Root Causes for Fetishes

[Kaadee]

Not to get all Psychology 101, but I have always attempted to work out what causes fetishes in the first place. I have quite a substantial bondage fetish and have had so for as long as I can remember. I've always wondered what caused it. For instance, as a toddler I was led around by my parents on one of those little harness things, to avoid me running off. Did that subconsciously contribute to a fetish forming? Who knows, but I've spoken to at least one partner with similar desires who had the same childhood experience.

I saw the Quicksand thread here today, and thought to myself "what caused that fetish, I wonder". It's quite niche, but not the first time I've encountered it, as it is sometimes linked with bondage. Is it the helplessness of the victim? The slowly rising sense of peril? The fact an attractive victim is covered head to foot in something? Perhaps the fact every other kids show when I was growing up seemed to include a quicksand scene somewhere. You don't encounter it much in real life.

Anyway, I'd be interested on people's thoughts regarding this. What is your fetish, and what do you think might have caused it?

 

[dashie33]

Freud once attributed the origin of fetishes to, "That moment a young boy looks at his sister/mother naked, discovers the lack of penis, then looks elsewhere." Basically, the first thing he sees after that will be his fetish.

(Good ol' Freud conveniently ignoring female sexuality.)

Still, though, he was right with the idea that fetishes form early. Remember all those foot-tickling scenes in cartoons? The quicksand, that you mentioned, too. Hell, Totally Spies is insanely popular with adults since the girls are subjected to nearly every bondage fetish in the book!

 

[Kaadee]

Hell, Totally Spies is insanely popular with adults since the girls are subjected to nearly every bondage fetish in the book!

Second time I've seen someone mention Totally Spies today on the subject of fetishes. He mentioned there are sexy cat girls in one episode, and girl-on-girl face licking in another. I have never seen the show, I think it was the wrong age to catch it at the right time. Might be worth checking out?

 

[dashie33]

Second time I've seen someone mention Totally Spies today on the subject of fetishes. He mentioned there are sexy cat girls in one episode, and girl-on-girl face licking in another. I have never seen the show, I think it was the wrong age to catch it at the right time. Might be worth checking out?

Oh, yeah, it's definitely worth checking out. It's also just a fun show, too, with some neat little subversions of the spy formula.

 

[Kaadee]

Oh, yeah, it's definitely worth checking out. It's also just a fun show, too, with some neat little subversions of the spy formula.

Sheesh. I know sometimes stuff looks suspicious out of context, but that screams a creator who has some particular interests.

 

[CandK_inSE]

I don’t know if this counts as a fetish or not, but I happen to go crazy over cheerleaders. My wife has a cheerleader costume that she wears for role play dates.

I think it might stem from being attracted to the cheerleaders in high school but knowing I never had a chance with any of them.

 

[whenagain]

Probably depends on the fetish. . .

 

[Abbafan]

Good question. I never spent much time thinking about some of this stuff like incest until I came across a story on the internet. I definitely had a reaction to it, though.

 

[GD88]

I have a panty fetish. I've tried on panties, I've smelled used panties, but those aren't the roots of my fetish. The root is the curiosity of what a person is like sexually.

To me what has always been a turn on about panties is the glimpse (At least the perceived glimpse) that I get at what the person is like behind closed doors (ie. sexually). What does it say about serious female superior at the office that likes to wear her pantsuits when from the peeks and glimpses that I've had, it turns out that she likes her lacy thong underwear? What about the office's hot chick having a preference for white cotton panties or seeing a quiet and unassuming female friend purchasing a crotchless panties at a lingerie store?

The turn on lies in knowing what a person is like when they're out and about and using their panties to try and guess what they're like sexually when they're by themselves or with a lover.

 

[LekaSveta]

I've got a pretty intense incest fetish directed towards the female members of my immediate family (I'm a lesbian) and I've always wondered if it had anything to with the fact my mother, my sister, and myself had to be very close so we could survive my physically and mentally abusive biological father. He would constantly try and play us against each other, if he was mad at my mother he would beat me up the whole time telling her it was her fault that he had to do that!

 

[Midnight_sprite]

Not to get all Psychology 101, but I have always attempted to work out what causes fetishes in the first place. I have quite a substantial bondage fetish and have had so for as long as I can remember. I've always wondered what caused it. For instance, as a toddler I was led around by my parents on one of those little harness things, to avoid me running off. Did that subconsciously contribute to a fetish forming? Who knows, but I've spoken to at least one partner with similar desires who had the same childhood experience.

I saw the Quicksand thread here today, and thought to myself "what caused that fetish, I wonder". It's quite niche, but not the first time I've encountered it, as it is sometimes linked with bondage. Is it the helplessness of the victim? The slowly rising sense of peril? The fact an attractive victim is covered head to foot in something? Perhaps the fact every other kids show when I was growing up seemed to include a quicksand scene somewhere. You don't encounter it much in real life.

Anyway, I'd be interested on people's thoughts regarding this. What is your fetish, and what do you think might have caused it?

Haha, but you are asking for psychology 101. There are series of documenatries trying to explain it, papers written on it and numerous theories. I believe some fetish stem from human nature and can be explained somewhat, yet some others have no real root or causes and we are told to just enjoy it.

For example, a study in the 1960s showed a group of men images of naked women alongside images of boots. Eventually, the men became aroused by the images of boots all by themselves. There's also the theory that if an object was pleasant or salient to an early sexual experience, we may associate that object with sex, and some will continue to use this object to elicit a sexual response later in life. There are also theories on the biological reasoning behind why certain individuals will seek pain during sex, or have a thing for feet, but I won't go through them here.

Other fetishes might be related to thrill seeking and the high we get from it. Again, there are biological reasonings behind it, to do with our ancient mode of flight or fight responses, quite interesting, at least to me.

And yes, I've wondered about my own fetishes/kinks and looked for reasons behind them. I was actually quite disappointed when I realised what the reasons were, plain, common and not a bit mysterious. Alas, such is life .

 

[screwher]

My fetish is married women having sex with other men. Years ago my wife cheated on me. That kick started fantasies of other men fucking her. And fantasizing about Wives in general getting laid. I secretly hoped she’d stray again. When she did we decided as a couple she’d continue having sex with other men.

 

[Jada59]

It's something that happens during a time that I can't discuss here. For instance, a guy sees lingerie and has sexual feelings. He then connects the lingerie with sex.

 

[SquidProQuo]

I have a Daddy fetish and I certainly never got over it.

 

[Justfantasies]

I have a Daddy fetish and I certainly never got over it.

Meaning that you like older men or you are actually attracted to your father?

 

[Justfantasies]

I have a skirt fetish -- no idea where it cam from but dates back to puberty

 

[Sunnyade]

I think most fetish behaviour has a trigger event. Something which causes an experience to be associated with a sexual activity.

 

[SquidProQuo]

Meaning that you like older men or you are actually attracted to your father?

Probably both. I have a lot of issues. I am jealous of my professor's daughter. I'm really a mess.

 

[Justfantasies]

Probably both. I have a lot of issues. I am jealous of my professor's daughter. I'm really a mess.

You don't sound a mess; just a person with unusual tastes


Why the jealousy?

 

[SquidProQuo]

You don't sound a mess; just a person with unusual tastes


Why the jealousy?

I once saw them together walking on campus and something in me snapped. It made me wish I was in her place. He's mentioned her daughter in class before but seeing them together made me sad and possessive, because she'd have him in a way I never will. I have had a crush on this professor for years. I still don't really know what prompts my jealousy to this day. I rarely shared this to anyone up until recently.

 

[Justfantasies]

I once saw them together walking on campus and something in me snapped. It made me wish I was in her place. He's mentioned her daughter in class before but seeing them together made me sad and possessive, because she'd have him in a way I never will. I have had a crush on this professor for years. I still don't really know what prompts my jealousy to this day. I rarely shared this to anyone up until recently.

If he approached you would you sleep with him? My first wife used to tell me about all the professors she banged at college. I had a GF who used to do her professors and left me for one of them

 

[SquidProQuo]

If he approached you would you sleep with him? My first wife used to tell me about all the professors she banged at college. I had a GF who used to do her professors and left me for one of them

I definitely would. I've seen his wife before too. It's such a small big city. I've obsessed over my former professor for years. He's my ultimate fantasy.

 

[Justfantasies]

I definitely would. I've seen his wife before too. It's such a small big city. I've obsessed over my former professor for years. He's my ultimate fantasy.

Oh have a nice affair then. It's just sex, honey.

 

[SquidProQuo]

Oh have a nice affair then. It's just sex, honey.

I'll probably never get to have sex with him. It is just always going to be a fantasy.

 

[LekaSveta]

I have a Daddy fetish and I certainly never got over it.

There's nothing wrong with that, we have a family friend who has a Daddy fetish, she and her dad were in a romantic relationship for close to 20 years until he passed away and she's quite open about that and the fact that she's attracted to guys who remind her of him.

I can't comment about the whole professor thing, college was not an option for me and none of my high school teacher were either endearing or attractive! I did have a dance instructor that I can't talk about here though.