A question to dominant women regarding submissive/feminine males

[midlifecrisispanties]

I'm a beta male, who appears alpha by virtue of work and other associations. My femininity is in the extremely tight and organized grasp I have developed over my softer nature. I am deeply in touch with my feminine side, even though I am 6 feet tall, with a lightly hairy body, shaved head, tattoos, etc. I am the nurturer to our son, the hostess for company, the domestic when not at work. I defer to her will on all things. I now dress as feminine 24-7, but beneath masculine clothes, because our siruation calls for some discretion. My femininity is in my nature.

I have heard that some women have a fetish for submissive males who look like they should be dominant. Is that true?
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[lilcuriouscatt]

Yes, a lot of Dommes like men of that nature, myself included. I think it is the contrast of the tough outer shell with the softer submissive behavior. I am sure your own Mistress enjoys that about you also.

 

[midlifecrisispanties]

Yes, a lot of Dommes like men of that nature, myself included. I think it is the contrast of the tough outer shell with the softer submissive behavior. I am sure your own Mistress enjoys that about you also.

Yes, she seems to.

 

[AnnieLit]

I have heard that some women have a fetish for submissive males who look like they should be dominant. Is that true?
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Of cause it is! I would even say that most dominant women prefer to dominate over such men. If I wanted to be with a woman, I would be with one, why would I want a feminate male substitute?

 

[midlifecrisispanties]

Of cause it is! I would even say that most dominant women prefer to dominate over such men. If I wanted to be with a woman, I would be with one, why would I want a feminate male substitute?

Interesting. Thank you.

 

[msub50some]

Yes, a lot of Dommes like men of that nature, myself included. I think it is the contrast of the tough outer shell with the softer submissive behavior. I am sure your own Mistress enjoys that about you also.

Hmmmmm.....so you'd like to see your boy in some pretty panties?!?

 

[biXOXO]

I'm a beta male, who appears alpha by virtue of work and other associations. My femininity is in the extremely tight and organized grasp I have developed over my softer nature. I am deeply in touch with my feminine side, even though I am 6 feet tall, with a lightly hairy body, shaved head, tattoos, etc. I am the nurturer to our son, the hostess for company, the domestic when not at work. I defer to her will on all things. I now dress as feminine 24-7, but beneath masculine clothes, because our siruation calls for some discretion. My femininity is in my nature.

I have heard that some women have a fetish for submissive males who look like they should be dominant. Is that true?
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Yes. lucky for you. respect with each other's boundaries.

 

[Snowbunnie12]

I prefer alpha but every now and then a beta can be an amazing time. They are eager to please and put me first, and if they get there’s that’s fine but usually not important to them

 

[lilcuriouscatt]

Hmmmmm.....so you'd like to see your boy in some pretty panties?!?

Yes, I think a sexy sub who can relate to his feminine side is very arousing.

 

[whenagain]

I prefer alpha but every now and then a beta can be an amazing time. They are eager to please and put me first, and if they get there’s that’s fine but usually not important to them

I kind of like being with women who usually prefer alphas but make an exception for me. They often fulfill humiliation fetishes without even trying.

 

[DominaLuna]

I'm a beta male, who appears alpha by virtue of work and other associations. My femininity is in the extremely tight and organized grasp I have developed over my softer nature. I am deeply in touch with my feminine side, even though I am 6 feet tall, with a lightly hairy body, shaved head, tattoos, etc. I am the nurturer to our son, the hostess for company, the domestic when not at work. I defer to her will on all things. I now dress as feminine 24-7, but beneath masculine clothes, because our siruation calls for some discretion. My femininity is in my nature.

I have heard that some women have a fetish for submissive males who look like they should be dominant. Is that true?
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What an interesting question. While feminizing isn't my specialty, per se. I do like a man who knows his way around a hairbush, a razor, a washing machine, and a mop.

My subs have all presented masculine and certainly were authentically masculine. It was a true facet of themselves. However, there is something about breaking a 'manly' man down to his knees that really suits me. It's the subtle changes as he shrugs off the rest of the world and crawls to someone who he can trust to take care of everything.

Publicly, watching strangers defer to him (example: watching a waitress ask him his order like he has a choice) all the while knowing that every decision that led him to be in that place, from what he wore to what he orders, was one I made? Heavenly.

 

[bluekitty69]

What an interesting question. While feminizing isn't my specialty, per se. I do like a man who knows his way around a hairbush, a razor, a washing machine, and a mop.

My subs have all presented masculine and certainly were authentically masculine. It was a true facet of themselves. However, there is something about breaking a 'manly' man down to his knees that really suits me. It's the subtle changes as he shrugs off the rest of the world and crawls to someone who he can trust to take care of everything.

Publicly, watching strangers defer to him (example: watching a waitress ask him his order like he has a choice) all the while knowing that every decision that led him to be in that place, from what he wore to what he orders, was one I made? Heavenly.

Wish I could give this two thumbs up!......

 

[newhere2learn]

Yes, a lot of Dommes like men of that nature, myself included. I think it is the contrast of the tough outer shell with the softer submissive behavior. I am sure your own Mistress enjoys that about you also.

This could explain why older, dominant women take to me . externally very dominant/alpha. However, enjoy submitting entirely.

 

[lilcuriouscatt]

This could explain why older, dominant women take to me . externally very dominant/alpha. However, enjoy submitting entirely.

Just for the record, I have enjoyed subs like this since I was in my 20's. The only advantage to being an older dominant is that I am a whole hell of a lot better at it now.

 

[AnneLeeLove33]

I can certainly say I click well with guys like this especially if there younger and in really good shape with a little edge to them there always really spontaneous and eager to please I think thats why alpha females appreciate them a little bit more because there quiet but at the same time you feel protected like you dont even have to lift a finger if somebody attacks you he's going to be there to stop it.

If there overly arrogant or assertive I get really turned off. Sometimes it suprises me though how many guys have actually gotten off to me being strict and direct with them though..once i put my foot down suddenly the trash is taken out and bfs face is clean shaved.

I like having that kind of power it makes me feel special when things get done my way, if that makes any sense...when they don't go my way I can be a little bit of a brat..but not in a cold or bitter type of way.

 

[newhere2learn]

Just for the record, I have enjoyed subs like this since I was in my 20's. The only advantage to being an older dominant is that I am a whole hell of a lot better at it now.

Please be local

 

[lilcuriouscatt]

Please be local

Sorry, I live in the USA. But let me know if you want to chat sometime.

 

[midlifecrisispanties]

What an interesting question. While feminizing isn't my specialty, per se. I do like a man who knows his way around a hairbush, a razor, a washing machine, and a mop.

My subs have all presented masculine and certainly were authentically masculine. It was a true facet of themselves. However, there is something about breaking a 'manly' man down to his knees that really suits me. It's the subtle changes as he shrugs off the rest of the world and crawls to someone who he can trust to take care of everything.

Publicly, watching strangers defer to him (example: watching a waitress ask him his order like he has a choice) all the while knowing that every decision that led him to be in that place, from what he wore to what he orders, was one I made? Heavenly.

I can relate to this. It seems to be what drives my Wife/Mistress. She seems to like to allow me to act independently masculine in public, because I never fail to quietly defer to her in the end.

 

[midlifecrisispanties]

I can certainly say I click well with guys like this especially if there younger and in really good shape with a little edge to them there always really spontaneous and eager to please I think thats why alpha females appreciate them a little bit more because there quiet but at the same time you feel protected like you dont even have to lift a finger if somebody attacks you he's going to be there to stop it.

If there overly arrogant or assertive I get really turned off. Sometimes it suprises me though how many guys have actually gotten off to me being strict and direct with them though..once i put my foot down suddenly the trash is taken out and bfs face is clean shaved.

I like having that kind of power it makes me feel special when things get done my way, if that makes any sense...when they don't go my way I can be a little bit of a brat..but not in a cold or bitter type of way.

I can see that. I wonder if that is why she allows the masculine persona in public. I have almost never had a confrontation or situation that I couldn't handle. I'm not muscular per se, but fit enough for almost 50. It seems to be an easy transition with the holding of doors, carting of bags, and so forth. To others, it appears like the politeness of a strong husband. Behind the scenes it is "Carry this for me and get that door, princess."

It is an interesting juxtaposition.

 

[AfterDusk]

I'm a beta male, who appears alpha by virtue of work and other associations. My femininity is in the extremely tight and organized grasp I have developed over my softer nature. I am deeply in touch with my feminine side, even though I am 6 feet tall, with a lightly hairy body, shaved head, tattoos, etc. I am the nurturer to our son, the hostess for company, the domestic when not at work. I defer to her will on all things. I now dress as feminine 24-7, but beneath masculine clothes, because our siruation calls for some discretion. My femininity is in my nature.

I have heard that some women have a fetish for submissive males who look like they should be dominant. Is that true?
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I find it interesting that you have defined yourself this way; it is unfortunate that classical gender roles make us denote what a man should be vs what a woman should be.

Man: visually tough, strong, in charge, able to handle situations as they arise, provider

Woman: soft, gentle, delicate, weak, nurturing yet in need of someone to care for them

Yet if you truly think on it, women constantly take on the role of 'man,' and almost all men fall into the roll of 'woman.' Any woman who has had to take care of a "sick" male partner will know exactly what I mean...

In your post I don't necessarily read your question as a broad one, but more by way of you asking "Why am I like this? Am I alone?" I can tell you that there are more women than you could imagine who would appreciate a partner like you. While we are all guilty of deferring to our genders to determine how we should behave, never think that extending your reach beyond is a failing.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Something that may be of interest: a list of archetypes for both Dommes and subs. I found it helpful in that it allowed me to visualize the options, and identify which felt most like me, and which sort of partners i am drawn to.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1461823&highlight=Archetypes

Have a look and see what you think.

 

[newhere2learn]

Sorry, I live in the USA. But let me know if you want to chat sometime.

Kind offer. I've dropped you a message.

 

[midlifecrisispanties]

I find it interesting that you have defined yourself this way; it is unfortunate that classical gender roles make us denote what a man should be vs what a woman should be.

Man: visually tough, strong, in charge, able to handle situations as they arise, provider

Woman: soft, gentle, delicate, weak, nurturing yet in need of someone to care for them

Yet if you truly think on it, women constantly take on the role of 'man,' and almost all men fall into the roll of 'woman.' Any woman who has had to take care of a "sick" male partner will know exactly what I mean...

In your post I don't necessarily read your question as a broad one, but more by way of you asking "Why am I like this? Am I alone?" I can tell you that there are more women than you could imagine who would appreciate a partner like you. While we are all guilty of deferring to our genders to determine how we should behave, never think that extending your reach beyond is a failing.

Thanks for that. It makes a lot of sense. I'm expanding my thoughts on this far more than I ever thought I would. My description is more about the physical appearance than the gender. but, I see your point.

 

[AfterDusk]

Thanks for that. It makes a lot of sense. I'm expanding my thoughts on this far more than I ever thought I would. My description is more about the physical appearance than the gender. but, I see your point.

I imagine that you are more acutely aware of the dichotomy between physical appearance and what actually encompasses a personality. I’ve discovered that more often than not, physicality does not do a person justice, as they say after all, never judge a book by its cover.

But to answer your original question, I wouldn’t call it a fetish persay but more of an intrigue. To me a fetish is something peculiar, like a sexual attraction to clocks or something. Semantics aside, the notion of a man who, in his everyday public life, seems to be rather powerful and commanding, submitting to a woman willingly is a thrilling one. For me, it would be the idea of having control over such a man elevates the level of superiority for the woman. I imagine it is akin to why men like cars with a lot of horsepower or whatnot.

 

[htobeme5]

I imagine that you are more acutely aware of the dichotomy between physical appearance and what actually encompasses a personality. I’ve discovered that more often than not, physicality does not do a person justice, as they say after all, never judge a book by its cover.

But to answer your original question, I wouldn’t call it a fetish persay but more of an intrigue. To me a fetish is something peculiar, like a sexual attraction to clocks or something. Semantics aside, the notion of a man who, in his everyday public life, seems to be rather powerful and commanding, submitting to a woman willingly is a thrilling one. For me, it would be the idea of having control over such a man elevates the level of superiority for the woman. I imagine it is akin to why men like cars with a lot of horsepower or whatnot.

I look at it as an equal balance. The male under presure all day,decision making, then comes home to a wife who takes over the male presures of the day, while he gets relaxed and feminized . This would include dressing and feeling very feminine, and doing the chores around the house, while in this state. Sounds like a good balance for a marriage.