Daddy's Little Girl: Second Edition

[barefootgirl69]

Sometimes baby girls have to put themselves in bed and go to sleep without long phone calls when Daddy has early appointments...but that doesn't mean I have to like it just because I understand it.

 

[cascadiabound]

Sometimes baby girls have to put themselves in bed and go to sleep without long phone calls when Daddy has early appointments...but that doesn't mean I have to like it just because I understand it.

nods. sometimes we just have to put on our big girl skirts and go to bed without as many cuddles and sweetness as we wish we had. Real life gets in the way...

 

[barefootgirl69]

nods. sometimes we just have to put on our big girl skirts and go to bed without as many cuddles and sweetness as we wish we had. Real life gets in the way...

Yes, you're so right!
I miss that winding down time that makes it easy to fall asleep. So, while he's busy, I started listening to this asmr recording on YouTube. I didn't even make it to the end the first time I heard it.

https://youtu.be/l-9XoJ8ET0Y

 

[Angedesoleil]

...... shrug.

 

[SadieAnne]

I don't know any cheesy jokes, so you're safe with me.

Tell us a little about yourself... are you just exploring DD/lg, living the lifestyle, new to all of it?

Sorry! I just saw this!! Things move so fast around here it’s overwhelming.

What would you like to know? I’m super easy to talk to, and I’ll answer almost anything I’m new to it honestly, well, kind of. I don’t know how to answer this. I’ve been exploring it for long enough that I know I want it, but am new. Does that make sense?

 

[Shi_One81]

Sorry! I just saw this!! Things move so fast around here it’s overwhelming.

What would you like to know? I’m super easy to talk to, and I’ll answer almost anything I’m new to it honestly, well, kind of. I don’t know how to answer this. I’ve been exploring it for long enough that I know I want it, but am new. Does that make sense?

BFG is a good egg, I’m sure she’ll be able to help you out.


Hey ladies and gents! So, last night I had a date. *GASP* I can’t believe it either. I know I haven’t posted on this thread since it’s first installment BUT at the end of the date we were making out in the car like a couple teenagers and I felt my sub/little side kick in, that hasn’t happened in a LONG time. To my knowledge he’s not a dim or daddy, but holy shit did my side of the LS turn on. Scared me a little to be honest.

 

[ExiledWelshman]

BFG is a good egg, I’m sure she’ll be able to help you out.


Hey ladies and gents! So, last night I had a date. *GASP* I can’t believe it either. I know I haven’t posted on this thread since it’s first installment BUT at the end of the date we were making out in the car like a couple teenagers and I felt my sub/little side kick in, that hasn’t happened in a LONG time. To my knowledge he’s not a dim or daddy, but holy shit did my side of the LS turn on. Scared me a little to be honest.

Scary but exciting!

Did he earn a second date?

 

[Shi_One81]

Scary but exciting!

Did he earn a second date?

Good question... lol

There was definitely a connection there that might be fun to explore.

 

[cascadiabound]

Sorry! I just saw this!! Things move so fast around here it’s overwhelming.

What would you like to know? I’m super easy to talk to, and I’ll answer almost anything I’m new to it honestly, well, kind of. I don’t know how to answer this. I’ve been exploring it for long enough that I know I want it, but am new. Does that make sense?

Welcome Sadie. Good luck exploring. Take it slow. Ask questions. Trust your gut.

 

[ExiledWelshman]

Good question... lol

There was definitely a connection there that might be fun to explore.

Then go for it

 

[Shi_One81]

Then go for it

We’ll see what transpires, there was some definite electricity.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Sorry! I just saw this!! Things move so fast around here it’s overwhelming.

What would you like to know? I’m super easy to talk to, and I’ll answer almost anything I’m new to it honestly, well, kind of. I don’t know how to answer this. I’ve been exploring it for long enough that I know I want it, but am new. Does that make sense?

Perfect sense!

Let's see if we can't get this thread back on track and help you (and ourselves) along the way!

There was a post that cb did not long ago that got overlooked... I'm going to find it and bring it up here!

BFG is a good egg, I’m sure she’ll be able to help you out.


Hey ladies and gents! So, last night I had a date. *GASP* I can’t believe it either. I know I haven’t posted on this thread since it’s first installment BUT at the end of the date we were making out in the car like a couple teenagers and I felt my sub/little side kick in, that hasn’t happened in a LONG time. To my knowledge he’s not a dim or daddy, but holy shit did my side of the LS turn on. Scared me a little to be honest.

I've been called many things this week, but you're the only one calling me an egg.

Do you think it was more because of the kissing at the moment or the entire night leading up to the kissing? All I can think is that you must have felt very relaxed and safe (?) with him. It's an enjoyable feeling!

 

[AlwaysFara]

BFG is a good egg, I’m sure she’ll be able to help you out.


Hey ladies and gents! So, last night I had a date. *GASP* I can’t believe it either. I know I haven’t posted on this thread since it’s first installment BUT at the end of the date we were making out in the car like a couple teenagers and I felt my sub/little side kick in, that hasn’t happened in a LONG time. To my knowledge he’s not a dim or daddy, but holy shit did my side of the LS turn on. Scared me a little to be honest.

I love this heady feeling.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Attention, please! *giggles*

I wanted to bring this back up because I think it's important and it got overlooked. 'Self-care' is always an important topic, and cb brings some very good points in this regarding structure. No matter if you're unowned or RL situations arise where you're not getting structure from your CG, setting up things to help yourself is important.

I have been meaning to post this since before Christmas - thinking this might be an answer to a PM I kinda flubbed...

Structure and Self-Care for Unowned Submissives

I received a note recently asking me if I had any reference materials that focused on providing structure for a submissive who is currently without a Dominant. I didn’t, but I thought it was a good opportunity to write about it.

While I’ve never had a formal system, I have found in both in the time before I identified as a submissive, and in the times since, when I was without a Dom, that I naturally gravitate toward providing myself with a certain amount of structure. (To be clear I have always been a submissive, but I did not always have the words to identify as such.)

Creating structure for yourself in the absence of a Dom comes down to self care. You want to create routines for yourself that enforce predictability and healthy habits.

Some examples of things you might consider establishing as ‘rules’:

Going to bed by no less than 7 hours before you have to wake.
Being out of bed by a set time, even when you have nowhere to be. (say 10am?)
Regular exercise several times a week.
Reading a certain amount of pages per week.
Getting a vegetable with every meal.
Keep regular contact with friends and family members. (perhaps 1 call per week to 2-3 people)
Do all the dishes before bed each day.
Keep a chore list of things that need to be done each day, week, and month.

One you’ve decided the things you will be focusing on you may find it helpful to establish rewards for yourself. Some people, (like myself) who are organized by nature, may find reward just in having the routine, but for others there has to be incentive to motivate them.

You might consider taking out some money from the bank in one dollar bills, and placing a dollar in a jar each time you successfully follow one of your own rules. At the end of each week or month you can use that money to buy yourself something special. If this doesn’t seem like something you’d abide by, money is tight, or you generally just buy what you want anyway, then you might consider orgasm control instead. Put yourself on denial, and give yourself a point for each task completed. When you manage to reach a set number of points you allow yourself an orgasm.

There are a lot of reward systems out there but the basics of giving yourself structure are in creating beneficial routines, and motivations for doing them. It doesn’t have to be formal charts if that seems like drudgery to you.

You can reward yourself within the system. It can be as simple as when you get to bed on time all week you allow yourself to sleep in on weekends.Or making yourself wait to have any snacks/treats for the day until your work/chores are done. There are endless possibilities really, what matters is that you feel motivated to continue taking proper care of yourself.

Discuss please! What do you do to help bring structure to your day? What else COULD we do?

 

[Smoothshavendad]

There are some very nice, kind and thoughtful women on this thread. Your comments made me smile. Thank you!

 

[SadieAnne]

I wanted to bring this back up because I think it's important and it got overlooked. 'Self-care' is always an important topic, and cb brings some very good points in this regarding structure. No matter if you're unowned or RL situations arise where you're not getting structure from your CG, setting up things to help yourself is important.




Discuss please! What do you do to help bring structure to your day? What else COULD we do?

I lack self care in general, buttttt I’m very routine and structured. I’m not a control freak but I definitely like to be structured and organized. Hmmm.

ETA: I take care of myself, I think I meant more like...self love is lacking. I eat clean and exercise and take care of myself! lol

 

[barefootgirl69]

There are some very nice, kind and thoughtful women on this thread. Your comments made me smile. Thank you!

Smiling is always good!

I lack self care in general, buttttt I’m very routine and structured. I’m not a control freak but I definitely like to be structured and organized. Hmmm.

ETA: I take care of myself, I think I meant more like...self love is lacking. I eat clean and exercise and take care of myself! lol

I like routine, and if I'm traveling or visiting others, and my routine gets skewed, I don't feel quite so at ease.

Reading in bed at the end of the day is something I've always done, too many days of being so busy right before Christmas made me grouchy because I wasn't taking care to have a little bit of "me" time.

 

[cascadiabound]

Smiling is always good!

I like routine, and if I'm traveling or visiting others, and my routine gets skewed, I don't feel quite so at ease.

Reading in bed at the end of the day is something I've always done, too many days of being so busy right before Christmas made me grouchy because I wasn't taking care to have a little bit of "me" time.

I have a lot of routines whatever my relationship status. They feel necessary to me. My alarm goes off at the same time every day and I start the day with the same routine. And like bfg if my travel or being in someone else's house requires my routine to be disrupted I do get a bit ill at ease. Not grouchy... but oh so ready to go home...

For the last 7 months I have been using an app to give myself discipline about how much daily activity I am engaging in and how much and what I am eating each day in order to get more healthy habits. It has been very good for my and I have seen really good results as a result. Mr T has been super supportive of me in these efforts, but these have been at my initiative, not something that he wanted me to do for him. But his support and encouragement has been very helpful of course. (thank you darling. )

 

[cascadiabound]

https://i.pinimg.com/564x/55/42/0f/55420fc10af27716edd31cef177b6388.jpg

one person's list... seems like a good template to start from maybe?

 

[barefootgirl69]

https://i.pinimg.com/564x/55/42/0f/55420fc10af27716edd31cef177b6388.jpg

one person's list... seems like a good template to start from maybe?

Yesssss!
I guess it's another way of forming good habits. But, the routine is comforting...it's something that I can depend on, and it's being good to myself, as well.

 

[DappleDoxie]

one person's list... seems like a good template to start from maybe?

That is a good place to start!!
Thanks

 

[ExiledWelshman]

Hello friends.

I just wanted to say I am sorry for the drama that was visited on this thread over the last week. None of it was my intention.

To those who I should have listened to before, I'm sorry.

I'm a stupid boy and need to listen more.

You're all lovely.

I'm really sorry.

 

[cascadiabound]

That is a good place to start!!
Thanks

You are welcome.

Do you have things you make sure you do for self care?

Things you make sure you are doing to tend your relationships?

 

[Moochienanu]

I wanted to bring this back up because I think it's important and it got overlooked. 'Self-care' is always an important topic, and cb brings some very good points in this regarding structure. No matter if you're unowned or RL situations arise where you're not getting structure from your CG, setting up things to help yourself is important.




Discuss please! What do you do to help bring structure to your day? What else COULD we do?

Yay... back on track is good... felt a bit off there.

So... I have unique issues to my relationship which make reliance on structural things like a tuck in phone call everyday obsolete.
The main reason being
I work nights.
He works during the days.
We rarely have the same times off work, and it can be frustrating.
We make it work, though... He’s worth it.

Basically I had to figure out some good ways to make sure I would still take care of me.
- One big thing I do is I try to keep a bed time. This just means I have to be in the bed, not necessarily sleeping yet... but in it so that I’m at least getting rest (which is where I am while typing this, Daddy. Promise.).
- Another one is that I try to eat relatively healthy/choose better foods if I can. Sometimes I crave something rich and decadent because all I want is to be rapped up in His arms and snuggled... so I have the small piece of flourless cake made with squash and try not to think to hard about it.
- the last one that comes to mind is that I take time for me. At least a little bit every day. Sometimes it’s too much to be constantly surrounded by people (especially ones who need or want something from me which is usually the case at work and home), so taking the extra half hour for a bath or sipping some coffee while reading something fun in peace is super helpful to hit my recharge button.

 

[Shi_One81]

Have any of you been told by others “you’re not a sub, you’re a ____” or “you’re not a little, you’re a _______.”?

That’s been my experience in my few years in the LS. I even wrote a piece on Fet about not knowing what I am, so out of uncertainty I post that I identify as a switch. But, that doesn’t necessarily fit me either. Then I get to wondering how important a title or role really is, and to me, it’s important. I want to know what box I fit into. Maybe mine is in the land of misfit toys? *