Can we talk about entitlement?

[theslutbunny]

Once in a while, I peruse AmPics; I've noticed something interesting, and I wanted to bring it up with you guys:

Do you take the pictures for granted?

If someone is a regular poster, do you stop replying about their pictures after a while because you can be reasonably certain they'll keep adding new ones in the future?

Similarly, do you encourage posters who don't regularly upload new photos because of a fear that they'll stop?

Obviously it's difficult to come up with any hard data regarding posting habits due to time differences, work, etc, but it struck me that certain posters get far more visibility than others despite having more or less similar imagery.

Are you prioritising your favourites?

(No judgement. Just pure curiosity at work.)

 

[Lothario1956]

I only occasionally pop into AmPics, but if I see one I like I try and post a reply, more especially if it is a new poster, as I know it takes nerve to put a photo up and I want to encourage the poster. I won't necessarily go back and check for further posts, as the thread will often be swamped by fans of the poster, and I do have my own source of gorgeous pics..

 

[AlwaysFara]

Ask the AmPics crowd.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Ask the AmPics crowd.

They're too busy with their dicks in their hands to type.

 

[blade_rocknut]

I don't have a huge presence over there, but have followed several in the past, and follow a couple now; people who I find funny or I otherwise just enjoy here on the PG.

I don't make commenting there a religious thing. I may, in spurts (LoL) get into an exchange with a contributor, but I'll give it a rest rather than resort to repetitive, uninspired, obligatory groveling just for the sake of seeing the person quote my comment and say "thanks, you're sweet".
I'll comment if I can say something different than the rest of the crowd, and am apt to do so when a contributor posts things which show their perceived flaws, as though they've become comfortable.

But no...I'm not going to start saying "thanks for posting", "so sexy", or possibly the most overused superlative ever; "STUNNING".

Mouth breather creeper types make me cringe, and I'm loathe to co-opt their jargon.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Well I am not too busy with a dick in my hand at the moment, so I will share my thoughts. You are touching on part of it, with the new girl theory, but that isn't only in ampics. The new girl on lit, in general, gets swamped. It makes sense, clearly they are free at the moment if they just joined lit, the probably don't already have plans with another lit member at the moment, and they are a woman (maybe) who just signed up on a porn site. You do not even need to post a picture or post anything to get the new girl treatment. Though pictures do up it.

I do think there is also an expectation that the regulars will continue to be regulars. Some still comment without fail, others are spending more time looking for new girl who is free or trying to make new girl a regular. There is also just getting bored with the regulars, not like they can share something new or different anymore. If there is a line, you have seen the line. If there isn't, there is nothing new to see.

Then you have the other often more important factors. Such as regulars also share their personality. You are no longer looking at just tits and ass. The personality becomes a huge factor. Some people like sugar, and spice, and everything nice. Some people like their tits classy. Some people like someone with kick, some people like someone with bite, some like real dirty. Thus two similar looking posters with very different personalities can turn off or turn on different people, and have vastly different people viewing.

There is also image type itself. Maybe some guys only comment on tits, all tits, but just tits. Or just asses, or panties, or couples. I myself have a thing with hard cocks in motion.

And of course, there is the who is talking behind the scenes. In my experience, once you start talking off lit or off lit threads, there is significantly less talking on lit threads. I am guilty of that myself. I might mention my thoughts on their post it in the next conversation or I saw the image the night before or earlier in the day, well before they posted it here. What is seen is not all there is. Sometimes favorites are visibly prioritized, sometimes favorites are regular private conversations.

Do I take pictures for granted? Honestly, yes sometimes. I know many of the exhibitionist men are willing to take private requests, so sometimes rather than hunt around for what I am looking for at the moment, I might just message someone and ask if they'd be willing to take a quick selfie.

 

[witchydiana85]

The new girl on lit, in general, gets swamped.

Hm. I must be doing something wrong, then.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Hm. I must be doing something wrong, then.

haha. When I was new, I know I had to turn off showing visibility as to when I was active as the message box was so small with low post history. The difference may be alphabetical. The list of who is active now is alphabetical, so they are all probably sending welcome messages to asianashley, asianmom, asianwife, angeleyes or whatever. Their erection doesn't last long enough to make it all the way to the Ws.

 

[Bjerget]

Hm. I must be doing something wrong, then.

I can help you with your little problem.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

I have my regulars on the thread, but then I also have a bunch of others who just pm me and don’t comment publicly.

Honestly I’m okay with that, but I get the point of view I have seen stated by other Am Pics peeps, that we’d like the comments on the actual thread as it keeps it visible.

But I’m easy either way... I do it for me

I also definitely think whether you are ‘available’ or not affects how many comments you get. When I was still free I got more comments and floods of pms. Now I’m firmly taken they have dropped off. Again no biggie for me, but it does make me chuckle as it’s just so obvious why they were ‘really’ commenting.

Anyway c’est la vie, as usual I go my own way and really don’t care what others think of me!

 

[Moochienanu]

They're too busy with their dicks in their hands to type.

*takes my hands off my dicks*

Soooo... first some situational background: when I first started an ampics thread, I did it because a guy said I should. I have since left that thread (along with that guy) and started a new one because it wasn’t what I wanted anymore.

My current thread is all about and for me.
It isn’t about you.
It isn’t about the random people looking in.
It isn’t even about getting comments.

I state clearly that if a comment isn’t something that I feel like replying to, I don’t. I don’t post for the “you’re so pretty.” I post for when Daddy messages me in the middle of His work day to say “fuck, I need to tear those panties off you with my teeth and kiss that star. RTFN.”

I couldn’t care less if you understand my poetry that accompanies my pictures.
I have said it before, and I will say it again: if you don’t understand it, it wasn’t meant for you.

I enjoy getting comments that mean something.
I enjoy answering thoughtful questions in my thread and sometimes in PM.
I enjoy being friendly with the other ampicers and sharing our stories in all forms of media.

A pet peeve about ampics is when guys start a thread because they want a particular picture type (most recently I saw one “full frontal Friday”), but don’t post a pic of themselves to start it. Why should I show mine if you can’t show yours? Also, there is usually plenty of these pics they are asking for in the existing threads. Stop being lazy, guys... or be like Justa and ask us for it instead of a whole forum.

*goes back to grabbing my dicks*

 

[aussiegeekygal]

*takes my hands off my dicks*

Soooo... first some situational background: when I first started an ampics thread, I did it because a guy said I should. I have since left that thread (along with that guy) and started a new one because it wasn’t what I wanted anymore.

My current thread is all about and for me.
It isn’t about you.
It isn’t about the random people looking in.
It isn’t even about getting comments.

I state clearly that if a comment isn’t something that I feel like replying to, I don’t. I don’t post for the “you’re so pretty.” I post for when Daddy messages me in the middle of His work day to say “fuck, I need to tear those panties off you with my teeth and kiss that star. RTFN.”

I couldn’t care less if you understand my poetry that accompanies my pictures.
I have said it before, and I will say it again: if you don’t understand it, it wasn’t meant for you.

I enjoy getting comments that mean something.
I enjoy answering thoughtful questions in my thread and sometimes in PM.
I enjoy being friendly with the other ampicers and sharing our stories in all forms of media.

A pet peeve about ampics is when guys start a thread because they want a particular picture type (most recently I saw one “full frontal Friday”), but don’t post a pic of themselves to start it. Why should I show mine if you can’t show yours? Also, there is usually plenty of these pics they are asking for in the existing threads. Stop being lazy, guys... or be like Justa and ask us for it instead of a whole forum.

*goes back to grabbing my dicks*

You are my spirit animal.
I don't really venture to the AmPics board, but if I were to post, I'd have a very similar attitude.

I don't have the energy, stamina or patience to reply to everyone on every board. Some people take that super personal, which sucks for them. I couldn't imagine the entitlement that would exist on an AmPics thread. Guys who get butthurt that they didn't get a response, guys who expect more photos, guys who don't understand your aesthetic/style and leave some downright questionable feedback.

I doubt I'll ever venture over there because it's just too much fucking work.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

haha. When I was new, I know I had to turn off showing visibility as to when I was active as the message box was so small with low post history. The difference may be alphabetical. The list of who is active now is alphabetical, so they are all probably sending welcome messages to asianashley, asianmom, asianwife, angeleyes or whatever. Their erection doesn't last long enough to make it all the way to the Ws.

ROFL
I never gave this any thought, but my early lit days were awful because of all the unsolicited PMs.
Now that my post count is higher, I rarely get any messages.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

A pet peeve about ampics is when guys start a thread because they want a particular picture type (most recently I saw one “full frontal Friday”), but don’t post a pic of themselves to start it. Why should I show mine if you can’t show yours? Also, there is usually plenty of these pics they are asking for in the existing threads. Stop being lazy, guys... or be like Justa and ask us for it instead of a whole forum.

*goes back to grabbing my dicks*

I am glad I am not the only one annoyed by that. When they are not active with us, post what they want, share nothing, then often follow it with bumps of more threads of more of what they want, it makes me irrationally annoyed. I am not even saying you must share, the voyeurs make up that community as much as the exhibitionists, but at least be an active member of the community before stating your demands and stop repeatedly bumping and creating new ones. Damn.

unfortunately, I have no dick to grab so still here.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

ROFL
I never gave this any thought, but my early lit days were awful because of all the unsolicited PMs.
Now that my post count is higher, I rarely get any messages.

Well you also appear offline too, don't you? And yes, they click the female names alphabetically, I am quite sure. Sometimes, I will show online, just to play a little game, and see who runs, who doesn't get it, or who plays back. Have met some of my favorite people that way (obviously they are the ones who play back)

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Well you also appear offline too, don't you? And yes, they click the female names alphabetically, I am quite sure. Sometimes, I will show online, just to play a little game, and see who runs, who doesn't get it, or who plays back. Have met some of my favorite people that way (obviously they are the ones who play back)

I am offline now, yes

Took me a while to figure that out

 

[Shi_One81]

I post pics because I’m an exhibitionist and I enjoy being seen. The comments don’t make or break me, I look at how many people have viewed my thread. I enjoy the comments that are left, don’t get me wrong, but mostly I just post for me. Once in awhile I’ll see if anyone has a photo request.

I too get a lot of comments about my thread via pm instead of on the thread. Sometimes I tell them, “I dare you to post that on my thread.” Most don’t, very few have accepted my challenge.

 

[Cthulhu1138]

I have an AmPic thread, and that part of the forum is honestly the first place I look when I log in (to see what friends or women I like have posted.)

I often end my comments with a thank you. I know that sharing one's body takes some bravery and determination.

I have never felt "entitled" to a photo or a response.

I cannot fathom how or why someone would.

I see threads get bumped by people trying to bring an original poster back or to give them encouragement. I understand the sentiment but it seems odd.

At this point in my time on Lit, I am most interested in women who share some thoughts or feelings with their photos. I do not have a particular body type, but I do have a "brain" type I think.

 

[Mtnmike]

I have an AmPic thread, and that part of the forum is honestly the first place I look when I log in (to see what friends or women I like have posted.)

I often end my comments with a thank you. I know that sharing one's body takes some bravery and determination.

I have never felt "entitled" to a photo or a response.

I cannot fathom how or why someone would.

I see threads get bumped by people trying to bring an original poster back or to give them encouragement. I understand the sentiment but it seems odd.

At this point in my time on Lit, I am most interested in women who share some thoughts or feelings with their photos. I do not have a particular body type, but I do have a "brain" type I think.

My sentiments exactly, thank you for saying it.

 

[CLE4fun]

Well I am not too busy with a dick in my hand at the moment, so I will share my thoughts. You are touching on part of it, with the new girl theory, but that isn't only in ampics. The new girl on lit, in general, gets swamped. It makes sense, clearly they are free at the moment if they just joined lit, the probably don't already have plans with another lit member at the moment, and they are a woman (maybe) who just signed up on a porn site. You do not even need to post a picture or post anything to get the new girl treatment. Though pictures do up it.

I do think there is also an expectation that the regulars will continue to be regulars. Some still comment without fail, others are spending more time looking for new girl who is free or trying to make new girl a regular. There is also just getting bored with the regulars, not like they can share something new or different anymore. If there is a line, you have seen the line. If there isn't, there is nothing new to see.

Then you have the other often more important factors. Such as regulars also share their personality. You are no longer looking at just tits and ass. The personality becomes a huge factor. Some people like sugar, and spice, and everything nice. Some people like their tits classy. Some people like someone with kick, some people like someone with bite, some like real dirty. Thus two similar looking posters with very different personalities can turn off or turn on different people, and have vastly different people viewing.

There is also image type itself. Maybe some guys only comment on tits, all tits, but just tits. Or just asses, or panties, or couples. I myself have a thing with hard cocks in motion.

And of course, there is the who is talking behind the scenes. In my experience, once you start talking off lit or off lit threads, there is significantly less talking on lit threads. I am guilty of that myself. I might mention my thoughts on their post it in the next conversation or I saw the image the night before or earlier in the day, well before they posted it here. What is seen is not all there is. Sometimes favorites are visibly prioritized, sometimes favorites are regular private conversations.

Do I take pictures for granted? Honestly, yes sometimes. I know many of the exhibitionist men are willing to take private requests, so sometimes rather than hunt around for what I am looking for at the moment, I might just message someone and ask if they'd be willing to take a quick selfie.

Well said!

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

I'll just put my dick down for a minute.

I am a regular commentator on several AmPics threads, Why? It used to be my signature line: I came for the Boobies, I stay for the weirdness. I like naughty bits. I also like the intelligent people who share said naughty bits. They don't owe me a picture. Its nice when they post one. I say "thank you". I don't owe them a response. I respond because I enjoy what they do: the boldness of posting on this site in various stages of undress.

And, yes I have encouraged people to post. It is not out of a fear that they will stop, it is because its my way reminding someone of their beauty. I have never encouraged someone just to see her boobs. I should point out for those that are unaware: there are naked bits and even people fucking all over the internet. I think that may be why Al Gore created the 'net in the first place.

I just like real people better.

I likely do use the word "stunning" too much. In my defense, (a) I am blinded by the titties and (b) Often post in the early morning or late evening when I am a little dopey.

And, if I see a picture that is not to my liking, I just move on. We all have things that we find appealing and things we don't. There's no value to anyone in saying "I don't like X".

Now, where did I put my dick?

 

[lovetopleasewomen]

The only time I will visit ampics is the rare occasion when a lady Litster or 2 pm me to let me know they posted something new. I don't comment in their thread but will in a pm.

Where does entitlement come in?

 

[Mtnmike]

I'll just put my dick down for a minute.

I am a regular commentator on several AmPics threads, Why? It used to be my signature line: I came for the Boobies, I stay for the weirdness. I like naughty bits. I also like the intelligent people who share said naughty bits. They don't owe me a picture. Its nice when they post one. I say "thank you". I don't owe them a response. I respond because I enjoy what they do: the boldness of posting on this site in various stages of undress.

And, yes I have encouraged people to post. It is not out of a fear that they will stop, it is because its my way reminding someone of their beauty. I have never encouraged someone just to see her boobs. I should point out for those that are unaware: there are naked bits and even people fucking all over the internet. I think that may be why Al Gore created the 'net in the first place.

I just like real people better.

I likely do use the word "stunning" too much. In my defense, (a) I am blinded by the titties and (b) Often post in the early morning or late evening when I am a little dopey.

And, if I see a picture that is not to my liking, I just move on. We all have things that we find appealing and things we don't. There's no value to anyone in saying "I don't like X".

Now, where did I put my dick?

Very well said !!!!!

 

[blulilacgrl]

I find that the longer you post, the smaller the circle of viewers becomes. Part of it comes down to personalities. Both of the poster and the people who respond. I have a few gentlemen who always take a minute to give encouragement or share a thought.

There are some entitled men out there but (in my case at least) they've weeded themselves out. I post what I want to post. For me. If it makes me smile or laugh or sometimes if it challenges me, I post it. Those that have stuck around respect that and hopefully smile when they see I've posted.

In my case I think they stick around because you never know quite what I'm gonna post. One day it could be a picture of my fur babies (because they are so damn adorable!!) or it could be a picture of me being clumsy (hello deck stain everywhere) or on some days it's a corset and thigh highs. It's a peek into my life and how I'm feeling that day. There is rarely any rhyme or reason to it.

For some that works. For others, they have a specific idea of what they want to see and when they realize they won't see it on my thread, they move along.