The Joy of Orgasm Denial

[NancyPan]

Some guys are into masturbating all of the time, every day or multiple times a day -- I'll admit it, I used to do that. Some guys fuck whenever they get a chance -- I used to do that, too. Nowadays my orgasms are strictly controlled. I cum when my wife allows it. She grants masturbation rarely, and when she does, it is a reward. I am on the honor system, which, I believe in many ways is harder than being in a chastity device. I am allowed to give myself erections, but not allowed to spurt. She will ask me if I've been "a good boy," and of course we both know what she means. I will not lie to her, and she could tell even if I tried.

Since we started orgasm denial, I have masturbated without permission only twice. The first time she sincerely threated to end our FLR, which I sincerely did not want. The second time I went to her and confessed and she punished me by making me wear boys underwear for 8 days and emptying out my panty drawers. I did not know if or when I'd be allowed the privilege of wearing women's panties again. Every day I had to show her my tightie whities and tell her why I was wearing them and what I was learning from wearing them (that my penis did not belong to me).

I find that having my orgasms managed by her keeps me focused on serving her and when I am allowed to worship her pussy I am totally focused on providing her the orgasm she deserves. I keep myself tucked or tightly encased in a girdle so that I do not have an accident. I am in a continual state of arousal for her and, therefore, very attentive to her needs. I have accepted that my penis is inadequate in pleasing her and that she far prefers oral service and toys. She does not need my penis and only views it as a tool to reward me.

Our relationship has improved very much since she took control of my orgasms. I am very grateful. At first she had trouble understanding why I would not want to cum every time we had a sexual encounter, but she has long since come to unmderstand how this is far better for me, and, of course, for her. It is now my opinion that a man who ejaculates whenever he feels the urge tends to be a selfish lover. At least for me, I need a woman's control!

How many others share this joy?

 

[DpropertyofR]

I am basking in the afterglow of an intense session with my Master in which I was bound and gagged and edged with a wand, but I was absolutely not allowed to cum until he gave the command. When he finally let me, it was a series of explosions that damn near knocked me unconscious.
We have experimented with enforced chastity as well. I got punished once for touching myself while I was half asleep. I didn’t even cum, but I confessed and took the punishment. He put me on display by making me sit, naked, bound, and gagged, on my sofa in front of my window, which was not covered. My neighbor could have easily seen me. He wanted me to be humiliated by having others see what a dirty, disobedient slut I am. It was the hottest punishment ever.

 

[CEOescape]

Some guys are into masturbating all of the time, every day or multiple times a day -- I'll admit it, I used to do that. Some guys fuck whenever they get a chance -- I used to do that, too. Nowadays my orgasms are strictly controlled. I cum when my wife allows it. She grants masturbation rarely, and when she does, it is a reward. I am on the honor system, which, I believe in many ways is harder than being in a chastity device. I am allowed to give myself erections, but not allowed to spurt. She will ask me if I've been "a good boy," and of course we both know what she means. I will not lie to her, and she could tell even if I tried.

Since we started orgasm denial, I have masturbated without permission only twice. The first time she sincerely threated to end our FLR, which I sincerely did not want. The second time I went to her and confessed and she punished me by making me wear boys underwear for 8 days and emptying out my panty drawers. I did not know if or when I'd be allowed the privilege of wearing women's panties again. Every day I had to show her my tightie whities and tell her why I was wearing them and what I was learning from wearing them (that my penis did not belong to me).

I find that having my orgasms managed by her keeps me focused on serving her and when I am allowed to worship her pussy I am totally focused on providing her the orgasm she deserves. I keep myself tucked or tightly encased in a girdle so that I do not have an accident. I am in a continual state of arousal for her and, therefore, very attentive to her needs. I have accepted that my penis is inadequate in pleasing her and that she far prefers oral service and toys. She does not need my penis and only views it as a tool to reward me.

Our relationship has improved very much since she took control of my orgasms. I am very grateful. At first she had trouble understanding why I would not want to cum every time we had a sexual encounter, but she has long since come to unmderstand how this is far better for me, and, of course, for her. It is now my opinion that a man who ejaculates whenever he feels the urge tends to be a selfish lover. At least for me, I need a woman's control!

How many others share this joy?

as a result of not cumming all the time, we have enjoyed the control of not cumming and pleasing her longer. Now i can fuck for hours and do little things not to orgasm.

 

[Dancingflamengoals]

I deny my own orgasms often and then dont cum until i am desperate

 

[NancyPan]

I deny my own orgasms often and then dont cum until i am desperate

Good for you! Then you have some idea of the intense pleasure when the orgasm is allowed. For me, as a submissive male, to have it controlled by my wife enhances my arousal considerably. We both like it that she can tease me, use, comment about (sometimes tease me about) my arousal and erection and keep me denied until she chooses that I deserve a spurt. Not being in control of it enhances the “desperation,” my submission, and my devotion.

 

[lowcollar]

I really love being edged and sex taking a long time. Her total control of when or if I cum is a very submissive act. Also, when I finally cum, it is intense and a lot of cum. Which of course, if I am lucky, I get to eat

 

[NancyPan]

I really love being edged and sex taking a long time. Her total control of when or if I cum is a very submissive act. Also, when I finally cum, it is intense and a lot of cum. Which of course, if I am lucky, I get to eat

Does she allow you to ejaculate each time you have sex, or do you sometimes have to please her, but remain denied? I would estimate that She allows me to spurt every 4th or 5th time, never twice in a row. When I know I am going to be denied, she will say something like, “You won’t be cumming, so I want your focus entirely on me.” When she orgasms, I feel like I share in that with her. It is very powerful.

 

[Will527]

Being at the point of orgasm feels so good that all men want it to last and last and since we cannot edge ourselves, we cherish when a woman does it for us and determines if and when we can come. During masturbation, a man is seeking the orgasm and edging is out of the question and we can't resist coming. But having someone else edge us is the ultimate pleasure and yields intense orgasms. Orgasm denial that exceeds a few hours however in my opinion is not a form of edging and falls under femdom.

 

[Wonderer67]

My wife and I have a dynamic such as this. She controls my orgasms. We have sex 2-3x a week, but I almost never cum. I love edging inside her while I’m close and fucking her to orgasms.

I love making her cum.

She also likes to watch me masturbate and edge, but she always says “don’t you cum” very playfully.

I often go weeks without cumming. When I do cum, it’s usually a long edging session where she’s in control. The ejaculations are huge and intense and always well worth the wait.

Sometimes I feel addicted to the feeling of edging and NOT cumming.

 

[Will527]

I've heard that prolonging an orgasm for too long, or not ejaculating at all can be unhealthful in some way. Does anybody know the truth about that?

 

[Wonderer67]

I've heard that prolonging an orgasm for too long, or not ejaculating at all can be unhealthful in some way. Does anybody know the truth about that?

I dunno, I’ve gone up to six weeks between cumming during long periods of tease and denial w my wife.

I’ve heard it can be problematic, but I’ve also heard there are no health risks involved. But I suppose it’s like any other muscle in your body… if ya don’t use it ya lose it. Probably needs some sort of exercise.

I typically go 2-3 weeks without cumming. So far so good.

 

[live4thebj]

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