Subs and a firm voice

[allforfun86]

So the other day me and my sub wife were having a session and asked her a question. I can't remember what the actual question was, something about a fantasy of hers, and she but her lip nervously and looked down while debating her answer. When she looked back up at me I already knew she was going to lie, so before she could say a word I simply said "Tell me." In a firm voice. My wife shut her eyes, shivered and then immediately answered the question truthfully.

This intrigued me a lot and I tried experimenting with it. I found that if I use that tone with simple short sentences, that she would have a much faster reaction then if I used my normal tone and that she was far more aroused. We are relatively knew to sub lifestyle so having to use that tone hasn't come up until now.

So I was curious if any other subs out there react the same way my wife has to their doms firm and sharp voice. Does it make you quiver or anything like that?

 

[yossi]

A firm, steady voice can make all the difference, especially when I'm overthinking or anxious. It makes what could seem like a request a definite command, and I respond to that. My cunt responds to it; I feel myself become wet and pulse. It makes it easier to think and breathe. It's soothing.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[yossi]

Calm often means in control to me.

Definitely this.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[yossi]

Aside;

this is another reason why humiliation and such would not work for *me*. Not just how I view my wants but how I view how *him* and how he would employ them in relation to control. I totally recognise this is different where it's desirous, but for *me* it would impact on that. I hope I have phrased that in a way that makes it clear it is not judgement against those who I know love this and who I love, but it clicked for me in this moment and context and I have tried to phrase that this relates to my views only about my relationships.

It's perfectly acceptable to not want or respond to a particular kink, and you don't word things offensively, so I wouldn't worry about that. Learning about what works for us individually is such a beautiful journey and it's fascinating to see how we all differ.

For me humiliation is even better when it's calm, cool, and collected. The dichotomy between how I'm made to feel and how, seemingly, little it affects him during the interaction. And to be so out of sorts and then put back together again is just... Absolutely amazing to me. But humiliation only works with someone I trust implicitly; someone who I know doesn't actually think of me that way.

 

[Iamsubmissive]

If I was not in my submissive mindset, I would be irritated or upset being spoken to like that. During submission, it's exactly the kind of dominance I like. A no nonsense, 'no room for discussion' tone is a complete turn on for me...leaves no room for misunderstanding the intent. And I make sure to obey...as promptly and pleasingly as I can.

 

[cascadiabound]

If I was not in my submissive mindset, I would be irritated or upset being spoken to like that. During submission, it's exactly the kind of dominance I like. A no nonsense, 'no room for discussion' tone is a complete turn on for me...leaves no room for misunderstanding the intent. And I make sure to obey...as promptly and pleasingly as I can.

Yes. this.

Also... I find that I respond particularly to my given name used in a particular tone of voice. It brings me up sharply. It focuses all of my attention. Gets me quivery and sometimes a little worried. Makes me want to not miss anything.. get it all just right.
Yes - Submit. Obey. Like iamsubmissive says, "as promptly and pleasingly as I can.

 

[LucianaGrace]

I find that I respond particularly to my given name used in a particular tone of voice.

I hope it is alright if I contribute.

This rings so true for me. The power of hearing your name in a particular tone of voice...it's shocking even to me at times. But as discussed earlier, I respond better to a calm firmness. And of course, this can be broken down further into all the subtle insights that exist within it. I'm a very observant person, and any slight changes in tone can effect me in so many ways...even if the only word said is my name.

For example:
- a calm, firm whisper that is laced with that 'I know I have you now' thrills me from my core.
- a calm, firm but soft tone that reveals concern or care alerts me to something isn't right, and reinforces a caring/nurturing dynamic.
- a calm, firm statement coupled with a slight whisper of desperation tells me that they are struggling to contain their own desire...and that calls to me on an extremely deep level.

With all that being said, I think it also has a lot to do with facial expressions. Well at least for me. It's also in the eyes. Glints of playfulness, seriousness, concern, need, desire...the eyes show the emotion behind the tone of voice. But thats just my perspective.

 

[BiBunny]

When he says something and I'm being difficult, all he's got to do is say, "What did I say, kitty?" in that tone of voice, and that's all it takes for me to be good again.

 

[PrincssMnM]

Oh yes, -that- tone makes all the difference for me. When I'm being difficult, I know it means business once the tone comes out.

 

[cascadiabound]

I hope it is alright if I contribute.

This rings so true for me. The power of hearing your name in a particular tone of voice...it's shocking even to me at times. But as discussed earlier, I respond better to a calm firmness. And of course, this can be broken down further into all the subtle insights that exist within it. I'm a very observant person, and any slight changes in tone can effect me in so many ways...even if the only word said is my name.

For example:
- a calm, firm whisper that is laced with that 'I know I have you now' thrills me from my core.
- a calm, firm but soft tone that reveals concern or care alerts me to something isn't right, and reinforces a caring/nurturing dynamic.
- a calm, firm statement coupled with a slight whisper of desperation tells me that they are struggling to contain their own desire...and that calls to me on an extremely deep level.

With all that being said, I think it also has a lot to do with facial expressions. Well at least for me. It's also in the eyes. Glints of playfulness, seriousness, concern, need, desire...the eyes show the emotion behind the tone of voice. But thats just my perspective.

Thanks for contributing Lucy. I know just what you mean with all the above.
sometimes a whisper is more effective and earth shattering than a big booming voice. But it has some quality... some tone that goes right to my gut....

 

[troubledone]

Oh yes, -that- tone makes all the difference for me. When I'm being difficult, I know it means business once the tone comes out.

Appropriate

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Miles Long]

If I'm not mistaken I believe this is why Gilbert Gottfried is such a panty dropper.

 

[Farawyn]

My first name and middle name. It always feels like I'm in trouble. Or about to be.
If my last name is included? *shiver*

 

[allforfun86]

Thanks for all the wonderful replies. I knew that your tone could do or say a lot to the sub, but it was only knowledge I read about and hadn't seen in practice. Seeing it was fascinating and exciting. I didn't know that the tone had such a deep meaning for some of the subs that replied and I thank you especially.

 

[Eva_Star]

Tone is everything! I can't believe I'm going to share this...ya'll won't tell anyone, right?...but the tone that truly just drives me crazy with lust is indifference...like meh...like he's just not really present with it. As if he's not thrilled with my performance but is just not into it enough to correct me. Makes me try very very hard to please...which he enjoys. Maybe I'm more into humiliation that I thought...hmmm.

 

[Nidalee]

For me humiliation is even better when it's calm, cool, and collected. The dichotomy between how I'm made to feel and how, seemingly, little it affects him during the interaction. And to be so out of sorts and then put back together again is just... Absolutely amazing to me. But humiliation only works with someone I trust implicitly; someone who I know doesn't actually think of me that way.

I'm interested in how you manage to know that the person doesn't actually think of you that way. I mean, of course, you can know it in your brain, but how do you know it in your guts? My boyfried told me he was into humiliation, the fact of saying that I'm not beautiful or that he doesn't like my body, but how is it possible to accept that if you already think you're not beautiful or not enjoyable to look at?

 

[yossi]

I'm interested in how you manage to know that the person doesn't actually think of you that way. I mean, of course, you can know it in your brain, but how do you know it in your guts? My boyfried told me he was into humiliation, the fact of saying that I'm not beautiful or that he doesn't like my body, but how is it possible to accept that if you already think you're not beautiful or not enjoyable to look at?

That, for me, comes with a build up of trust, as well as very thorough and tender after care. I have to know with my entire being that the person degrading or humiliating me doesn't really think of me that way, and that comes from the moments and actions between. I can't be torn down and then not be built back up - it's essential to the process.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Nidalee]

That, for me, comes with a build up of trust, as well as very thorough and tender after care. I have to know with my entire being that the person degrading or humiliating me doesn't really think of me that way, and that comes from the moments and actions between. I can't be torn down and then not be built back up - it's essential to the process.

Oh, well... I'll think about it! Thanks

 

[subalice]

Slightly off topic but for me tha name thing works wonders even online

 

[yossi]

Oh, well... I'll think about it! Thanks

But, really, it's not an easy thing to be humiliated when you are not into the kink. And if you aren't sure, it can build a lot of resentment. Please, please keep that line of communication open with your partner and let him know your reservations.

 

[allforfun86]

But, really, it's not an easy thing to be humiliated when you are not into the kink. And if you aren't sure, it can build a lot of resentment. Please, please keep that line of communication open with your partner and let him know your reservations.

This is important for humiliation and degradation. My sub loves when I talk down to her, but only in certain ways. If I say 'look at that fat slurty ass bounce!' she groans smiles and rides me harder. But I know if I put a hand on her stomach and said I love your fat jiggly body, she's probably brake down and cry that second.

You have to clarify if you are or aren't into it at all. If you are into it, what are no go areas, meaning what can he say and can't. If you're not into them at all then he's shit outta luck and needs to accept that. Although this is just my own opinion obviously.