I'd be attracted to you if you changed yourself for me

[sunandshadow]

Someone tells you: "I would probably be attracted to you if you changed X about your appearance." How do you feel? Does it matter if the person telling you this is someone you are attracted to?


Also, have you ever said this kind of thing to someone else? Why? How did they react?

 

[FGB]

Someone tells you: "I would probably be attracted to you if you changed X about your appearance." How do you feel? Does it matter if the person telling you this is someone you are attracted to?

A Laugh and a "Hit The Road Bitch" has always taken care of such people before...

 

[BabblingBrooke]

No one has said that to me, but I would ignore that comment and move on. That person isn't worth any time.

 

[lovetoread]

Someone tells you: "I would probably be attracted to you if you changed X about your appearance." How do you feel? Does it matter if the person telling you this is someone you are attracted to?


Also, have you ever said this kind of thing to someone else? Why? How did they react?

no one interested in you would ask you to change anything

only someone trying to control you would say such stupid shit

 

[Rightguide]

I'd be ambivalent about it. You can't please everyone and shouldn't try. You should realize as well you're probably talking to a person who would never change their ways to accommodate yours, so consider the experience a peek into a doubtful future and quietly move on.

 

[Rightguide]

no one interested in you would ask you to change anything

only someone trying to control you would say such stupid shit

^^^

This too.

 

[Christobal]

Nope. Just plain nope.

 

[adrina]

Twist for the reality of human nature.

If it were phrased as:

"I find it really sexy/attractive/beautiful etc when you...."

My bet is that the result would change.

Someone that cares about you would phrase their preferences to you in such a way as to not be a dick. (Or at least someone that wants to be put in that kind of consideration.)

 

[Ms_Ann]

Must be why there are so many desperate, lonely people here.

 

[Liar]

I did get "I'll fuck you right now if you shave that stupid porn stache" once.

But it was Movember, so I resisted the temptation.

 

[Christobal]

I can't buy into I might be attracted to you if you change

 

[Greypowerful]

My twocentsworth:

Synthesis of Brooke & LTR.

Fucking shallow folk seek to "improve" others.

 

[sunandshadow]

Twist for the reality of human nature.

If it were phrased as:

"I find it really sexy/attractive/beautiful etc when you...."

My bet is that the result would change.

I think that would change the result too, but I was more interested in cases where your reaction to seeing a new person is something like "she could be cute if didn't always have the no-makeup hiding-in-a-hoodie look" or "he could be handsome except I can't stand his mustache".

 

[Christobal]

I think that would change the result too, but I was more interested in cases where your reaction to seeing a new person is something like "she could be cute if didn't always have the no-makeup hiding-in-a-hoodie look" or "he could be handsome except I can't stand his mustache".

Here is a crazy idea. You are just lovely the way you are. So am I.

 

[Bidin~Time]

bump, 'cause

 

[sweepthefloor]

Someone tells you: "I would probably be attracted to you if you changed X about your appearance." How do you feel? Does it matter if the person telling you this is someone you are attracted to?


Also, have you ever said this kind of thing to someone else? Why? How did they react?

If I am attracted to the man I would want to know what attracts him for my own personal knowledge. There's no sense trying to change the unchangeable, especially for a person that doesn't want me.

I don't remember anyone telling me something like this about unchangeable things like: if you were blonde, or bigger, or smaller. I don't think I would be too hurt, and I would appreciate the honesty.

 

[Bidin~Time]

I too big an ass to accept a " if you were just <something else>, I'd like you". Fuck that noise.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Colonel Hogan]

Would you be offended if I described the type of woman I was most attracted to, and no one fitting that description was present in the room?

Would it matter based on the number of other women in the room?

Would it matter if a more desirable man were giving you his description and it didn't sound like you?

 

[Conager]

Would you be offended if I described the type of woman I was most attracted to, and no one fitting that description was present in the room?

Would it matter based on the number of other women in the room?

Would it matter if a more desirable man were giving you his description and it didn't sound like you?

Background is needed here.

 

[Colonel Hogan]

Background is needed here.

Forget it. I ain't showing my tits.

 

[islandman]

I wouldn't be offended.

After all, it's a huge timesaver when a twat self-identifies.

They'd be doing me a favor.

 

[Bidin~Time]

Forget it. I ain't showing my tits.

damnit!

 

[Greypowerful]

I too big an ass to accept a " if you were just <something else>, I'd like you". Fuck that noise.

Your ass is not too big... and even though you can resemble an owl betimes, you're still a likeable old cuss.

 

[Lancecastor]

OP's profile says it's a "hairy BBW".

Profile Pic:

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