Sex and Love

[Islander55]

I think with any relationship, you need to decide what you want from it and find out what the other expects of you. I have been married over 40 years and we have a strong and loving relationship. And yes we have had a lot of good sex over the years with each other and with others. If I date another man, my husband and I know it is just for sex and I need to make sure the other man is looking for the same thing. In any relationship you need good communication so everyone knows what to expect. If two people are just looking for sex, it can be very satisfying but you can't have one just looking for sex and the other looking for love.

 

[Live4themoments]

Without reducing my respect for other opinions, I agree with this. love is love, sex is sex. love with all its tenderness as a glue to build a committed relationship between husband and wife. Meanwhile, sex, with all its variations and fantasies, tends to be full of violence to achieve sexual pleasure. I can't imagine when I get gentle sex treatment, like slowmotion. I couldn't orgasm for two days. Meaning: sexual pleasure is obtained through violence

Interesting, and I agree with the exception that at least for me sex has nothing to do with violence or aggression. Sex is when 2 people connect in a way to help each other achieve physical satisfaction and enjoyment, without the commitments of a relationship. We value each other for who we are, which is different than love sex. Good point though.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

I think you can have sex without love. I also think you can have love without sex.

Exactly

 

[Mike130]

The Liar and the baby with the childish behaviour is You!

And people will see, that now!

Do You make jokes of all the people here? Do You think, we are all Idiots!

I think you are not real, and I am angry, no furious! What things you write!
Btw Your Avatar pic, is stolen I think from the internet!

If You not understand „sub“ why you talk about it? And sorry, you seem really live in the clouds, when with 25! You never heard about any of this


You should be aware, she not will answer because she believes what You think, she only does because she is a liar!


Look how in every writing, she plays exactly a role! Once she is a "sub" next time she not know anything about subs and bdsm!
And so on, and because I told her she is a liar and not real, all she can say is to be rude and awful!




Thread 'What is the difference between bondage and fetish?' https://forum.literotica.com/threads/what-is-the-difference-between-bondage-and-fetish.1640442/

Well, not sure how this started, but in Literotica, I don’t think we always take strangers at face value. As has been pointed out before, many of the people posing as women on here are actually men. Hopefully nobody is looking for a real romantic connection.

That said, Ms (or Mr, if you prefer) Lee brings up some valid points about sex and love and we should probably just look at it as a philosophical discussion in this thread. I personally don’t care if the persona associated with Ms/Mr Lee is real or fake, I’m not here to make a personal connection. But if you have some proof that Ms/Mr Lee is impersonating someone else (I have not seen the pictures) then by all means, please report it, it will make us all safer, and thank you for your vigilance!

 

[Britva415]

I think sex because of love will eventually become a boring routine

If "love" is the only reason for the sex, then it's already boring as hell.

But "sex because of love" isn't the only way for two in-love people to have sex with each other. They can also love sex, and love sex with each other, in ways which don't have to do with whether they love each other or not.

A person who doesn't love sex but will have sex with someone they love just because they love them... and still not loving sex... Yeah, that's going to be boring and it might be incompatible with a person who actually loves sex.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I've had experiences with all kinds of love.
I've been infatuated with a man and not have sex with him, even given the opportunity.
And I've definitely had boring sex during a one night stand.

I don't need an emotional connection to fuck someone. In fact, one of my kinks is fucking strangers.

But when I LOVE somebody..I go all in. I can't really half ass love a person..

 

[JimDee676]

I think a longterm, committed relationship to be successful requires some kind of physical and sexual intimacy. It doesn't necessarily need to be headboard-banging sex but there needs to be some sort of intimacy where you're vulnerable and intimate with your partner.

I'm divorced and my ex and stopped having sex about 10 years before our marriage collapsed and we separated. It was due to a number of things.

I'm currently involved with another great lady. She's three years younger than me. We're both in our 60s. We make it a point to talk often, share our views, and, when we're critical of each other, we never insult each other. As a result, she makes me a better person. She says I've done the same for her. We're one another's biggest cheerleaders and life coaches.

We still have sex but it's not as often as it once was. But we do make it a point to find time to lay in bed nude, hold one another, talk, cuddle, sometimes sleep. It's our time for us, when we shut out the world. It's contributed to our having a very strong, very committed and very loving relationship with one another.

 

[Dirtygirlndeer]

You can love someone but sex is the glue that holds it together. I used to do divorce work when I practiced law. As long as a couple continued to have sex, there was hope for the marriage. When a couple stopped having sex, it was finished. They might continue to be room mates together and there might even be love but the marriage was over.

Sounds like my last marriage.

 

[droberts44]

Sounds like my last marriage.

Yes, I sleepover and date my X, but no sex. She is good company, and a medical doctor. Once you start fucking a woman, it all changes, and not for the better.

 

[droberts44]

I think a longterm, committed relationship to be successful requires some kind of physical and sexual intimacy. It doesn't necessarily need to be headboard-banging sex but there needs to be some sort of intimacy where you're vulnerable and intimate with your partner.

I'm divorced and my ex and stopped having sex about 10 years before our marriage collapsed and we separated. It was due to a number of things.

I'm currently involved with another great lady. She's three years younger than me. We're both in our 60s. We make it a point to talk often, share our views, and, when we're critical of each other, we never insult each other. As a result, she makes me a better person. She says I've done the same for her. We're one another's biggest cheerleaders and life coaches.

We still have sex but it's not as often as it once was. But we do make it a point to find time to lay in bed nude, hold one another, talk, cuddle, sometimes sleep. It's our time for us, when we shut out the world. It's contributed to our having a very strong, very committed and very loving relationship with one another.

Right; I cuddle with my X, no sex......

 

[droberts44]

2 old folks, trying to keep each other out of the home...

 

[Sexywhispersforu]

I've had several discussions with friends. Most of them have sex because they love it. But I believe that love is love, as it binds the commitment of a human relationship. And sex is sex, as a means of recreation to refresh love. Because I think sex because of love will eventually become a boring routine... What about you?

Agree- Sex is an expression of physical and emotional needs n desires between two or three ..love is about another dimension of partnership extending beyond sex … but sex is essential in the package of partnership 100%

 

[Sexywhispersforu]

Without reducing my respect for other opinions, I agree with this. love is love, sex is sex. love with all its tenderness as a glue to build a committed relationship between husband and wife. Meanwhile, sex, with all its variations and fantasies, tends to be full of violence to achieve sexual pleasure. I can't imagine when I get gentle sex treatment, like slowmotion. I couldn't orgasm for two days. Meaning: sexual pleasure is obtained through violence

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