Girlfriends reaction to her ex getting engaged

[betamale30]

My girlfriends ex got engaged last night and ever since she has found out she is acting angry and depressed.. There have been times in our relationship ive suspected they might have more then just a friendship still, and now the fact that she seems to be upset about him getting engaged makes me more suspect.. Women am i over thinking this and is it normal to be upset about an ex getting married if nothing was going on between you? Men how would you feel about her acting this way?

 

[Nicodolin]

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[Cognantreverie]

I remember how I felt when my FWB got engaged. I was angry, depressed, ashamed a while gambit of feelings. I was seeing other people and yet his engagement threw me. In truth it was because I wanted him to myself, he could fuck who he wanted but his heart was mine. It hurt to find out otherwise. I will let you draw your own conclusions on to what your girlfriend may be feeling but when it happened to me it hurt because I had feelings.

 

[Shi_One81]

Speaking as someone who’s had several ex’s get engaged AFTER I’d dated them, you think there’s something wrong with you or you’re defective in some way. I don’t think she’s cheated at all or even still has those kinds of feelings for him. I think it’s her wondering “what does she have that I don’t/didn’t.”

I was engaged when I found out my ex bf got engaged to the chick he left me for and it fucking HURT! It didn’t hurt because I was still in love with him or wanted to be with him, it hurt because I have him everything I had and was never even told “I love you” and then this person comes along and not only gets his love but also gets to be with him forever. It hurts. But, it doesn’t mean you’ve cheated.

Women are emotional creatures, we just are. *

 

[jharp]

My girlfriends ex got engaged last night and ever since she has found out she is acting angry and depressed.. There have been times in our relationship ive suspected they might have more then just a friendship still, and now the fact that she seems to be upset about him getting engaged makes me more suspect.. Women am i over thinking this and is it normal to be upset about an ex getting married if nothing was going on between you? Men how would you feel about her acting this way?

Your handle name is clearly apt, as this is clear Beta male behavior. Your girl, clearly still had feelings for her ex and its full on display here. I don't know the situation between you two, but from what you describe it seems she's still not over him.
Even if she legitimately cares for you the fact is she was intimate with him and unless she's had 50 miles of cock run through her then she's still on some level still has feelings for him.

Why were you letting her have any sort of relation with him to begin with? That is a big no no. my girlfriend now, I made it very clear I wouldn't tolerate her having contact with her Ex's. Ex's, whether boyfriends or girlfriends can sow confusion and conflict in a relationship. When you make a break it needs to be clean. This clearly is not the case here.

You need to have a serious talk with her and get this out in the open. Don't hide your feelings and don't let her hide yours. It will cause problems.

 

[Asian_Flower]

Speaking as someone who’s had several ex’s get engaged AFTER I’d dated them, you think there’s something wrong with you or you’re defective in some way. I don’t think she’s cheated at all or even still has those kinds of feelings for him. I think it’s her wondering “what does she have that I don’t/didn’t.”

I was engaged when I found out my ex bf got engaged to the chick he left me for and it fucking HURT! It didn’t hurt because I was still in love with him or wanted to be with him, it hurt because I have him everything I had and was never even told “I love you” and then this person comes along and not only gets his love but also gets to be with him forever. It hurts. But, it doesn’t mean you’ve cheated.

Women are emotional creatures, we just are. *

Oh so this!

 

[Twitche]

Speaking as someone who’s had several ex’s get engaged AFTER I’d dated them, you think there’s something wrong with you or you’re defective in some way. I don’t think she’s cheated at all or even still has those kinds of feelings for him. I think it’s her wondering “what does she have that I don’t/didn’t.”

I was engaged when I found out my ex bf got engaged to the chick he left me for and it fucking HURT! It didn’t hurt because I was still in love with him or wanted to be with him, it hurt because I have him everything I had and was never even told “I love you” and then this person comes along and not only gets his love but also gets to be with him forever. It hurts. But, it doesn’t mean you’ve cheated.

Women are emotional creatures, we just are. *

Yep ^^^ this. When my ex got engaged, we had been apart for 2 years. I hadn’t thought about him AT ALL. I went through a whole host of emotions. We gals can be like that without there being any thing else going on. Heck, I sometimes get depressed and stand-offish once a month for no good reason other than hormones. It is what it is.

 

[HoneyBrunette]

Hi agree with Shi_one81 and the others who agree with her.

I was so hurt when a friend told me his gf was pregnant. I've never been into him like that! Never slept with him.Never even kissed him... but i was in a funk for about a week. I dont even want kids.
But it was a questionning of myself. Why her? Why is she better than me? etc...

I would probably be the same if an ex got engaged.

 

[CandK_inSE]

Hi agree with Shi_one81 and the others who agree with her.

I was so hurt when a friend told me his gf was pregnant. I've never been into him like that! Never slept with him.Never even kissed him... but i was in a funk for about a week. I dont even want kids.
But it was a questionning of myself. Why her? Why is she better than me? etc...

I would probably be the same if an ex got engaged.

Wife here.

My husband had a female friend. I'll call her D. She "friend zoned" him on their second "date". Why? Who knows why we women do things like that. D, though, seemed to do that to any guy that treated her well. My husband said that constantly throughout their friendship that she'd date someone for a month or two, get treated like absolute shit, then come crying to him about it. He would tell her that she has men who like her who wouldn't treat her that way. She would find ways to rebuff the advances. Meanwhile, any time he was dating someone, she would try to insert herself into their relationship. He finally got pissed off to the point where he cut off contact with D until she matured enough to respect boundaries, which never really happened.

During this time, we met. Three months into our relationship, we both knew that this was probably going to be forever. We were out shopping for his niece's Christmas gifts and D happened to be in the same store. He saw her, and introduced her to me. She could have killed me with her stare and ice cold greeting. I interpreted it as HOW DARE YOU TAKE HIM FROM ME!

My husband never had any physical relationship with D. She never wanted any. Yet she acted like this when her supposed friend introduced her to his girlfriend.

 

[screwher]

My girlfriends ex got engaged last night and ever since she has found out she is acting angry and depressed.. There have been times in our relationship ive suspected they might have more then just a friendship still, and now the fact that she seems to be upset about him getting engaged makes me more suspect.. Women am i over thinking this and is it normal to be upset about an ex getting married if nothing was going on between you? Men how would you feel about her acting this way?

It sounds like an ego thing - "He dared move on without me. I don't want him but he should spend the rest of his days pining for me!"

 

[screwher]

Wife here.

My husband had a female friend. I'll call her D. She "friend zoned" him on their second "date". Why? Who knows why we women do things like that. D, though, seemed to do that to any guy that treated her well. My husband said that constantly throughout their friendship that she'd date someone for a month or two, get treated like absolute shit, then come crying to him about it. He would tell her that she has men who like her who wouldn't treat her that way. She would find ways to rebuff the advances. Meanwhile, any time he was dating someone, she would try to insert herself into their relationship. He finally got pissed off to the point where he cut off contact with D until she matured enough to respect boundaries, which never really happened.

During this time, we met. Three months into our relationship, we both knew that this was probably going to be forever. We were out shopping for his niece's Christmas gifts and D happened to be in the same store. He saw her, and introduced her to me. She could have killed me with her stare and ice cold greeting. I interpreted it as HOW DARE YOU TAKE HIM FROM ME!

My husband never had any physical relationship with D. She never wanted any. Yet she acted like this when her supposed friend introduced her to his girlfriend.

See my answer to the previous.

 

[jharp]

Wife here.

My husband had a female friend. I'll call her D. She "friend zoned" him on their second "date". Why? Who knows why we women do things like that. D, though, seemed to do that to any guy that treated her well. My husband said that constantly throughout their friendship that she'd date someone for a month or two, get treated like absolute shit, then come crying to him about it. He would tell her that she has men who like her who wouldn't treat her that way. She would find ways to rebuff the advances. Meanwhile, any time he was dating someone, she would try to insert herself into their relationship. He finally got pissed off to the point where he cut off contact with D until she matured enough to respect boundaries, which never really happened.

During this time, we met. Three months into our relationship, we both knew that this was probably going to be forever. We were out shopping for his niece's Christmas gifts and D happened to be in the same store. He saw her, and introduced her to me. She could have killed me with her stare and ice cold greeting. I interpreted it as HOW DARE YOU TAKE HIM FROM ME!

My husband never had any physical relationship with D. She never wanted any. Yet she acted like this when her supposed friend introduced her to his girlfriend.

You took away her backup plan. She likely knew perfectly well he was a good man, but not the bad boy that gave her the tingles. So she was going to string him along until she reached the epiphany phase and finally gave him a shot. You came in and ruined those plans. Well done.

 

[twister947]

My wife fell apart when her ex died. Many tears, went halfway across the country to attend his funeral. I can just imagine her reaction if I'd pulled a similar stunt.

I should have left her then.

 

[Carnevil9]

Speaking as someone who’s had several ex’s get engaged AFTER I’d dated them, you think there’s something wrong with you or you’re defective in some way. I don’t think she’s cheated at all or even still has those kinds of feelings for him. I think it’s her wondering “what does she have that I don’t/didn’t.”

I was engaged when I found out my ex bf got engaged to the chick he left me for and it fucking HURT! It didn’t hurt because I was still in love with him or wanted to be with him, it hurt because I have him everything I had and was never even told “I love you” and then this person comes along and not only gets his love but also gets to be with him forever. It hurts. But, it doesn’t mean you’ve cheated.

Women are emotional creatures, we just are. *

Yep, that's how I interpret it. I had a girlfriend for about nine years. She wanted to get married or at least move in together. I refused, not that I didn't love her, but she was too moody to be with all the time. We eventually split up over it. Not too long after that, I met a new lady, we hit it off, and she was very emotionally stable. We were living together within a year. My ex (who only lived a few blocks away so we still ran into each other a lot) was livid! She didn't still want me, she wanted to know how I could be so unfair.

 

[betamale30]

Thanks for all the feed back, Im just going to try and think of it as it was an emotional shock to her even if she didnt want to be with him. Ill pay attention how her moods on in following days hopefully It was just the initial surprised to cause her to act like she did.