Why do you think there are so many more men than women on here?

[chame1eon]

Why do you think there are so many more men than women on here?

 

[Deacon_Voss]

Why do you think there are so many more men than women on here?

Okay, so a man walks into a bar five minutes before closing time and says,

"Who wants to come home with me and fuck like crazy?"

The guy goes home alone. A woman walks into the bar at closing time and asked the same thing. She gets over run with offers.

 

[chame1eon]

Okay, so a man walks into a bar five minutes before closing time and says,

"Who wants to come home with me and fuck like crazy?"

The guy goes home alone. A woman walks into the bar at closing time and asked the same thing. She gets over run with offers.

Yeah but why?

It just doesn't seem like we're really that different.

 

[Deacon_Voss]

Yeah but why?

Because women don't have any trouble getting it in the real world, but men do. So you end up with desperate men coming to Lit, thinking it's easy to score some video or phone sex.

Then you have the normal peeps who come here for other reasons, and I think the balance is fairly normal among them.

 

[Bdm20]

Yeah but why?

Because pretty much any woman can find a man who wants to have sex any day of the week. And while there are certainly women here whose husbands aren’t interested in having sex with them, there are far more wives who have lost their libidos than husbands.

 

[dp4shelly]

Because women are branded as sluts if they enjoy sex

Society understands the sexual desires of men and makes women feel like they are cheap dirty sluts if they enjoy sex with multiple partners. Most of the women on Literotica are not interested in letting social "norms" control their libido. In a similar vein, way more men are into porn then women. But once a women gets past the social taboos the pleasure of so called porn is equally stimulating to women as it is to men. Think how warped it is. If a woman loves sex just as much as the average man people think of her as a nymphomaniac. But guys are just viewed as red blooded. I am glad that I figured this out a long time ago.

 

[chame1eon]

Because pretty much any woman can find a man who wants to have sex any day of the week. And while there are certainly women here whose husbands aren’t interested in having sex with them, there are far more wives who have lost their libidos than husbands.

So most people are here just to score sex?

I would think that that alone would be pretty unrewarding for most men here and they would eventually get bored and leave.

 

[chame1eon]

Society understands the sexual desires of men and makes women feel like they are cheap dirty sluts if they enjoy sex with multiple partners. Most of the women on Literotica are not interested in letting social "norms" control their libido. In a similar vein, way more men are into porn then women. But once a women gets past the social taboos the pleasure of so called porn is equally stimulating to women as it is to men. Think how warped it is. If a woman loves sex just as much as the average man people think of her as a nymphomaniac. But guys are just viewed as red blooded. I am glad that I figured this out a long time ago.

I was wondering if that had something to do with it.

 

[Bdm20]

So most people are here just to score sex?

I’m here not to score sex, but sometimes to talk about sex. I miss that. I miss the times when my wife would call me when I was on my way home and tell me what she was going to do to me when I got there. Things like that. Stories about her past. Stories about mine. She had no interest in any of that. I could t keep up with her when we were inour forties. Since menopause she has no interest. I’m hear chatting about sex instead of doing it IRL which could lead to things I’d regret.

 

[chame1eon]

I’m here not to score sex, but sometimes to talk about sex. I miss that. I miss the times when my wife would call me when I was on my way home and tell me what she was going to do to me when I got there. Things like that. Stories about her past. Stories about mine. She had no interest in any of that. I could t keep up with her when we were inour forties. Since menopause she has no interest. I’m hear chatting about sex instead of doing it IRL which could lead to things I’d regret.

I actually just like being able to talk about things that you are not supposed to openly and I find people and all their differences fascinating.

 

[Bdm20]

I actually just like being able to talk about things that you are not supposed to openly and I find people and all their differences fascinating.

I agree. I used it o be able to talk to my wife about absolutely anything. She had many, many lovers before we met and was open to trying anything. Now, we still have occasional sex but it always feels like she’s just doing me a favor and is not at all into it. She also doesn’t want to talk about anything sexual. I enjoy conversations I can have with anonymous women online.

 

[chame1eon]

I agree. I used it o be able to talk to my wife about absolutely anything. She had many, many lovers before we met and was open to trying anything. Now, we still have occasional sex but it always feels like she’s just doing me a favor and is not at all into it. She also doesn’t want to talk about anything sexual. I enjoy conversations I can have with anonymous women online.

That's not exactly the same.

It's more that society in general is overly restrictive and anything that subverts that is better.

Restrictions on sex are some of the most nonsensical.

Sex in general is a fascinating thing to talk about anyway.

 

[roseburgsteve]

because men are horny dogs and always wanting to get off. a lot of women want a connection of some sort. most men just want sex.

just my opinion

 

[Dribble]

I would love to see the demographic breakdown of this site. My gut feeling, the ratio of men to women new visitors is a lot more equal than people think. But i think women tend to fly more under the radar. Or they are bombarded w offers they didnt want and decided it wasnt worth it.

Good question. Cause the skew exists...and shouldn't

 

[chame1eon]

because men are horny dogs and always wanting to get off. a lot of women want a connection of some sort. most men just want sex.

just my opinion

Probably why gay communities are so wild.

 

[roseburgsteve]

Probably why gay communities are so wild.

yes fir the most part but not all guys are like that

 

[chame1eon]

yes fir the most part but not all guys are like that

Definately I know several.

 

[roseburgsteve]

Definately I know several.

so do i lol

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Good question. Cause the skew exists...and shouldn't

I think the skew makes sense. Men are more likely to be high drive and more likely to not be getting their needs met. I'm going to hazard a guess and say that they're also more likely to want kink, and less likely to need sex to be happening within a relationship, or in conjunction with a moderate degree of attachment. I'm going to go so far as to say that most male Litsters would rather not form any kind of romantic attachment to the people they meet (and fuck) here. Most, not all.

Because of the anonymity factor and the high degree of men who are married or otherwise relationally unavailable, Lit is inherently better equipped to meet the needs of men than it is to meet the needs of women, who are more likely to want the boyfriend experience.

So most people are here just to score sex?

I would think that that alone would be pretty unrewarding for most men here and they would eventually get bored and leave.

YES! A thousand times yes. Most men are here primarily for the wank fodder. I am genuinely surprised that you didn't know this already, i thought it was usually covered pretty extensively during a new female poster's first week by way of The Amazing Exploding Inbox. <shudder>

With regards to women, while i don't think most of us come looking to get twitterpated, we do prefer a more well-rounded experience.

I believe that the majority of men on Lit are reasonably happy in their offline relationships apart from the sexual aspect. They don't need attachment or romance or emotional intimacy because they're already getting that at home - or at least don't want to risk the consequences of an emotional affair. A decent amount of men have good sex lives as well, and are just here for more: more frequency, more variety. They're not getting bored because they're getting what they're here for: orgasms.

Obviously, this is not to say that all women want attachment and none of the men do, just that most men are looking to get off, and most women like a little more. YMMV.

 

[mulehead61]

I agree that it ties into guys thinking they’ll get an easy score with a woman here. But the women want a connection, not just phone or Skype sex. I see new guys just jumping all over the women here and it makes me cringe. I just want to tell them slow it down, be nice and if it happens it will. I came here because things weren’t happening at home - wasn’t necessarily looking to hook up but by following the things I mentioned above, it happened. There are lonely women here as well but you do need to make that connection.

 

[ydahecnot]

I knew what YMMV meant. Yay me.

I actually doubt most men, if that many at all, are getting what they came here for via cybering or Skype-ing. A lot of men don’t want to put in the work or learn the rules of the road to build a kind of relationship, and I don’t think there are that many women into casualness or multiples, and a lot of women get driven off early, probably. If you mean by those means, plus AmPics or stories, then perhaps it is closer to maybe half. I feel sure a lot of men drop off too if they don’t get jollies quick enough. And truly, a lot of men and women visit Lit less for the orgasms and more for other satisfactions, like friendships, intelligent discussions about sex, what have you. For me nowadays, paradoxically, it’s more about some friends, lyrics, the occasional discussions that intrigue me, and looking for openings to crack wise or like where this is going

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I knew what YMMV meant. Yay me.

I actually doubt most men, if that many at all, are getting what they came here for via cybering or Skype-ing. A lot of men don’t want to put in the work or learn the rules of the road to build a kind of relationship, and I don’t think there are that many women into casualness or multiples, and a lot of women get driven off early, probably. If you mean by those means, plus AmPics or stories, then perhaps it is closer to maybe half. I feel sure a lot of men drop off too if they don’t get jollies quick enough. And truly, a lot of men and women visit Lit less for the orgasms and more for other satisfactions, like friendships, intelligent discussions about sex, what have you. For me nowadays, paradoxically, it’s more about some friends, lyrics, the occasional discussions that intrigue me, and looking for openings to crack wise or like where this is going

Would you say this applies to the other boards as well as the PG?

I finally remember what YOLO means and don't have to ask my kid anymore. Yay me.

 

[ydahecnot]

Would you say this applies to the other boards as well as the PG?

I finally remember what YOLO means and don't have to ask my kid anymore. Yay me.

The only other board I really know is AmPics. I can’t speak for the darkroom part, but the main part seems to be exchanges with the people who are posting pics, so that would seem to be a different vibe, so to speak

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

You said vibe.

 

[ydahecnot]

Hence the “so to speak”