❓ Inquiring Minds Want To Know - Discussion Thread

[TANSTAAFL58]

You buttering me up?

Okay. Totally worth sticking around

 

[AlwaysFara]

The last time someone messed with Fara there was a book written about it think...



Obviously Tolkien took some liberties with the account to make it fit his story.

I'd hate to be you fellas.

I love you, Staggy.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

You will recall I had my money on Fara. Just sayin'

 

[midwestyankee]

I can take a beating but the suspense is killing me Can I have some popcorn before she gets back?

The secret with Fara is pizza...in particular, deep dish pizza. Nothing will advance your cause faster than an offer of some deep dish pizza. That's my experience, but YMMV, of course.

 

[AlwaysFara]

The secret with Fara is pizza...in particular, deep dish pizza. Nothing will advance your cause faster than an offer of some deep dish pizza. That's my experience, but YMMV, of course.

You’re bad.

 

[midwestyankee]

You’re bad.

Thank you.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

You’re bad.

Thank you.

you two

 

[barefootgirl69]

The secret with Fara is pizza...in particular, deep dish pizza. Nothing will advance your cause faster than an offer of some deep dish pizza. That's my experience, but YMMV, of course.

You are naughty!

 

[KamaKamaSutra]

hmm feel my life passed through the needle today, I may need to take the advice about pizza....

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Speaking of role play....

*CRACKS WHIPS*

Can we focus on the discussion???

 

[13Fantasies]

New Question!

Okay what is UP with guys who don't like to talk on the phone??

I think some men and women are naturally shy. It's one thing to post or PM someone. You have time to think, edit, etc. In a real time conversation, that doesn't generally happen. People will blurt things out, get distracted, etc. It can make it just as intimidating as an in person meeting. Texting, PMing, etc. give some cover and relief.

If you are talking over time, once the relationship (platonic or otherwise) is established, then I find it confusing. It shouldn't be hard to talk to someone you admire/desire. I know someone mentioned that some people are married or otherwise occupied. While I think there is some truth there, I'm more inclined to believe it's a protective mechanism. The less real it becomes, the easier to back away if necessary. Not a great way to approach life, but it can save some feelings.

I don't mind Skype, Kik, phone calls. I've done all and if I have an interest in the person, talking on the phone is easy. But some of it is generational too. In an online world, people lose their ability and skill to interact. I saw it a lot when teaching.

If people are honest at the beginning about hangups like the ability to talk on the phone, it can usually help stabilize the dynamic.

 

[Jd192235]

New Question!

Okay what is UP with guys who don't like to talk on the phone??

I think being able to give “good phone” is very sexy. I love to hear a woman’s voice after we’ve been chatting on kik/ pming. Whether it’s just talking or phone sex. I enjoy seeing if there voice resembles what I expected and if their personality comes through as expected!!

As an aside I for one love plps new av!

 

[midwestyankee]

New Question!

Okay what is UP with guys who don't like to talk on the phone??

To coin a phrase, not all guys.

 

[midwestyankee]

Speaking of role play....

*CRACKS WHIPS*

Can we focus on the discussion???

This would work a whole lot better if your whip weren’t made of spun sugar.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

This would work a whole lot better if your whip weren’t made of spun sugar.

Grr - I'm so tough!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I think being able to give “good phone” is very sexy. I love to hear a woman’s voice after we’ve been chatting on kik/ pming. Whether it’s just talking or phone sex. I enjoy seeing if there voice resembles what I expected and if their personality comes through as expected!!

As an aside I for one love plps new av!

I didnt mean for sexy talk. Sorry, i should have said.

To coin a phrase, not all guys.

WHOOP! (555-4321 )

This would work a whole lot better if your whip weren’t made of spun sugar.

Grr - I'm so tough!

You can borrow mine.

 

[Paul_Chance]

On Roleplaying

I've been wanted to chime in on the role-playing question, but life has been just a wee bit busy and chaotic lately. I found everyone's contribution made for an interesting read.

Personally, I like role-playing in the sexual context.

I differentiate between straight up cyber (I do this to you) and cyber role-playing, which is more involved, working through specific scenarios, from the simple to the very complex, long term, and involved. In the simpler form of cyber, it's straight up co-masturbation with the object being to get off on one or all participants. In the more complex form it's about exploring deep seated or casual fantasies with the written word - more about the story-telling, with the co-masturbation perhaps wrapped in it, but not always.

IRL it's about exploring fantasies with imagination and building the psychological arousal that comes from that. The biggest sexual organ is the brain, so, in my view, when fucking also involves the imagination (mind-fucking), it's only that much more intense.

I wasn't a natural at role-playing IRL, it took some learning and a patient teacher, but once I got into it, well, I got into it and enjoy it immensely.

Part of it stems from my general world view I think and the way I approach sexuality as a result of it. Life is a rough road we're all on, but it's also this great game that no one is going to win. (We're all headed for the same place.) So, understanding that, I have become something of a hedonist. Pleasure is a virtue, whatever the source of that pleasure, including sex. Anything we can do, as human beings, to or with each other that brings us into the realm of pleasure for an hour, for a day, for a life, is a good thing.

If you approach life as a great game that we all get to play for a limited period of time, well, you learn to love that game and love the play.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

It's not something i would have thought to put on my 'must haves' list until i had a few partners who couldn't or wouldn't (both online and in person). It was frustrating, and left me disappointed and feeling as though they were witholding their affection from me.

On the other hand, the partners who gave me their voice generously... well, er... made considerable headway in a short amount of time. . I realize now that this is a personal preference on my part and not in fact an accurate determiner of a partner's sincerity, but I've come to the conclusion that it's definitely a Need for me as opposed to a Want.

I'm a words girl. I love the words, i need the words, i crave All The Words Ever from my partners, in every form imagineable. Good words are love, and hearing them spoken is love in a dream directed by Baz Luhrman.

Give me the words, and a man who can use them.

 

[Paul_Chance]

It's not something i would have thought to put on my 'must haves' list until i had a few partners who couldn't or wouldn't (both online and in person). It was frustrating, and left me disappointed and feeling as though they were witholding their affection from me.

On the other hand, the partners who gave me their voice generously... well, er... made considerable headway in a short amount of time. . I realize now that this is a personal preference on my part and not in fact an accurate determiner of a partner's sincerity, but I've come to the conclusion that it's definitely a Need for me as opposed to a Want.

I'm a words girl. I love the words, i need the words, i crave All The Words Ever from my partners, in every form imagineable. Good words are love, and hearing them spoken is love in a dream directed by Baz Luhrman.

Give me the words, and a woman who can use them.

A slight change and I am right there with you. I am a word person. I am an avid reader. I am an avid writer (letters, email, stories, and well, I'll scribble on the back of a napkin if that is all I have). I love the spoken word. I love lyrics and dialogue in plays and movies. In the beginning, there was the word...

On the phone front - first, I enjoy talking with people and I enjoy just listening to people talk and tell stories.

I do agree that I generally won't give out my phone number until I know a person a bit - I've had the experience of giving it to a stalker and having ultimately to change it, which is inconvenient. So, the exchange of phone numbers happens at some point where the relationship is building.

Though, it's probably not a popular opinion - I just inherently don't trust people who want a relationship but aren't willing to give you their phone number. It's a warning flag for me (a flag that signifies they're hiding something). Sometimes I am sure there are people who just don't like the phone - but I really have a hard time believing that. The phone is such an ubiquitous thing in the modern world.

I like phone sex and one of the sexiest things a person can do to me is call, knowing I am someplace I can't answer the phone, and leave a sexy to downright explicitly dirty voicemail. That's just way to freaking hot for me.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

For me talking is so much more preferable than text and it’s what I shoot for as early as possible. The only problem is then when you can’t talk text isn’t good enough, and the nature of Lit means there are times when most of us can’t.

I would also rather have phone sex every time, easier, better, hotter and sexier. I also happen to love it, so it comes naturally (pun intended)!

It also helps to have the British accent with the Yankee men

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

What is voip?

 

[barefootgirl69]

What is voip?

Where you get phone call over the Internet.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Where you get phone call over the Internet.

Ahh.

<not to the princess> It's still voice.

 

[Angedesoleil]

It's not something i would have thought to put on my 'must haves' list until i had a few partners who couldn't or wouldn't (both online and in person). It was frustrating, and left me disappointed and feeling as though they were witholding their affection from me.

On the other hand, the partners who gave me their voice generously... well, er... made considerable headway in a short amount of time. . I realize now that this is a personal preference on my part and not in fact an accurate determiner of a partner's sincerity, but I've come to the conclusion that it's definitely a Need for me as opposed to a Want.

I'm a words girl. I love the words, i need the words, i crave All The Words Ever from my partners, in every form imagineable. Good words are love, and hearing them spoken is love in a dream directed by Baz Luhrman.

Give me the words, and a man who can use them.

I havent directly chimed in to something you said since July 30th, but this..requires.

This is something we are similar in. For me, I'm real. I'm not playing games, I'm not just looking to get off. I didn't realize just how NECESSARY actually hearing my PYLs voice is. It's one of the first things that grabbed my heart about EW. Beyond that actually speaking affects my heart far more deeply.
For me, I need to see him, I need to see his eyes, see his face, hear the catch in his voice. If I'm going go be real someone needs to speak to my mind, soul, heart, and body. This is necessary for me.

Likewise I need my PYL to NEED the same.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

#20 (wow!!)

#20
Switching

Are you, have you, could you ever switch?
If yes, how does one experience relate to the other? Do you feel a literal "switching" of personality/desire? Do you identify more as one or are you equally balanced?
If no, would you? If it doesnt appeal, why not?