new to pegging

[dannyboy1958]

Myself and my wife ( mainly me ) want to try pegging. weve bought a strap on but it seems very clumsy and uncomfortable, so are looking at a strapless one that she inserts.
Any advise for first timers, as the cleanliness side of things concerns us a little, should i wash out my bottom before we start?
any other tips.?

 

[newhere2learn]

Play alone first if possible.

Learn what feels good in your ass. And how you want it.

Then, you can help her.

Removes the clumsiness

 

[ElliottEden]

https://youtu.be/kkx5qw9d6FI

 

[CandiCame]

I... honestly don't know that I'd go straight for the strap-on. Like it's real tempting to go in guns abalzing but somebody without biological equipment can't really tell if they're hurting you.

I'd start out with smaller stuff first that easier to control. Get some beads or plugs and get comfy using those before you move on up. Spincters are muscles, and they need to be worked out. You're trying to do gymnastics before you do warm-up stretches. And I mean you CAN but you're safer building up.

 

[lucky_guy_49]

Agreed about taking it slowly. I've been into ass play for maybe 10 years but we only started to try pegging a year or so ago and it's not on the menu often. Despite my own experience ass fucking Mrs from time to time, and the care I take to play and lube her before slowly and gently pushing into her, she on the other hand is not able to feel the same thing with a fake cock and just starts pushing, and not well aimed either. She gets frustrated and so do I.

What's worked for us and may for you:
- Try her on her back and you straddling her, so you can aim and ease in the cock yourself. If you can, describe what you are doing so she can learn from you.
- Try several positions to find what helps her align the cock with your ass. I've heard spooning works well. We found success with my laying face down on the edge of the bed and her standing. After a bit of that I could turn on my back and she found it easier to find her target, which was also more ready for her. You might also try laying over a chair or table, or both kneeling on the bed.
- Because it may take you some time to figure this all out, talk first and acknowledge that it may take some experimenting, and agree to take it all in stride and try to have fun with it. If a particular approach isn't working, laugh it off and try another. Most of all, reassure her. Tell her when she's doing well, and gently suggest other approaches when it's not working.

Good luck!

 

[runsilent]

Hello

You should definitely wash out your bottom first. Do you want her to have shit on her strap on? I hate to be vulgar but think about it.

 

[liqueur]

In a lot of ways, I prefer literotica to FetLife.com, but I think this is an area where you'll get more out of FetLife.

There are any number of groups over there on this subject. Here one that I moderate.

 

[Ilovetoeatsperm]

I’ve been getting fucked up the ass with toys for so long I forgot how slow and easy we took it to start out.

Best advice is go small and slow till you get hungry for more. You can never have too much lube either. Always stop when pain is involved. Pain equals something not right.

 

[Writer_FM]

Lube. Lube. Lube. Did I mention lube?

I agree to experiment with different positions.

Go slow.

Cleaning yourself is always a good plan.

I think you guys just need to relax and have fun. The first handful of times probably won't be mind-blowing orgasmic bliss. Make it fun. Be silly. Laugh. Relax. Let the hot-and-heavy come naturally.

That goes for the strapon too. She's never had a penis so it's going to feel awkward for her. Take your time and get used to it.

I will say that a good harness helps. The cheap elastic ones don't work. It needs to hold the dildo firmly in place. It should move when she moves. If her hips are moving but the dildo isn't then it's not on her tight enough.

 

[Shi_One81]

I have both a harness and a strapless. I’m not a fan of the strapless one as I have to concentrate more on me than him. Get a harness that fits her correctly, use a ton of lube, relax (maybe start with a nice massage), I always hold the base of the dildo as I begin to insert it and I go fairly slow asking about his comfort level the entire time. It can be clumsy and takes some getting used to, but it’s a lot of fun!

 

[Bottomlover]

We went through several harnesses and dildos before finding the right ones for us. We found that leather harnesses work best. We ended up with a KinkLabs Full Curves harness and a Vixen Mistriss dildo.

We found the best prices by shopping lesbian sites.

 

[Writer_FM]

I have both a harness and a strapless. I’m not a fan of the strapless one as I have to concentrate more on me than him. Get a harness that fits her correctly, use a ton of lube, relax (maybe start with a nice massage), I always hold the base of the dildo as I begin to insert it and I go fairly slow asking about his comfort level the entire time. It can be clumsy and takes some getting used to, but it’s a lot of fun!

I agree.

 

[dannyboy1958]

Play alone first if possible.

Learn what feels good in your ass. And how you want it.

Then, you can help her.

Removes the clumsiness

Hi - thanks for replying

I have a little with a small dildo, about 4 inches and its rather nice, Wife has also, but she was a bit excited and it hurt a little, as she was too enthusastic, i figure if she has to use it like a man would a cock, shed slow down a bit.

 

[dannyboy1958]

I... honestly don't know that I'd go straight for the strap-on. Like it's real tempting to go in guns abalzing but somebody without biological equipment can't really tell if they're hurting you.

I'd start out with smaller stuff first that easier to control. Get some beads or plugs and get comfy using those before you move on up. Spincters are muscles, and they need to be worked out. You're trying to do gymnastics before you do warm-up stretches. And I mean you CAN but you're safer building up.

Thanks - i did answer to a similar suggestion, great advise though- appreciated.

 

[dannyboy1958]

Agreed about taking it slowly. I've been into ass play for maybe 10 years but we only started to try pegging a year or so ago and it's not on the menu often. Despite my own experience ass fucking Mrs from time to time, and the care I take to play and lube her before slowly and gently pushing into her, she on the other hand is not able to feel the same thing with a fake cock and just starts pushing, and not well aimed either. She gets frustrated and so do I.

What's worked for us and may for you:
- Try her on her back and you straddling her, so you can aim and ease in the cock yourself. If you can, describe what you are doing so she can learn from you.
- Try several positions to find what helps her align the cock with your ass. I've heard spooning works well. We found success with my laying face down on the edge of the bed and her standing. After a bit of that I could turn on my back and she found it easier to find her target, which was also more ready for her. You might also try laying over a chair or table, or both kneeling on the bed.
- Because it may take you some time to figure this all out, talk first and acknowledge that it may take some experimenting, and agree to take it all in stride and try to have fun with it. If a particular approach isn't working, laugh it off and try another. Most of all, reassure her. Tell her when she's doing well, and gently suggest other approaches when it's not working.

Good luck!

thanks lucky guy - we are still learning, but boy is it fun.

 

[dannyboy1958]

I have both a harness and a strapless. I’m not a fan of the strapless one as I have to concentrate more on me than him. Get a harness that fits her correctly, use a ton of lube, relax (maybe start with a nice massage), I always hold the base of the dildo as I begin to insert it and I go fairly slow asking about his comfort level the entire time. It can be clumsy and takes some getting used to, but it’s a lot of fun!

Thank you - i really hope my wife in time will be able to give someone advise just like yours - thank you.

 

[dannyboy1958]

We went through several harnesses and dildos before finding the right ones for us. We found that leather harnesses work best. We ended up with a KinkLabs Full Curves harness and a Vixen Mistriss dildo.

We found the best prices by shopping lesbian sites.

good advice - ill get on the lesbian sites right away - thank you

 

[Zenheredonethat]

Wonderful thread! We are just getting started with this as well. We are considering something strapless so that she can get some sensation as well. Is there a strap for a strapless so to speak?

Any product suggestions are welcome.
Thanks!
Z

 

[cdstefi]

Wonderful thread! We are just getting started with this as well. We are considering something strapless so that she can get some sensation as well. Is there a strap for a strapless so to speak?

Any product suggestions are welcome.
Thanks!
Z

My wife and I use a Feeldoe, it has a good big bulb for her to grip onto and a nice smooth 5.5" length phallus for me to ride (although being more practiced now, I'd like to get a thicker one, Realdoe More I think it's called, with the more realistic veiny shaft). Also has a receptacle for a bullet vibe.