Shi_One81
100% that bitch
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- Sep 3, 2018
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Oh my lord!!! I guess because I am not part of the Cliques, I can respond honestly and know that I will be attacked from both sides vs just one. But part of the reason I am not part of the cliques is, because it took pushing everyone away, to see how quickly it takes one woman (more often women) to comment on something, and then all her friends to come attack that person/comment etc, without even really knowing both sides. I've been guilty of that and I'm ashamed of that.
This started in the personals. I have watched a lot of this unfold. There is no side of this that is innocent. They all tore each other apart.
For those of us who have posted pictures in AMpics. We put ourselves out there. But for us to expect everyone is going to like us, is stupid. (yes, we are insecure and needy and have low fucking self esteem, so we hope for it cause we are idiots) But we hope that those who don't, will just follow the "If you can't say something nice. Don't say anything at all" rule, and move along.
But another thing I've learned. When I started my own AMpics thread. MANY guys really will tell you what you want to hear, in hopes of you showing more, and more skin the next time. They will tell you the same thing that they are going to go cut and paste to every girl in AMpics. But you also learn the ones who actually mean what they say, and try and individualize their comments to you.
There are a handful of people on this board who have taught me that always hearing what I want to hear, and never what I need to hear, hurts me more in the long run. If everyone thought I was so perfect, I wouldn't be here begging for attention, but, here I am.
I've had mean things said about my pictures before, and yes, I ran crying. To my friends. Not the whole board. (Cause remember, girls talk, so if some asshole hurt you in some way, your friends all know now) I didn't have to out him as an asshole, because everyone else had already told me he was. Yes, We all want to out the assholes, and bitches and I've been one of those bitches myself. I"m trying to change that.
But nothing changes when we can't admit our own fault in shit like this. No ONE person started this.
So Shi has small nipples, Bock is an asshole. I'm fucking fat, with saggy. uneven tits. (I could go on..)
Have these two ever talked one on one and just hashed it out between themselves??
Everyone already knows that my self admitted, asshole of a best friend is an "Asshole" But he tells me what I don't want to hear, when I need to hear it. He is WAY too fucking honest, but sometimes I admire his ability to say what I wish I could. The difference is he doesn't care what people think of him, or his opinions, and I always have.He avoids me on Lit because he knows how people feel about him, and he doesn't want people to dislike me because of him. He asked me not to post in here, because people would lump me in with him.
But the truth is. Almost EVERYONE jumped in here to defend Shi because she is a female and apparently incapable of defending herself, or just letting it go. Fight with him in private, who knows. Maybe you'll find out you both have demons that you could help each other overcome.
This place has stopped being a place to help each other. We knock each other down. I started a thread this year (which flopped) because women, especially, would rather put each other down. Be negative, be jealous and hurtful. Vs just being friendly to one another. The whole damn board has forgotten, that we are almost all here for the same reasons in some fashion. Being honest is so much better than lying. Being kind is better than cruel and mean.
So either fight it out, and tell me what it accomplishes, or let it go. I'll gladly invite Bock to come name call me (as long as he's honest) if it shuts up the Pig pile of name calling.
I’m very capable of defending myself and anyone who spoke up did so on their own and without me messaging them or asking them to. I’m definitely not part of any clique. I don’t think I deserve to have been dragged through the mud by people who don’t know me and just think I need knocked down a peg. Seriously? What have I done to any of you? I’ll wait...
