changes from pleasure to discomfort... takes a while

 

[Ashesh9]

peace!!!!

You need me to explain that? Ok, I will, gladly.

There is no problem having a fantasy - and there is no problem being one of those few who actually .. feel like doing something despite it being basically just unpleasant.

It moves out of the realm of sex, and into the realm of emotional imbalance. But talking about it is not a problem.

The problem arises when the entire forum - until my arrival - is nothing but people pretending this is a fabulous idea, and wildly enjoyable.

It's an untrue, and misleading for anyone who ventures in here looking for actual information. Also, it's just an unbalanced discussion - having only one view represented, and the wrong one at that.

That .. is the problem. And all I'm doing is to provide counterpoint.

agree with you Cocktaildress but Ropebunny is absolutely right too: both of U R Totally Right!!!!
but Plz let's Not Fight!!!!

 

[Ashesh9]

extreme painsluts

Check out Queensnake. If those girls have fun with that then it make sense that a little smack is fun too.

For me, I respond well to my balls being abused when she edges and teases me.

just checked out Queensnake: blew out my mind with extreme torture scenarios!!!!?

 

[cocktaildress21]

Check out Queensnake. If those girls have fun with that then it make sense that a little smack is fun too.

For me, I respond well to my balls being abused when she edges and teases me.

If you even have to consider whether they are having fun - almost certainly, they aren't .. they are getting paid. And lo and behold, it is a porn site. So of course they are pretending, because ... they get paid.

Which is perfectly fine, I don't care either way, except if you think it's possible to go out there in the world and find a girl like that, and have meaningful sex and a relationship with her ... you're setting yourself up for disappointment.

 

[Athalia]

A small percentage - and whether I believe you're part of that percentage is another discussion.

What you believe is of no concern to me at all.

Clit spanking is unpleasant. It's like touching a raw nerve. If you enjoy it, I see no reason why you wouldn't also enjoy a root canal.

Can we simply agree that what turns some people on turns other people off, and leave it at that?

The whole point of this "BDSM talk" part of the forum is to give people a chance to talk with other people about things that mainstream sex doesn't encompass. It's a sort of confessional. I feel safe talking about it, and finding others who feel that way. We don't need people saying "That's sick. That's not real. That's just a fantasy."

Believe me, there's a whole industry devoted to catering to the BDSM crowd, and their customers aren't putting down their hard-earned cash for a fantasy. Do you think they buy the riding crops and whips and candles and just put them on a shelf and fantasize about using them?

 

[cocktaildress21]

What you believe is of no concern to me at all.

Then you really need to stop responding to my posts. All that get's you is more of what I believe. Do you see how that's obviously not in your - self stated - interest?

I have at no point said that anything was 'sick'. That's you - not me.

I have said that the percentage of people who enjoy extremes is very small - way, way smaller than the percentage who just enjoy the fantasy.

Here's another thing: The vast, vast majority of everyone on here claiming to be female, is actually male. That's just a plain internet fact.

And here's another: No argument was ever won by citing porn as proof.

I'll circle back now: Just ... don't respond to me? Ok? Good. Bye now.