What would be your reaction?

[BeginningAuthor]

Hi everyone, I just commented on another thread in this forum Burn the bitch stories and it got me to thinking about another story plot that comes up more and more – sexual blackmail or sextortion. I wanted your opinions and thoughts if your partner was a victim and went along with the demands, but never told you. They sent pictures to someone online they were having a conversation with or they went out for drink\date at a hotel bar with the coworker they had been flirting with and were drugged and taken upstairs to a room. We’re talking about situations that may not have been a full-blown affair at the time but was heading that way. I’m not talking clear cut – “he drugged me at the party” situations where there was no intent on having a relationship. We are talking about situations where your partner feels guilty or embarrassed about because they knew they were wrong to place themselves in that situation in the first place.

So, the question is: how mad at them would you be if you found out they have been forced to perform sexual acts either online or in person for their blackmailer. Could you forgive them because they were blackmailed? Would our relationship still in be jeopardy because it was their actions which allowed their blackmailer the ability to get the material they used for the blackmail?

Your thoughts?

 

[SimonDoom]

Hi everyone, I just commented on another thread in this forum Burn the bitch stories and it got me to thinking about another story plot that comes up more and more – sexual blackmail or sextortion. I wanted your opinions and thoughts if your partner was a victim and went along with the demands, but never told you. They sent pictures to someone online they were having a conversation with or they went out for drink\date at a hotel bar with the coworker they had been flirting with and were drugged and taken upstairs to a room. We’re talking about situations that may not have been a full-blown affair at the time but was heading that way. I’m not talking clear cut – “he drugged me at the party” situations where there was no intent on having a relationship. We are talking about situations where your partner feels guilty or embarrassed about because they knew they were wrong to place themselves in that situation in the first place.

So, the question is: how mad at them would you be if you found out they have been forced to perform sexual acts either online or in person for their blackmailer. Could you forgive them because they were blackmailed? Would our relationship still in be jeopardy because it was their actions which allowed their blackmailer the ability to get the material they used for the blackmail?

Your thoughts?

Interesting question, and it's a good concept for a story. My answer is, "it depends."

There are an infinite number of different twists on the facts that could affect my response.


If my partner did something stupid before she was my partner, and then while she was my partner acted under a genuine feeling of duress, I would try to be helpful and sympathetic.

If she did something stupid while being with me, and lied about it, I would be much less sympathetic. I might feel sorry for her and her predicament but still feel so burned by the dishonesty or skeptical about her judgment that it might affect the relationship.

There's no way to answer in the abstract, without knowing all the facts.

The Schwarzenegger movie True Lies plays on this idea. Harry, a secret agent, thinks his wife may be having an affair, so he stages a scene where she reveals her desire for adventure and he gets her to strip for him, though she doesn't know it's him at the time. He feels conflicted about the fact he's set up his wife to do this and also about the fact that she seems to be into doing a strip tease for what she thinks is a strange man. It's a contrived scene but it's the best part of the movie.

Blackmail creates a great deal of moral ambiguity, so it's a great device for erotica.

 

[KeithD]

Interesting question, and it's a good concept for a story. My answer is, "it depends."

There are an infinite number of different twists on the facts that could affect my response.

That was my thought too. This is a story site, so I'd approach it from what would make an interesting story rather than anything going on in real life--and I could see it going multiple directions.

 

[Handley_Page]

Hi everyone, I just commented on another thread in this forum Burn the bitch stories and it got me to thinking about another story plot that comes up more and more – sexual blackmail or sextortion.
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So, the question is: how mad at them would you be if you found out they have been forced to perform sexual acts either online or in person for their blackmailer. Could you forgive them because they were blackmailed? Would our relationship still in be jeopardy because it was their actions which allowed their blackmailer the ability to get the material they used for the blackmail?

Your thoughts?

I think there's a lot of variables here:
how long has the marriage been going ?
age of the parties
any children ? [& at what age?]
any good support from the neighbours / family ?

Good Luck

 

[BeginningAuthor]

Interesting question, and it's a good concept for a story. My answer is, "it depends."

There are an infinite number of different twists on the facts that could affect my response.


If my partner did something stupid before she was my partner, and then while she was my partner acted under a genuine feeling of duress, I would try to be helpful and sympathetic.

If she did something stupid while being with me, and lied about it, I would be much less sympathetic. I might feel sorry for her and her predicament but still feel so burned by the dishonesty or skeptical about her judgment that it might affect the relationship.

There's no way to answer in the abstract, without knowing all the facts.

The Schwarzenegger movie True Lies plays on this idea. Harry, a secret agent, thinks his wife may be having an affair, so he stages a scene where she reveals her desire for adventure and he gets her to strip for him, though she doesn't know it's him at the time. He feels conflicted about the fact he's set up his wife to do this and also about the fact that she seems to be into doing a strip tease for what she thinks is a strange man. It's a contrived scene but it's the best part of the movie.

Blackmail creates a great deal of moral ambiguity, so it's a great device for erotica.

I think he might have changed his mind when she bashed him on the head with the telephone. Somewhat proof that she was doing this as part of her assignment.

And I agree, it is one of the best parts to me because it was sexy woman trying to act like a vanilla woman playing a sexy woman.

Thanks for your input

 

[gordo12]

It's a pretty common plot in LW stories. As to my own reaction, it depends.

Drugged, no contest and God help the perpetrator.

Stupidity or drunkenness. I'd have a hard time getting past that one.

Which of course makes it an ideal LW plot 'cause it can go in so many directions.

 

[Maeven_quinn]

If anyone drugs one my partner, we're going to the police within 24 hours not matter how angry or shamed either of us feel.

My relationship is open, so if my partner flirted with or slept with a co-worker or something that's within the bounds of our relationship. However, we're a little too old (late twenties) for "Oh I got sooo drunk" bullshit.

Blackmail depends on so many different things. I don't share nudes online. Period. For anybody. So if my partner did that for any reason, I'd get upset. What did my partner even get blackmailed for in the first place would be the first secret I'd need to find out. What did the blackmailer known about my partner that I don't?

 

[BeginningAuthor]

If anyone drugs one my partner, we're going to the police within 24 hours not matter how angry or shamed either of us feel.

My relationship is open, so if my partner flirted with or slept with a co-worker or something that's within the bounds of our relationship. However, we're a little too old (late twenties) for "Oh I got sooo drunk" bullshit.

Blackmail depends on so many different things. I don't share nudes online. Period. For anybody. So if my partner did that for any reason, I'd get upset. What did my partner even get blackmailed for in the first place would be the first secret I'd need to find out. What did the blackmailer known about my partner that I don't?

Maybe the blackmailer didn't know anything special about your partner, but seduced your partner over a period of time. Your partner finally gave in and meet the blackmailer at a bar/restaurant in a hotel, without you knowing - one roofie later and now pictures and movie of your partner and the blackmailer and the blackmailer's friends, etc. etc.

Partner didn't get drunk, partner did go there for drugs, but your partner should have know that meeting someone who has seduced them for a few months in hotel bar without your knowledge has certain expectations involved with the meeting.

 

[8letters]

So, the question is: how mad at them would you be if you found out they have been forced to perform sexual acts either online or in person for their blackmailer. Could you forgive them because they were blackmailed? Would our relationship still in be jeopardy because it was their actions which allowed their blackmailer the ability to get the material they used for the blackmail?

What would it take to get YOU to perform sexual acts either online or in person for a blackmailer? What would they have to hold over your head? Pictures of you naked? Video of you having sex with someone while you were drunk or drugged? Evidence that you had committed a crime?

 

[SimonDoom]

What would it take to get YOU to perform sexual acts either online or in person for a blackmailer? What would they have to hold over your head? Pictures of you naked? Video of you having sex with someone while you were drunk or drugged? Evidence that you had committed a crime?

Good questions. From a dramatic perspective, the most interesting point of view is that of the person being blackmailed, and how and why they might succumb to blackmail. The partner's point of view, while interesting, is not AS interesting, since it primarily concerns judgment about the person being blackmailed rather than the choices that make the story interesting.

 

[BeginningAuthor]

What would it take to get YOU to perform sexual acts either online or in person for a blackmailer? What would they have to hold over your head? Pictures of you naked? Video of you having sex with someone while you were drunk or drugged? Evidence that you had committed a crime?

I actually thought about what this question and what would I do. I don't know if there is actually anything that would make me succumb to a blackmailer. I know most of the time, you either have to keep going and get deeper and deeper under their control or you are found out. So, I think I would take the hit and deal with the consequences of my actions. Plus, they would have to hide from me because I think I would hunt them down or do something physical to them if they ever wanted face to face.

Now, if they had kidnapped my family and wanted to force me to do something, I probably would, but I would still let me expose me once I have my family back and so I wouldn't have to put up with them in the long run.

I think, but what I think I would do may not be what I would do if it ever actually happened.

I know I would be mad at my spouse for getting herself in the place she could be blackmailed in the first place. In my scenario, she would have had to know she would know that if she had to lie about something, like meeting someone in a hotel bar, then it I wouldn't be okay about. If we talked before and came to an agreement, different story.

I wouldn't be mad at her for actions she had to do during the blackmail, just the actions that got her there in the first place.

 

[BeginningAuthor]

Good questions. From a dramatic perspective, the most interesting point of view is that of the person being blackmailed, and how and why they might succumb to blackmail. The partner's point of view, while interesting, is not AS interesting, since it primarily concerns judgment about the person being blackmailed rather than the choices that make the story interesting.

You know, after reading your reply I started thinking about the story from the victims side. Follow her/his decision making process and why they would let someone blackmail them instead of facing their spouse. Maybe go on to their mental state as the blackmailer made them do more and more. From meet me at room xxxx, to meet my 5 friends at room xxx, to you're stripping here Sat night, to make sure you get the money at the end of the night from the frat boys. You do whatever they say.

That would take some thought into the deterioration of someone's mental state to go from "one time and I'm done" to being pimped out.

 

[8letters]

I actually thought about what this question and what would I do. I don't know if there is actually anything that would make me succumb to a blackmailer. I know most of the time, you either have to keep going and get deeper and deeper under their control or you are found out. So, I think I would take the hit and deal with the consequences of my actions. Plus, they would have to hide from me because I think I would hunt them down or do something physical to them if they ever wanted face to face.

Bingo! This scenario is post-betrayl noncon sex that the victim agrees to. What kind of person does that? And would you want to be with such a person?

 

[Jada59]

I personally wouldn't believe it. Simple as that.