Sorry peeps, I have to say this and vent....

[KrazieKat69]

Sorry

Forget it

 

[LadyJS]

Forget it

???

 

[Just_Jen]

???

Ditto.

 

[KrazieKat69]

Sorry, came in and looked for ideas on dealing with something going on in my life and thought different on everyone knowing it. Just, I don’t know!!

 

[LikeableMe]

Sorry, came in and looked for ideas on dealing with something going on in my life and thought different on everyone knowing it. Just, I don’t know!!

I hope you manage to resolve whatever it is

 

[KrazieKat69]

My anxiety was off the charts yesterday, tired of dealing with crap at home! My issue is I do not want to leave my daughter let alone leave her alone with my sig other as she’ll take the full wrath of The Warden as I call her. Let alone I dont want to mess up another of my kids lives. I was wondering if anyone else goes through the crap and how they deal with it?
I know people will tell me to leave but like I say my daughter and the lack of funds to do so keep it from happening...

 

[LikeableMe]

My anxiety was off the charts yesterday, tired of dealing with crap at home! My issue is I do not want to leave my daughter let alone leave her alone with my sig other as she’ll take the full wrath of The Warden as I call her. Let alone I dont want to mess up another of my kids lives. I was wondering if anyone else goes through the crap and how they deal with it?
I know people will tell me to leave but like I say my daughter and the lack of funds to do so keep it from happening...

Well I don't have anything really helpful or insightful to say, except that what you are saying mirrors something I have going on too... With my situation I don't really share it either, because I also know people will say to leave, but it's not as easy as people make it sound. I understand your anxiety, and frustration and confusion, I can relate to it.

If leaving is what you have decided is the right thing in your situation, then try to focus on how to make that happen. It won't be immediate, and it won't be easy. But if you want that, set your every action from now on with that goal in mind. With hard work and perseverance nothing can stop you! And knowing you are working towards your solution will motivate and guide you. That, I know from experience.

 

[yellowrocket]

Getting divorced actually mellowed my ex out. We get along so much better than we did, and the kids weren't subjected to her tirades on me. At least not nearly as often. Life has down right sucked at times since then. Like complete depression, shutting myself off from the outside world when the kids weren't around.

Breaking down coming back from deployment because after paying child support, and helping out from a distance, plus buying them some stuff and experiences they wouldn't have gotten if I had to pay all my home expenses, ididnt have as much put away as I should have.

It's been rough, but I've been blessed that the foundation we laid when they were little and we got along better, has turned them in to what looks like very successful people as they grow up.

So I won't say it's easy, but I just wanted to relay my story because I didn't really have anyone to talk to about what was going on in my head at the time.

Only real advice I have is some of the hardest to follow through on. No matter what happlens find support, then find more. Don't just count on those one or two people closest to you. A pro can make A huge difference in perspective and usable advice.

 

[scotluvsoral]

My anxiety was off the charts yesterday, tired of dealing with crap at home! My issue is I do not want to leave my daughter let alone leave her alone with my sig other as she’ll take the full wrath of The Warden as I call her. Let alone I dont want to mess up another of my kids lives. I was wondering if anyone else goes through the crap and how they deal with it?
I know people will tell me to leave but like I say my daughter and the lack of funds to do so keep it from happening...

I was honest with my ex when we broke up...that I was really going to happen to the kids if we broke up. We ended up finding common ground on the kids only...and I ended up with kids and she had the visitation.

 

[KrazieKat69]

Thanks all!!! I know it ain’t gonna be easy by any means..