Avoiding premature eruption tips/tricks?

[Nurseguy75]

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[asus013]

Yo. I'm no premature dude either. But want to bone longer than 5 mins. My advice....fuck her every night. Every chance you get. Just keep fucking.
When my wife and I were trying for a baby we were fucking almost every night for over a year. Dude. I was porn star fucking after a couple months. I could fuck her for as long as I wanted in all positions. It was almost like a chore. Like OMG I have to fuck this hot chick with the big tits and come wherever I want....ugh!! Lol!
We have sex like once a week now but she is so hot and I get so worked up through the week I can cum in like 5 mins. I hit my stride every once in a while and take her to town. Have no clue what causes that though.
Good luck bro!

 

[Jada59]

I had an ex that could do tantric. It was out of this world! That being said, if you were my partner, I would not get upset about it.

I am assuming you could get hard again. I know some men say that they can't do it but... I've never been with a man who couldn't get hard again. Some in as little as 5 minutes, some took more like an hour.

I would just move on to something else but maintain some form of body contact, even if it was just a nap until it was time for round two.

Also keep in mind that the harder you try not to cum, the quicker you probably will. I am that way. I cum very quickly and find it hard to hold off, especially if he tells me not to.

You should try edging. If you're like me, you might not be able to do it to yourself. However, I can and do sometimes do something to myself that is mildly stimulating at various points throughout the day. If you do this, it is important to go outside or to some public place where you can't touch yourself in between times. The goal is to get yourself so aroused that it's painful and you'll want to fuck anyone in sight.

When you do get a regular partner, you can have him edge you with her hand. It might be more effective if you are tied down so you can't take over and touch yourself. The key here at first is that the stimulation needs to be very gentle and there needs to be many breaks in the activity. Work your way up to being able to hold off.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Good advice, Jada

What about increasing the frequency of masturbation? Should have the same effect, shouldn't it?

 

[Nurseguy75]

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[Nurseguy75]

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[Nurseguy75]

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[oneblueye]

hey...

Hi, anyone with some ideas to help? Not a 2-pump chump but find myself getting overly excited(especially when lucky enough to engage with someone new) and losing it too early.

I've tried the basics: slowing down, pulling out for a second, cockring, thinking of my dad getting out of the shower naked, but I still often times end up going all "Ooooooooooooooooo craaaap!". Hoping to move towards Sting level tantric 6-hour sex. Ok, nevermind, how bout 20 minutes rather than 5-10?

Any ideas I'm willing to try. Thanks in advance.

Work those PC muscles like a porn star...that or twenty years / thirty years of meditation like Sting

 

[jehoram]

One can sometimes interrupt or postpone ejaculation by putting pressure on your perineum (that area between your balls and your rectum). Experiment alone to find the right place.

 

[WillJ8787]

Dido

Yeah, what others say is good. Also, masturbate to completion before being with a new partner. This can extend your next time.

Spend a lot of time masturbating and learning about how it feels when your going to orgasm. This way you can switch things up when you get close, like changing positions and giving her oral or other stimulation while you calm down.

Know your positions, the ones that give you a quick orgasm and ones that don't.

And, masturbate, masturbate, masturbate! Like training for your cock. Try edging and not having an orgasm for as long as possible. Work on extending your time and also your enjoyment.

 

[Grindallnight]

My wife loves when I cum quickly. Says she loves knowing that she turns a guy so much that he can't last. Plus, she likes to cum after someone else has filled her already.

It's not a bad arrangement, lol.

 

[Nurseguy75]

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[docexprt]

Rough it up

I was very lucky as a young man, when guys have it go off "before it gets out of the holster" so-to-speak.

I was watching a band in the Summer, couple players removed shirts, and turned toward the drummer-you could see their tighties. I thought it didn't look cool (this is a long time ago, obviously)
I stopped wearing underwear, just jean shorts. After less than a week, I was ready to give that up, as the inside of jeans are rough, not like the outside.
Got with one of my girlfriends, and fucked the living daylights out of her...
It enabled me to see what worked for her, and optimize my efforts, try different positions, for a loooong time. The mental aspect came in, and I learned to cum when I needed to.
I can recall at least 5 girls say the same phrase to me: You just fucked the shit out of me!!

Worked for me.

 

[LauraWilling]

Several good solutions here, edging, increased masturbation (depends on timing I think) but the best I have found is Jehoram's solution. With some men I have found putting pressure on the center of the cock right at the base also works if I feel the man is about to cum to quickly Both of these pressure point seems to work. That said cup a man's balls. he will enjoy it but I can feel how tight his balls get drawing up into his body. This is a sure sign he is getting very close to orgasm. As they draw up, change position, slow down pumping, I usually will just stop if on top or lay still a moment until his breathing slows a little. When we get busy after this pause, do it carefully and maybe a slight variation of position or speed of his movements. Experiment with partners and see what works best for each. Experimenting is fun too.

 

[FL30]

Hi, anyone with some ideas to help? Not a 2-pump chump but find myself getting overly excited(especially when lucky enough to engage with someone new) and losing it too early.

I've tried the basics: slowing down, pulling out for a second, cockring, thinking of my dad getting out of the shower naked, but I still often times end up going all "Ooooooooooooooooo craaaap!". Hoping to move towards Sting level tantric 6-hour sex. Ok, nevermind, how bout 20 minutes rather than 5-10?

Any ideas I'm willing to try. Thanks in advance.

Just pull out and wait..or stop and wait if not actually fucking.

Really, it is NOT that hard of a thing to do. (No pun intended)

 

[mrdiscreetshh]

1. learn kegel exercises.
2. eat right to have healthy erections.
3. exercise or stretch daily for good blood flow.
4. coffee
and just breathe and thrust with a rhythm.

go and fuck! practice makes perfect.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

What about increasing the frequency of masturbation? Should have the same effect, shouldn't it?

I have read a couple papers on the effects of porn and increased frequency of masturbation and ejaculation... it alluded to that increased frequency of masturbation to porn, also increased the NEED to see the porn to be ABLE to get an erection and also promoted early or premature ejaculation, leading to dysfunction in real life encounters of a sexual nature.

Also, I used to use a breathing technique when I was younger and had a lot of spare time on my hands. I later found out that the same technique was used by the military, in some special programs...
its called 4x4 breathing,

You inhale slowly and deeply for a four count (one thousand one... etc.)
You exhale for a four count...
When your lungs are empty you wait another four count, then inhale for a four count and start the process over again.

This type of breathing helps you to maintain your erection while bringing your level of excitation down to a more manageable level. Making it easier to disregard the urgency that your body is trying to build up to cause you to orgasm and ejaculate. I know of a couple of guys, I was in contact with back in the day that were able to forego the ejaculation step and just ride the waves of the orgasm.

 

[klippert]

I have read a couple papers on the effects of porn and increased frequency of masturbation and ejaculation... it alluded to that increased frequency of masturbation to porn, also increased the NEED to see the porn to be ABLE to get an erection and also promoted early or premature ejaculation, leading to dysfunction in real life encounters of a sexual nature.

Also, I used to use a breathing technique when I was younger and had a lot of spare time on my hands. I later found out that the same technique was used by the military, in some special programs...
its called 4x4 breathing,

You inhale slowly and deeply for a four count (one thousand one... etc.)
You exhale for a four count...
When your lungs are empty you wait another four count, then inhale for a four count and start the process over again.

This type of breathing helps you to maintain your erection while bringing your level of excitation down to a more manageable level. Making it easier to disregard the urgency that your body is trying to build up to cause you to orgasm and ejaculate. I know of a couple of guys, I was in contact with back in the day that were able to forego the ejaculation step and just ride the waves of the orgasm.

Pornography affects the same 'reward' center of the brain as drug and Alcohol addicts, is 100% true. Their is more concern of the others than porn addiction - research by Cambridge University. keep porn away from your Chil'n.
I've never had an erection problem, crack of dawn i'm hard. Lack of intimacy in my marriage draws me to porn.

my challenge over the past cpl of years has been the hypersensitivity of my cock

 

[genxer36]

Practice edging on your own. This is the best way to last a long time. I'm able to hold out for 20-30 minutes, sometimes longer.

 

[amofiga]

Actually, rather than trying to distract myself from the activity, I found that concentrating on it and the specifics of it like the sight, sounds, smells, etc, helped to actually prolong it. I also found that talking tended to help prolong it. But, maybe that's just me. Everybody's different. Having sex with a new partner is tough to maintain control because of the built in extra layer of "nervousness" and newness. It seems that it's like trying to catch a fly ball or long pass, the more you THINK about it, the harder it is to hold back. The surest way to hit your golf ball into the pond is to think about trying not to hit it into the pond. You have to relax and let your body take over.

 

[FGB]

Try some Clais.

https://www.drugs.com/cialis.html

 

[SubtleFriction]

Make her cum first with your mouth, or fingers, or a toy — then put it in. That way even if you don’t last long she’s already gotten off. And often she’ll still be so jazzed from the previous orgasm that she’ll have another with you inside her. An added benefit is that if she’s already cum she’ll be wet, wet, wet ... .

 

[suckonsimon]

A big picture comment on this one from an older dude: If a guy keeps fit and romantic and is there for his woman over the decades practically and emotionally, such that she wants him often right through 40s and 50s and beyond, time comes when it really becomes up to him when he ejaculates, or even chooses not to and keeps it for next time. So, even while early ejaculation is sometimes or oftentimes and issue, keep in mind that good wine matures into excellent wine.

That said, here's what I have to offer for the present: Let the foreplay go beyond the urgent and furtive into the relaxed and pleasurable before ever you go for penetration. When you do, stay with that relaxed style a while, and when you can't resist putting in some energy do it first with your mouth and hands and chest on her and have a body-to-body focus going on. The raucous fuck can wait until she's on the build towards a big O!

 

[GD88]

No dirty talk. Especially if you’re the one dirty talking. Somehow things always backfire on me when I tell my wife I want to see her cum.

 

[pplwatching]

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