Kinks We Don't Understand: DD/lg (First in a series)

[AlwaysFara]

I think this is part of what is confusing for me. How is it DD/LG if little girl age play is not involved?

This.
Because, like I said, everything Hiney has described is simply being treated right.
So, what’s the catch?

 

[tnman03]

I think this is part of what is confusing for me. How is it DD/lg if little girl age play is not involved?

I like this question!!! Good for you Suz_anne.

Is the acting younger outside of age play then a form of release or what?

 

[Moochienanu]

Hi Mooch!

I'm gonna throw this in for those who don't know:

Apparently Moochie does 'age play,' which is pretty self-explanatory. It's when a 'little' acts younger than they are, for whatever reason (and I think this is almost always non-sexual.). If that's what she likes, and her partner's down with it, good for her! Not everyone does age play. I don't. It doesn't necessarily squick me out, I just don't need it or want it. The fact that some people do is a total non-issue for me. Everyone is different!

I bring this up because it's a common misunderstanding that every little does age play, that age play is always a part of DD/lg. It's not. The truth is - hang on to your hats - every little does whatever the hell they want. Seriously. It's like anything else. Each couple works out their own stuff. Aside from a basic framework that includes a certain degree of nurturing and guidance, everything else is a blank page waiting to be filled in.

This is absolutely the truth. I maybe age play once or twice a month and it is usually a time before sleep when I just want to jump on the bed, put pretty things in my hair (sometimes lots of pretty things), and eat sweets.

I could probably do without that time, but I like it as a “me” time thing.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I noticed WH made a comment which she said wasn't necessarily related...

No. You misread what I wrote. I said that it was related, but that it wasn't DD/lg specific. Go back and read it again.

This isn’t DD/lg specific. This is called a good relationship.

I said that.
And not every man does those things. He has to be motivated.

To me, a key comment there is "i try to walk across a dirt parking lot in heels." A child or adult playing a child would not wear heels too high to walk in. That's more upper teen behavior.

They were like, two inch wedges. ffs. I rarely wear heels, and i certainly wasn't planning to walk across a dirt lot with rocks all over it, by moonlight. You're missing the point.

I think this is part of what is confusing for me. How is it DD/lg if little girl age play is not involved?

Good question! I'm going to let someone else answer this for now.

 

[Moochienanu]

I think this is part of what is confusing for me. How is it DD/lg if little girl age play is not involved?

For us (because, again to reiterate, all of us are very different), the DD/lg dynamic comes in with the way we speak to each other, and the way He dominates me. We have a bit of a Sadist/masochist streak, but many littles and their Daddies don’t.

I like to think of DD/lg as a branch of the D/s, just like Master/slave and the like. I was always a sub, but once I discovered I was a little, it just... clicked.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I like this question!!! Good for you Suz_anne.

Is the acting younger outside of age play then a form of release or what?

Dude. There is no 'acting younger outside of age play.' That's what age play is. If you're acting younger, you're doing age play.

 

[Moochienanu]

That's just old school 'gentlemenly' That's what guys used to do all the time.

To me, a key comment there is "i try to walk across a dirt parking lot in heels." A child or adult playing a child would not wear heels too high to walk in. That's more upper teen behavior.

OMG. Are you kidding me right now?

I wear three-five inch heels daily. I know how to walk in them, I like how I look in them, I am otherwise way too short to even reach His lips for a kiss... and more important, clothing and the choice of what to wear doesn’t indicate whether I’m little or not. You ask.

 

[AlwaysFara]

OMG. Are you kidding me right now?

I wear three-five inch heels daily. I know how to walk in them, I like how I look in them, I am otherwise way too short to even reach His lips for a kiss... and more important, clothing and the choice of what to wear doesn’t indicate whether I’m little or not. You ask.

Then what does?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

This.
Because, like I said, everything Hiney has described is simply being treated right.
So, what’s the catch?

I wasn't giving examples of things a DD does. I was giving examples of a man who behaves a certain way because he chooses to. I'm not topping from the bottom to get him to do those things, he does them of his own accord. That particular aspect of our relationship developed naturally. I didn't force it, and he's not trying to be something he isn't for my sake. That's an organic dynamic that we both enjoy.

Sorry if i was unclear about the point of that post.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I wasn't giving examples of things a DD does. I was giving examples of a man who behaves a certain way because he chooses to. I'm not topping from the bottom to get him to do those things, he does them of his own accord. That particular aspect of our relationship developed naturally. I didn't force it, and he's not trying to be something he isn't for my sake. That's an organic dynamic that we both enjoy.

Sorry if i was unclear about the point of that post.

I get it. Thank you.

 

[Moochienanu]

Then what does?

What indicates that someone likes to be tied up in the bedroom?

What indicates that another person likes to cum only on asses?

What indicates that she likes to choose the restaurant where they eat out at on their dates?

You ask and get to know the other person.

I don’t just wear a bow in my hair and say “well, everyone knows I’m little now!” I put it in my profile and I explain as best I can what being little means to me.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

A child or adult playing a child would not wear heels too high to walk in. That's more upper teen behavior.

Littles who do age play come in different 'sizes' - littles, middles, and bigs (Somebody correct me if I'm wrong please). Upper teens are littles, too, because they're not adults. Some littles stick with one age, some have an age range. It varies according to the person.

 

[AlwaysFara]

What indicates that someone likes to be tied up in the bedroom?

What indicates that another person likes to cum only on asses?

What indicates that she likes to choose the restaurant where they eat out at on their dates?

You ask and get to know the other person.

I don’t just wear a bow in my hair and say “well, everyone knows I’m little now!” I put it in my profile and I explain as best I can what being little means to me.

I’m genuinely curious. Always have been. I pop into BFG’s thread from time to time over the years.
You are identifying as part of a group. What makes you part of that group?
What are the similarities?

 

[Suz_anne]

For us (because, again to reiterate, all of us are very different), the DD/lg dynamic comes in with the way we speak to each other, and the way He dominates me. We have a bit of a Sadist/masochist streak, but many littles and their Daddies don’t.

I like to think of DD/lg as a branch of the D/s, just like Master/slave and the like. I was always a sub, but once I discovered I was a little, it just... clicked.

Thank you for the response - it helps some. I still don't quite understand how it differs much from the overall D/s dynamic without age play, but it may be that I just don't get it. Which is okay.

Thanks, again for your explanation.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I get it. Thank you.

yw

 

[Moochienanu]

I’m genuinely curious. Always have been. I pop into BFG’s thread from time to time over the years.
You are identifying as part of a group. What makes you part of that group?
What are the similarities?

I am lazy (a indicator of little sometimes ), so I am going to give you (and everyone) this LINK to my piece about why/how/what makes me identify with the little “group.”

 

[Moochienanu]

Thank you for the response - it helps some. I still don't quite understand how it differs much from the overall D/s dynamic without age play, but it may be that I just don't get it. Which is okay.

Thanks, again for your explanation.

This is where those blurred lines happen because we (Daddy and I) definitely fall into D/s categories... but because He is more nurturing and I am playful, it fits that we fall a bit more into the DD/lg subcategory.

I am sure I’m probably fucking a lot of this up, but I’m trying here...

 

[lurkingguy1978]

This...this whole thread is why I keep coming back to Lit.

Because when we talk about things...really talk...there's a lot to learn. Tons, really.

Carry on, he says from the peanut gallery...

 

[Suz_anne]

This is where those blurred lines happen because we (Daddy and I) definitely fall into D/s categories... but because He is more nurturing and I am playful, it fits that we fall a bit more into the DD/lg subcategory.

I am sure I’m probably fucking a lot of this up, but I’m trying here...

I don't think you're fucking anything up, silly girl. I appreciate your straightforward nature and you've made it clear that your responses are based on your own experiences.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I am lazy (a indicator of little sometimes ), so I am going to give you (and everyone) this LINK to my piece about why/how/what makes me identify with the little “group.”

Great link, thank you, and you’re gorgeous.

I tick a few of those boxes, myself.

My friends who are little know I keep coming back to this. I’m very curious.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

This is where those blurred lines happen because we (Daddy and I) definitely fall into D/s categories... but because He is more nurturing and I am playful, it fits that we fall a bit more into the DD/lg subcategory.

I am sure I’m probably fucking a lot of this up, but I’m trying here...

You're not fucking anything up.
I mean, I'm playful, too.
I like gardening, ganache, guns, and grenades.

"Daddy's Little Monster"
https://media1.tenor.com/images/e9beb1a7cc2d895d8ad426e307f773c7/tenor.gif?itemid=5319076

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I think this is part of what is confusing for me. How is it DD/lg if little girl age play is not involved?

This.
Because, like I said, everything Hiney has described is simply being treated right.
So, what’s the catch?

Here's my .02, ymmv:

It's not about specifics (except for the nurturing/guiding aspect) as much as it is about attitude. There is a lot of overlap in the way in which people like to express that attitude, but there are certainly no hard-and-fast rules regarding what to wear, hobbies or pastimes, snack foods of choice, etc. Everyone does their own thing, it's just that we tend to have a lot in common.

For me, my little side is one facet of the youthful temperment with which i was hard-wired from birth. I have always liked the color pink, and wearing dresses, and pretty girly shit. Etc., etc. I may not always choose to outwardly express that particular facet, but it's always a part of me.

**Liking pink or dresses or girly stuff doesn't make me little, and someone can certainly like those things and not identify as little. They're just examples of some ways of naturally expressing that side of me, that i share with a lot of other littles.

Clear as mud?

 

[Moochienanu]

Great link, thank you, and you’re gorgeous.

I tick a few of those boxes, myself.

My friends who are little know I keep coming back to this. I’m very curious.

I have seen you comment before on BFG’s thread, and enjoy your input and genuine curiosity.

I would like to say once more, I am not an expert on this lifestyle even though I live it. I am constantly learning from Him and my peers.

I do want to state that I cannot (and will not) tolerate anyone saying they are alright with underage sex acts (or even acting them out). I think this often gets tied up in the DD/lg dynamic when it has NOTHING to do with it.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Here's my .02, ymmv:

It's not about specifics (except for the nurturing/guiding aspect) as much as it is about attitude. There is a lot of overlap in the way in which people like to express that attitude, but there are certainly no hard-and-fast rules regarding what to wear, hobbies or pastimes, snack foods of choice, etc. Everyone does their own thing, it's just that we tend to have a lot in common.

For me, my little side is one facet of the youthful temperment with which i was hard-wired from birth. I have always liked the color pink, and wearing dresses, and pretty girly shit. Etc., etc. I may not always choose to outwardly express that particular facet, but it's always a part of me.

**Liking pink or dresses or girly stuff doesn't make me little, and someone can certainly like those things and not identify as little. They're just examples of some ways of naturally expressing that side of me, that i share with a lot of other littles.

Clear as mud?

Crystal.

NoooooOOOooooo!!!
It’s NOT!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

This is where those blurred lines happen because we (Daddy and I) definitely fall into D/s categories... but because He is more nurturing and I am playful, it fits that we fall a bit more into the DD/lg subcategory.

I am sure I’m probably fucking a lot of this up, but I’m trying here...

Mooch, you're doing great! What everybody else said. And thanks for the link!

This...this whole thread is why I keep coming back to Lit.

Because when we talk about things...really talk...there's a lot to learn. Tons, really.

Carry on, he says from the peanut gallery...