I personally was shocked at myself, when I carefully responded to my sub's first request to hurt her, and she received the (mild to moderate) pain with excited whimpers, that I was extremely turned on. Was I / am I a sadist? Who can say: it is only in the context of a request or a desire that the pleasure on my part makes sense, so probably I am not. But the deep and profound mutuality of the experience astonished, delighted and educated me.
Inflicting pain
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Q: How does a sadist reply to a masochist’s begging to be hurt?
A: He says, “No.”
OK, small joke. In reality, from what you have said, the two of you were engaging in a mutually-consensual game and I get the impression you would have stopped had she asked. For a true sadist, consensus or permission is irrelevant.
Bottom line: She enjoyed herself, you enjoyed yourself, nobody got injured, there were no emergency vehicles on scene, it’s all good and don’t let labels get in the way.
Hope you gave her a hug afterward.
A: He says, “No.”
OK, small joke. In reality, from what you have said, the two of you were engaging in a mutually-consensual game and I get the impression you would have stopped had she asked. For a true sadist, consensus or permission is irrelevant.
Bottom line: She enjoyed herself, you enjoyed yourself, nobody got injured, there were no emergency vehicles on scene, it’s all good and don’t let labels get in the way.
Hope you gave her a hug afterward.
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Was this a recent experience? If so, congratulations!, you are taking it much better than I did. At first it was like you said: he asked, I did it, no big deal. But when after a while I realised that I did not want to stop when he asked me to, I freaked out. I completely refused to do any impact play for the next two years because I did not like what it did to me. By now it is ok -- we can play and if I feel that I srart to enjoy it a bit too much, we take a break.
Recent, yes. No problem with being in control, for me.
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Being in control, inflicting pain, and liking to inflict pain are three very different things in my book. The first two I did not have problems with either.
It's the thrill - for BOTH parties - that was also shocking but only for the giver, not the receiver
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Does the label matter? It seems from my reading that, to you, it doesn't - so long as everyone is happy.
I'd say that anyone who enjoys inflicting pain is at least a little bit of a sadist, but I'd also say that it's 100% up to them to self-identify, and determine where their pleasure comes from.
I'd say that anyone who enjoys inflicting pain is at least a little bit of a sadist, but I'd also say that it's 100% up to them to self-identify, and determine where their pleasure comes from.
