When Out Shopping

[Live42Day]

Hey there, I'm still learning the ropes here as a newer user and have been lurking here and there trying to get a feel for this enormous melting pot of people, stories, photos, opinions and everything in between.

One question I have is that when someone is looking to meet another person here for friendship, an internet romance, or naughty tryst what attributes of person do you think you want to make it successful? Do you subconsciously have in your mind that you want to meet someone that appeals to you as if you were going to meet them in person and have that physical attraction (knowing you may never even know what they look like) or are you attracted to their intelligence, wit, charm, empathy, ability to communicate, etc? Maybe it's both but do you have a picture in your mind of what you WANT them to look like?

I'm just curious, that's all. In my opinion there is beauty in everyone. What they look like is important, and if it matches what I think is attractive is a bonus. But connecting with the heart, mind, and soul are important too. If you are here just for a quickie, that might work just as well if both parties are into that. I suspect that happens here a just a little bit!

 

[Jada59]

I don't look either. When it happens. it just happens.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

If our personalities aren't compatible, it's not going to matter what they look like.

If our personalities are compatible, it's not going to matter what they look like.



Sexual chemistry for me isn't about their looks, it's about their brain.

 

[Live42Day]

That's a great way to look at it and approach it....if something happens, it's going to happen. Just let it be natural.

Personally, I'm not a shopper. I never went out looking for someone, so there was never a check list kind of thing. I don't believe in that. For me, you interact with no expectation and then you find that certain people have personalities that blend well with your own. From there, you find that you look forward to hearing from someone more than you probably should. And then you see that that someone is also looking forward to hearing from you. It’s a natural process, not a selection process, for me anyway.

 

[Modern_drunkard]

Pretty fuckin bummed this thread is not about wearing adult diapers when out shopping.

 

[Cyberbella]

Apparently I don't shop for people either... just bras and underthings... lol

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Oh, wait. We're shopping for people?

Okay, then. I decided about ten minutes ago that I need an IT guy. That would probably solve about 97% of my problems. Bonus points for a beard and glasses.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Incidental hook ups are mostly about sexual chemistry driven by mainly the body and the bare glimpse you get of the mind in a short period of time.

Longer relationships are driven by the mind/spirit.

I'm not a checklist kind of people shopper - I simply find that sort of behavior counter-productive. The checklist in action as I've seen it is usually used to rule people out. "Oh, she's not tall enough" sort of thing. People who take that approach tend to "pass" on way too many potential relationships.

 

[KinkyLaughs]

Pretty fuckin bummed this thread is not about wearing adult diapers when out shopping.

Me too. HaHa. Muh fuckin' OP.

 

[Acktion]

Shopping checklist?

Never had it.

https://img.youtube.com/vi/AXmc7DG4uu8/0.jpg

Never will.

When we clicked, we clicked. Until we didn't. And then it was time to let them gracefully ease on down the road.

About the only thing anything like a checkbox was that "some people for a season, some for a reason" thing started looking a lot like people were looking to the end of a relationship before it began, giving themselves permission to not try to make anything work, and I started giving those a wide berth rather than letting myself be another notch in their keyboard.

Other than that, you gotta be you, she gotta be she, he gotta be he, and I gotta be me. And trying to do anything other than allow that and accept it has just seemed like the definition of insanity. According to Einstein or anyone else.