Selfies on first date?

[mf1438]

Meeting online is not quite the same as meeting in person. Do you share selfies on the first date?

When you meet in person you can see what you're getting. Maybe...

True. You can't tell a book by it's cover, but you sure can get a sense for what's going to greet you when you look inside.

But when you're meeting online for the first time, what do you do? When is the right time to share a selfie? And what about nude pics too?

Is the first encounter too soon, too fast, too loose and too creepy?

 

[mf1438]

Hoping to clarify.

You meet someone online for the first time, like a chat or a PM. It's strictly an online relationship. You're in different cities. You never plan to meet IRL. You start an online conversation. When is it appropriate ask for a selfie so you know what the person on the other end of the computer looks like?

 

[Followmenow6969_2]

Meeting online is not quite the same as meeting in person. Do you share selfies on the first date?

When you meet in person you can see what you're getting. Maybe...

True. You can't tell a book by it's cover, but you sure can get a sense for what's going to greet you when you look inside.

But when you're meeting online for the first time, what do you do? When is the right time to share a selfie? And what about nude pics too?

Is the first encounter too soon, too fast, too loose and too creepy?

it all depends on the chemistry, I've met people from other sites site unseen and others where we have exchanged pics... to be honest the ones that ended up as blind dates lasted longer and for the most part still remain friends

some my hubby has met sadly he's lost contact with as she moved to Rockford Il from Rutland VT and another latino beauty he met here on LIT who he let slip through his fingers from Dutchass county NY

 

[Willingtoshare]

Personally I don’t think it’s ever appropriate to “ask” for a selfie of anyone regardless of how long you’ve know them or chatted to them. The right time is when you or both for that matter are comfortable enough with each to do so, which may be never.

Some people rightly like the anonymity of not sharing pictures of themselves, others like the mystery of it all.

Ultimately there is no too fast or too soon, everyone’s different and wants different experiences.

 

[Legrandjoni]

Wrong place for this thread, I think.

 

[412len]

Honey: Interesting Topic

This definitely was a very interesting valid thought and I would like to respond:

Yes. I think it's important to know who and what you're getting into especially if it is going to go physical, because, let's face facts, everyone, regardless of admitting it or not, carries a vanity about them, some just hide it better than others. This being said leads to what we consider our turn-ons, and turn-offs, and the reality is everyone looks for the "complete package," being mental, emotional, and physical. Your "intended" might fit the bill in everything but one thing and that one thing becomes the dealbreaker. So, my rule on-line is to know what I'm getting into and however conceited this sounds, I have walked more than a few times from someone that didn't measure up to my expectations and vice-versa.

Honey
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1493376

... as such I'm going to be the 1st to post pics, hence, my link.
Great thread. Well done.

 

[Cum_Inside]

Personally I don’t think it’s ever appropriate to “ask” for a selfie of anyone regardless of how long you’ve know them or chatted to them. The right time is when you or both for that matter are comfortable enough with each to do so, which may be never.

Some people rightly like the anonymity of not sharing pictures of themselves, others like the mystery of it all.

Ultimately there is no too fast or too soon, everyone’s different and wants different experiences.

This is exactly what I wanted to say. Thank you for wording it so perfectly.

Some I have met sight unseen but I never ask for a selfie; of course I’m happy to receive them if we are comfortable enough but if I feel safe enough to meet you in real life than I would expect by that time we would have exchanged pictures as O am shy and do take a lot to meet someone. But I have been on blind dates where I didn’t know what I was getting into before hand and honestly it didn’t feel any different - it’s just about building that level of trust in different ways.

As someone who relies on online dating and meeting through Fetlife I would say I’m overly cautious about this but that may just be me.