Male Chastity: Women, what do you get out of it?

[sub2femdom]

This is a long-winded question..

I totally get the hotwife/cuckold lifestyle with the male in chastity, but where I get a little lost is considering the relationship where the male is in chastity and the wife/couple do not engage in sex with others.

For those women who keep their husbands in chastity, but are totally faithful, I want to ask a few questions. The more detailed the answers, the better. Thanks!

1. What do you get out of it specifically?
2. Whose idea was it?
3. How long do you keep him locked before releases?
4. Do you allow him to freely penetrate you on release, or are his releases always centered around the chastity or humiliation play?
5. Do you enjoy the fact that you can 'play' with him and freely orgasm, and that he cannot?
6. Can you describe your feelings during different parts of the play?
7. Can you add anything else that I might be missing?

I've been involved with occasional chastity play on a few different levels, and this understanding I'm seeking I think will help me better understand the female perspective and be a better sub. Thanks again for your responses

 

[twister947]

My sense is that chastity is largely a male fascination. Given a choice, most women would rather go shopping.

 

[Jada59]

I have actually never done it and wouldn't unless he wanted it, so I might not answer all of your questions. But...

The thrill of it for me would be knowing that he was aching and feeling needy. Sort of like edging but taking it a step further.

Once released, I would let him have his way with me, or I would have my way with him. Whichever I felt like at the time.

 

[whenagain]

I have actually never done it and wouldn't unless he wanted it, so I might not answer all of your questions. But...

The thrill of it for me would be knowing that he was aching and feeling needy. Sort of like edging but taking it a step further.

Once released, I would let him have his way with me, or I would have my way with him. Whichever I felt like at the time.

I think, I’m observing, this is true. It represents a sort of “extreme “ of femdom/cuckolding that plays more often in porn than life.

 

[AnnieLit]

What Jada said.

Never done it, don't think I am going to, but in theory it looks like an extended teasing/edging. Can be fun, especially if started discreetly in public and then continued for a while at home. But I am talking about few hours, when it gets to days or weeks at a time, I have no idea why would anybody do it.

 

[sub2femdom]

I'm surprised more here aren't into it.

While yes, I agree it is largely a male-centric fantasy, I'm surprised because I would have thought more women would enjoy the power transfer and control, especially to use it to teach the male how to be better at pleasuring.

The cages (sales-wise) have exploded in popularity, so I figured it was becoming a bigger fetish for both men and women, and not just men.

I'm into it, but like someone else said, more into the few hours at a time, having it used to tease moreso than a lifestyle.

Would love to hear more female perspectives on this. Ty

 

[CuteSlaveLisa]

...Given a choice, most women would rather go shopping.

Shopping is effective and efficient,

Try returning an hour of psychotherapy sometime, even if you have the receipt.

Love and Kisses

Lisa Ann

 

[cuck72]

I would love to try being in Chastity, being teased by my wife as she tells me about a real man fucking her. How a real man would never think of being in Chastity. But sadly my wife's not into thinking of me as a submissive cuckold bitch boy.

 

[switchersm]

Hello, I am Tom and my wife is Anke.
She has posted a supplement in my profile.
May be it helps you to understand the female side a bit:
"Here is a supplement from me, Anke:
Some may think, that I am a selfish and cruel wife, when they read, what Tom has written above. Let me say, that I hadn't heard about male chastity or cock cages, before Tom asked me to keep him caged years ago. I hesitated at first and agreed only after a half year test and a lot of talking about likes and dislikes, feelings and changes in our sexual relationship. And, in result of our talking, we have signed a contract to our both secure.
Of course our special lifestyle has developed within the years, and also we have developed. I have become sexual dominating, what I haven't been before. I now like to humiliate Tom, to tease him, that is a very great fun for me, to spank him really hard and painful, what - never thought that before - makes me total horny, I like to expose him to others, what also is a very big stimulus for Tom. And, my biggest turn on, more than fucking with Robert, is to deny him Orgasms, may be soon, to reduce them to zero. Sounds cruel, yes, but is in mutual agreement and - as a possibilty - content of our contract, we have signed years ago. We are in deep love."

 

[Jada59]

I'm surprised more here aren't into it.

While yes, I agree it is largely a male-centric fantasy, I'm surprised because I would have thought more women would enjoy the power transfer and control, especially to use it to teach the male how to be better at pleasuring.

The cages (sales-wise) have exploded in popularity, so I figured it was becoming a bigger fetish for both men and women, and not just men.

I'm into it, but like someone else said, more into the few hours at a time, having it used to tease moreso than a lifestyle.

Would love to hear more female perspectives on this. Ty

Teach the male how to be better at pleasuring? If he were that clueless, I wouldn't be with him.

 

[Dreamer110]

Teach the male how to be better at pleasuring? If he were that clueless, I wouldn't be with him.

Wow. What an excellent answer! Lol.

 

[sub2femdom]

Teach the male how to be better at pleasuring? If he were that clueless, I wouldn't be with him.

Nobody, Male or Female, is a perfect '10' in bed without some level of direction in one or more of their previous relationships. Men are (generally speaking) by far more communicative and vocal with offering guidance during sex. Men generally will ask a girl to 'do it this way, or that way', etc.. So women gain skills in bed (again, generally speaking) that can at least pass as "good" or "good enough" for most men within a short amount of time.

Whereas on the opposite side, the majority of women will not offer any guidance during the act, even when asked.

Can you really say that men with zero real guidance in bed can just know how to please you? Maybe you got lucky and always had men who were shown the ropes before meeting you, but I assure the vast majority of men out there have little to go on and then they fall back on porn as a training tool, which doesn't benefit anyone, so naturally I find your statement a bit snarky and insulting.

 

[amofiga]

I have actually never done it and wouldn't unless he wanted it, so I might not answer all of your questions. But...

The thrill of it for me would be knowing that he was aching and feeling needy. Sort of like edging but taking it a step further.

Once released, I would let him have his way with me, or I would have my way with him. Whichever I felt like at the time.

The teasing aspect of it could be fun as long as there is a wild ride at the end. It's much like restraining a woman and teasing her and edging her till she's ready for anything and everything. I think it's a turn on for both genders to see the other in a mad state of absolute animal need before allowing orgasmic release. Basically a bit of a power play on either side.

 

[amofiga]

What Jada said.

Never done it, don't think I am going to, but in theory it looks like an extended teasing/edging. Can be fun, especially if started discreetly in public and then continued for a while at home. But I am talking about few hours, when it gets to days or weeks at a time, I have no idea why would anybody do it.

Agreed. Doing it as part of a brief increase in need is a good thing. Doing it as an extended 24/7 lifestyle is going a bit overboard. It moves from fun, games, and play to a more sadistic torture. Maybe some guys are into it. I could do it for a brief time but couldn't live my life like that. However, as I've often said, everybody's different and nobody should judge others regarding their turn-ons, fetishes, and needs.

 

[Goldenfinger]

Found this old thread. So ill bump it.

she gets control. All my erections are allowed by her and are for her.