I don't really know how this works, nor do I really have anywhere to go for help and I'm sorry if I'm wasting anyone's time but I need help. Like, I'm at least 89% sure I enjoy BDSM but I don't know how to tell my partner that. He's the one that got me looking into it because of certain things he's said before but I was really confused on why I was liking those things so I'd fight it and now he kind of just stopped. I really want to explore more of it with him but I have no idea how to bring it up or what to really say. What I'm asking is could someone please point me in the right direction for this because I'm lost.
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Dreamliner
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Hi Bean_girl,
Welcome to Literotica and finding the BDSM forum. Yu have touched down in the appropriate environment to research the questions you have.
First, have a look at the threads and make your way through them. You might like to read through this thread, as it may provide some of the answers to your questions.
Inquiring minds want to know. [Just click on the link and it takes you to the thread.]
There are a few people you might like to chat with as they can provide you with some support. Ultimately you will need to be in this with your partner.
All the best
Welcome to Literotica and finding the BDSM forum. Yu have touched down in the appropriate environment to research the questions you have.
First, have a look at the threads and make your way through them. You might like to read through this thread, as it may provide some of the answers to your questions.
Inquiring minds want to know. [Just click on the link and it takes you to the thread.]
There are a few people you might like to chat with as they can provide you with some support. Ultimately you will need to be in this with your partner.
All the best
Bramblethorn
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If you've knocked it back before, you probably need to be very clear addressing that. Something like:
"Hey, you were interested in XYZ before and I wasn't sure how I felt about it so I was sending mixed messages, but I've thought about it and decided that I'd really like to explore that, if you're still interested."
Lascivity
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What you say in your original post is pretty much what you should be saying to him. He can't read your mind, so if you've pushed back against these kinds of activity before he's not likely to try again unless you tell him that you'd like to. So go for it. There's a decent chance he'll be delighted.
