"Honey, we have to talk" - ever happend for real

[waratah]

"Honey, we have to talk" - ever happened for real

They are a famous and dramatic story. Partner, usually wife, announces that they are going to have a fling, and there's nothing their partner can do about.

The concept intrigues me. It leaves me wondering what and how I'd deal with it.

Anyone here been part of this, either as the announcer, the receiver. Or even as the third party?

 

[KimGordon67]

They are a famous and dramatic story. Partner, usually wife, announces that they are going to have a fling, and there's nothing their partner can do about.

The concept intrigues me. It leaves me wondering what and how I'd deal with it.

Anyone here been part of this, either as the announcer, the receiver. Or even as the third party?

Sort of.

 

[waratah]

Sort of.

Care to share details? What was the senario?

 

[Jada59]

Sort of here too. My talk was more like... If you don't start treating me better, I shall start spending my time with people who do! And that was the end of that story! I am divorced now but it took him about 21 years after that to do it!

 

[MKvDeepSea]

They are a famous and dramatic story. Partner, usually wife, announces that they are going to have a fling, and there's nothing their partner can do about.

The concept intrigues me. It leaves me wondering what and how I'd deal with it.

Anyone here been part of this, either as the announcer, the receiver. Or even as the third party?

LOL! Hey waratah,

The reason for the LOL is it sounds pretty much what my wife told me in the spring on 1977. However her words were, "Honey, I'm thinking of taking a lover." At the time she was in college and I had just reentered the navy after a break in service and I had been gone for a couple of months before I could make it home for a weekend.

A couple of weekends earlier during a phone call she had told me she had been invited to the beach by a grad student and she was thinking of going. I told her to go and have a good time. Well she did and she had a very good time. When I got home a couple of weeks later she told me they never made it to the beach but had spent the day in bed. That was when she broached the subject about taking a lover. I told her I felt taking a lover could get messy and suggested she play the field. Then I confessed I'd spent the same weekend with a young recently divorcee'.

After we exchanged all the juicy details we decided open our marriage. What was interesting was we only went out with others whenever I was deployed. We did have some joint adventures such as threesomes, foursomes and even some parties which evolved into orgies.

The major point is, we were honest with each other and would tell each other about our individual sexual adventures. I'll admit, she was much better at getting laid than I was. It worked for us, but this type of relationship won't work for everyone.

Hope this gives you at least some insight.

 

[Valuver]

Sort of here too. My talk was more like... If you don't start treating me better, I shall start spending my time with people who do! And that was the end of that story! I am divorced now but it took him about 21 years after that to do it!

This was the exact talk I had. His idea of treating me better and his are entirely different.

 

[liqueur]

I was the third party in such a situation. The conversation did not go well.

 

[BBCfan]

They are a famous and dramatic story. Partner, usually wife, announces that they are going to have a fling, and there's nothing their partner can do about.

The concept intrigues me. It leaves me wondering what and how I'd deal with it.

Anyone here been part of this, either as the announcer, the receiver. Or even as the third party?

I had a GF that was very upfront that she desired polyamorous relationships.
I fell for her hard and worked through the initial insecurities.

It was achievable with her as I never doubted her love and commitment.

It ended up I had more outside lovers than she did, but I also realized I enjoy monogamous partnerships more.

That said if my current gf gave me an ultimatum That she wanted another lover I'd likely move on...unless it was a team decision. If we both agreed and it was a joint venture I'd likely support her gladly.

 

[waratah]

I was the third party in such a situation. The conversation did not go well.

Care to share some background, and the result?

 

[waratah]

I had a GF that was very upfront that she desired polyamorous relationships.
I fell for her hard and worked through the initial insecurities.

It was achievable with her as I never doubted her love and commitment.

It ended up I had more outside lovers than she did, but I also realized I enjoy monogamous partnerships more.

That said if my current gf gave me an ultimatum That she wanted another lover I'd likely move on...unless it was a team decision. If we both agreed and it was a joint venture I'd likely support her gladly.

Thanks for relating your experiences. Interesting it worked out better than you expected.

 

[Ramone45]

I will never forget that phone call.

 

[cuckoldedhusban]

My experience was brought up by me because of self esteem issues i had over premature ejac problems and i asked my wife to be honest with me. Then asked if i had ever really satisfied her in bed. Well she was honest as i asked her to be and came right out and told me, no i had never satisfied her and she would never want to hurt me but eventually she would most likely cheat on me. That began a long running conversation over the next couple weeks and was the beginning of us entering the cuckold lifestyle before either of us had ever heard of the word cuckold.

 

[liqueur]

Care to share some background, and the result?

Not so much. Difficult and very awkward time. We'd wanted to be open about what we were doing. When we tried, all hell broke loose. So she told him she wouldn't see me anymore. But before very long we couldn't stay away from each other, so we went back to seeing each other on the sly. But the whole thing was soured, and I eventually moved on, with regrets.

 

[Snowbunnie12]

He knew it was coming he actually encouraged it and finally I fulfilled his fantasy, was on a vacation we took many years ago