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[MaybeMae]

You can totally meet someone on lit IRL! I have and there's a shitasston of Litsters in Bawlmer!

I've met a few litsters IRL and they have all been lovely people! I'm sure there is someone out there just waiting to disprove that statement but in my experience, since this site has a real reading component the users tend to be more literate, and literate can equal in intelligence, so there is that.

 

[rlaflamme]

I've met a few litsters IRL and they have all been lovely people! I'm sure there is someone out there just waiting to disprove that statement but in my experience, since this site has a real reading component the users tend to be more literate, and literate can equal in intelligence, so there is that.

One can hope for that, the literate and intelligent part lol. I think you can find real connections here and have people you can bounce your thoughts and feelings off of. I do also believe you can really meet them if you so choose, I just have not gone that far.

 

[rlaflamme]

Sometimes the day just seems to sort of drag on, with no end in sight and no motivation coming. These are the days that a conversation can help, can lift you a bit and make your mind work the way is should.

I wonder if it really could be that simple, just a few words, maybe an hour or so of talking and boom! Life can resume.

 

[BeautifulBlueSky218]

I've always craved connections, over something small. It quickly fades and it's boring to me. Connection is everything. Finding that person you can open up too and share your deepest fears and secrets to. Past two years were difficult for me after I left my ex, but I'm coming around again. I'm feeling stronger and confident in myself. Haven't lost hope in my future. Talking with someone you can trust and be open too, is beyond sexy. You can sort of feel the energy as you both open up. This is why I could never have one night stands. I'm sure it's fun and exciting to some people but intelligent conversations excite me!!

 

[rlaflamme]

I've always craved connections, over something small. It quickly fades and it's boring to me. Connection is everything. Finding that person you can open up too and share your deepest fears and secrets to. Past two years were difficult for me after I left my ex, but I'm coming around again. I'm feeling stronger and confident in myself. Haven't lost hope in my future. Talking with someone you can trust and be open too, is beyond sexy. You can sort of feel the energy as you both open up. This is why I could never have one night stands. I'm sure it's fun and exciting to some people but intelligent conversations excite me!!

Quick connections are just that, quick, with no thought or hope of them continuing on down the line, just a simple acquaintance that will disappear faster than the smoke from a Bic lighter.

A long, thoughtful and real conversation can last a very long time, and can make the world a little less solitary for someone. It doesn't really matter if you will ever really meet or anything like that, it is just a way to open up to someone and feel comfortable doing so.

 

[BeautifulBlueSky218]

Quick connections are just that, quick, with no thought or hope of them continuing on down the line, just a simple acquaintance that will disappear faster than the smoke from a Bic lighter.

A long, thoughtful and real conversation can last a very long time, and can make the world a little less solitary for someone. It doesn't really matter if you will ever really meet or anything like that, it is just a way to open up to someone and feel comfortable doing so.

Yes! I couldn't agree more!

 

[rlaflamme]

Yes! I couldn't agree more!

It is strange, and I have said it so many times, that it is such a simple thing, but it is so difficult to do.

I think when people start to get close in conversing a fear comes in that takes that away, whether known or not. There is a slight fear that comes over people when they think a wall may come down, they feel they may give to much information, may open up far to much and let someone in when they are not sure they are ready to. We doubt ourselves as much as we doubt others and that has a profound effect on or conversation.

 

[BeautifulBlueSky218]

It is strange, and I have said it so many times, that it is such a simple thing, but it is so difficult to do.

I think when people start to get close in conversing a fear comes in that takes that away, whether known or not. There is a slight fear that comes over people when they think a wall may come down, they feel they may give to much information, may open up far to much and let someone in when they are not sure they are ready to. We doubt ourselves as much as we doubt others and that has a profound effect on or conversation.

I've noticed the same thing. They fear many things, rejection, pain, old memories coming back to haunt them. Just simple worries that end up creating inside there heads. It continues too. It's best just to let things flow naturally.

 

[rlaflamme]

I've noticed the same thing. They fear many things, rejection, pain, old memories coming back to haunt them. Just simple worries that end up creating inside there heads. It continues too. It's best just to let things flow naturally.

And those luckily enough to make a true connection learn that it is okay to open up, to share fears, worries, tears and failures as much as it is okay to share joy, laughter, desires and smiles.

 

[rlaflamme]

Do you ever wonder if people don't start a conversation because they just don't know how? Even more so on a site like this. People need to find a way to draw attention to a message they send, to grab at the person and draw them in. That can be a bit intimidating. It is hard and nerve-racking enough to say hello for some people, now to add that element to it, to find a way to stand out of he crowd.

That might be part of the problem with this seemingly simple thing, people just don't have any idea how to start it off. And then to keep it going, well that is a different story....

 

[Buscando]

Does it matter? Yes, but probably not here.

Has anyone else noticed that so many of the reasons – or excuses – offered for the lack of even basic conversational skills here have involved some form of fear, or the resulting sense of intimidation as that which keeps people from even introducing themselves, much less beginning and maintaining any sort of interesting dialogue?
While we could easily discuss all or at least many of the potential reasons for that, the sheer volume of the subject matter is best left to a forum dedicated exclusively to just that.
But for me, personally, I feel that at this point in our lives, it just doesn’t matter, since I just have no desire to put the necessary time and energy required into any conversation with such people, since I have so frequently found that, as a result of their self-limited life experience, they simply have very little of interest to say.
When someone has only stood timidly at the water’s edge, risking just the contact of a toe before a fearful retreat, without the heart, curiosity or intellect to wade on in and feel the magic, mystery and power of the sea, to know the taste the universe itself offered in the eternally moving water, and to perhaps then better know something of their own beginnings, the nature of the present, and to more deeply contemplate the future, then how do I choose to take the time to hear that person over one who has plunged into the sea and, irresistibly wondering, been moved to feel and taste and to explore that vast body and all the lands mountains, jungles, deserts and peoples beyond?
With which, in all probability, is my time better spent? Who will leave me with a wider and better understanding of the world in which we live? Which of these people will far more likely have the knowledge, strength, character, creativity and perspective to leave me a better person for having had our conversation? Which of them will inspire me to go on and to challenge myself to become something more than I am, following our conversation?
So if someone lacks the strength or curiosity to even begin a conversation, especially in a time and place in which so much more conversation is needed, or when, with all there is to be discussed, they best opening they may have to offer is something like, “Say, how about those ______ (fill in the team)?” Then, again, I have to believe my time is better spent elsewhere.
This is a vast site, with an apparently endless and interesting selection of views on the stated theme of this venue and people to discuss them, which in turn broadens everyone’s world who chooses to engage, so why devote a lot of time and space to those who choose – for whatever reason – to hide and contribute so very little to the chosen and stated subject? There are so many other venues for that, and they’re so much better suited to it.
Erotica, after all, is about those who have chosen to explore and engage together; to interact and embrace and to share themselves and their experiences. It ain’t Miss Lonelyhearts. For those of us here for the erotic experience and education … please, let us have our own space here for just that purpose. Thank you.

 

[MrDevereaux]

Do you ever wonder if people don't start a conversation because they just don't know how? Even more so on a site like this. People need to find a way to draw attention to a message they send, to grab at the person and draw them in. That can be a bit intimidating. It is hard and nerve-racking enough to say hello for some people, now to add that element to it, to find a way to stand out of he crowd.

That might be part of the problem with this seemingly simple thing, people just don't have any idea how to start it off. And then to keep it going, well that is a different story....

Conversation starters can be difficult with little to go off with people. Cold messaging, tried it with little luck, so guess my technique is not great. On the forums it must be a little easier, as you have a thread and an idea of what to spark a conversation or remark with.

 

[Bjerget]

Hi all! So I ended up not having my PC with me all week and this is gonna sound dumb, but I couldn't remember my words to log in on my phone, so I was away for some time. But I'm back again. Hope all have been well.

 

[rlaflamme]

Hi all! So I ended up not having my PC with me all week and this is gonna sound dumb, but I couldn't remember my words to log in on my phone, so I was away for some time. But I'm back again. Hope all have been well.

Welcome back! I completely understand not remembering the words to log in lol.

 

[Bjerget]

Welcome back! I completely understand not remembering the words to log in lol.

And I was all worried that I'd have to reset them, then not be able to log in on my PC when I got home and that I'd be stuck in an endless cycle of resetting my words back and forth every time I wanted to use lit on my phone or my PC.

lmfao

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

And I was all worried that I'd have to reset them, then not be able to log in on my PC when I got home and that I'd be stuck in an endless cycle of resetting my words back and forth every time I wanted to use lit on my phone or my PC.

lmfao

Haha

Hello pretty girl

 

[JanetF]

newbie

Hello all, I am pretty new usually I just lurk

 

[youngrabbit]

Hello all, I am pretty new usually I just lurk

Hi Janet, hope you're well

 

[rlaflamme]

And I was all worried that I'd have to reset them, then not be able to log in on my PC when I got home and that I'd be stuck in an endless cycle of resetting my words back and forth every time I wanted to use lit on my phone or my PC.

lmfao

Oy! Yeah that always seems like an endless cycle that threatens the rest of my hair lol.

Hello all, I am pretty new usually I just lurk

Hi Janet, hope you're well

Greetings to you both. There is nothing wrong with lurking, many people do just that

 

[MrDevereaux]

Welcome back, shiva! I understand about setting words and forgetting them. I should remember mine to use on pc!

Welcome, as well, to JanetF

 

[Bjerget]

Haha

Hello pretty girl

Hey there lovely! How are you? Sorry I posted and ran: I'm a bit under the weather, seem to have acquired a touch of the crud during my holiday. Hope you're doing alright.

 

[Bjerget]

Hello all, I am pretty new usually I just lurk

Welcome! We don't bite... unless asked nicely

 

[Bjerget]

Hi Janet, hope you're well

Hah I love your avatar

 

[Bjerget]

Oy! Yeah that always seems like an endless cycle that threatens the rest of my hair lol.

What other things threaten your hair?

Welcome back, shiva! I understand about setting words and forgetting them. I should remember mine to use on pc!

TY TY how have you been keeping?

 

[rlaflamme]

What other things threaten your hair?



TY TY how have you been keeping?

The figuring out an changing the passwords 246 times makes me rip the rest of it out lol.