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[blulilacgrl]

Oh I can relate to this. I love good conversations. Love getting to know someone. But have zero interest in anything more than that.nindony want to see dicks or talk about my sexual fantasies. I just want to chill and chat about whatever comes to mind.

 

[fsa52]

Oh I can relate to this. I love good conversations. Love getting to know someone. But have zero interest in anything more than that.nindony want to see dicks or talk about my sexual fantasies. I just want to chill and chat about whatever comes to mind.

I don’t mind sexual discussions, but I want them interspersed with meaningful chat. I’m just not a one trick pony and do it enjoy the entire gambit of discussion.

 

[ChicaMuyOcupada]

I don’t mind sexual discussions, but I want them interspersed with meaningful chat. I’m just not a one trick pony and do it enjoy the entire gambit of discussion.

I agree with this. Sex chat is fine, or even talking about sex, likes, dislikes, turnons, turnoff, etc. is fair game, but I want the conversation to be more than just that. If I want just sex talk I will go into the chat room for that.

 

[fsa52]

I agree with this. Sex chat is fine, or even talking about sex, likes, dislikes, turnons, turnoff, etc. is fair game, but I want the conversation to be more than just that. If I want just sex talk I will go into the chat room for that.

I’m glad it’s not just me that feels like this!

 

[blulilacgrl]

I agree with this. Sex chat is fine, or even talking about sex, likes, dislikes, turnons, turnoff, etc. is fair game, but I want the conversation to be more than just that. If I want just sex talk I will go into the chat room for that.

I used to feel the same way until I noticed a trend in that any time a conversation went in the direction of sex, it never came back. Suddenly that was all that was discussed. And given that I have no intention of going down that road, the conversation became dull. That's just for me though. Maybe I just never found someone who could find the balance.

 

[ChicaMuyOcupada]

I used to feel the same way until I noticed a trend in that any time a conversation went in the direction of sex, it never came back. Suddenly that was all that was discussed. And given that I have no intention of going down that road, the conversation became dull. That's just for me though. Maybe I just never found someone who could find the balance.

That is true. At times, getting the conversation back from a non-sexual track can be like herding cats when it comes to talking with men, especially when their little head begins to do the thinking for them.

 

[Mei5ter]

That is true. At times, getting the conversation back from a non-sexual track can be like herding cats when it comes to talking with men, especially when their little head begins to do the thinking for them.

Purely in the interests of balance, I'll just point out that this isn't a uniquely male trait.

 

[ChicaMuyOcupada]

Purely in the interests of balance, I'll just point out that this isn't a uniquely male trait.

I would say that you are correct, but I suspect that men tend to steer the conversation more often towards sex than women do.

 

[rlaflamme]

I used to feel the same way until I noticed a trend in that any time a conversation went in the direction of sex, it never came back. Suddenly that was all that was discussed. And given that I have no intention of going down that road, the conversation became dull. That's just for me though. Maybe I just never found someone who could find the balance.

That can be an issue and end many discussions. There is a balance that can be made in a conversation that involves sex and life but it does seem to be difficult for many people.

I think it is a good thing if you can talk about a whole bunch of things. Sharing your fantasies is a fun thing to do, but sometimes we need to just talk to someone about the stuff that is going on around us or we have a desire to share things we have done in out lives. When we choose to move a conversation forward and involve the erotica part we take a risk at losing the basic part.

 

[blulilacgrl]

That can be an issue and end many discussions. There is a balance that can be made in a conversation that involves sex and life but it does seem to be difficult for many people.

I think it is a good thing if you can talk about a whole bunch of things. Sharing your fantasies is a fun thing to do, but sometimes we need to just talk to someone about the stuff that is going on around us or we have a desire to share things we have done in out lives. When we choose to move a conversation forward and involve the erotica part we take a risk at losing the basic part.

Lol. That is what I call the "sex toy shift". Where I go from a funny, smart, interesting person (or so I've been told) into a sex toy that is only contacted when needing release and when contacted never even asked about my day. It's like I lose person status.

After a while I realized that treatment, and more so allowing that behavior, wasn't good for my mental health. And where my mental health goes, so follows my physical health. So for many reasons, I have shut down having those kinds of conversations. It's not worth it. And if I have to discuss sex and fantasies to have a genuine conversation with someone on here, meh....I'll be okay without them.

 

[cole4258]

Conversations, rather it be about sex, weather, what your wearing, how's your day, it is all about communicating and it only gets polluted when someone gets a bad attitude and takes it negative. This seems to happen more in the threads vs in PM's but it is a definite turn off.

Making people laugh and smile is always a good thing.

<Getting off my soap box....

 

[fsa52]

Conversations, rather it be about sex, weather, what your wearing, how's your day, it is all about communicating and it only gets polluted when someone gets a bad attitude and takes it negative. This seems to happen more in the threads vs in PM's but it is a definite turn off.

Making people laugh and smile is always a good thing.

<Getting off my soap box....

Attitude is everything!

 

[Orchidea73]

I think it depends very much on how much he's curious and interested about YOU. How much he's attracted to you, not just physically. A man, or a woman, who is genuinely attracted to you, will want to know more. The way you think, the way you see life. Your interests, hobbies, your daily life. When there is a real interest, the conversation flows naturally pretty much on every subject and doesn't stagnate on sex talk, only.

Mind you, some good "players" can play the game of "being interested" in you very well. At least at the beginning. They are intelligent and charming. Masters at their own game. It doesn't last long though. If you pay real attention to their actions rather than their words.

 

[rlaflamme]

Very interesting points here. I do think that many people get into the sex talk and never turn back to the "friendship" talk. I think that is a huge reason that many people do not send messages or respond to them. There is no question that many people just want the sex part of conversations, it is an erotic site after all.

But... I believe that people can carry on conversations for a very long time and keep it pretty "clean". I also think there are those that can keep the flirty, fun side of them alive during conversation and still talk about the basics of life.

Nothing like talking about a hidden desire in one paragraph and the next paragraph being about the way your schools will open up lol.

Keep smiling

 

[fsa52]

Very interesting points here. I do think that many people get into the sex talk and never turn back to the "friendship" talk. I think that is a huge reason that many people do not send messages or respond to them. There is no question that many people just want the sex part of conversations, it is an erotic site after all.

But... I believe that people can carry on conversations for a very long time and keep it pretty "clean". I also think there are those that can keep the flirty, fun side of them alive during conversation and still talk about the basics of life.

Nothing like talking about a hidden desire in one paragraph and the next paragraph being about the way your schools will open up lol.

Keep smiling

Well sweet mother, your last paragraph describes me! I can start with sex, jump all over the place, wonder how I got there and then jump right back into sex.

 

[rlaflamme]

Well sweet mother, your last paragraph describes me! I can start with sex, jump all over the place, wonder how I got there and then jump right back into sex.

I think there are many people who can do that, talk about sexual stuff and everyday stuff within the same message. The problem is the many that cannot. I think that when people get the "naughty" messages from people they never talked to before they tend to stop looking at them. And, when they find most conversations turn that way and never curve back to the non-naughty stuff they move away as well.

 

[Jada59]

I think there are many people who can do that, talk about sexual stuff and everyday stuff within the same message. The problem is the many that cannot. I think that when people get the "naughty" messages from people they never talked to before they tend to stop looking at them. And, when they find most conversations turn that way and never curve back to the non-naughty stuff they move away as well.

Count me in! I have told several people here that if we ever did meet for real, we'd never have sex. We'd keep getting distracted by other things.

 

[rlaflamme]

Count me in! I have told several people here that if we ever did meet for real, we'd never have sex. We'd keep getting distracted by other things.

I actually believe that most would not actually have sex with someone they "play" with on here. I think the ability to taunt and tease through a messenger or email is what they find exciting. You have the ability to do more so to speak. We can stay well hidden and portray a whole new side of ourselves when we are on line. If and when the opportunity arises to actually meet, I believe most wouldn't bring it further than conversations.

 

[rlaflamme]

A few kind words can go a long way in brightening up someone's day. Take a little time, remain kind, and send a smile to someone.

 

[Orchidea73]

A few kind words can go a long way in brightening up someone's day. Take a little time, remain kind, and send a smile to someone.

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[rlaflamme]

https://i.imgur.com/Ja5l76T.jpg

Lol. Very true. I like to think most people are kind. The problem with many people is that they are not used to seeing kindness. Of course on a site like this kindness is often used to try to get more. That becomes an expectation and makes people not want to talk or really meet new people.

 

[rlaflamme]

Take some time today to think of someone else. It can be someone you know personally or someone you have seen around. Do they need help? Perhaps a few words of encouragement, a friendly smile, a helping hand.

We can do a lot of good in the world if we take a few moments each day to think of ways we can make another person smile. Just opening the door for someone can make their day be better. It doesn't take much. And your simple act of kindness may be paid forward, then that one is as well and the ball of kindness grows and grows. Your simple act not only brought a smile to that one person, but to so many that you don't know about. And that, is what it is all about. Making the world a little better for so many.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

Kindness and compassion go a long way in life. We should all strive to be a kind person. I know that many people begin to feel stilted or used when they are kind to others but we cannot let those that take advantage of those qualities remove them from us. Take time to relax, to think, to unwind and never lose those qualities.

Keep smiling.

 

[rlaflamme]

It is amazing how a real, simple conversation can help someone through the day. Sometimes we get caught up in everything and to have someone to just talk to, about anything, is a wonderful thing. Reach out and say hello to someone today. Just have a basic conversation and help them through the day

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

Life is to short to forget the basics of kindness. We can brighten a day for a person by doing the most simple of things. As you move around today think of things that were done for you, the little things, like someone holding a door for you or letting you out in traffic. It is these little things that can make a day better, lessen our frustrations and make us appreciate something. Kindness doesn't mean you have to give the shirt off your back to someone, but a simple smile can do wonders.

Keep smiling.