Premature Ejaculation

[NancyPan]

I am generally not allowed penetrative sex. Years ago, I could go for an extended period most of the time, although there definitely were times that I spurted early and disappointed my wife. Now, however, since she has been managing and restricting my orgasms, I have developed what I see is called “acquired premature ejaculation,” which means the inability to refrain from ejaculating for more than one to three minutes.

When I am being denied while I worship my wife and give her her orgasms, my penis is generally tucked or otherwise restrained so it does not feel and direct stimulation, or I am on my knees in front of her while she sits in a chair or on the side of the bed, or she sits on my face. No stimulation is provided to my small penis.

But when it is my time to release, she will allow me to lay on my stomach with my face in her pussy. She will tell me I can cum, tell me to enjoy it and make it last because I know it will be a long time before I get to spurt again. I try to last. I really do, but almost always it is over in less than a minute. I am always so humiliated, and she will say something like, “It’s okay, baby. I know you can’t control it. That’s why you need me to control it, don’t you honey?” or “It’s a good thing I don’t let you put it in me. Just think how frustrated I’d be right now.”

I really think she has conditioned me to be a premature ejaculater. She has my penis on a hair trigger much of the time and seems to find it both powerful and amusing.

 

[IARainman]

Is it really premature, or just a mental factor of the heightened state of arousal you are in. It happens to me when I edge for days on end, I’ll get far enough out that when want to cum, I’ll sometimes do it without even getting fully hard. I don’t consider that premature, just out of control, which is a special kind if excitement, or embarrassment in your case.

 

[MaxwellSmart86]

I am generally not allowed penetrative sex. Years ago, I could go for an extended period most of the time, although there definitely were times that I spurted early and disappointed my wife. Now, however, since she has been managing and restricting my orgasms, I have developed what I see is called “acquired premature ejaculation,” which means the inability to refrain from ejaculating for more than one to three minutes.

When I am being denied while I worship my wife and give her her orgasms, my penis is generally tucked or otherwise restrained so it does not feel and direct stimulation, or I am on my knees in front of her while she sits in a chair or on the side of the bed, or she sits on my face. No stimulation is provided to my small penis.

But when it is my time to release, she will allow me to lay on my stomach with my face in her pussy. She will tell me I can cum, tell me to enjoy it and make it last because I know it will be a long time before I get to spurt again. I try to last. I really do, but almost always it is over in less than a minute. I am always so humiliated, and she will say something like, “It’s okay, baby. I know you can’t control it. That’s why you need me to control it, don’t you honey?” or “It’s a good thing I don’t let you put it in me. Just think how frustrated I’d be right now.”

I really think she has conditioned me to be a premature ejaculater. She has my penis on a hair trigger much of the time and seems to find it both powerful and amusing.

I wouldn't call this premature ejaculation, as that is more of a medical condition. As you stated, you are conditioned to cum in this manner, I would say that is more of a muscle memory type of thing from extensive training.

 

[NancyPan]

I wouldn't call this premature ejaculation, as that is more of a medical condition. As you stated, you are conditioned to cum in this manner, I would say that is more of a muscle memory type of thing from extensive training.

Thanks for trying to “spin” this in my favor. I’ve done a little research. So-called “acquired“ premature ejaculation is, in fact, when the semen is involuntarily ejaculated within one to three minutes, and is developed in males that at one time were able to sustain. One of the chief reasons for acquired PE is psychological. Clearly, she has conditioned me, but it is more than muscle memory. She is in my head (both heads). Plus, being denied for weeks, I am on a hair trigger. Trust me, I try to hold it back because my enjoyment of worshipping her is diminished once I climax. I will finish her, because it is my duty, but I prefer to be in a heightened state of arousal. Plus, I only add to her rationale why I am not allowed to fuck.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

I am generally not allowed penetrative sex. Years ago, I could go for an extended period most of the time, although there definitely were times that I spurted early and disappointed my wife. Now, however, since she has been managing and restricting my orgasms, I have developed what I see is called “acquired premature ejaculation,” which means the inability to refrain from ejaculating for more than one to three minutes.

When I am being denied while I worship my wife and give her her orgasms, my penis is generally tucked or otherwise restrained so it does not feel and direct stimulation, or I am on my knees in front of her while she sits in a chair or on the side of the bed, or she sits on my face. No stimulation is provided to my small penis.

But when it is my time to release, she will allow me to lay on my stomach with my face in her pussy. She will tell me I can cum, tell me to enjoy it and make it last because I know it will be a long time before I get to spurt again. I try to last. I really do, but almost always it is over in less than a minute. I am always so humiliated, and she will say something like, “It’s okay, baby. I know you can’t control it. That’s why you need me to control it, don’t you honey?” or “It’s a good thing I don’t let you put it in me. Just think how frustrated I’d be right now.”

I really think she has conditioned me to be a premature ejaculater. She has my penis on a hair trigger much of the time and seems to find it both powerful and amusing.

Learn to enjoy it. I do and would not change if I could. Be happy she let's you taste her and cum when she sees fit

 

[Jcam1980s]

For the most part we're probably average time wise. But sometimes if it's been a while i have actually made sure i cum upon entry into her. Literally 1 stroke. She's usually had her orgasm by that point anyway.

 

[NancyPan]

For the most part we're probably average time wise. But sometimes if it's been a while i have actually made sure i cum upon entry into her. Literally 1 stroke. She's usually had her orgasm by that point anyway.

For a submission male, the privilege and excitement of being allowed entry, especially after prolonged denial and pussy worship, is overwhelming. There was a time that I took it for granted (fucking), but those days are long gone for me.

 

[CWinWI]

For a submission male, the privilege and excitement of being allowed entry, especially after prolonged denial and pussy worship, is overwhelming. There was a time that I took it for granted (fucking), but those days are long gone for me.

For a submission male, the privilege and excitement of being allowed entry, especially after prolonged denial and pussy worship, is overwhelming. There was a time that I took it for granted (fucking), but those days are long gone for me.

How did you learn to control yourself?

 

[NancyPan]

How did you learn to control yourself?

Not sure what you mean? Control myself how? She is Dominant, I am submissive. If she says that my penis is not allowed in her pussy, I accept her decision. I cum when and how she allows it.

 

[live4thebj]

I been cumming quite fast lately. I think a big part of it is not getting laid if at all. I try to numb it by periodically jerking off but when I do that I have trouble getting hard or keeping it hard. I am sure my age and meds may be contributing to the later.

 

[CWinWI]

Not sure what you mean? Control myself how? She is Dominant, I am submissive. If she says that my penis is not allowed in her pussy, I accept her decision. I cum when and how she allows it.

I was under the impression you learned or trained yourself to last longer.

 

[live4thebj]

I was under the impression you learned or trained yourself to last longer.

There is something I own that with practice supposed to help. Haven’t used it in awhile but I might after seeing this thread.

https://www.fleshlight.com/products/stamina-training-unit

 

[NancyPan]

I was under the impression you learned or trained yourself to last longer.

Actually, just the opposite. The point of this thread is that, as my wife has denied me PIV sex and managed my orgasms (only allowing about one a month), and increasingly teased me about cumming quickly, I believe I have become more of a premature ejaculator. When she does give permission, I cum fast, even when I try to hold it back to make it last. She just laughs and says that is why I need her to control it (because I am not man enough to control it myself).

 

[NancyPan]

There is something I own that with practice supposed to help. Haven’t used it in awhile but I might after seeing this thread.

https://www.fleshlight.com/products/stamina-training-unit

Not for me. I am not allowed to masturbate without her permission. I don’t think she would allow such a device. I can’t imagine asking her if I could have one.

 

[NancyPan]

Does she insist that you hump the bed or jerk off without stopping until you orgasm? I.e. will she permit you to carefully edge yourself under her supervision for a while before you eventually spurt for her?

Most of the time I am laying prone on my stomach with my mouth on her pussy. Very occasionally, if she does not want to be worshipped, she will allow me to wank while she supervises. If I am on my stomach, I am not literally humping, but the slightest movement against the silky nylon of my panties combined with my excitement and her teasing becomes too much for me to stop the spurt.

This may have answered my question. She sounds like a wonderfully devilish domme.

I am very lucky. I know that. Sometimes I almost cum at the first scent of her.

Seriously though, I suspect that she might enjoy you asking her permission to edge for her, and them watching you squirm as you start and stop stimulating yourself in desperation to both deny and achieve your long-awaited orgasm.

Hmmm? I don’t think so. When I am worshipping her, this would be a distraction, and in these situations she has informed me in advance that I have permission to “let it go.” If she is not really in the mood and she is simply rewarding me by letting me cum, she acts bored and just wants me to get it over with. In both situations she teases me using words she knows will send me over the edge.

It's probably also worth noting that the term "premature ejaculation" usually applies to situations where the male's early orgasm prevents sexual consummation, especially in a way that denies her pleasure or blocks reproductive objectives. None of that appears to apply in your case.

Technically, I guess this is all true, but one of the two reasons she stopped allowing me PIV sex was her frustration with my PE. It has only become worse.

Instead she's intentionally and aptly using your infrequent orgasms as both motivation and reward to get the behavior and sexual service from you that she desires. She seems to be quite adept at it and from what you wrote you appear to be meeting, and perhaps even exceeding, her sexual expectations of you.

All true, and making life better for us both!

So if she's indeed happy with your service, it can't hurt to politely request a few more minutes to carefully edge yourself for her entertainment... and your own.

Maybe. I am careful about what I ask and how often I make requests.There are a few things I want, not sure this would be towards the top of the list. Really appreciate your thoughtful comments! NancyPan

 

[slavecaro]

Very interesting. How about a Domme that promotes premature ejaculation using other methods. One idea is when she is going to let you cum, getting a very strong vibrator and putting it just under the head of your penis. After a month of denial you would probably cum very quickly. I am sure there are a lot of ways to train someone to cum very quickly.

I also like the humiliation aspect before or after cumming quickly. A couple of quotes for that:

• “Why can’t you make me cum during sex?”
• “No, you are not allowed inside of me because your cock does not please me. and you cum too quickly”

• “No, you cannot bring me to orgasm. I am not letting you inside me.”
• "I don’t want to fuck you but I want to see you jack that little thing off."
• “Are you ever going to be allowed to make love to me again?”
• “Are you happy never being allowed to make love to a woman again?”
• “Are you happy to only have orgasms while I humiliate or dominate you?”
• “Then apologize to your mistress that you cannot please her sexually.”

I would love to hear your quotes or suggestions for humiliating things you have heard or wish your Dmme would say.

 

[NancyPan]

I would love to hear your quotes or suggestions for humiliating things you have heard or wish your Dmme would say.

Everyone is different, obviously, and words are powerful. My wife really doesn’t need anything like a vibrator to get me to cum more quickly after a sustained period of denial, nor does she need to remind me why “it” is not allowed in her any more. She knows what it takes to send me over the edge, but I would never write a “script” for what she should say to me.

You may find this strange, but she does not use the word “fuck.” She doesn’t like it and doesn’t allow me to use it. And she does not refer to my penis as a “cock,” because it is not big enough to be considered a cock. She calls it a penis.In contrast, she calls her vibrator her toy cock. I think most experienced and intuitive Dommes know just what to say and how to say it to humiliate their sub.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

There is something I own that with practice supposed to help. Haven’t used it in awhile but I might after seeing this thread.

https://www.fleshlight.com/products/stamina-training-unit

I think that would be nice but I am so afraid to ask my wife for one. She has forbidden me to even think about putting my penis into a vigina. Little boys who can not please their wives have no right to think about such things. Her words and I humbly accept her wisdom. Oh I do dream sometimes. Silly me.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

Everyone is different, obviously, and words are powerful. My wife really doesn’t need anything like a vibrator to get me to cum more quickly after a sustained period of denial, nor does she need to remind me why “it” is not allowed in her any more. She knows what it takes to send me over the edge, but I would never write a “script” for what she should say to me.

You may find this strange, but she does not use the word “fuck.” She doesn’t like it and doesn’t allow me to use it. And she does not refer to my penis as a “cock,” because it is not big enough to be considered a cock. She calls it a penis.In contrast, she calls her vibrator her toy cock. I think most experienced and intuitive Dommes know just what to say and how to say it to humiliate their sub.

Oh NancyPan. I feel as if we are twin sisters living the same life.

 

[StoneDiva]

I am generally not allowed penetrative sex. Years ago, I could go for an extended period most of the time, although there definitely were times that I spurted early and disappointed my wife. Now, however, since she has been managing and restricting my orgasms, I have developed what I see is called “acquired premature ejaculation,” which means the inability to refrain from ejaculating for more than one to three minutes.

When I am being denied while I worship my wife and give her her orgasms, my penis is generally tucked or otherwise restrained so it does not feel and direct stimulation, or I am on my knees in front of her while she sits in a chair or on the side of the bed, or she sits on my face. No stimulation is provided to my small penis.

But when it is my time to release, she will allow me to lay on my stomach with my face in her pussy. She will tell me I can cum, tell me to enjoy it and make it last because I know it will be a long time before I get to spurt again. I try to last. I really do, but almost always it is over in less than a minute. I am always so humiliated, and she will say something like, “It’s okay, baby. I know you can’t control it. That’s why you need me to control it, don’t you honey?” or “It’s a good thing I don’t let you put it in me. Just think how frustrated I’d be right now.”

I really think she has conditioned me to be a premature ejaculater. She has my penis on a hair trigger much of the time and seems to find it both powerful and amusing.

This is hot as fuck! You are lucky to have such a skilled mistress!