Sex and Love

Haida_lee

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I've had several discussions with friends. Most of them have sex because they love it. But I believe that love is love, as it binds the commitment of a human relationship. And sex is sex, as a means of recreation to refresh love. Because I think sex because of love will eventually become a boring routine... What about you?
 
When my wife of many years and I have sex, we make love. We love on each other sexually even if orgasms don't happen. We make sure it doesn't get boring. When she had sex with others in college and other times, it was always just an act for physical pleasure. She readily admitted that she just enjoyed "having a hard cock in her pussy." There was no love other than friendship in that sex.
 
I tend to separate the two. Love is love, in all it's tender glory. Sex is sex. Sometimes the two tangle up, but they don't need too.
 
Without reducing my respect for other opinions, I agree with this. love is love, sex is sex. love with all its tenderness as a glue to build a committed relationship between husband and wife. Meanwhile, sex, with all its variations and fantasies, tends to be full of violence to achieve sexual pleasure. I can't imagine when I get gentle sex treatment, like slowmotion. I couldn't orgasm for two days. Meaning: sexual pleasure is obtained through violence 😁😁😁😁😁
 
I tend to separate the two. Love is love, in all it's tender glory. Sex is sex. Sometimes the two tangle up, but they don't need too.
Without reducing my respect for other opinions, I agree with this. love is love, sex is sex. love with all its tenderness as a glue to build a committed relationship between husband and wife. Meanwhile, sex, with all its variations and fantasies, tends to be full of violence to achieve sexual pleasure. I can't imagine when I get gentle sex treatment, like slowmotion. I couldn't orgasm for two days. Meaning: sexual pleasure is obtained through violence 😁😁😁😁😁
 
I've had several discussions with friends. Most of them have sex because they love it. But I believe that love is love, as it binds the commitment of a human relationship. And sex is sex, as a means of recreation to refresh love. Because I think sex because of love will eventually become a boring routine... What about you?
I’ve had sex with women just for sex, and I’ve also been in love. It’s a complicated subject. Sex is more physical, love more emotional. I love my wife and love having sex with her. Emotional and physical. And sexual lust for her hasn’t faded in 30 years, it’s not boring at all, in fact, sometimes it’s more intense because we know how to please each other.

Would I mind if she had sex with another guy? Not at all. I only want her happiness and satisfaction. As long as the sex is physical only. There’s a difference between lust and love. She knows the difference.
 
You can love someone but sex is the glue that holds it together. I used to do divorce work when I practiced law. As long as a couple continued to have sex, there was hope for the marriage. When a couple stopped having sex, it was finished. They might continue to be room mates together and there might even be love but the marriage was over.
 
Interesting point! I agree that love and sex can be connected, but they don’t have to be the same. Love brings trust, while sex keeps the spark alive. If it’s always the same, it risks becoming routine. That’s why it helps to explore - a new setting, playful roleplay, or surprising each other with sexy lingerie, bodystockings or a daring babydoll to keep passion fresh.
 
I’ve had sex with women just for sex, and I’ve also been in love. It’s a complicated subject. Sex is more physical, love more emotional. I love my wife and love having sex with her. Emotional and physical. And sexual lust for her hasn’t faded in 30 years, it’s not boring at all, in fact, sometimes it’s more intense because we know how to please each other.

Would I mind if she had sex with another guy? Not at all. I only want her happiness and satisfaction. As long as the sex is physical only. There’s a difference between lust and love. She knows the difference.
That's right... because it seems our ancestors instilled morality in us, but it turns out many of us wear a mask of morality to cover up our wild sexual desires. Our choice is whether to be a hypocrite or an honest person.
 
I've had several discussions with friends. Most of them have sex because they love it. But I believe that love is love, as it binds the commitment of a human relationship. And sex is sex, as a means of recreation to refresh love. Because I think sex because of love will eventually become a boring routine... What about you?
Well then I hope, your husband, who as it seems not satisfy you with multiple orgasm, is not bored with you either
 
I've had several discussions with friends. Most of them have sex because they love it. But I believe that love is love, as it binds the commitment of a human relationship. And sex is sex, as a means of recreation to refresh love. Because I think sex because of love will eventually become a boring routine... What about you?
Without reducing my respect for other opinions, I agree with this. love is love, sex is sex. love with all its tenderness as a glue to build a committed relationship between husband and wife. Meanwhile, sex, with all its variations and fantasies, tends to be full of violence to achieve sexual pleasure. I can't imagine when I get gentle sex treatment, like slowmotion. I couldn't orgasm for two days. Meaning: sexual pleasure is obtained through violence 😁😁😁😁😁
That's right... because it seems our ancestors instilled morality in us, but it turns out many of us wear a mask of morality to cover up our wild sexual desires. Our choice is whether to be a hypocrite or an honest person.

Well, it only shows me, you are the covered one here, with all your fake words…..

Seems, you not know and never will know, what it feels sex with love! Because then, you not needed to play the innocent, who not knows anything about, bdsm and all what you not understand, as in your other thread….
This You wrote, in the bdsm thread!
I'm confused by terms in the world of sex. For example, bondage, BDSM, fetish, hardcore. For me, as long as it doesn't hurt the body, it's okay. All those terms don't matter to me, because the ultimate goal is orgasm. Just like I've always done. Here are some of my photos; please indicate what type of sex they are...

My photo
 
Well, it only shows me, you are the covered one here, with all your fake words…..

Seems, you not know and never will know, what it feels sex with love! Because then, you not needed to play the innocent, who not knows anything about, bdsm and all what you not understand, as in your other thread….
This You wrote, in the bdsm thread!
what do you mean???? ... if I'm the one who is constrained, is it detrimental to you??? .. what I threw into the discussion is a fact. please express your opinion ... I'm surprised there are people who are angry without knowing the cause. it seems like you are a hothead who likes to look for problems by finding fault with others. I think many people don't like you because of your arrogant character. actually it's easy, you don't like ..... shut up!!!!!
 
what do you mean???? ... if I'm the one who is constrained, is it detrimental to you??? .. what I threw into the discussion is a fact. please express your opinion ... I'm surprised there are people who are angry without knowing the cause. it seems like you are a hothead who likes to look for problems by finding fault with others. I think many people don't like you because of your arrogant character. actually it's easy, you don't like ..... shut up!!!!!
Nice, You are come out of your lying shell, I like your answer, it shows You are fake! All You say is fake and You not understand anything, I know when I see an unreal person as You are!

I know, exactly what I said, but You not seem to understand 🤣🤣🤣🤣
 
what do you mean???? ... if I'm the one who is constrained, is it detrimental to you??? .. what I threw into the discussion is a fact. please express your opinion ... I'm surprised there are people who are angry without knowing the cause. it seems like you are a hothead who likes to look for problems by finding fault with others. I think many people don't like you because of your arrogant character. actually it's easy, you don't like ..... shut up!!!!!
I have reported you, because you are the rude one, and another thing, arrogant are people like You! Who not answer all the people who write you in your silly liar threads and not like You because You think you not need to follow anyone!

All these things shows, You are not real!
 
That's right... because it seems our ancestors instilled morality in us, but it turns out many of us wear a mask of morality to cover up our wild sexual desires. Our choice is whether to be a hypocrite or an honest person.
You’ve hit it precisely, the mask of morality. To fit into what’s expected of us by society and our spouse. But most of us have ravenous sexual desires. It would be so good to act on them without judgement, especially if our spouse agreed with our desires…
 
I have reported you, because you are the rude one, and another thing, arrogant are people like You! Who not answer all the people who write you in your silly liar threads and not like You because You think you not need to follow anyone!

All these things shows, You are not real!
very childish.... just because I didn't reply to your comment....baby behavior
 
very childish.... just because I didn't reply to your comment....baby behavior

The Liar and the baby with the childish behaviour is You!

And people will see, that now!

Do You make jokes of all the people here? Do You think, we are all Idiots!

I think you are not real, and I am angry, no furious! What things you write!
Btw Your Avatar pic, is stolen I think from the internet!

If You not understand „sub“ why you talk about it? And sorry, you seem really live in the clouds, when with 25! You never heard about any of this

You’ve hit it precisely, the mask of morality. To fit into what’s expected of us by society and our spouse. But most of us have ravenous sexual desires. It would be so good to act on them without judgement, especially if our spouse agreed with our desires…
You should be aware, she not will answer because she believes what You think, she only does because she is a liar!


Look how in every writing, she plays exactly a role! Once she is a "sub" next time she not know anything about subs and bdsm!
And so on, and because I told her she is a liar and not real, all she can say is to be rude and awful!


I'm confused by terms in the world of sex. For example, bondage, BDSM, fetish, hardcore. For me, as long as it doesn't hurt the body, it's okay. All those terms don't matter to me, because the ultimate goal is orgasm. Just like I've always done. Here are some of my photos; please indicate what type of sex they are...

My photo

Thread 'What is the difference between bondage and fetish?' https://forum.literotica.com/threads/what-is-the-difference-between-bondage-and-fetish.1640442/
 
Oh, what will you write tomorrow? I'm already excited!

I suggest that tomorrow you are a virgin who grew up in a convent and has never masturbated. You reported your husband because he wanted to stick his hard cock in your mouth on your wedding night!
And you ask the people here what blowjob means!
 
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