Sub Too Giggly

[KPaulNeilson]

Relatively new Sub that's more experienced than myself.
We have fun but she doesn't take the scene too seriously, mostly giggling and talking through a lot of it. It throws me off my concentration and, she tries to be serious some times, but she has a hard time keeping the mood. Opinions? Options? Is it just me?
She's a good friend in addition to being a good Sub, it's just a personality conflict. She's experienced enough to bounce back, even like any punishment so I'd be crossing the line pushing past hurting to harming (which I'd never do) I I tried to really punish.

 

[seela]

Relatively new Sub that's more experienced than myself.
We have fun but she doesn't take the scene too seriously, mostly giggling and talking through a lot of it. It throws me off my concentration and, she tries to be serious some times, but she has a hard time keeping the mood. Opinions? Options? Is it just me?
She's a good friend in addition to being a good Sub, it's just a personality conflict. She's experienced enough to bounce back, even like any punishment so I'd be crossing the line pushing past hurting to harming (which I'd never do) I I tried to really punish.

A few things come to mind.

A lot of people giggle and get chatty when they're nervous. Maybe that's what's going on with her as well. Or maybe she's using the giggling and talking as a way to get you to be rougher. It's not the ideal way to do it, but might be the case.

In any case, talking about it with her would be advisable. There's also a thread about BDSM and humor, which might be a good and useful read to you.

(And I also have to add that I'm not thrilled with the title you gave to this thread. BDSM is supposed to make you happy, so you saying your sub is "too happy" rubs me wrong. )

 

[AnnieLit]

Have you considered using a gag? It will not help much with giggling, but will sure cut down on the chatting.

As for the impact being an ineffective punishment... Of course it is not! Either she will love it and ask for more or it will be too much and she will safe word out of it. This is the thing with punishments like that, you can go only as far as your sub lets you. You two can pretend all you want, but you can't really punish her like that.

And what Seela said: there is no such thing as sub being too happy.

PS: I never managed not to giggle either, not that I even try. I lough not at Him, but at the whole situation, because when you think about it, it is rather funny -- a stronger person is throwing some rather painfull stuff at a weaker one and she absolutely loves it! My Dom did not mind it, but did not get either.

 

[Conager]

Perhaps because I have never been with a "sub" as opposed to a woman who is by nature submissive, I can't imagine engaging in sexual play that is not playful and communicative. I am inherently verbal; it would be weird for me to be with a mute.

 

[Blase]

It sounds like the two of you are just not a good match if:

1: You're not getting the reaction you expect or want and

2: The reaction you are getting is throwing you off your game.

 

[KPaulNeilson]

Forgive. Y'all are right about the title.
Sub too Giggly?

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Forgive. Y'all are right about the title.
Sub too Giggly?

Want me to edit?

 

[Lascivity]

If it's just giggling, then a gag might help. If it's a more general problem with the way she reacts, and the way she reacts is what is comfortable and happy for her when playing, it may be just that you're ways of playing aren't too compatible.

Perhaps you can reach a compromise - she could try taking things a little more seriously, and you could try... well... not. If you can meet in the middle, great - but it may just be that you don't line up well with one another.

 

[KPaulNeilson]

Want me to edit?

Please!

 

[Muwarr90]

As a wise person once said... "If you're never laughing during sex , you're doing it wrong".