Jada59
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Boundries
A little background in case you don't know my story.
About two years ago, I let my gardener move onto my property. I was going through a divorce at the time. I will refer to the gardener as J. J originally moved into the partially finished tiny house at the back of the property. It has no running water so h had to come into my house for the kitchen and bathroom. I did offer J what would be the spare bedroom after my then husband moved out.
J declined the offer. He had an on again off again GF. I presume they wanted privacy. Plus the spare room is very small.
I suspected that J's GF was being abusive to him but he did not want me to know this. He had dropped hints. But any time I tried to help, he'd get upset and defend her.
Fast forward. Not sure the time frame but maybe 2 weeks ago or so, he kicked her out for good. He finally did admit the abuse for certain and we have been talking about that and other things. He is opening up to me slowly. He has also moved into this house.
Although he did prepare the spare room for use, he isn't sleeping in it. He's sleeping on the couch in the living room. The first night, I found him snuggled up under one of my dresses. He was using it as a blanket. It was both cute and slightly disturbing because we have plenty of blankets.
He did say that he's going to go back to the tiny house and used the excuse that the ex GF left a huge mess back there. I am thinking she might have. Since she left, lots of problems I was having, have resolved. Like the black stuff I was forever having to scrub from the kitchen floor, and the huge amounts of food that got eaten. I suspect she was bulimic.
But here's my problem. Not only is his sleeping on the couch cramping my style, I feel like I have a shadow. And he seems to be very overprotective of me. He knows I talk to Lit guys. He's fine with some of them but is fearful that something bad might happen to me if I were to invite a local guy over here.
He's also fearful that I'll cut myself when I use a sharp knife, or that the lights are too dim and I'm damage my eyes. He's constantly flying all over the house trying to save me from danger. He also seems very nervous around me now. He gives me tons of hugs. No complaints there! And for the past few days keeps talking about love. What it is and what it isn't. We've been having a lot of philosophical discussions, That's fine too. In general, we get along very well!
But I also find that I might be overstepping my boundaries. I keep checking on him as he sleeps and tucking him in. He hasn't complained.
We do have an age difference. I'm 60 and he's 29. I do have sexual feelings towards him but am not totally certain that he feels that way towards me.
The last two nights were difficult. He got drunk. I understand that this might be a way for him to try to cope with the breakup. He was with her for years and only had one GF prior to her. But... I am sleep deprived because of it. He kept waking me up, wanting to talk. I am trying to be supportive to him and to help him through this because he helped me through my divorce.
Right now I feel like he is walking on eggshells around me, perhaps because he got a little out of hand last night. Such as hugging me so hard that I couldn't breathe. I had to ask him to stop. And reading a book to me. I doubt he would have done these things if not drunk. He washed and cleaned out my car for me this morning. I didn't ask him to do that. Nice thing to do! But he just tiptoed up to me to tell me that I got a package. He's just not acting normal.
Anyhoo... I'm finding it hard to establish boundaries here. Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks!
A little background in case you don't know my story.
About two years ago, I let my gardener move onto my property. I was going through a divorce at the time. I will refer to the gardener as J. J originally moved into the partially finished tiny house at the back of the property. It has no running water so h had to come into my house for the kitchen and bathroom. I did offer J what would be the spare bedroom after my then husband moved out.
J declined the offer. He had an on again off again GF. I presume they wanted privacy. Plus the spare room is very small.
I suspected that J's GF was being abusive to him but he did not want me to know this. He had dropped hints. But any time I tried to help, he'd get upset and defend her.
Fast forward. Not sure the time frame but maybe 2 weeks ago or so, he kicked her out for good. He finally did admit the abuse for certain and we have been talking about that and other things. He is opening up to me slowly. He has also moved into this house.
Although he did prepare the spare room for use, he isn't sleeping in it. He's sleeping on the couch in the living room. The first night, I found him snuggled up under one of my dresses. He was using it as a blanket. It was both cute and slightly disturbing because we have plenty of blankets.
He did say that he's going to go back to the tiny house and used the excuse that the ex GF left a huge mess back there. I am thinking she might have. Since she left, lots of problems I was having, have resolved. Like the black stuff I was forever having to scrub from the kitchen floor, and the huge amounts of food that got eaten. I suspect she was bulimic.
But here's my problem. Not only is his sleeping on the couch cramping my style, I feel like I have a shadow. And he seems to be very overprotective of me. He knows I talk to Lit guys. He's fine with some of them but is fearful that something bad might happen to me if I were to invite a local guy over here.
He's also fearful that I'll cut myself when I use a sharp knife, or that the lights are too dim and I'm damage my eyes. He's constantly flying all over the house trying to save me from danger. He also seems very nervous around me now. He gives me tons of hugs. No complaints there! And for the past few days keeps talking about love. What it is and what it isn't. We've been having a lot of philosophical discussions, That's fine too. In general, we get along very well!
But I also find that I might be overstepping my boundaries. I keep checking on him as he sleeps and tucking him in. He hasn't complained.
We do have an age difference. I'm 60 and he's 29. I do have sexual feelings towards him but am not totally certain that he feels that way towards me.
The last two nights were difficult. He got drunk. I understand that this might be a way for him to try to cope with the breakup. He was with her for years and only had one GF prior to her. But... I am sleep deprived because of it. He kept waking me up, wanting to talk. I am trying to be supportive to him and to help him through this because he helped me through my divorce.
Right now I feel like he is walking on eggshells around me, perhaps because he got a little out of hand last night. Such as hugging me so hard that I couldn't breathe. I had to ask him to stop. And reading a book to me. I doubt he would have done these things if not drunk. He washed and cleaned out my car for me this morning. I didn't ask him to do that. Nice thing to do! But he just tiptoed up to me to tell me that I got a package. He's just not acting normal.
Anyhoo... I'm finding it hard to establish boundaries here. Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks!
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