Women's Poll: How Many Casual Blowjobs?

[Bigspurt]

Deprived!

I really feel deprived. I'm a 68 year old guy and I can recall getting 2 casual BJs and they were both when I was in college.

As for my wife giving one, I doubt it, ever. I would like to think so but certainly not since we've been married. Maybe back in her college days.

 

[policywank]

Funny, I have been married for almost 20years. I know full well that my wife gave others blow jobs in the past.

Over the years, I seem to find out about new cocks every now and then!

Thing is, it actually turns me on! I would like to know more details, but she is extremely shy about it and pretend she was kidding! I know she wasn’t!

On your comment that men can’t handle the truth, let me just say that, it depends of the guy.



V.

You are quite right that it depends on the guy. But women don't really know if a guy can or cannot handle it until the cat is out of the bag. There are enough (most?) guys who can't and the consequences are sufficiently high that we must be discrete. Even a lot of the guys who say they can handle it can't. So under reporting is the default position.

This probably isn't fair but it seems like the guys who think "no way" are the ones that women think can't handle the reality. Is that an unfair judgment? Yes probably. But as soon hear a guy taking strong positions one female sexuality what we do or don't do, should or shouldn't do I immediately think "Ya that guy can't be trusted with the truth. He'd lose his mind and tell the whole world if he knew I blew a stranger at last night's concert." And the guy I blew is someone who I will never see again or someone who I know will be discrete - and the twain shall never meet.

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

Luscious, you really have a knack for humour. Is it bad of me if I laughed at your comment?

VitriolH

It was funny for a serious situation. We laughed about it later when we all got together. He thought I was reaching for the urn to make a connection while I was reaching for it to keep it from making a connection!

 

[SubmissiveMom]

A bit unfair to ask this question really, what do you class as a 'casual blowjob' on a 'not at the time my boyfriend, husband or 'significant other'?

My Ex Husband used to take me to 'Sex/Dungeon' parties once a month for nearly two and a half years as his 'Sub Wife' and I would suck and/or fuck between 4 and 8 guys per event for his enjoyment while he watched x

Normally the higher amount x say 6-7 guys per night, one evening, every month for nearly two and a half years x do the mathematics and you might class this as the amount of casual blowjobs x but please don't judge x x x

 

[moonflasher]

I'm in the over 20 group

 

[tonydude]

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[deskuser]

I certainly miss giving them but it’s the price you pay for being in a relationship. A night out with the girls wasn’t the same unless it ended with sperm in my mouth. Yep husband knows how slutty I was when single but he gets off on it.

 

[tonydude]

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[Vitriolhack]

You are quite right that it depends on the guy. But women don't really know if a guy can or cannot handle it until the cat is out of the bag. There are enough (most?) guys who can't and the consequences are sufficiently high that we must be discrete. Even a lot of the guys who say they can handle it can't. So under reporting is the default position.

This probably isn't fair but it seems like the guys who think "no way" are the ones that women think can't handle the reality. Is that an unfair judgment? Yes probably. But as soon hear a guy taking strong positions one female sexuality what we do or don't do, should or shouldn't do I immediately think "Ya that guy can't be trusted with the truth. He'd lose his mind and tell the whole world if he knew I blew a stranger at last night's concert." And the guy I blew is someone who I will never see again or someone who I know will be discrete - and the twain shall never meet.

Yeah, honest feelings are hard to share. I tried, massive argument, but, at least, she knows where I stand.

Guys who can’t handle a woman’s sexual decisions are usually, let’s admit this, a little insecure. I am sure the other way around is also a little true.

Ask around to couples who frequently swing, you will find a couple that is open to talking about anything from sex to politics and are mature enough to appreciatés each other’s uniqueness.



V.

 

[Replicant2018]

I really feel deprived. I'm a 68 year old guy and I can recall getting 2 casual BJs and they were both when I was in college.

As for my wife giving one, I doubt it, ever. I would like to think so but certainly not since we've been married. Maybe back in her college days.

Same here. Blown in college but not now. Greatly missed

 

[boytoyjoy]

Personally I think it is as intimate as any sex act. But I know lots of women who think of it as something other or lesser - so even if giving an honest answer about their number of sexual partners they wouldn’t count the BJs or would count them separately.

Women under report our sexual activity because so many guys can’t quite handle the truth. And if we are working up to sex with a guy or aren’t quite sure about him yet, sucking his cock can be a good segway. I personally sucked at least a half dozen cocks before I lost my virginity.

I was shocked and electrified when I first encountered this. I'd never have imagined at the time that it was fairly common. It's still a huge turn-on for me all these years and partners later. You go, girl.

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

I was shocked and electrified when I first encountered this. I'd never have imagined at the time that it was fairly common. It's still a huge turn-on for me all these years and partners later. You go, girl.

It can be an eye opener sometimes for guys. For some of us? We always know what pizza guy is gonna show up!

 

[JRaven]

I voted 10-20 some time ago. We haven't gone to many swing parties lately. I didn't consider them "casual."
About the only strange I get is sucking off a guy in the ladies room. So, my count would be 20+ now.

 

[The_Hype]

He'd lose his mind and tell the whole world if he knew I blew a stranger at last night's concert." And the guy I blew is someone who I will never see again or someone who I know will be discrete - and the twain shall never meet.

I've obviously been going to the wrong damn concerts

I was shocked and electrified when I first encountered this. I'd never have imagined at the time that it was fairly common. It's still a huge turn-on for me all these years and partners later. You go, girl.

Sex stories turn me on all the time. I've found myself getting a little turned on with the little bit of info my wife has shared about lovers or acts before me.

I, personally, have never gotten a casual bj. Actually, I've only had one (from start to finish) and it was mediocre. I envy all of you gentlemen and spouses of you ladies.

 

[Vitriolhack]

Form casual blow jobs to casual hookups

I know this thread covers casual blow jobs, but, how about casual make out sessions? Do they happen more often than casual blow jobs?

 

[varv]

once I was faced with a choice, I chose Blowjob. It wasn't that long ago. And one times on early life, simply could not hold.

 

[HeidiThompson]

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[chame1eon]

None, but blowjobs just get boring to me

 

[Vitriolhack]

I don't know that the definition works for me. I've given a lot off blowjobs that were to men I wasn't involved with romantically (I've actually had very few romantic relationships), but I still had to do it for a variety of reasons so I wouldn't call that casual.

I am curious, you say, “for a variety of reasons.” What could be the thought process behind, “ok, I’ll blow you!”

V.

 

[tiny_tits]

Women of Lit:

How many different men have you given the "casual blowjob"?

Let's classify those as "was not at that time your boyfriend, husband, or "significant other"

Please 'bump' the thread with a quick note of why your number is what it is, or at least say 'voted'.

Any experiences you want to share are also welcome!

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By that definition, I'm at 7.
Two later became boyfriends...

2.5 year update:
@16.
Four in one night.

Two years later:
@22, so over the "20+" catergory.
Yay Me!

 

[tiny_tits]

I am curious, you say, “for a variety of reasons.” What could be the thought process behind, “ok, I’ll blow you!”

V.

I'll try to answer for her-
Here is one example, certainly not the only one...
It's that spot between being being a tease, when you have given your friend/buddy/coworker/barmate a hard-on, and not wanting to fuck them.

It's an 'option "B" '

 

[Twistandflick]

12

This was too much fun to try and remember. I had to scroll through some old Facebook albums to get some memory jogging going. How I remember them - First blow Job, British guy, short guy with surprisingly big dick, st patties guy, Doug, Doug’s friend, snowboarding instructor, guy with the longest dick I’ve ever seen, guy in vegas, the night my friend and I unknowingly went home with roommates and crossed each other half naked on the way to the bathroom, Nick (only casual cause he lived far away), David. Some of them were awkward, some were super fun!

 

[phoenix58]

Would love to meet some of the 83% who said yes.

Women of Lit:

How many different men have you given the "casual blowjob"?

Let's classify those as "was not at that time your boyfriend, husband, or "significant other"

Please 'bump' the thread with a quick note of why your number is what it is, or at least say 'voted'.

Any experiences you want to share are also welcome!

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*****Guys reading******
*You can help by bumping*
*to keep this on front page*
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[eroticspank]

Conquest?

I wonder if the casual BJ is a conquest thing for some women?

If a guy gives a woman oral to orgasm that usually gets her more turned on and ready for action. It is not something you can do and just walk away from...I know times have changed and some women can do that these days but in general there is kind of connection created different from when a woman gives a guy a BJ.

One lady explained it like a conquest. She liked the pleasure of giving a BJ and the reactions from the guy but also his ultimate surrender to orgasm, of which she has complete control.

I agree and know of several women who use casual BJs to disarm the man. After he cums, he loses all power and desire to fuck; as a result she can keep him at a safe distance until she is ready.

Many years ago I met a military nurse during a stay over in Hawaii. We met at a bar and on the way home via taxi she realized she forgot her purse. We went back to the bar and searched for her purse. After about an hour we found it and went back to our Condos. She didn't want to fuck I could tell but she was very appreciative of me helping her, so she gave me a casual BJ. We couldn't make much noise since she had a roommate which made it more fun. I wanted to repay her orally but she shook her head no and I was led to the door.

ES

 

[LadyJS]

Too much information...

Maybe another time